Women, what pushes you to love your man so much that you're almost obsessed about him day and night, and you're willing to do anything to make him happy?
Women, what pushes you to love your man so much that you're almost obsessed about him day and night...
Money
Anything I can do with personality or certain attitude towards her?
Autism and Be her type.
Hah
A deeply seated psychological dysfunction most likely developed during early childhood that compels them to define their own self-worth through the care taking of other people. When being the most amazing, loving, caring and supportive girlfriend becomes your entire identity the concept of allowing that identity to falter in the slightest is tantamount to an existential crisis.
Defining ourselves through the way other people view and receive us is a traditional mechanism to compensate for a lack of self-identity and fear of autonomy. These are the kinds of girls that jump from boyfriend to boyfriend because not being in a relationship manifests itself in the form of crippling loneliness, dread and the feeling of being aimless or meaningless. Only when they have the love, affection and gratitude of a romantic partner can they feel as though they are a complete person.
What're the characteristics of a girl that doesn't jump from boyfriend to boyfriend?
Receiving love back.
Can boys have the same problem?
This.
Yes.
This is pretty accurate.
I did this when I was really struggling mentally.
Being superior than her in the looks department
Mutual respect and feeling.
So many men answering when this post is for women. Go jerk off to loli and rant in pol like usual.
When he respects me as an individual, not an object, I feel ai can bond with him as a friend, and then fall in love feeling safe with him, then the romantic in me pushes me to think about him often and feel butterflies and bliss. But I still respect myself too.
Read Sex and Character by Otto Weininger
Only teenage girls think like that about their bfs but life will mold them more bitter and cynical. Adult women might fantasize about some CHAD, but most women will settle for some guy and not think about him more than necessary.
What do you think about this
Not that guy, but someone who isn't single for very long. Like they date someone, break up, month later dating someone else, etc.
this
The size of his dick. I've been cheating on him with a rich guy though.
Girls don't care about dick size. That's how I know you're not on.
This. I can give a girl my 4 incher anytime i please thanks to my looks. They're so wet and turned on by feeling up my arms and licking my abs that they cum when my dick touches the vulva.
good looking rich guys being dicks since many women are sadomasochists
what are you supposed to do if you're a faggot and you're like this?
How do you stop wanting to be a girl?
A few things
He has a vision, a dream, for his future
Im welcome to join him, but it isnt a dream revolving around Me
I have had so many zombie lile guys turn me into the REASON TO BE ALIVE AT ALL and it was fucking exhausting
He is a fucking genius and works his ass off
He loves trying new things, so I know we'll never get bored
He also takes care of me adamantly when Im sick
Fucking love this boy goddamn
Well, "almost anything" is a touch broad but that's basically how I feel about my bf.
>Intelligent but not patronising
>Independent but not antisocial
>Certain of his character and his knowledge but not arrogant
>Passionate about his interests without dismissing others' interest in theirs
Are the big things that really really make me want this to keep going indefinitely. Little things are;
Personality
>Witty, goofy
>Nerdy
>Playful
>Occasionally sweet, occasionally sassy
>Enthusiastic learner and teacher
>Likes cuddling
Physical
>Likes having a beard
>Strongfat
>Hairy
>Good teeth
>When he respects me as an individual, not an object, I feel ai can bond with him as a friend, and then fall in love feeling safe with him, then the romantic in me pushes me to think about him often and feel butterflies and bliss. But I still respect myself too.
You forgot to preface all of this with "When he looks hot".
if you love me as much as i love you and you spend time with me and support me and be my best friend and my boyfriend, then i'm head over heels
I really detest your kind of woman.
basically don't be this guy ;)
Not that guy, but adding that fluff around the fact that you're just a hole to fuck, is pointless. Just that you want the guy who wants to use you as a cumrag to be hot while at the same time, you use betas and less attractive guys for attention.
>not that guy
sure Jan ;)
Are you saying that if a guy
>respects you as an individual, not an object
you'll still cath all those feelings for him even if he is physically unattractive?
*catch those feelings
>ignoring the post itself
Typical dumb cunt.
Come on. I just think this is kinda disingenious.
You pretty much described the highest bar
tall
this unironically
Only thing I would add is be highly, highly moral and they will cling to you every night in bed
>you're almost obsessed about him day and night, and you're willing to do anything to make him happy
One would assume to have someone obsessive and utterly pliant to your wants, you'd have to be of a high caliber. I can't speak outside of what I know to be true from my own thoughts and feelings.
Good chemistry. I won't go farther than that because other women have other attributes they're attracted to in a man. And even so, 'willing to do anything' is reserved for broken people best descriped here:
That's a pretty common thing tho. Are you saying every guy who loves and support his gf experiences the kind of obsession ot whatever from her like OP said? I have seen plenty of relationships where the guy's affection outweighs the girl's.
I'm not a woman but i think i can give a fair shot at guessing what drives a woman nuts for a particular guy.
>good looking
>slightly challenging (not always available, a bit of a badboy esque vibe)
>has plenty of social proof
>good in the bedroom
>tall
>she views him as sexually and socially superior to her (hypergamy)
From what i've seen, if you posses these traits you can make a woman absolutely grovel at your feet.
this
lol explain the hairy, I'm always wondering whether to trim my legs & ass or not
I like men with beards and body hair. If you have it, flaunt it. Plus the ingrown hair rashes are gross af.
dang, never thought my hair could be such a turn on. I'll tell my sister to braid my ass hair, and we're hitting the bars
High iq comment
yes I am an example of it ):
Oops
>From what i've seen
You mean from what you have read on Jow Forums memes? It sounds like you have almost never met any women in real life.
do you look similar to this?
I've had 3 boyfriends. I've never obsessed this deeply over any. I'm not really a clingy person, and after countless betrayals I can't really open myself up like I used to anymore. Any recent boyfriends I've had complain about me being cold and fake and don't last more than a week.
I'm still a virgin at 23 and haven't had a relationship last longer than a month in 4 years.
My heart is sad, and I feel worthless. I just don't think it's realistic that I'll find a perfect 10/10 boy that'll love me back. If that ever happened, I'd probably think it was a joke, I probably wouldn't even trust him. I'm jealous of girls who can love someone completely and unconditionally. I wish I never got hurt.
>3 boyfriends
>virgin
Wut.
I'm just not inclined to have sex. They cheated on me with other girls, so I'm guessing they hated me for not giving it up to them. I'm nothing.
You just need to find somebody who is fine talking things slow. That will be anice solution to your problem.
Obsessing over someone (beyond the first rush of infatuation/honeymoon phase) is not a matter of loving someone "more" or "more deeply", it has to do with your personality and psychological disposition, e.g. insecurity, inability to derive joy or security from other things, wanting to lose yourself in someone else to flee from your own emotions and worries. On the one hand it sucks when a day is made or broken by an (un)kind word from a single person, but it also keeps things very clear cut and simple, and constantly monitoring someone else is a way to filter out your other anxious thoughts and feelings. It is a form of escapism.
Basically got it right. The "what makes you" part suggests that obsessing is a natural response in a relationship but it really isn't, and it says more about the mental health of the person involved than anything else.
Having said that, what abusers do is the most effective strategy to get there with people predisposed to obsessing. Which is basically love bombing (showering them in attention, compliments, affection, romance) only to hurt them or withdraw so much that they feel like being kicked out of Paradise.
This is NOT the way to a healthy, long term committed relationship and definitely not the way you want to have a relationship with the parent of your kids if you want any.
If you do not want to have sex with your bf then obviously he will dump you.
Damn my ex was like this. She suffer from depression before being with me, she literally bomb love me the hell out me. She will call me every second on the day just to know what I was doing. It was her second real relationship and it was my first one. I didn't know how it was supposed to be so I just follow the things she did and, I ended up being obsessive. In the end she stoped being so lovely and more cold to me , when she find a job and some(shitty) friends. It end up badly but, I came stronger. Are the things she did are symptoms of what are you describing?
You start wanting to be yourself, because no one will let you
This. I was like this for 3 years, finally broke up, became independent and more confident in myself. Codependent obsession that you're describing isn't healthy, OP.
Why? because you've never heard it before? The world is so much bigger than any one person can imagine.
That's just called fulfilling your role as a normal woman loyal to her biology and feelings. It's great and should be encouraged and praised. being otherwise is unnatural.
I can love someone only if he is just like me. I can only love myself. That is my only truth.
He sees beyond my illness, he never gets angry with me, he's always there for me and he's someone that's warm and hairy to cuddle at night.
What advice would you give to a person who gets obsessive like this? A lot of this kind of reminded me of myself.
Implying sex betters a relationship, dirty degenerate
This is literally what misogyny is.
>He sees beyond my illness
what is it and how bad is it
HPV
Her wart-encrusted labia looks like the surface of an alien planet
this
find a cute nurse, because they are more likely to fit this description
Osteogenesis imperfecta - brittle bone disease. I have a moderate case of it. My boyfriend has broken 4 of my bones since we got together.
My labia are quite big acually but I don't have HPV.
loli makes me moist tho
No misogyny is what incels do. Hate women. That is being a controlling dick, he'd treat his partner the same if he were gay
It does
What's the behavior pattern of a healthy mind then? Is it like carelessness?
I just loved him. That's all it took.
And he still made a secret Snapchat to trade nudes with other people.
If I thought that jumping from the balcony would kill me and not just break my legs, I'd jump right now.
He makes me feel safe. He is always affectionate and caring. I basically turn all men down because they aren't him.
>He is always affectionate and caring
This is pretty common tho. You sure that's all it takes? I mean, one would think a man will need to have something special to get that sort of love OP said.
It gets better, just hold on tight. Heartbreaks such as these are the price you pay for eventual love, which I am sure is just around the corner.
It depends on the woman.
You always have a priority system - i learned that the hard way. There are different possibilites for what's rank 1 for them.
For some woman, it's money. For some, it's feeling secure. For some, it's exicement. For some, it's feeling loved.
Figure out what they need, and check if you can - and want- give them their rank one priority.
As a cumbucket slayer. Here is the absolute truth. And a girl wont tell you bcuz they are too stupid to know how their own brain works.
Basically this goes for any relationship assuming your partner is attracted to you.
The one who gives a shit less, wears the pants and is in power in the relationship.
Also if you are a male you must be confident, be assertive. Be non chalant in most situations especially life as a whole. Dominate other malea if they are being disrespectful.Make descisions easily while being sure of yourself. Hopefully be 6 foot or taller. Be fun unpredictable and throw negs when warranted on whomever deserves it for their character flaws including the pussy you put on the pedestal.
Working out being fit and being intelligent of course helps too. Make sure you know what a clit is and how it works.
Frame this info above and keep it safe.
Nothing can make me obsessed with my boyfriend and i doubt either of us would want that. But i would do anything to ensure his happiness and safety. Why? Because he cares to put in the effort in our relationship and help us both build something where we have 100% trust. He shares a lot of the same values as i do and i feel like he works hard to both make himself better and to help me do the same.
Obsession is one sided deep committed love is a two way street.
Too simplistic view.
you can reword it so that it seems complex and deep but hes still right most of the time
cool, but that doesn't answer the question
Most people assume this.
His bones
his height
his face
his frame
This sounds like me last gf who is still in love with me
>cumbucket slayer
Kek
It perfectly abswers the question fully. If you want full control and to wear the pants and be the ones whos being worshipped read those words above as many times as you have to.
Girls dont like super nice guys, they cheat on the nice guys who obsess over them and treat them like queens. They cheat with the bad boy who doesnt give a shit about them and neglects them and has his own passions and friends and things to do. The one that simply fucks them as a compliment. Using their mouth and vaginas is how a real man compliments them. And theyll take it and swallow it all day then return home to their soft beta push over husbands and boyfriends. And then abuse them for being too nice and loving. Its ssd but true
Yes. Ever heard of mommy issues?
That's what cunts do. OP's question was WHY they do that.
You must be really good at sports.
GAAAAAAAAY
fuuuuuck she is prettyyyyy
And you don't love her anymore? I feel pretty bad for her to be honest
>strongfat
easily the most incel bodytype, and deservedly so. you could have fooled me into thinking you're actually female until you said that
Strongfat: definitely not what I think of when I think incel. Or do you mean incel mindset of women? I can't help that the variance of women's opinions means that a broken clock's right twice in a million women.
I think i am omw to be builtfat, is that good ?
>Used to be obese fat
Yeah builtfat is pretty sweet too, my bf sits inbetween that and strongfat. But that's just my opinion, different women will feel differently.
It's just an incel who thinks he knows what women like, again.