Is it normal to feel kind of cheated on, or better yet betrayed...

Is it normal to feel kind of cheated on, or better yet betrayed, if a friend tries to date your little sister without letting you know, and if she doesnt say anything about it as well?

For context me and my friends hang out a lot during the summer and recently i've been bringing along my little sister with me and I noticed one friend of mine is particularly "nice" around her. At first I thought it was just him but then I found out they've been texting and setting up dates and stuff like that. My friend never said anything about this and my sister also avoided telling me, she only did so because I asked her.

Is it weird to feel like this? Its making me sad and bummed and I hate this feeling, I kinda resent my sister a little bit for all this and i feel disrespected by my friend. Another thing that fucks me up is that my friend is even older than me (he is 25) while my sis is just 17. I confronted her about this and she tells me times have changed. Is this normal to? I feel really torn, and I've been losing sleep because of this crap

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25 hanging out with a 17 year old is kind of creepy and she is just a dumb teen so she won't realize how dumb it is until she grows up a couple years but ultimately what the fuck are you going to do. You can confront her or talk with your parents about it. I doubt talking to your friend will be productive.

Yup, creepy and your friend broke the one of the golden rules of friendship. Get better friends

Yea but its normal to feel shitty about this right? Like im not being over possessive or anything like that by feeling these feelings? Its been grinding my gears and I want to talk to my friend and my sister about it separately because I was fine until this happened, now I lose sleep over something I'd never thought would be an issue.

I feel this to, but when I explained this to my sister she didnt get it, i'm gonna speak to my best friend about this and see if he agrees with me. Im honestly just kind of lost in my mind about this I didn't think my sister would be like this

If you were both 18 and they had a flirtation going I get it but your bro being 25 and trying to fuck your sister and purposefully hiding it because you would know what he was up to would piss most of us off. Your sister told you the truth so leave her alone and stop dragging her around these older guys. Your friend needs an ass beating.

>Another thing that fucks me up is that my friend is even older than me (he is 25) while my sis is just 17. I confronted her about this and she tells me times have changed.

I think people are generally less accepting of this now than they used to be. My mother told me once how when she was 12 in the 1970s half the girls in her class were dating 19 year olds. That would be a huge scandal today, but people just looked the other way back then.

Im glad to know im not the only one who thinks like that, she acted like it was just a normal thing but she doesnt understand what its like for me as a big brother watching this. Im gonna talk to her about my feelings on this whole situation, in regards to my friend, i wouldnt say an ass whooping is justified but being a fake ass bitch to me is a big red flag that demands an explanation and apology in the very least, i may be overreacting but i dont give a fuck at this point. I don't like it when people go around breaking trust

The only thing that's creepy is the age difference. 17 y/o with a 25 y/o is definitely hovering on the edge of it being acceptable. Even if it's legal by law (which it is in many countries), it's still understandable if you're worried about this.

Now the whole ''my friend is dating my little sister'', i don't see a problem with it. You sister is a girl, you know. She's attracted to guys so she might as well be going out with someone you know and presumably trust. Would you rather see your sister date some alpha bad boy? Atleast with your friend you know who you're dealing with.

I think you missed my point, I dont have trouble with her dating people, like you said shes a girl who is attracted to guys i understand that, on top of that I know she's no saint whatsoever. Look no offense but you sound like a girl because you don't understand that there are some lines that we, as a group of bros, do not cross. Dating a bro's sister is already weird, but going behind my back trying to bang and acting like nothing is going on is a big fucking red flag. And if they wanted to be lovey-dovey boyfriends is one thing but thats not the case. She's also fucking 17.

I feel like this is somewhat my fault for bringing my sister closer to my friends, they are people i love haning out with and we're all pretty good together. But if you start fucking people in our group then the whole dynamic changes and in a really bad way, i for one couldnt stand the sight of the dude knowing he did things the way he did. If he was some random bf or hookup my sister got i wouldnt give two shits, but because he is my bro and went behind me makes me feel betrayed, and my sister also crossed a line and knows it because she kept it secret until I found out.

What hurts me more about this is knowing that she understands these issues but went for it anyway.

>at least with your friend you know who you're dealing with

I tried to see things this way but it still breaks the fundamental trust we have in our group, I feel like if they had genuine feelings for each other it would be ok, but thats not the case, and again a subtle reminder thats she's 17 and he's 25. He's older than me ffs trying to date my little sister, that alone is fucked up.

If I were you don't make this about you or your feelings other than to state the obvious, you are protective of her. The larger issue is an older guy will take advantage of her even if she thinks she is worldly she isn't. Your 25 yo friend wants to fuck her because she's around, young and dumb, still in HS. He's been using your friendship to do this. If anything your parents will be livid if your friend fucks her and dumps her all because you put her in front of this guy.

Again, stop with the feelings shit and protect your sister from an older pussy hound.

Beat his ass. If he still goes out with your sister, let him, he's earned it.

He's just looking for young fertile puss. Can't blame him. Hiding it is shitty and you should no longer consider him your friend for that

>i wouldnt say an ass whooping is justified
why are you protecting your friend here? I don't understand. He's 25 trying to fuck a 17 yo hs girl and using you to gain access to her pussy. This guy crossed the line and I bet if your parents knew about this shit they wouldn't be so easy on the guy.

>dont make it about your feelings
Thanks bro, you are right, by making it about this im missing the bigger picture and i was starting to get inside my own head a bit too much

He's got OP serving that young fertile puss up to the guy on a platter.

True. Personally, I wouldn't be offended. I've got two half-sisters and they're both under 5 right now. That being said, if I was in op's place and my sisters were older and my friend wanted one, I'd actively encourage it supposing the friend was a decent guy.

My parents go too easy on her, they probably wouldnt give a fuck my dude. I seem to be the only one giving a fuck about her not ruining herself with stupid shit like this. I also feel that he deserves to get smacked, but thats not how i handle things

Go fuck yourself, i try to protect my sister. thats why this is fucking me up.

>she's also fucking 17
>she's your sister and he's your friend
Yes. And that's likely the entire reason why they're not telling you about it. As turns out, they probably knew it'd upset you. They (or atleast he) don't want to risk getting into trouble over this before anything gets serious.

But like i mentioned earlier, i think you're being way too dramatic about the whole age difference and the fact that they're not telling you about whatever is going on in detail. Think about whether he would be a good boyfriend for your little sister. Is he generally kind, respectable and a positive influence in your life? If yes, allow her to date him and don't act you're your sisters dad.

then what you are feeling is shame, shame for putting her in this position in the first place

I still think you want to go easy on this guy because you want to impress him for some reason. Guess he must be the alpha dog in your social group.

I guess thats also true, but i feel betrayed because I didnt expect my friend and sister to do this, i didnt think this would be a problem.

Im not some fucking cave nigger going around beating people you dumb stupid fuck. Thats not how things work

>Is he generally kind, respectable and a positive influence in your life?
not OP but are you a fucking idiot? He has been sneaking around behind OP's back to fuck his 17 yo sister still in HS. Oh and 8 years older when she's a teen is a huge gap.

So he must be the king of the court

Your sister is a dumb hs girl and flattered this 25 yo guy is giving her attention. Hes the bad guy here.

You guys have ridiculous priorities you know that?

>i'd rather worry about my sister finding a guy who i don't know but is of the same age, rather than allowing her to date a guy i know of and know is a decent guy.

I'm looking forward to seeing OP sabotage this relationship and then watching his sister go on and date some 20 year old asshole who dumps her after a few bangs.

What is it with you 25 yo and older men fucking hs girls? I know its easy but damn can't you find anyone your own age or at least out of hs?

You're in it for easy pussy not a wife so stop it with the caste romance shit.

You're retarded, you're making this picture in your head that they're romeo and juliet being separated by the mean brother. he just wants to fuck her you dumb piece of shit

I'm 21 myself.

I'm going to repeat myself for the 3rd time until you idiots understand. Age difference IS NOT the most important thing. The most important factor is whether the guy is a decent guy or not. You guys are so incredible paranoid over the whole age thing that you lose sight over what actually matters.

What actually matters is having your sister date a guy who is decent, respectful and can make your sister happy long term. If OP sabotages this relationship he's not 'protecting his sister', he's just plain cockblocking them out of jealousy and he's definitely not doing anyone a favor.

He'll understand my point once he witnesses his sister date REAL assholes and douchebags. That's when he'll realize age isn't that important.

Just because you fantasize about pumping and dumping HS girls doesn't mean this guy has the same motives.

Op here, i understand your point of view, and I can say that my friend is not a bad dude, he's got some good qualities sure, but he only wants to fuck my sister nothing else. he's not in love otherwise that idiot would talk to me about it. Now that you know that, put yourself in my shoes.

I was on their side until I saw the age. Yeah, they hid that from you because you were rightfully going to fuck it up.

She thinks she's cool for landing that old dick, and he thinks he's cool for landing someone so young.

Tell her to get birth control. It will probably fizzle out after the novelty passes.

And you dumb ass think a 25 yo guy sneaking around behind his friends back is a decent guy wanting to wife her. If she was 21 or 22 and the guy was 30 go for it but she is 17. A lot of growing up should happen in that time. Well unless you're like OP's friend that still thinks he's in HS.

>he only wants to fuck my sister nothing else. he's not in love otherwise that idiot would talk to me about it
Talk to him about it. Talk to him about this concern of yours because right now it's nothing more than speculation and assuming things you don't know for sure.

Tell him you would be OK with him dating your sister but only if he actually likes her. If he's only in it to get easy pussy tell him to fuck off and hit on some other girl. If your friend really is a friend you should be able to talk to him about this instead of having random Jow Forums incels tell you how he's by definition a creep/pedophile or whatever else.

I was going to do this anyway, but dont forget i've known this guy for years, i can tell what he's after. I know for you reading its hard to relate to that but i know he doesnt have good intentions. I also know well that Jow Forums isnt the best place for advice but i needed other peoples opinions including yours on this issue because i've never dealt with this before. Its kind of mind boggling that it even happened in the first place

You were a mistake, zoomer. I hope he already fucked your sister in all her holes. See ya

Kek'd