Had gf for 3 years

It will be the hardest thing you've ever done..

But when you get out of it you'll be a true god. You'll see weakness everywhere you go, because this situation made you so strong.

As i said the biggest thing is to go easy on yourself because this is one of those situations where i can give you the entire algorithm and you can still fuck it up from the sheer difficulty of the task.

You WILL succeed in the end, but cut yourself some slack if you fuck up here and there.

Just do not be the retard i talked to the other day who continuously fucks and makes up with his ex, then argues with her breaks it off then repeats every 2 months for 2 YEARS STRAIGHT. The damage he is doing to his receptors will never recover! And he is a weak bitch in my eyes.

If it's taking you 2 years to get into the third tier, you fucked up! Slowly advance through those tiers, and live a better life.

I'm happy as hell for you. My first gf breaking up with me and fucking another guy 18 hours later, then getting a new bf 3 days later (different guy), was the best thing that ever happened to me.

It is difficult and the longer you remain in the bottom tiers, the longer it will be difficult.

See you on the other side man.

I would never defend her. She was lying and backstabbing me, and I can't forgive her for it.

It happens to the best of us dude, have some compassion.

Most of us have been there. You're infatuated by a chick and become blindsided to red flags. Then all of a sudden, you're violently awakened when she cheats on you or dumps you for someone else. Now THAT is what will red pill you for the rest of your life.

t. i've been there.

Didn't expect everyone to be so helpful. Thank you all anons.

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Dude she did you a favor - dodged a fucking bullet. Can you imagine what it would have been like if you actually married that piece of shit?

I'll tell you what you do: get back in touch with friends, get absorbed in new hobbies, GET YOURSELF FUCKING TESTED if you haven't already, be glad that at least you were able to use her as a cumdump for a little while before the other dudes, and then never talk to her and avoid anything about her as much as possible.

And, just to repeat, be glad that you found out early rather than sinking even more years of your life. Use what used to be your relationship as a chance to reflect on yourself and how you an learn from it and fix your own flaws. Do not focus on shit she did wrong, it's meaningless and only makes you bitter. Only think about her faults and mistakes during moments of weakness where you feel like you might be missing her.

You will not feel better after a month. Given the circumstances you may still feel iffy after a year. That is normal, don't fuck yourself over by freaking out or rushing it. Time is literally the only medicine here.

Looking back on it, what were the signs, the redflags, that she was cheating on you?

This.
The first 2 years is always the hardest. I personally kept thinking about her everyday for about 4 years, but around the 5th or 6th year, things started smooth sailing. By the 7th year I was completely ready to date again.

I'm another user. Been here for Jow Forumsice three years ago and was nonstop venting on Jow Forums and /b/ because I got cheated on too. It was fucking traumatic. But you bounce back. It's just what happens with you and so many others, we get hurt, then naturally bounce back. Never get in contact with that bitch again, throw out everything that reminds you of her. You'll feel like a walking shell for a while but life comes back again. Joy comes back again and other women will come to your mind and heart again. Eat well, sleep well, do your work and meet family and friends. All those things are needed so that you're strong enough to suffer what you have to

Nah I know what you were like before if you didn't notice early. I have known a bunch of guys whose gfs were obviously whores, but they happily staid in denial for years before suddenly facing something they couldn't deny and then being shocked.

The truth is that this shit never starts immediately. It takes time. There are always signs. You were a retard for missing them, probably on purpose.
>It happens to the best of us dude
No it doesn't. If you're not stupid you can tell your gf is up to something. The problem with people like you is ignoring evidence.

We were never having sex, we stopped sleeping in the same bed. Just an overall disinterest in me physically. While the cheating was happening, she'd start huge fights to excuse not texting or seeing each other.

>block her on le social media
>”d00d if you can’t see her, she doesn’t exist”
>”DON’T THINK IT DON’T SAY IT DON’T THINK IT DON’T SAY IT”

lol you don’t need to block her number unless she’s blowing up your phone. If you want to move on, just accept what happened and grow as a person. Because when you start redacting her name from your life, you’ve shown that you aren’t emotionally mature enough to handle a break up and all your relationships are going to end with the same emotional meltdown that a toddler would have if someone took away his favorite toy.

So the warning signs were all bright and garish? Take that into consideration.

I was just being retarded. Looking back I can't believe the shit I put up with.

You do understand that no one thinks you're cool or smart for being edgy, don't you?

How is being emotionally mature an edgy thing?
Isn’t “d00d just block her on everything and pretend she never existed” the most infantile method of coping with a break up?

He's not saying that. He's saying block her and ignore her to make it easier to move on. The point is to make it easier to forget, not to pretend like they don't exist. Not wanting to be in contact with an abuser is still mature

This. It’s better to just take it as an adult and move on.

Why does he need to go out of his way to block her on everything? He could just not block her on everything. He should be able to see her on social media, hear of her occasionally, and notice her in public places without having a mental breakdown. Like I said, if he has to redact his ex from his life, he hasn’t grown as a person, and bad experiences are just going to loom over his life leaving him insecure about them.

Man youre sure a cool guy swinging your dick on Jow Forums

We got some emotionally stable robots who can withstand anything and never need coping mechanisms to deal with pain.

Hear that guys? They take their pain head on, like a strong person should!

idk neither of you are wrong but you're missing the point. The guy came here in pain, he's not a dumbass.

There is no reset. There's nothing i want to be

This

dont let some bitch control your happiness

Then you'll be nothing and there's nothing wrong with that either!

You're the same amount as every other human on the planet.

>7th year
you are insane

Almost the same
Bf was on tinder and other apps but was so beta that no girl even messaged him back. Break up with her you’re better than this crack whore. She wasted your time so don’t let her waste the rest of your life.

>We were never having sex
The red flag is that she's a whore to begin with, not that she stopped whoring herself out to you.

>getting attached
L M A O. That's why you don't form bonds. You fuck her and that's it. You pretend to care about her in a relationship for easy and free sex. Anything more is folly

Yo OP I just got left by a girl I too had plans to marry within a year or so. I have no advice for you because that's not the situation I'm currently facing. I truly wish you the best. I know your pain. This shit sucks dude. Its only been 2 weeks now and no improvement

Welcome to dealing with women
Literally all of them are like this

Proof, incel?

10+ years of dating. Dumb ass bitch and/or retarded beta faggot

Not if you get swol

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No great advice but I’m in a very similar boat
>been in relationship for five years
>everything is great. trust/love etc
>we travel all throughout Europe
>live together spend every second together
>sex life is great
>I financially support her and her family
>find out she’s been cheating on me for 6 months with some random dude that hit on her at a bar when she was out with her friends

I’m completely devastated and heartbroken. Feel like such a pussy but this is all I can think about. I know there’s no way I can take her back but I wish there was. This is rough man just hang in there.

are you black?

well did you? what's your stats

10 years of going to the store and fawning over cashier girls doesn't count as dating, incel.

>>I financially support her and her family
I get doing this and made the same mistake ONCE but women pretend and stay around only for this and its isn't love and really easy for them to ride other dick if they can keep it secret.

Detach yourself from these friends and go on a walk. Walk the feeling away.

Yo shut the fuck up with this retarded ass incel bullshit.

You spend any reasonable amount of time with an individual, you will inevitably form a bond, romantic or not.

lol, what a cµc|

I won't let her. I've broken off contact. It's just hard trying to feel again

>Blocking someone means that they will have a mental breakdown if they do happen to see them
Do you understand why this leap is illogical?