i’m a female who has got several chronic illnesses. i need to be pushed around in a wheelchair sometimes, need oxygen and sleep with a cpap machine. i’ve always struggled taking care of my own body, and i wouldn’t want to force anyone else to have to take care of me. still, i cant help but want to be with someone. i guess my question is, would you ever want to be with someone even if they were severely ill?
Would you ever date someone who is sick?
Most people who would want to date would probably only do so because they have a fetish for 'weak sick girls' and would most likely feel good about how stronger they are than you. But I think when they realize they have to put an actual effort in taking care of you, most of them would probably lose interest.
I dated a girl in a wheelchair. As long as you’re upfront about your illness, it’s totally cool. And as far as the relationship went it was more or less pretty much the same as any other. Except less dancing, which in my opinion is a huge plus.
Grow up. Not everything is a fetish, go outside.
Stephen Hawking married twice
I would but only if we were in a place where it would be realistic to get through it. Life is unanticipated and for a healthy relationship to stay healthy I would need to know if it's feasible to start it I guess.
I'm a guy but I'll say there's someone out there for everyone to love and be loved by. But it requires a lot of trial and errorbwhile dating, so expect heartbreaks.
I've got my own laundry list of health issues, and still got a gf that accepts that in some mornings I won't get up from bed at all, or if I do it's for a quick trip to hospital and back.
Not if you needed help 24/7, but that's just me. what percentage is your disability?
Im similarly sick and i can never get over how generous and loving guys can be
Its okay if you're sick, a lot of guys love being a knight
You just have to find one where they can stick it out when its tough
Personally no and 99% of people won't. But you will eventually find someone who will. Love isn't 100% based off physical attraction.
in my country we dont go by percentage. but my disability is mostly in mobility.
Does it prevent you from having sex? That’s honestly the main concern at first and make people be less willing to date someone with a disability.
I have no problem with that, obviously there's a limit but for the most part i like the idea of taking care of someone and so do a lot of guys
it doesn’t. there are certain things i obviously cant do since my joints sound like someone loudly chewing at a movie theater and often times just straight pop out of place.
What's your level of ability to do ADLs? You said wheelchair sometimes, does that mean you can ambulate with an aid for short distances? Are you continent? Are your chronic illnesses degenerative? Are u hot? Are u tolerable? Are u loyal?
What chronic illnesses are they?
I would totally date a physically disabled femanon so long as she can put up with my autism
Honestly, I don't mind. I kind of feel the same way. I'm a guy and I'm losing my sight, and I don't want to force someone who's with me to see me becoming disabled.
i can walk short distances without assistance. anything more than a kilometer though and i will definitely pass out. yes i am continent. my chronic illness will most likely kill me as i have vascular ehlers danlos syndrome. i’ve been told im slightly above average when it comes to appearance and i guess i’m tolerable? yea i’m loyal.
He was also a rich nigga
Of course not. Noone will date you unless you're completely perfect in every way.
>Getting to wheel her around to all your favorite places
>Thinking of work arounds so she can enjoy hobbies with you without being held back
>Being there for her when she starts feeling insecurity or self-doubt
>Lifting her up and carrying her to bed to make passionate love
>Watching her live life feeling unrestrained by her disability
Femanon your boyfriend will be a lucky man
some few honest replies here but overall most dudes won't date you and women don't fuck with it at all
t. chronically sick 28yo virgin
I would date you but I doubt I would have the courage to ask you out.
Yes I will. And If I love her then I'll do anything in my power to help her
You're a wheelchair bound female so take that as a blessing since it could be worse and you could be a wheelchair bound male. That being said, I personally would have no problem dating a woman in a wheelchair at least short term but I really couldn't see myself entering in a serious long term relationship with one just because I don't want to end up taking care of someone as they age and their condition gets worse. That also being said there are plenty of guys who would have no problem being in a long term commitment
I'm in the same boat although different illness.
I still believe that there's someone who'd look past your illness/disability as long as your personality makes up for it. A lot of people might be attracted to others because of their physical attractiveness, sure, but not everyone is that shallow. As long as you make each other genuinely happy despite the difficulties, then love transcends all. Some people aren't interested in others and just really want to look for sex or something fun, but if long-term relationship is what you're really looking for, then you'll eventually find someone who won't mess around and actually sticks with you for a long time.
I'm asking unironically but can you have sex still? This is important in a relationship.
This. Girls don't white knight.
i already answered this but yes, i can. i have some limitations but that isn’t an issue.
i have chronic health issues and have found people who didn't care, but they're less severe than yours. i still think it's possible depending on your personality and who you are otherwise if you're more than just your illness people will see that.
I dont mind, again love is more important
For me it would depend on your life expectancy, if you could have kids, how much you could care for said kids. I want a lifelong partner.
things like this make me think I should adopt a policy of not helping women. if only we could get everyone on board
If there was no way for you to recover, probably not. Reading up on your illness tells me no way, sorry. Having kids is an impossibility because the condition is genetic, and even adopting would be cruel if they'd be likely to go without a mother. If I knew someone like you as a friend (male or female), I'd go out of my way to help make your life easier, but dating is out of the question.
The exception is if I were married to a (seemingly) healthy woman who then went on to get some debilitating condition. I'd stay because I committed to do so, 'in sickness and in health'.
>asking someone potentially terminally ill to whore themselves out too
Disgusting
Yes, I would love to have some one depend on me. It sounds crazy, but I've always felt useless. Helping people makes me feel good.
Here's a question: how does OP find the Idea of the equipment she needs to survive bring a turn on?
Oh that's interesting. Depending on your hobbies I wouldn't mind being a friend but anything more than that requires some severe case by case thinking. For your original question, that would be a very conditional yes.
Even if someone is severely ill they're still worthy of love and my time. If I fell in love with someone who was disabled or chronically ill, I love the person not the disorder and like any healthy relationship we would work together to make it worth it. Even if the person wasn't able to care for themselves or only had limited time, I would help and be there for them because the human connection is valuable to me above all else.
Im a guy and struggle with my health a lot. Not nearly as bad as you, but I have the same worry. I dont want to be a burden and in the rare and unusual event a girl does something nice for me, i get kinda uncomfortable but hide it. I feel like its my job to do the nice stuff, but also fear I would be abandoned if she got lost the romance or could do better.
I went on a bunch of dates with a girl with cerebral palsy once. I dont care a whole ton about looks, but she didnt look good at all. She also didnt have much personality, hobbies or intellectual intelligence. I still was determined to make an effort because she was not mean and made time for me. Turned out after a few dates I asked if she had any interest in me and she said no, just as a friend. I went one one or two more dates with her, but I caught on she mostly just liked me paying for her stuff. She found some guy she liked and I guess he liked her. But she messaged me telling me that he was poor and wanted me to help him with money. I got really angry at that and blocked her. I was surprised at the audacity of such a request.
So its not a deal breaker for me to have problems.
Definitely. I was crushing on someone who actually had the same disease as you. They turned me down though because of their condition. It hurts because I liked them as a person. I'm glad you still want to find romance because it certainly is possible.
Only if they weren’t fat.
Do you eat icecream?
lucky for you i have gastroparesis so i throw up most of my food. i’m too thin.
Depends on how harsh diagnosis is. Although I have scoliosis myself so.
it's easy for a chronically sick female
i remain a sick virgin :)