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FAQ: >Do girls/guys like ? >What do girls/guys think about There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do? Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do? >How can I tell if someone likes me? Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys? Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean? Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this? Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date? Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, .
>Guys insecure with their 4+ inches dick Fuck off
>Is it too late to start dating? no
>Why is there no new thread? Create one yourself. You can use these macros: imgur.com/a/y6BF2
Male opinion on women that are natural aka do not shave?
no shave anywhere?
>no shave anywhere? Nope, completely natural I shower everyday, so not stinky
I would never find it attractive, sorry,
Don’t really mind it if it’s well trimmed, wouldn’t want any hair to get in my mouth eating pussy
Hairy legs are a hard no
My leg hair is very thin, it isn't visible from afar, but if you're looking closely then you might notice the hair. I am not very hairy.
If it's similar to arm hair that would be fine. I like fine, downy hair on women.
Has any guy here actually every gotten advice from here that actually helped them get a gf?
How hot are you?
If you're hot, I'd find it hot. Probably super hot. If you're a land whale it would just make you even less appealing.
I think that I'm average. I'm not a land whale however.
how did you arrange a friendship with benefits with someone if you previously had one? Did it start as a regular friendship or did you propose it from the get-go? I figure it's a pretty sensitive topic and I don't know how I should go about it.
Not me because I already tried everything they've told me to do.
The one I'm in currently started as friendship with obvious mutual interest and but pretty quickly we brought up the topic of fwb and just went with it.
Did you try being yourself
>Be only man working in HR at company I work for >female HR co-workers talk about hot guys at work in different departments who they want to bang Are all women like this?
yes, they talk about hot guys. men do it too, you know.
These are all married women in their mid 30s to late 40s.
Just as guys talk abut chicks, women do the same.
Yeah but at work and with co-workers?
Yeah, even married people find people sexually attractive. Most of the time they don't *actually* fuck them.
A girl has caused me far more misery than happiness, it sucks that I won't be in a position to look for new girls until a few months. I shouldn't even be talking to her.
But isnt it a bit odd to talk about it at work?
if it doesn't violate any company policy I guess that people are free to talk about what they want with whoever they desire, you might not like it, but that's ok
Why do you think it's okay to publicly talk about your desire to cheat on your spouse?
People in a work environment tend to become friendly over time, making a comment about finding someone physically attractive is normal. I wouldn't tell a client "that dude is hot, isn't he?" but I would to my colleague I work with every day. Talking about wanting to fuck someone isn't really expressing a desire to actually do it, more saying "I find that guy sexually attractive". Don't get too stuck on words.
Yeah, when you're working a office job what are you gonna talk about with your female coworkers? Paperwork and weather? I don't thinks so. You gossip about the rest of the firm and that includes talking about hot cooworkers.
And the question is??
Would you care that your girlfriend has male friends? even if they're childhood friends?
My bf seems to be getting more annoyed over time at the fact that I have male friends. He claims he isn't the jealous type and that I can do what I want but recently he's been telling me how men all want just one thing and none of them really want to be my friend and he doesn't want their 'desires' to trouble us etc. and it kind of hurt when he said even my childhood friends would do that.
Is he right? Should I drop my hanging out with them to a minimum or even totally for him? I'm trying to make female friends but it's not easy and it would suck to be left with no friends but idk what to do
But it's not that it's just exciting gossip chit chat. It's not real, it's like a married guy saying he'd tottaly bang Sofia Vergara or *insert any other attractive girl* it's the same level of 'fantasty' situations.
>unironically thinking talking about banging celebrities is the same as talking about banging coworkers I truly feel sorry for your bf/husband, holy shit.
Just let her suck your dick and get her to swallow, you'll get some action, and she can't trap you. Win-win situation.
Dude, they don't ACTUALLY want to fuck them. They're not going out of their way to get in their pants.They're not at home masturbating to their instagram profile. Saying "I'd fuck him" is just saying "He's attractive".
I'm single and all my female friends are in relationships, and I'm not some pathetic orbiter who's trying to score with taken girls. If he literally told you that 'all men' just want to fuck their female friends and are therefore incapable of friendship then he's either very jealous/controlling and is trying to make you cut off your friendships, or projecting like crazy (which feeds into the former I guess).
It's the same though it's literally just a fantasy because it would literally never happen. The oddss of you fucking Scarlet Johanson are the same as me fucking a coworker.
Sit down with him and have a serious chat. Establish boundaries that you should keep with your male friends (texting, hanging out, etc). Agree to a common line and stick to it. Hear him out when he says x or y wants to do you.
That is LITERALLY saying that you would cheat if the opportunity presented itself. Using your own words, there is a world of difference between saying "he's attractive" and "I'd fuck him". Or should I give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're just a retard who doesn't understand English?
You're taking what they're saying too literally. Stop focusing so much on the exact wording, it's just a way of saying they find them attractive. It doesn't say much about their actual intentions. I've said "I'd do him" about guys, both from my daily life and famous people, and I never literally meant it. It's never "I'm going to go out of my way to cheat on my husband", it's just "he's hot".
that is a personal moral judgment.
From a personal perspective, I don't agree that talking about wanting to cheat on your partner is a good thing, but people are free to speak about what they want.
Men why do you alwayd think about is sex?
The thing between our legs tells us to. Like, always.
The fact that you externalize your thoughts to other people already tells me you at least subconsciously want to cheat on him. Somehow I suspect you wouldn't be so happy if someone showed you a video of your husband talking about how he wants to fuck some hot younger girls in his office.
always implies the 100% of the time, which is impossible since we have also to think about eating, drinking, sleeping, going to work, etc
so it is not "always"
Well what if I talked with them about women at work I wanted to bang?
go for it, the consequences are yours to enjoy.
I hardly ever do
Somewhat related. I fucked my manager back when I was a trainee accountant. I used to stay ;ate in the evening doing extra work to make an impression and it would just be me and her there and she would talk with me about her life problems and whatnot and it eventually lead to sex. I was only 23 at the time and she was 35. Was a pretty risky move desu looking back now 10 years later.
Girls, have you ever walked in on a guy masturbating or just generally nude? Friends, family, whatever. If so, how did you react / feel? Just happened to me and I'm trying to gauge how fucked I am.
you gonna get metoo'd
But why are they allowed to do it but I can't?
because they have vagene and you don't
If you're comfortable enough to talk about it and it's not one of them directly, then it would be totally ok. Just remember that they don't actually want to fuck the guy it's just a fun fantasy, so you can't talk about a coworker as if you actually want to bang them.
I'm 29 and never had sex or gf. Is it too late for me?
I really don't. I literally don't even watch porn because I can only get off to my husband or fantasising about him, other guys don't even turn me on. I still will chat about other guys being attractive with female friends.
>Somehow I suspect you wouldn't be so happy if someone showed you a video of your husband talking about how he wants to fuck some hot younger girls in his office I wouldn't be happy, but I also wouldn't be mad. I understand context, him telling his friends "Oh I'd fuck the 18 year old who serves us lunch" is just comradery.
He didn't say literally all men but never did he believe when a guy talked to me that it was only friendly from their side, and even though he only met one of my male friends he's already assuming they want something more from me (I only have 3 friends now and they're all people I've known since I was a kid). He kind of makes it sound like it's impossible for another guy to not want to bang me. Even when I say I haven't the slightest interest or intention with anyone else he still thinks there will be problems from those guys .
He hasn't got close friends now really but I know in the past he had female friends he had no interest in so I don't get why it can't be in my case like that too
Yeah will do. I already told him I don't like hanging out with guys one-on-one, even if they're longtime friends. But yes there needs to be a more serious talk. Again it's no issue now there was no anger or yelling but I do feel over time he's getting more disturbed or annoyed when men interact with me
Thanks for the answer. How did you two bring it up, literally just "we should have sex"? I know it sounds autistic but I don't know how I should go about it.
Read the FAQ
It's never to late, just don't get into your own head about it.
I don't see anything there about being 29 and never having sex or gf
The stats say if you get to 30 without having sex or gf then you are more than likely to be alone forever
>He hasn't got close friends now really So he wants you to be as lonely as him then? The guy sounds like he has issues, I just hope you're able to abandon ship if it gets worse instead of mindlessly hanging on like many other women in abusive relationships.
>Is it too late to start dating?
That means you've got one more year to go.
I tried to come up with a question but there's nothing I can't answer myself, I just feel like shit and know it's going to take time to go away and the wait is just bad.
So you came into a question thread and you don't have a question
>other guys don't even turn me on But you're literally saying that you say you'd fuck them? Sounds like you're just rambling out of damage control at this point. Does your husband know you say things like that to other people in the office? If he does and is fine with it then I guess I can't fault any of it, but if he doesn't know, would you tell him or do you subconsciously know that he wouldn't like it?
So why did you post in a questions thread? The is another one for getting things of your chest.
no, I have a question, at what point can you safely begin to drop the 'love her less than she does so she loves me more' act
i knew about this lesson but feelings got in the way and i've screwed everything up, why must things be so counter-intuitive and fake, like you always have to just love the girl a little less, hide your feelings a little more
fuck shit what do other people do that finds them a person they can be honest with
Is it possible to get a gf if you don't really have friends? I only have 3 friends and only one of them do I see on a regular basis. The other two I went to college with but I don't see them in person anymore as they work 4 hours drive away from me.
Maybe what I said came off as dramatic.. He does know a lot of people and because of his job he socialises a lot but can't say he has a best friend or friends he spends a lot of time with or is open with, as in it feels like everyone else is kept at a distance in a way.
Of course if he starts acting crazy I'll abandon ship. This is the only issue I have with him now and desu from the other men I've known in my life he really is more chilled out and non-possessive than most. I guess it disappoints me that he'd assume that not even my close friends can be trusted is all
Why would it not be? I would say that the majority of the nice and shy type girls only have 3-4 close friends, so just look for those.
but you can, between male coworkers you can trust sharing such information
>But you're literally saying that you say you'd fuck them? I'm saying that they're physically attractive in a way that isn't as as formal because people normally don't talk in a formal, literal way with their friends. I'm not saying that I would literally fuck them right now.
My husband and I joke around wanting to fuck other people. And it's clear for both of us that it's not serious. Then we fuck each other and go on with our day.
The majority of the nice and shy type girls also already have boyfriends.
Gonna go to the store for some snacks but I was wondering. Question for girls. What's it like having emotions?
I also tell my coworkers that I want to murder our boss and that certain task I do at my job makes me want to kill myself. It's not literal, no one takes it literally. You're being an autist.
I'm the only man in the department
Would you tell your boss you want to murder them to their face? >it's not literal bro
I mean true... but I'm sure there's one out there for you.
then I'd recommend some noise cancelling headphones
And I'm sure that if she exists then I'll never meet her.
if you believe she doesn't exist then you won't never take the necessary steps to meet her, this is a textbook of a self fulfilling prophecy
Pesimism doesn't do you any good. 50% of getting stuff done is just optimism and confidence and I'd say the same goes for dating.
No, because I'm not in an informal relationship with my boss. I'm in an informal relationship with my coworkers, and with my husband, so I can afford not walking on eggshells around them.
So yesterday I was at the beach with a girl I have a crush on and a big wave brought my trunks down. She didn't seem embarrassed, disgusted, flustered, or anything like that. Just giggled a bit. Good sign or bad?
Went on a first date with a girl, we got on together quite well, talked the whole time etc. This was on saturday, she said she's very busy but we can go out again on friday and that she enjoyed spending time with me. The next day I told her that I too liked being with her, but what do I do now? Should I not text her until thursday, wait for her to text me first or what?
>It's not literal, no one takes it literally. Except your boss I suppose then.
Literally how is anyone supposed to meet a nice shy girl without it being some mandatory setup like school? If they use tinder they'll get a million other guys going for them too.
its a good sign that she is used to dick
It's not a question about him taking it literally, or not. He wouldn't think I'm conspiring to murder him. It's more a question of being respectful towards him. I wouldn't even say he's an asshole and I hate him either.
That doesn't mean much.
"so now that you seen me naked, maybe we should go out, how about tomorrow at place X"
i think work is unironically best option but on other hand all the nice girls that are good gf material are long time taken, and not willing to break up for you
So then people who say they would fuck other people when their spouse isn't around are disrespecting their spouse? Cool.
join a group of people whom you share an activity with, that is bound to make you meet new people, statistically some of them will be female, some of them single or will know some who are, repeat, etc
You don't have the same kind of relationship with your spouse and your boss, hopefully.
Tried this, everyone was a guy except 1 girl who had a boyfriend. Fuck this world.
I don't know your life situation so I don't know where you can have an opportunity to meet them, but there are apportunities. Also you can never know untill you try, maybe out of 50 mesages yours catches her eye.