How do you deal with intense anger?

How do you deal with intense anger?
Therapy ?
Techniques ?
Medication?
Drugs?

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why are you angry?

Find the source of the anger and deal with it like an adult. Unresolved trauma, romantic heartache, father issues, whatever.

Locate the trigger and figure out why it's making you so mad and ask yourself why you are giving that trigger so much emotional control over you.

Control your emotions or be controlled by them. Simple as that.

Try killing hitchhikers

For me, zen meditation has helped a lot in terms of just mentally stepping outside of those situations, assessing them for what they are, and letting them pass.

One of the biggest revelations is that we're angry when we feel something is wrong and needs to change, either in the past or the present. We want to force, or at least strongly influence that change. When it comes to other people, that's futile. Even the people closest to us, who seem the most willing to listen, aren't really going to change because we show them the error of their ways. If someone's a dick to you online, you destroying their argument or self-esteem isn't actually doing anything productive, and even if you hurt them, you're also dragging yourself into the mud.

You're a fucking retarded piece of shit. You mad, you stupid little bitch? You're never going to do anything of value, or become anyone, because you're too fucking stupid and worthless. You deserve all the shitty things people have done to you.

Do you feel mad about that? Maybe not since I've already told you my point, but regardless, it doesn't fucking matter what I'm saying. For one thing, I have very limited information about you as a person, so all those insults are projections about myself or other people I dislike, which I'm throwing at you to save my own ego (if I were seriously saying those things). But even if I knew every single thing there is to know about you as a person, and I was right about all your apparent flaws, it still wouldn't fucking matter. What matters is you figuring out how to accomplish what you want in life. So step back and let the shit in life slide off you. It doesn't happen instantly - you're never going to stop feeling mad, sad, etc. But you can stop holding onto those feelings. Part of it's physiological - your sympathetic nervous system kicks in, cortisol (stress) flows through your brain, and you feel anxiety. Sit it out. Wait for it to pass. Let it go.

Passed up for promotion for the fifth time. Was promised it last two times but they changed their minds.

Sounds like you need to reassess what you want in life, and consider changing jobs.

and could you have done anything about that?

A company that does not appreciate it's employees will soon have no employees to appreciate. They know you well enough to reject you twice for the position. This means that you're basically stuck where they want you until you decide to move to another company or department.

I dont know
I feel powerless in that position
I plan to quit , but logically I know I have to quit on good terms and not come off as spiteful

>I don’t know
And there we have it you’re mad because on some level you know you could have done more to obtain that promotion and didn’t exhaust all options
Just make sure you lined up a job pre quitting then give 2 weeks

I can't even remember the last time I was unreasonably angry, is that bad?

I met and exceeded their metrics , I have an engineering degree , not sure what else I can do. I'll worry about another job later , being in this job is not good for my health.

>Just make sure you lined up a job pre quitting then give 2 weeks
"Damn the torpedoes full speed ahead!"-rear admiral David Glasgow Farragut

Why are you?

Did anybody get anything out of this? I spent a little time writing it :(

I zeroed in on "You're a fucking retarded piece of shit." In the middle of it and decided not to read the rest.

Read the rest. I typed that to illustrate a point about online insults, I wasn't seriously insulting you.

Smoke weed

Freud would be proud

I walk up to the biggest baddest nigger in the cafeteria and get down on my knees and suck his dick

>Company who treats employees bad with have no employeea.
Lol no my dude, they will just replace him with someone else who needs that job to live.
Corporations know this and abuse it.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aggression_replacement_training

Did you read my post yet? Please read. I literally explain zen meditation.

Your post was shit and so are you

:(

Cant I take something to negate the cortisol?

I tend to scream inwardly at myself and the whole world

Pills aren’t always the answer user

But sometimes they are

we- are chemical processes and nothing more. If you deny yourself a useful tool simply because it reminds you uncomfortably of your mortality, you have uselessly and pointlessly crippled yourself

This is the kind of statement that only works in theory, but not in reality. Learning to deal with issues like cortisol without drugs is preferable because it's a longer-term solution. I'm not demonizing cortisol blockers, because some people really do struggle with abnormally high cortisol levels, but if you use drugs to fix the issue, the drugs' efficacy will diminish over time, and those drugs typically have other side effects.

I'm no expert on cortisol, but the best solutions are things like exercise, time outside, time spent socializing, sleeping enough, etc.

>t. future suicide victim

Clench your butthole really hard.

watch gore
chop wood

Only power can cure anger.

Exactly, that's why Pol Pot, Idi Amin, Joseph Stalin, Adolf Hitler, and Attila the Hun were such happy, calm people.

Joseph Stalin died while ahead

What if the source of the anger is over something really scary? Like i forgotten details i am too scared to think about anymore.

FUcking breathe
Pull it in

I used to get incredibly strong violent urges to either hurt myself or people around me
namely my ex bf during fights
NEVER acted on it, but its fucking weird.

You just need to develop extreme self control, figure out what calms you down, and DO IT

I find literally talking myself down works, too

I think green smoothies and meditation would help the cortisol, ngl

and exercise

Take it out on people through violence

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All those people sans Hitler and pol pot were cool dudes

Quit all drugs, eat healthy, sleep 8 hours, and exercise.

Then, when you get angry, you'll notice it's for a good reason instead of feeling shitty.

Have you used it?

>All those people sans Hitler
Why Hitler? He did nothing wrong.

He lost

I really enjoyed reading this. I'm currently feeling some anger at someone that is talking shit and taunting me with things that I have told them in confidence. Now I see that it's all just attempts by him to get me to react or upset, but I know I should be indifferent. Yet a piece of me wants to do something drastic. But it's like you said, it doesnt matter what they say as long as I focus on my own issues and making them better. Its exhausting to deal with people which is why I've decided it's best to just remain isolated to avoid being hurt or manipulated in the future. I'm glad this experience happened if only to affirm that loneliness is the best thing for me.