I'm tall, I used to be short, and I can't find men attractive anymore because I'm no one's significantly taller than me.
I was a late bloomer, but I was in a few relationships with really tall guys, guys who would tower over me. I really, really enjoyed the feeling I got around them, and I love how they could pat my head, rub my face with their palm while I hold onto their arm, how I had to get up on my tiptoes to kiss them, it was wonderful. Some rocky time later I moved on from them, but I had a huge growth spurt. I'm now 6'1, and I can't find anyone attractive. I dont find shorter guys attractive at all, and I'm not interested in guys my height either. I don't know what to do, because I genuinely dont feet any kind of warmness or comfort with someone unless they're much bigger than me.
Just a few days ago, I was sitting at my desk and a new coworker swung by to introduce himself. He was attractive, and he loomed over me while I was seated. I felt a rush of adrenaline like I did when I was younger--but when I stood up, I realized he wasnt very tall all compared to me, and my attraction completely left the window.
Find a guy taller than you? It's not that hard. Or try to be more open-minded
I'm 5'10 and always dated shorter men because height is the last thing I care about. I think you're missing out on a lot of interesting, handsome men just because of height
Gabriel Russell
This is terrible bait. As an actual femanon who's relationship applies to your picture, it's horrible and I hate it and that third position makes me feel like we're trying to become a pretzel. I genuinely wish my bf was at least six inches shorter sometimes.
Jayden Garcia
trade height? im a 5'6 male
Jacob Sanders
It's not about being a couple inches taller than me, it's about finding someone who's atleast 6-10 inches taller like when I was younger.
And I'm not "closed minded" per say, I just don't feel anything from shorter or same size guys. I don't feel impressed, I don't really find them cute, they don't excite me, and frankly it's kind easy to look down on them because I dont feel any semblance of intimidation or intrigue from them.
Intimately, I really want to he enveloped in someone taller than me, I want them to be able to touch my face while barely raising their hand, not having to reach up at my face to touch me.
I guess I'm gonna be alone forever, because I really have no idea how I can find anyone attractive
Parker Jenkins
how tall are you?
Angel Ward
This desu. I wish I could put like 20cm of my bf's height on a coupon and donate it to someone else. My neck is tired.
Nolan Sanders
It's not bait, I'm completely serious. I really did, genuinely, felt much more flattered, warmhearted, comforted.. just nice when I was shorter and guys were taller than me. I can't get over it and no guy my height or shorter has ever made me feel that way.
I wish we could.
6'1
Carson Ortiz
maybe hangout around basket ball players, or other sports that usually tall guys are into
Tyler Rodriguez
>like 20cm of my bf's height on a coupon and donate it to someone else This is perfectly phrased, thank you user. I wish for impossible growth spurts for both of us
Asher Perry
I guess so. I feel like I'm really limiting my options there.
I wish it could have happened to you and not me.
I get actual panic attacks when people ask me things like if I've gotten taller, i feel extremely claustrophobic about how the world around me is so small and I just cant handle it I hate being tall
Thomas Stewart
You need to change your perspective- and this is coming from another y’all girl. I’m not as tall as you, but i’m 5’8” so I am as tall or taller than many guys. I understand it’s even more of a “thing” for you.
You are significantly reducing your dating pool if you only go for guys who tower over you. It’s much easier and honestly less shallow to adjust your expectations. You aren’t short anymore. If you don’t want to be alone, you need to train yourself to find things appealing about guys who don’t tower over you.
Personally, I learned to embrace my power as an individual. I feel confident and proud when my partner is around the same height as me. I didn’t like it at first- I felt masculine or “big”, but now it’s not like that. I feel elegant, strong, and graceful. I learned to embrace my height and it’s honestly one of my favorite things about myself now.
Some people play mental gymnastics to excuse bad habits, like being fat. That isn’t good because it stops you from improving yourself. But with something like height? There is nothing you can do anyways. Might as well love yourself and learn to be happy with what the world is willing to give you.
David Baker
Personally, I learned to embrace my power as an individual. I feel confident and proud when my partner is around the same height as me. I didn’t like it at first- I felt masculine or “big”, but now it’s not like that. I feel elegant, strong, and graceful. I learned to embrace my height and it’s honestly one of my favorite things about myself now.
I feel this way, honestly, I just don't feel attracted to guys anymore cuz of it too. I guess I really dont want a partner who makes me feel like an equal, but someone who I feel can protect me and hold me. I don't feel attracted to anyone. I long for something that really doesn't exist.. so I guess I will just be lonely.
Brayden Cook
>What do I do about this? Isn't it obvious? You stay single.
Thomas Adams
>20 cm How big of a height difference is between you two that chopping 20 cm off your bf would still have him considerably taller than you? >inb4 REEEEEEEEEing about short women going for super tall guys
David Roberts
Not her but there's just under ten inches between my partner and I. Before he asked me out I was specifically chasing this 5'5 dude because I thought he was attractive and his height was a big bonus to me, but he wasn't interested (which is fair).
Christian Sullivan
>t-totally not REEEEEing about shorties 40 cm. I'm 1,60 and he is 2m on the dot. 1,80 would be the absolute maximum for the 'very tall bf' zone in terms of comfortable interactions imo.
Julian Smith
Try removing your shins. Pic related. Alternatively think of things other than height you find attractive and practice focusing on those.
Yeah that's what he meant by being more open minded, roastie. We don't get exactly what we want in life so find a way to make it work with a man your own height if you can't find a 7ft freak.
Ayden Roberts
>I guess so. I feel like I'm really limiting my options there.
thats because you are. But if thats your thing, then you better accept the trappings that come with it, because if you're 6' and you want that reach up difference, you're shopping from a very exclusive population set.
And you better be hot, because just because you're being picky doesn't mean guys you find desirable are.
>I get actual panic attacks when people ask me things like if I've gotten taller, i feel extremely claustrophobic about how the world around me is so small and I just cant handle it I hate being tall
ok, yeah, that is fail. you're 6'1, not 6'5. That seems to be the minimum you start hearing widespread complaints about functionality in the world.
Bentley Nguyen
Are you a giraffe or landwhale? Do you have tits?
Carter Murphy
You're literally looking for NBA tier height, >99 percentile. You really should actively try to get over it, even see a therapist, because you've discarded virtually man on the planet as below your standards even before anything else.
Dominic Clark
Just slowly shift you sexual preferences. Actively try to shape it. Go to therapy if you need to.
I used to be a very submissive person sexually but I developed to have more of an equal “switch” preference. Your sexual preferences are not set in stone. You can either actively try to change them or accept the fact that you will probably be alone.
Good luck op. Accept responsibility for your happiness.
