Here is a place for you to talk about your life and examine your burdens with other people in the hope that by doing this some of your troubles will be alleviated. Talk about what is on your mind, your dreams lost and dreams found, your goals, your sorrow, your love and loss or lack thereof. This thread is for us to talk about ourselves and each other and to grow together.
Whatever your problems may be, you are not alone. I will do my best to offer advice in this thread to any who ask for it. Write it down here. You will be all right because I believe in you, anons. All of you. You can do anything you put your mind to, you are all intelligent and have potential that you might not even realize. Don't let the bad things in life get you down, instead put them in this thread and we will fight them together. You are not alone.
Remember, always, no matter what you face or what trials you must go through,
yes!! what you do you wanna get out of your chest, user?
Gabriel Robinson
checked nice double digits
I met my first gf three weeks ago and she left me one week ago. It was everything all at once, and then nothing. She won't return my messages. I still send her one or two every day or two. I will stop soon if she does not reply. I am thinking about changing jobs to find a better one and I am worried about that because if I lose the new job then I will be stuck with a lot of debt with no way out. I will be ok because I know that I have inner strength in my soul that will endure, just like how YOU HAVE INNER STRENGTH IN YOUR SOUL THAT WILL ENDURE. I will continue to try to stay on a good path for my life and I will try every day to improve and I believe that by doing this everything else will fall into place.
oh, I'm sorry to hear that, but I also noticed most people don't deserve what others have to offer :/ she is silly, I wish I had someone to sent me messages everyday, maybe you're better off without her... And about changing jobs... you will find another one before you quit the current, right? otherwise, yeah, it's risky...
On my mind righ now is just that I feel stupid for falling for people I barelly know... afterall it's so easier to don't see the truth about people...
Parker Robinson
>falling for people I barely know iktf, user. It has happened to me many times in my life. Looking back, I did barely know this girl at first. We met one night and we were together. We woke up together every morning and went to bed together every night. We talked about our lives, our dreams, our fears. We talked about a long term relationship, in fact she was the one who brought that up and said she wanted this to last. I wanted it to last. I thought everything was great, we were both going through hard times but when I held her tight I felt like I could do anything. I felt like I made her feel the same way, now I do not know anymore. I was the king of this world for a week.
Then it ended as quickly as it began. I guess she wasn't being completely honest, or maybe she really did think that at the time.She met another guy and I don't know where or how she is now. I can still picture her being there when I get home from work. Sometimes I like to say "honey, I'm home!" when I walk in the door even though I know that no one else is there. It makes me feel a little bit better, I do it as a dark joke but dark humor has always healed me in dark times.
Did you fall for someone recently? Tell me about it, I know exactly what that is like.
Remember, no matter how bad things get, no matter how lonely and sad you feel, you have within you so much love and joy and peace that you only have to search within to find. Follow your heart and be brave. The world is cruel but WE CAN BE KIND TO EACH OTHER and by doing this WE CAN TURN THE WORLD KIND. If you meet a girl who you fall for then BE BRAVE and ASK HER OUT.
Also yes I will make sure to find a new one before I quit the job I am working but I worry that something might go wrong at the new job and that if I lose it then I will have to find yet another job and that will take more time which means my debt will only increase without constant income.
I am worried but I know that I can do it because I believe in myself, just like I BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN FACE YOUR CHALLENGES BECAUSE I BELIEVE IN YOU
Levi Foster
hahaha I know exaclly the feeling, I've been feeling like quite good for a week or a bit less before the same happens, the only difference is that the person told me he couldn't handle a bpd, that really hurted my feelings... I'm not even too sure if the world can be a kind place, most people don't even think before they talk... How do you feel about that? how come are you so optimistic?
and the "joke"... lol, yes, I guess most lonelly people do that...
and oh, I bet you will be alright :) but still, I wish you luck on this journey, + are you analysing the job market, right? economy in your country and etc? I ask that because it seems that sometimes there's waves of how they hire people...
David Flores
>20 >poor >live at home >can't go to school cause mother won't do her taxes so have to pay out of pocket and rip >have depression anxiety and starting to think bpd >I can't handle jobs that force me to interact w people >last gf broke up w me 3 years ago and I'm not sad she left I'm sad I failed her and wasn't the man she thought >turn 21 this coming Tuesday
Honestly I'm running out of reasons to live the only thing that keeps me going is music. My plan is to release a bunch of music in all my favorite genres then off myself cause I wasn't meant for this world/society
Josiah Collins
when finances sucks, it's awfull!! But c'mon, are you sure there isn't anything you can do? I'm not from USA, so I'm not sure how stuff works, but... why are you depressed?due to social anxiety? there's nothign that helps you calm down when you have to fight the world? Can you see a way out living? have you tried? We believe in you, user! You can change things, at least with time...
and music... what sort of music do you like?
Christian Miller
That person does not deserve you because if they don't want to be with you when you are struggling then they shouldn't be with you when you are feeling good. In a good relationship between two people who really care about each other both people will be there for each other through the good times and the bad. Keep your chin up and keep going in your life and the universe will present you with opportunities to find love. That is what happened to me three weeks ago, and even though we are not together anymore I still have a few days where I was happy and I actually had a gf for the first time in my life. I will keep going in my life and keep my eyes open, maybe one day I will find a gf or maybe that girl will come back some day. All I know for sure is that I must endure the pain and keep going. I WILL endure the pain and keep going, and YOU CAN ENDURE YOUR PAIN as well.
I think that most people in the world are cruel because they are very hurt inside and that is how they cope. There is evil in the world, so be careful about who you think might be just damaged and who is actually evil. The line between the two can be thin and blurry. But none of that matters. What matters is that YOU DO YOUR BEST TO BE KIND and that I try my best to be kind and if everyone did this there would be more kindness in the world. That is how you fight evil, by giving so much love and kindness to the world that it simply outshines the darkness. It is not easy, it took me years to find inner peace and be able to try to be more kind to others but I try every day, so that's hundreds of days of practice. That is how it is done.
Thank you, I know I will be alright too. It will just take time to get over her. A very long time. I have a great capacity for patience. I know that I can endure this pain because I believe in myself. I am prepared to wait out the storm.
Optimism is a choice. Choose to believe in yourself, it is that simple. The hard part is making that choice.
I'm a loner and been depressed since I was 8cause saw my mom try to kill herself and ever since then I've just been dead while living, I can't enroll in college and take out financial aid by myself till I'm 24 cause law unless I move out before then but I highly doubt it. I just have to get a job but no one gives me the chance or it's shit retail and I dread talking to people cause everyone lowkey makes me gag. And Im planning on releasing tech death, djent/metalcore, trap and math rock albums along w a few orchestrations and shit before I'm like 25 then Ima cash my chips
Carter Cox
>This girl starts trying to hang out with me in freshman year >She's a cute brunette but I'm extremely unused to being approached by girls >get her number somehow, end up fucking up any chance of a relationship by almost ghosting her completely >try to forget about her over the summer at my shitty bank job >have a good first semester with bros but come second there's this other brunette in one of my classes that I swear was the old one >turns out it's not her, but she's still imprinting herself on me >manage to talk to her, but still end up going fuck all anywhere >realize that we have nothing in common and there's probably no chance for a relationship >I am now a slave to any quiet, glasses-wearing brown haired girl but am too impotent to make something happen with one
Here's to another fun year
Jackson Wood
yoooooo holy fuck I was searching for your thread yesterday and I didn't find anything. How nice of a surprise is it to see you back now. remember user we are in this together and we can do it
Aiden Murphy
>The line between the two can be thin and blurry. >YOU CAN ENDURE YOUR PAIN as well
gosh!! so obvious, but I needed you to remind me... and , ok that you are a loner, but remember that you don't need to be that lonelly, idk about others, but most of the time im here (online somewhere) if you wanna talk...
Ayden Long
>we can do it \o/
Aiden Baker
>no job >nobody will hire me >can barely afford food for myself >both parents dead >too dumb for college >want to an hero before age 30
Justin Rogers
>Been wanting to kill myself since I was 13 >19 now (inb4 you want to live) Probably but that is just my survival instinct >Bought a gun >had that gun for 10 months >still here >got mad and went on a cocaine binge and did a ton in hopes I would get mad enough to do it >still here How do I stop this survival instinct bullshit bros, I just want it to end
Grayson Jones
>>too dumb for college What in the world makes you think you're too dumb for college?
Jose Cook
I fight depression and anxiety too. I have for most of my life, as far back as I can remember until I was maybe 6 or 7. I got a job where I had to interact with people. I had many many failures and felt humiliation for a long time. I kept going through it all and now I can talk to other people pretty well. I can blend with the norms, even. They know I am not one of them, but they do not have a shadow of an idea of my true power level so they just think I was abused or something. I don't care, really, what normals think anyway and NEITHER SHOULD YOU because YOU ARE UNIQUE and their opinions are mostly based on the current position of the Overton Window. Many such cases.
YOU CAN handle jobs where you have to interact. It will be one of the most difficult things you have done so far in life, at least it was for me. It was Hell. But I made it through that Hell by just moving forward and trying over and over again to be better at talking to people and now I AM. All those moments of humiliation hardened my armor and now I am not afraid to even do something reasonably stupid by accident because I will not feel the humiliation at all. Even when norms try to pick on me at work, nothing sticks. They get bored and go back to grunting at each other or whatever because they see that they do not bother me. I also learned over time to stand up for myself so if someone is really trying to humiliate me I will go right up to their face and tell them to fuck off, though usually I try to say it in the most polite way possible while still being firm.
Cherish your mother, user.
Move on from your ex gf. For whatever reason things did not work out and that is that. I know that you feel pain but YOU CAN ENDURE THE PAIN. ENDURE THE PAIN AND LIVE ON AND FOCUS ON MAKING YOURSELF AND YOUR LIFE BETTER. That is the best thing you can do for yourself. Find your passion. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. You will find the way in time if you just keep going.
Took tests when I was out of high school when applying to get into a community college, just basic entry exams flunked every one of the exams. I'd have to take basic classes in in math, and reading for my first semester there.
Jackson Ward
I am replying to all of you. This will take some time. Have patience but KNOW I AM READING EVERY SINGLE POST HERE DO NOT WORRY.
BELIEVE IN THE ME THAT BELIEVES IN YOU YOUR DRILL IS THE DRILL THAT WILL PIERCE THE HEAVENS
so the only thing proved is that you have a different rythm, maybe because all the problems in your life, maybe because you just get nervous... but hey! you saw a problem and started thiking about what can be done... that doesn't sound dumb to me... give yourself a change, try to get back on your studies, but try your best beforte you call yourself bad things... it sucks, yeah, but you can improve yourself!! don't limitate who you are on words, that is just the start... what do you think about that?
Aiden Martinez
I'm sorry... I'm beeing noisy in here but im reading part of it too
Andrew Powell
I can barely afford food let alone college education.
Brayden Powell
but even for a job... don't you need basic math and etc? you don't need to the same job forever... you can improve yourself!! find your strength, you have it!!
Noah Carter
Only job I'd be able to get is working at mcdonalds because I have four years of experience working at one.
Thomas Foster
I tried, but my advices sucks...
Julian Lopez
and how come you can become a manager? making connections and idk, getting better at math... after mcdonalds you could go somewherelse, and maybe even one day open your own business since you'll have the exprience... Don't let your dreams die, specially if there's a logical route to it
Owen Hernandez
This is all about ALL OF US HELPING EACH OTHER. You don't have to apologize, I reply to everyone but YOU CAN TOO. I want everyone itt to share their advice as well as what is on their mind. I just wanted to address this post before going back in order of the thread because I want you and everyone reading this to know that I want us all to WORK TOGETHER AS A TEAM to help each other and make our lives better. THANK YOU FOR BEING PART OF THIS.
How about the grill who ghosted you? Are you feeling any better? I hope so. This is really dumb but I kind of wish the girl I love would ghost me. It would be easier than having to see her everyday. No that's even worse. I need to push through the storm
>2 years ago >long spell of unemployment doing ad hoc work in offices etc. >get a retail position for a store supervisor >great opportunity >actually really enjoy the job >lots of management changes at my store over course of me working there >latest one is useless. I pick up a lot of his slack and basically only person in store who understands everything >management changes announced >manager offered me about 2 or 3 hours prep withhim over the course of 2 months which is pitiful >when I went in on weekends to get help I'd end up just having to help him fix the safe balance as he'd fucked it up again >actually leave interview quite happy, didn't freak out or get stuck just answered questions. Interviewer seemed happy. >hear horror story interviews from a colleague. Even hers she broke down in tears, interview took 90 minutes and she didn't structure more than two answers properly. Couldn't think straight and just clammed up. >go for my meeting yesterday - no job >she goes to hers - keeps her job, gets a nice pay rise >her interviewer was someone we both know, mine was someone from down south >just feel cheated and betrayed >could see a future in the company, now I'm back to square 1 at 28 years of age
Now I have to go work for 6 weeks notice. They'll probably try get me to upskill my replacement.
Cameron Ross
A few things So I once again procrastinated, meh, I'm very used to self-sabotage at this point. Instead of stressing out I'm going to use this pressure to cover months of work in a couple days. I've done it before, I can do it again. This time without addies.
Don't be afraid to say no, otherwise people simply won't care about what you want. People respect resistance, nice guys offer zero resistance to anything, they just agree to everything thinking people will like them for agreeing. Well, some might, but don't expect to pull any girls with that strategy. I've learned this the hard way, never again.
I still have no idea how to solve some situations in my life having lost more than I gain. I desire certain things, letting go of those desires removes the entire issue, but why should I? It'll probably destroy me if I hold on any longer, but I'm too stubborn to quit.
Noah Martin
do you do networking with ppl where you work?
Austin Gutierrez
only people in my current role
let relationship slide with my ex-manager who was really outstanding at her job.
Josiah Cox
>Been wanting to kill myself since I was 5, tried to jump of roofs, thought about jam my fingers in electrical sockets, desire to jump infront of cars, and yadayada It might just be fetishistick, since I'm too coward to do it, but I feel the urge every time
Oliver Phillips
There is life within you. It is buried underneath all the pain that you feel but THERE IS LOVE AND PEACE AND JOY IN YOUR SOUL RIGHT NOW AND YOU CAN FIND IT. The first step is that YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN MAKE THINGS BETTER. You are the arbiter of your path in life. There are times when the path is hard to go down, or too dark to see clearly, but in the end the possibility to change your life rests on YOU. You CAN do it.
I have anxiety as well. I have dealt with it for most of my life. I spent a long time fighting it. I still have really bad anxiety, but I have my anxiety under control for the most part. I did this through conscious effort like focusing on taking deep breaths and quieting my mind when I feel really anxious and over time I began to control it naturally and with less effort.
I did this by trying and failing over and over until I finally started to get better at talking to people and then I practiced again and again by being in social situations that made me EXTREMELY uncomfortable but in the end I GOT BETTER AND SO CAN YOU IF YOU KEEP TRYING EVEN WHEN YOU FAIL AND EVERYTHING SEEMS IMPOSSIBLE BECAUSE IT IS NOT IMPOSSIBLE AND YOU CAN ABSOLUTELY LEARN TO INTERACT WITH OTHER PEOPLE IF YOU JUST KEEP TRYING AND NEVER GIVE UP.
I got a job where I had to talk to people. When I started I couldn't look people in the eye for more than a second or two, I always spoke very quietly and I was always a nervous, anxious wreck. It took a long time and many failures before I finally was able to interact with other people on a daily basis and keep my inner peace. Maybe you should try a job like that, it will be difficult but YOU WILL GET BETTER with time and effort, trust me.
FOLLOW YOUR HEART and MAKE MUSIC. Fill this cold world with the fire of your passion. THE WORLD NEEDS MORE MUSIC FROM THE HEART so MAKE YOUR MUSIC REAL. Focus on completing those albums and NEVER GIVE UP ON WHAT YOU LOVE.
Saw your thread from 2 days ago and just wanted to say I love you user. Keep on keepin on
I really wish I could pinpoint what my actual problems were It all seems to be vapid drivel that I subconsciously lay out for myself to trip over Brooding on whether I am my own problem. If I'm just starved for conflict due to an unexciting youth. Things that I grieve over now, I couldn't spare two thoughts about next month. I've figured in the past that distracting myself from free thought would help but it's, at the least, equally unsatisfying and unhealthy. Wondered a lot about if I'm schizoaffective or something of the sort, but I tend to dismiss those fruitless thoughts, because I wouldn't bother getting "help". I would never take medicine that changes who I am. So I've continued on with my self-made conflict, but hey, what's life without hardship? At least that's how I rationalize it.
Jackson Rogers
I REMEMBER YOU, user I am glad that you are itt, it is a nice surprise to see you again too! I wanted to reply to you before I continue my replies in order of the thread so that you know that I remember and that I read your posts. I read every post in these threads but just wanted you to know in case you had to leave soon or something, I spend time on every reply to make sure I write what I mean in the right way.
BELIEVE IN THE ME THAT BELIEVES IN YOU YOUR DRILL IS THE DRILL THAT WILL PIERCE THE HEAVENS
BE BRAVE. You fear the possibility losing her so much that you don't even talk to her in the first place! TALK TO HER. You never know until you try, AS HER OUT. Maybe you have more in common than you think. There is only one way to find out and that is to ASK HER OUT AND TAKE HER ON A DATE. People can be very closed around each other, maybe you are not seeing who she really is because maybe she is scared too, just like you are, than her heart might get broken. BE THE ONE TO ASK HER OUT. TAKE THAT RISK. Maybe you will fail and that will hurt, but YOU CAN ENDURE and you will meet new people as you go through life. Maybe YOU WILL SUCCEED AND TAKE HER ON A DATE. If you never try, you'll never know so if you meet a girl that you like BE BRAVE AND ASK HER OUT JUST DO IT DON'T THINK ABOUT WHAT COULD HAPPEN JUST DO IT AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS AND WHEN YOU ASK HER OUT YOU WALK UP TO HER LIKE THE MAN YOU ARE AND YOU LOOK HER IN THE EYE AND YOU ASK HER ON THAT DATE, user.
YOU CAN DO IT BECAUSE I BELIEVE IN YOU
WE CAN DO IT YOU CAN DO IT BECAUSE I BELIEVE IN YOU
Spent like a year bonding with this girl, truly love her now but don't know if she likes me, unfortunate circumstances means that we can't meet up irl, but talk for hours online. Now for like a month, we haven't been talking. She doesn't strike up conversations, everytime we talk it feels forced. I don't know what happened because we were going stronger than ever before she just stops. I'm always paranoid as fuck, feel like shit and don't know what to do
Ian Campbell
Are there jobs that you dread and so you avoid considering them? If there are, then look into those jobs too, maybe you can find one that you can be ok with. Since you have experience in the food industry, you could try to apply to a different restaurant than McD's. Waiters can make a lot of money in tips in a few short hours, maybe you can apply as a waiter somewhere. What is important is that you make enough money to take care of yourself, then you can focus on doing things that you really want to do. I do not particularly enjoy the job I am working but it is how I make money to do things that I enjoy and to take care of myself.
Your parents live on in your heart and your soul and their love for you is still just as strong as it was when they were on this earth.
YOU ARE SMART ENOUGH FOR COLLEGE Find your passion that calls to you and study it. It can be anything, as long as it suits you. What do you enjoy doing? What is something you are good at? Ask yourself why you enjoy that or why you are good at that. Find something like that in a college degree and GRADUATE. You are in pain and the pain is keeping you down but you can rise above the pain in your life and you CAN improve your situation. Believe that you can overcome the pain that you feel every day from your past because YOU CAN ENDURE THE PAIN THAT YOU FEEL. It will take time to heal, maybe a long time, but along the way you will get better and one day you won't hurt as much. Keep living. Keep striving towards what will make your life better. Take small steps to improve your immediate situation, then keep going down that path one day at a time and over time you will get stronger and you will grow even more than you already have.
No matter what happens, do not lose hope. Your soul is full of love, peace and joy, even if these are buried so deep beneath all your suffering that you cannot feel them now, BELIEVE that they are within you RIGHT NOW.
Everytime a girl likes me I panic and knowing it will crush my soul if I open up to them and they stop liking me, I just ignore them and eventually they lose interest. This has led to me regretting loads of 'what could have beens', but on the other hand the only girl I ever opened up to promptly rejected me, idk wtf to do.
Matthew Flores
Why do you want to end your life? If you know the answer to that then that is a place for you to start to make your life better. YOU CAN ENDURE THE PAIN. Keep moving forward one step at a time. There will be better days than others but with time and effort you WILL get stronger day by day until you can look back on this time in your life as a darker time than where you will be. You WILL improve your life and YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN SOME DAY IF YOU JUST KEEP LIVING BECAUSE YOU DO WANT TO LIVE, YOUR SOUL WANTS TO LIVE and within your soul is peace, joy and love that has only been covered by your pain. Look within yourself to find inner peace, it is there deep down. WHEN you do, nothing can take that away from you. NOTHING and NO ONE can take away the LOVE AND PEACE AND JOY IN YOUR SOUL BECAUSE THEY WILL ALWAYS BE THERE AS LONG AS YOU LIVE.
Find a quiet place where you can think and then clear your mind and FEEL YOUR FEELINGS. There will be pain as well as peace, sadness and happiness, love and loneliness. All of this is PART OF WHO YOU ARE and ONLY YOU CAN FIND YOUR OWN INNER PEACE. Find it, wherever it is hiding in all your sorrow. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. Find your passion in life, the answer to that is within you and you alone. Find it and go with it and never let it go.
Get rid of the gun if you do not plan to use it only for self-defense. Break it and throw it away, pawn it, just get rid of it. Focus your energy on taking the first step on a better path and once you do, keep putting one foot in front of the other every single day. Do this and over time YOU WILL GET STRONGER AND BETTER AND YOU WILL OVERCOME THE PAIN THAT YOU FEEL RIGHT NOW. Be patient and forgiving with yourself along this path. Do not get discouraged and do not lose hope, there is hope for you to live a better life and YOU WILL FIND HAPPINESS ONE DAY because THERE IS HAPPINESS IN YOUR SOUL RIGHT NOW. It is only hidden beneath your pain. Live.
Do not be discouraged. You have your own unique experiences and wisdom from which you can give advice. We all have our own unique experiences and wisdom to share. Even just asking questions and writing about what is on your mind could help someone in an unforeseen way. Be true to who you are in your CORE and by doing this you will share your unique soul with the world, and that in itself is a way to bring good into the world and other people's lives.
YOU CAN DO IT BECAUSE I BELIEVE IN YOU
I still have not heard from her. I get a little bit better each day, but it hits me in waves. Today was worse than yesterday. So it goes with heartbreak. I will be ok in time because I have found inner peace and I believe in myself that I will make it through this, no matter how sad it makes me feel right now I am able to at least deal with it until I get stronger and the pain subsides. I miss her a lot. I think about her all the time. I am losing faith that I will ever see her again as the days go by and she does not answer. I will continue to hold on to the hope that maybe she and I can talk about it because we never did after she left.
Even if I never see her again, I will still continue to live on and hope for the best as I do what I can to improve my life. There is nothing else I can do right now, so that is what I will do.
It does hurt to see the girl you love with someone else. Know that you will get stronger every day and one day you might meet someone new! PUSH THROUGH THE STORM. ENDURE THE PAIN. YOU HAVE WITHIN YOU EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KEEP GOING, IN YOUR SOUL THERE IS PEACE, LOVE AND JOY AND YOU WILL FEEL THE FEELINGS OF YOUR SOUL IF YOU LISTEN TO YOUR HEART.
You will get over her in time, user. It might take a long time, but you will get better. Focus on improving yourself for now, everything will fall into place before you in good time.
You have time on your hands to do ANYTHING that you want. Take that time to FIND YOUR TRUE PASSION. Then RUN WITH YOUR PASSION AND NEVER LOOK BACK. If you are having trouble focusing then MEDITATE. Find a place where you feel at peace and go there. Sit down and take a few deep breaths. Clear your mind and then listen to your heart and feel what you feel. Exist in peace with yourself, this will allow you to become more in harmony with your soul.
Discover your passion. Then you will be able to break the cycle and devote yourself to doing what makes you happy. There is nothing wrong with being on the computer for a long time as long as you are happy. Life is about finding the balance of everything and the balance of your unique life, spend some time doing things that will help you to build a life that you want to live and once you do that then live well as you travel that path.
Management looks great on a resume, you could apply at many different jobs and be considered on that alone, I am sure. If you are dealing with more stress than the job is worth to you then LEAVE and find a new job as soon as you can. Maybe you will have to switch job fields and start at the bottom but you can work your way up quickly by doing a good job at the right job, as I am sure you know having worked in retail. Apply to as many places as you can so that you have options to choose from so that you can get a better job than where you are now. Don't give up, keep working towards your goals! I have heard people say that "when one door closes another opens". Maybe this is a sign for you to find something new.
YOU CAN DO IT BECAUSE I BELIEVE IN YOU
FOLLOW YOUR HEART. You cannot change the past, but you can do everything you can with what you have NOW to make a better life for yourself. Nothing is gained without loss. What does your heart want? Listen to your heart and let it guide you on your path.
That is great that you are using the pressure of stress in a positive way. Anxiety and stress are just forms of energy, sometimes they can hurt us but they can also be used to motivate yourself, as you are doing. Good job, user! I am happy that you are getting things done that will make life better for you. Doing it with your own will power, unaided, is even better because it will only make your will power stronger.
"No" is one of the most powerful words in the English language. Use it wisely and you will be able to direct your life towards the path that YOU choose, and no one else.
>I'm too stubborn to quit EXACTLY. NEVER GIVE UP. KEEP GOING UNTIL YOU REACH THE HEAVENS.
Most of my problems stem from the fact that I'm just too scared of everything to get shit done. There's jobs I want to try, opportunities that I want to seek. But of course, that would require me to grow up, possibly fail and be hurt from the experience. But I don't know how to be brave. I apparently lack that ability to just "do things" even if I'm afraid. So every time I say "I'm gonna go outside and enjoy myself" or "maybe it's time I look at that online course" or something to change up my routine, I get really nervous, like I'll start tensing up and breathing faster. Then, I end up making an excuse and not doing what I told myself I would. It makes me hate myself. I want to be better. But I won't let myself. And it's over even the most basic of shit. I'm a coward.
FIND YOUR PASSION. Direct all of your energy towards doing this and when you find what motivates you then GO WITH IT. You will lose yourself in doing what inspires you and your urges will disappear over time. You must also continue to FIGHT THE URGE as you have been doing, all the time until you are able to subdue it. YOU WILL OVERCOME THIS DARK TIME IN YOUR LIFE AND YOU WILL BECOME STRONGER THAN YOU EVER WERE BEFORE.
Just keep swimming, keep going no matter what. Find your path in life and stay on it. Let your heart guide you and you will find your way. The road may be hard and the days may be dark, but YOU CAN and YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH.
YOU CAN DO IT BECAUSE I BELIEVE IN YOU
Thank you, user. Though we do not know each other in real life I love you too just for being strong enough to write down the struggles you face. Keep living as best you can every day!
YOU CAN BREAK THE CYCLE. You may have things in life that hold you back, but do not dwell too much on your faults and mistakes. Learn from them and take those lessons into your future. Find a place where you can be at peace and go there. Clear your mind and MEDITATE. Do this as often as you can, at least once a day would be ideal. Over time you will learn more about yourself and your motives, dreams and your PASSION.
Search your heart and soul for what inspires you and DO WHAT INSPIRES YOU. This alone will make you happier than you can imagine feeling now, and that POSITIVE ENERGY will carry you through darkness. Hardship will make you stronger and more able to deal with challenges in life because to overcome hardship is victory in your soul.
Maybe she is going through a hard time in her life. Have you asked her if there has been anything that has been really bothering her lately? I recently met a girl who I was with for about a week before she left me. She was my first gf. Girls are hard to understand sometimes. I think that even they do not know what they want at times. There are times when we all feel like we don't know what we want, but from my experience this is common in the fairer sex.
Talk to her as much as you can. Tell her how you feel. Write it clearly and plainly. Speak to her directly from your heart. If things don't work out then you have done all you can and you can go on with your life knowing that you told the girl you like that you like her. BE BRAVE. Do not fear rejection, just go into it like you're going in to battle. You might get hurt but there is a chance that she feels for you and she is unable to tell you how she feels just as you have trouble telling her how you feel. The only way to know for sure is for you to be brave and be the one to tell her that you feel the way you feel. It will not be easy, but remember
BE BRAVE. DO NOT FEAR REJECTION. You have everything to gain from taking the chance to TALK TO HER and ASK HER OUT and you have everything to lose from doing nothing, so HAVE HEART and BE BRAVE and the next time you meet a girl that you like ASK HER OUT ON A DATE. Keep it simple for your first date, go get lunch or coffee or see a movie that gets out before dark so you have time to hang out afterwards, whatever will be a good time for both you and her.
HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF. You are scarred by that girl who rejected you in the past, do not let that one moment in your life define what you do now or in the future, because THAT MOMENT DOES NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE. You are capable and YOU HAVE THE COURAGE to ask a girl that you like on a date, it is just buried under the pain from that incident.
Keep trying. You might succeed, or you might fail over and over until you feel like giving up, but YOU MUST TRY because no matter how many times you fail, there is a chance that EVEN ONCE you will succeed, and that is all it takes to find that one special girl is that ONE SINGLE, UNIQUE MOMENT WITH HER AND HER ALONE.
BE BRAVE BE BRAVE BE BRAVE BE BRAVE You have COURAGE within you, you just do not realize it yet but IT IS THERE. Take time out of your day to sit down and clear your mind and focus on your breathing. Take slow, deep breaths until you are better able to control your breathing. This alone will help your anxiety.
Practice taking small steps outside of your comfort zone. GO OUTSIDE and just DO SOMETHING OUTSIDE. Nature is full of wonder and inspiration, and a nice long walk is great for both your physical and mental health. Do anything that breaks the cycle that you feel trapped in now. Start with very small steps that you can manage. If you do, then as you keep going you will be able to take bigger and bigger steps until you are amazing yourself with your own accomplishments.
Every path begins with one step. Take that step and keep going. No matter how bad you feel, no matter how impossible and tiresome it all seems, you CAN do the things that you want to do that will make you happy and make your life better.
I must go now. I will return to this thread tomorrow and I will read any posts that were made while I was asleep. Help each other out too, as best you can, itt and everywhere in the whole world.
No matter what challenges you face, no matter how bad everything may seem, YOU HAVE THE POWER IN YOUR SOUL TO LIVE A GOOD LIFE THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. IN YOUR SOUL IS ENDLESS PEACE, JOY AND LOVE THAT YOU ONLY HAVE TO FIND. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART. Work hard on improving yourself and your life and everything else will fall into place before you and you will find yourself in places you had only dreamed of before.
BELIEVE IN THE ME THAT BELIEVES IN YOU
YOUR DRILL IS THE DRILL THAT WILL PIERCE THE HEAVENS
I've had major depression since I was a kid, no motivation to pursue any career other than music, low energy levels (mostly due to chronic insomnia), and I'm now unemployed and in a relationship that started off well but has since gone to hell due to him coming out as "asexual" and becoming increasingly distant from me in addition to every other problem we had beforehand. Also I have nowhere to stay if I end the relationship, though I want to so I can move on. But I don't feel like I can take care of myself, so I don't know if I ever will
Have you ever tried talking about this with your partner?
Angel Rogers
WITHIN YOUR SOUL THERE IS LOVE, PEACE, JOY, COURAGE AND HOPE that you must search your heart to find. Try to sleep as much as you can. Eat as healthy as you can and avoid sugar and caffeine as these things will keep you awake when your mind wants to rest.
Talk to your partner about HOW YOU FEEL and HOW THEY FEEL. If this does not repair things, it will at least bring you both closure.
LOOK FOR A JOB WHERE YOU CAN WORK AND BE OK. This will give you the ability to be independent and you will be able to get out of the place you are in that is dragging you down.
You CAN take care of yourself. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF BECAUSE IN YOUR SOUL YOU FILL FIND THE POWER TO BE STRONG BEYOND WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE CAPABLE OF BEING
Look for jobs TOMORROW. GO OUT INTO THE WORLD AND FIND A JOB. This is the first step to your freedom and happiness in life.
Wanderer, sincerely thank you for taking time out of your day to inspire us. Your dedication to make the world and the people here better and more optimistic is even more heartening than your words. Keep doing what you're doing man, you're the best.
Adrian Edwards
Thanks a lot, I really needed some support. I think she might have something important going on, or she just needs a break or something, so I'll wait for sometime before approaching her again. I absolutely will make my feelings for her clear to her. We are close, I'm sure we can make this work. Thank you for believing in me.
Landon Cooper
I love these threads user Still looking for a qt religious girl who wants a big family
Hey man, I'm a big fan of prog metal and djent as well, and am currently working on an album too. It's one of the few things keeping me going and it's really good to hear that someone else is relying on their music just to keep going on in life. I wish you the best of luck