The advice these days is to date multiple men until one of them asks for a commitment. But I find this really confusing because sometimes this means you end up having sex with multiple guys and more than one may end up wanting a commitment and you have to choose. This happened to me last time with 2 guys and they were both pissed off at me. I swore I wouldn’t let this happen again.
So this time, I am dating a guy that is 1.5 hrs drive away, and someone that is much farther who I haven’t met yet, but I seem to have a better connection with. I also have a local guy interested and one that is an 8 hr drive away (but I don’t know them as well). How do you balance all this? Is it okay to have sex with more than one guy while you are dating? Do I keep meeting new guys? What do I tell long distance guy one when I am going to a different location to meet guy 2? Also, do you tell them you are dating others (and does this imply you are having sex?). Help!
Don't have sex until commitment and personality assessment is accomplished.
Whose advice? Do whatever you want some people want to me exclusive some don’t, shouldnt matter so long as you are up front with everyone. Weak passive aggressive men will say they are ok with it and then sperg our later so watch for that.
How else do you test sexual compatibility?
This is a conversation you need to have with the people you date. Some people date exclusive only, and some sleep around while dating. We can’t answer this for you.
How? Sexual compatibility comes first, but if you don’t have that there is no need to get into something serious.
Let me tell you a secret: do not ever give a man you want commitment from sex. Because once you do you will give the power back to him. He is now in control of the relationship. A man who wants to leave you because you didn't give him sex is a good sign that he only cared about sex in the first place.
>The advice these days is to date multiple men until one of them asks for a commitment.
Only sluts writing for Cosmo give that advice. Stop being a fucking whore and only thinking about sex. You need to get thrown down a flight of stairs for being such a dumb bitch.
Do not fuck a man until you are ready to spend a few exclusive months with him. If you are unwilling to commit to a man, then you should not be fucking him. Have some fucking class.
Oh so it’s okay for men to play the field then?
Men date and fuck multiple women at the same time until they commit
See Those easy women don’t understand how this power game works.
Men and women have no business being in relationships without sex. Men always want sex and women know it.
A relationship with a woman without sex is completely one sided since the woman is fulfilled with what she wants (attention and security) and the man is not.
Shut the fuck up, you dumb slag. Men only get to fuck because women let them. Close your fucking legs and stop trying to shift blame.
Firstly, you do not need to be sexually compatible. Sexual repression is a positive factor that contributes to creativity and other fruitful pursuits.
Secondly, sexual compatibility would be a function of personality. You essentially probe for the person to be of a compatible personality and life history : this can be ascertained through visual markers, conversations and literal familial and partner history.
If a relationship can’t work without sex, it is a horrible long term relationship. I kept breaking up and getting together with my gf because I thought I loved her. But one day someone told to stop having sex with her and still see if I had feelings. This allowed me to get the fuck out of that toxic relationship.
You don't have to have sex with any of them until you both feel ready to commit.
So your relationship didn’t work without sex and you think that your next one will?
Sex isn’t everything but without it a relationship cannot exist. It’s the most primal level of communication that can exist between men and women and it is necessary.
Yes, I'm already in one here we can go three months without sex and still love each other. Really, all you will be doing is making some sexual active men very happy. I wish you luck on your endeavors because you;re going to need it.
Normal men and women are sexually active and your ‘gf’ is likely already fucking someone else if you can go 3 months without wanting it. Maybe go to the doctor that’s not normal.
I mean, if you going to fuck multiple men in hope of finding a committed relationship then I won't stop you. I tried to warn you but you don't care. I'm not going to get in the way of other men taking advantage of your easiness. They are going be so happy and I guess it helps my fellow men.
I’m not op and I’m a dude.
Sexual compatibility = finding each other attractive, trusting each other. You make it sound like it's some sort of next level top secret thing, but literally if you have a good relationship chances are sex isn't too shabby either.
this is the worst idea in Jow Forums and that's saying something all that shit would do is get OP dumped, cheated on, or stuck in a loveless/sexless marriage
are the people giving advice single women or guys who actually want their gfs to withhold sex from them?
You're ignoring the fact that the guy in the story got impatient like a retard and broke up the relationship.
guys who don't want to date whores and roasties
Women who withhold sex prior to commitment from you also withhold it from others, meaning they're smart women who understand their value and role in the sexual dynamic.
>Women who withhold sex prior to commitment from you also withhold it from others
that's not how that works normally they withhold sex from you and only you
Projection on the part of you.
ok don't say I didn't warn you
I don't deny it's possible. But it is up to you to discriminate between women properly, no one is going to do your work.
>projection over 9000
Your failures at life are showing. Ew.
>have one guy you're very interested in >other guys that you're less interested in, but are more convenient >lead them all on as if they're the only one If you don't see that as morally problematic, then you are lost.
Best advice is only be with one guy at a time. Guys who wants something serious wouldn't be with more than one girl. Naturally if you are serious you shouldn't be with more than one guy.
That's not something that I've ever seen happening. While I'm not someone who is on the "let's wait till marriage" side of stuff, I do wait till I'm sure the relationship is serious and I trust my partner fully before having sex. I had sex with two people, and I waited a year and half with my first (but I was virgin and very young) and 6-7 months with my current boyfriend. Never had any of the issues you talked about either. My boyfriend and I fucked 3 times today. Very happy relationship.
Maybe save the fucking for commitment? That way you won't spread STDs and no one feels bad.