Had a sex-dream while in a relationship??

So, I had a dream a few weeks ago where I was having consensual sex with a girl considering that I‘m a girl myself too. It was nice and in the dream I enjoyed the sex. So far, so good.

Today I told my boyfriend about the dream and he got butthurt about the fact that I dreamed having sex with a girl. Not about the fact that I "cheated" on him in the dream. Of course he knows that I love him to death and would never cheat him in real life. But he asked me: "Why a girl?"
I couldn’t give him a satisfactory answer.

I‘ve always liked both girls and boys but since I‘m in a relationship with my boyfriend (it’s my very first relationship as well) I considered myself rather straight because, well duh, I‘m in a heterosexual relationship.

But now, that I can’t give him a satisfactory answer to his question why I dreamed about having sex with a girl and not with a boy.
I don’t really know what to expect here since I know that many anons will answer with "Tits or gtfo" but maybe you guys can give me (or my boyfriend) an honest, intelligent answer?

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Dreams are the brain’s shitposts. They mean literally nothing.

The intelligent answers is that is doesn't matter. However straight and gay people ate very insecure about bi people, because they think they can't compete with the opposite sex. Just reassure him that you live him and want him. Or try to open him up to a threesome if you think he might give it a shot.

I told him the same but he won't believe me and continues to be butthurt. Geez.

Tell him all girls are bi. That it's an evolutionary factor. For over 100,000 years women had to all sleep together with the best man and pleasure him to the fullest. It's part of the reason guys gind lesbiens so hot and stuff.

Since it's true, that's all that matters. Just say it shamelessly like a matter of fact. Make it sound like it's some huge benefit to him and not a curse. If he makes it sound like a curse, then listen to him, but it should be easy to dismiss.

If he gets all naive, tell him that it doesn't mean you'll leave him, nor will you cheat, or secretly want a threesome. ("Unless you want me to, wink").

This isn't exactly a huge problem, do you best to solve it, but if it doesn't work out, don't lose sleep over this. There are so many more actually important things in life to worry about

It's because it's not true, dreams are incredibly important and it's your subconscious talking to you.

Try and keep your words closer to reality. Like my last post. Just shameless honesty.

This is pretty useful. Thanks.

But he still wants to know, why a girl?
Like maybe I want to at least once experience having sex with a girl in real life. To which I don't because I can't imagine myself having a threesome with my boyfriend (yet).

I'm a normal dude but don't tell other people about my dreams because they're either a total clusterfuck, I try to fuck my sister or murder my ex girlfriend which I haven't seen in three years. Dreams are fucking weird

I'm a girl, and when I told my past boyfriend I was a heteroromantic bisexual, he immediately got insecure and said, "Not only do I have to compete with all the guys, but also all the girls." I also remember a male user posting a thread about this from the other side a couple months ago, being upset that his girlfriend was dreaming about women. I guess it's not uncommon, unfortunately.

If he's worried you're gay, female homosexuality is very uncommon. There was a study that followed young men and women as they developed, and only 1.3% of them were consistently lesbian. And most girls who were just a little bi in their early 20s become fully straight in their late 20s.

And yeah, from all the stuff I've read (to comfort myself; I've had a little identity crisis lately with my sexual attraction to women) sexual plasticity is very common for women. Orientation just doesn't work for many of us the same way that it works for most guys.

for most guys, girls are the ultimate competition for bisexual women because guys put women on a pedestal and don't understand female attraction at all. it feels impossible to compete

My dreams are usually weird too but I often tell my boyfriend about them because he tell me his dreams too and we often talk about dreams because it's interesting sometimes. But it's the first time that he got butthurt about a dream of mine.

Does your bf know that you’re bi? Or is he really insecure?

Did your relationship with your past boyfriend fail because of your sexual orientation?

I already told him multiple times that I love him and would never leave him for anyone else.

He just doesn't unterstand WHY I like girls too.

I've mentioned that I'm bi when we started dating (which is about a year ago) and I've went to CSD last and this year (he knows, ofc) but we never had a "big conversation" about this fact. Maybe because I guessed that the fact that I'm in a relationship with a heterosexual guy would make me more likely straight...

(Sorry, I meant 1.3% of the women, if that wasn't obvious!)

No, not at all. He started telling me that his sister and a lot of the girls we knew from university are bisexual, and he said half-jokingly that he was "so tired" of it. It didn't really come up again except he teased me about it sometimes, saying maybe that's why I think ponytails look good on men. We ended things for other reasons.

I hope it works out. I've been so scared lately that my bisexuality will cause problems in my life someday, like what if I actually do fall in love with a girl and have to go through all that.

Ok if you're going to post here, you might as well add a tripcode. Also where are you from? What's your story? What went terribly wrong in your life to make you namefag on Jow Forums's advice board?

I'm from Germany. Nothing went terribly wrong in my life, I just couldn't give my boyfriend a satisfactory answer and I jokingly told him that I'd look for answers in internet and here I am. But it's not really important, is it?

Oh you are OP, ok my bad; I got confused.

I've been seeing a name around this board like 'noName' and I thought he was you.

Haha, I should've chosen a better tripcode than NoNicknameUser

If you change it to Jelly it would make my night.

Are you having a good night? Shouldn't you getting some sleep?

Reminder not to take “””advice””” from unstable attentionwhoring tripfags

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I am now! :D nice

My night is good but I want more in life and it's troubling me. I feel like a failure because I wasted so many years not living to my fullest.

I should be sleeping, yes, but my sleep is a wreck and I need to fix it for next week. Tuesday I need to wake at 4am for an appointment. So I'm staying up all night tonight to fix my rhythm.

I'm optimistic about the future. Super optimistic. But right now, where I am in life, and how I feel in general is pretty bad.

You guys are so miserable. If you spent your time giving loving advice to people and not following me in every thread, the world would be a better place.

I was helping someone in that screenshot. That screenshot is cut off, it's is not the whole post. That post was a very long one where I helped a guy stop hitting his girlfriend.

What's your point?

Don't you worry. I already thought that the screenshot is cut off. Just ignore them.

Keep giving loving advice to people!

Had a bank robbery dream while a policeman?

So, I had a dream a few weeks ago where I was having consensual transactions with a bank considering that I‘m a policeman myself too. It was nice and in the dream I enjoyed the stealing. So far, so good.

Today I told my corporal about the dream and he got butthurt about the fact that I dreamed having stealing with a bank. Not about the fact that I "betrayed" on him in the dream. Of course he knows that I obey him to death and would never betray him in real life. But he asked me: "Why a bank?"
I couldn’t give him a satisfactory answer.

I‘ve always liked both good guys and bad guys but since I‘m in an oath-bearing contract with my division (it’s my very first assignment as well) I considered myself rather lawful because, well duh, I‘m in a police-unit relationship.

But now, that I can’t give him a satisfactory answer to his question why I dreamed about having stealing with a bank and not law abiding with a unit.
I don’t really know what to expect here since I know that many anons will answer with "Badge or gtfo" but maybe you guys can give me (or my corporal) an honest, intelligent answer?

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I'm sorry to hear that.
I hope you success to manage your life and be eventually satisfying with your life someday!

Everything will be better in the future. You will success and feel better than now. Just keep being optimistic about your future.

Nice.

Here's my answer:
Maybe you just need more money.

In turn, maybe you just need more sex:)

Thank you. I don't know why I complained to you but thanks for your kindness.

I'm wishing out into the cosmos right now, that it may bring you 3 sexy girls and a big comfy bed into your dreams tonight..... tell your bf I said sorry :p

>In turn, maybe you just need more sex:)
Sounds about right. It's just not always easy when you're in a long-distance relationship. But right now he is off work for 4 weeks and on tuesday we're on vacation for 3 weeks. I'm already excited.

>I'm wishing out into the cosmos right now, that it may bring you 3 sexy girls and a big comfy bed into your dreams tonight.....
Thank you, it should be rather an interesting dream. I'd love to play UNO with these girls.

>tell your bf I said sorry :p
He'd be mad that I played UNO without him.

lol I laughed harder than i probably should have at that:p

So you guys are long distance? That is hard. I did that for a while with a Swedish girl. I'm so glad it's over... But I remember how I used to take everything so personally and overthink stuff. It was hard to feel like a man when you're over a thousand miles away from a woman you love. You crave so much to take care of her, to be useful to her, available... but no matter what, I couldn't. And it made me dread my job, because I (rightly or wrongly) felt like it was their fault that I was away from the woman I love. I got fired from that job, then instantly went to live with her. I was so happy.

Anyway remembering those feelings, it might be the real thing bothering your boyfriend. He probably feels these pains, plus choked because he can't tell you about them because he's scared of looking weak in front of you, so it might come out in other ways.... silly ways... like getting worked up about your dreams.

Do you really think if you were in his arms right now, that he would give a fuck about your hot steamy bi-romance dream? Probably not.... maybe even the opposite... which would mean I'm right and he's under a lot of emotional pressure and needs a release valve to let out some steam.

If I'm right, you can help him by giving him a "minute of vulnerability" every once in a while, where he can confess his weak feelings, and you PROMISE you will not love him any less if he does so.

but yeah... Tuesday is the big day? I am excited for you too, Jelly:D Hang in there!

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Goodnight Jelly! I'm closing Jow Forums for the night and I'm going to watch the film Tron.

I wish you all the best