/sfg/ - Sexual Fitness General

Hey user
If you know you are going to have sex, fap the day before, you will last longer, the whole point to nofap is to help virgins get laid
So if you found yourself someone to have sex with then fuck nofap entirely

If you come fast immediately pull out, begin kissing her neck and every inch of her body down to the puss, then eat her out without asking until you’re ready for round 2

no fap or not, you're probably going to cum pretty quick your first time. If you have a couple hours' notice on the sex, personally I'd jerk off so I'm not ready to blow from the moment of penetration.

Honestly though if you have a welcoming partner, there's no reason to do that... the quick cum after a week without is disappointing to girls but feels fucking incredible (which is why you cum so quick)... I'd just solicit a round two, desu I know this depends on the guy but I really have no refractory period at all when I'm with my girlfriend. she just turns me on so much, after cumming my dick goes from diamonds to like... basalt... then back to diamonds within 5 minutes. Your mileage may vary.

>I'll cum super-quickly

Do not worry fren, i've been doing nofap for about 4-5 months and cumming quickly is not an issue

First cum is always average time lenght, but second one I will almost always exhaust the girl before i can cum

Decided to start banging thots again.
Want to test out the pipes with an escort.
Good idea bad idea.
Also, do escorts have a thing about guys with larger members?

Take 2 or 3 weeks off from having sex, kiss and tease each other throughout this period, then after 3 weeks, dont plan a day to have sex, let it happen spontaneously, itll be extremely in the moment and passionate considering the amount of build up
Worked for me and my girlfriend

How to explain sudden tanking of libido? I have been under increased stress, but consciously haven't let it bothered me. Often feel depressed. Maybe it's fucking me up internally

When healthy, my first nut is always worthless no matter what I do. I think my pelvic floor is fucked from years of over kegeling. I am trying now to do exclusively reverse kegels to fix it. Thoughts?

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Escorts do not care about anything as long as their getting paid
You could cum in 10 seconds and cry for 30 minutes and they dont give a shit

Take time off from nutting, 1-2 weeks, try again when you’re in a less stressed mindset

>woman

Each time I have sex I take longer to cum.

The headspace that made me cum the night before doesn't work the day after and I have to keep making my mind work differently to get there.

I'm scared I'll run out of variety and never cum again D:

Also it's really hard for me to cum through penetration only. I always need fingering at the same time and also some nipple play. This sucks I want a vaginal orgasm.

Anyway how can I increase my sensibility?

Does anybody have the guide to God tier cummings, i want girls to mire my cum.

Also whats a normal cooldown time between cums, I normally have a 10 min cooldown yet i don't feel my boner as strong as it should be

Most girls cant cum through penetration, in fact 70% cant, look it up, so dont worry about that at least

share headspace with partner, they should be happy to fill whatever role to get you off if theyre not a fag

>most girls haven't had a properly shaped, sized, and utilized dick
>most girls don't have well developed kegel muscles
If you're in shape and have a properly sized cock or dildo, you ARE able to cum from vaginal penetration alone. You might not have done it yet, but there is nothing inherently preventing you from doing it.

Yeah, you dick is gonna fall off man.

You're going to suck pretty bad when you start having sex, doesn't matter if you do /nofap/ or not.

Maybe you won't get it up, won't be able to cum, cum after 5 secs, etc.
You'll have to learn. Don't sweat it too much.

You guys are all doing bridging, right? Gotta get those powerful thrusts
>Inb4 hurr durr I'm already super strong I don't need it
Deadlifting ain't enough here buddy. You wanna fuck in the big leagues you have to be bridging
Quads of truth

Bad idea.

You're devaluating yourself for your future wife.
Control yourself and just better yourself until you can attract a good woman, then love her, in body and in spirit.

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Had sex for the first time last night, had so much trouble getting and staying hard though holy shit. I don't know if it was performance anxiety or consuming too much porn, but fuck me I had a naked girl on her fours in front of me, bare pussy beckoning and everything, and I'm just soft.

Had to jerk it while she played with herself and told me to fuck her to get hard enough to put it in, but then I'd go soft inside her pretty quickly. This was a wake up call for me to cut out all porn and masturbation though. Still managed to cum twice from PIV sex though, and my endurance was good enough that we did it 6 times. She refused to believe I was a virgin too lmao.

Any anons have any other tips for tackling performance anxiety?

>my first nut is always worthless no matter what I do. I think my pelvic floor is fucked from years of over kegeling
What does that even mean, did you over-muscled your pelvic floor or something?

Are you Jow Forums?
My wife has easier and better orgasm when she is fit.

this one?

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Wasn't that bad for a first time.
If it's anxiety, it's going to be better with time, when you build up knowledge, confidence and habits.

If it's neurological, do /nofap/ and /noporn/.

I wouldn't recommend söy lecithin if it's the variety with a shitton of phytoestrogen.

Where do I draw the line with freaky shit in bed? I've got a crazy girl on the hook. She matches my crazy very well.
>Begs me to dry fuck her asshole
>Loves being choked
>Loves being slapped in the face
>Loves having her ass paddled until it's bruised purple
>Loves being hand cuffed while I literally skull fuck her
>Refuses to let me blow my load on her face, forces herself to take me balls deep down her throat so she can get me "fresh from the tap" as she says

Getting to where I'm starting to feel bad honestly. I mean we cuddle afterwards and she's always leaving the bedroom smiling. Is it just me being a bitch about it? The is only the 2nd girl I've ever been with and my first was rather vanilla/uneventful. I just don't want to go too far where I end up driving her away.

I'm always on fire when having sex. Anyone else basically an incinerator? What do? My wife is always cold too so she's no help.

She needs Christ

Some women want stuff in the moment and actually like it, but it still hurts them and the view they have of you, especially if the source of their kink is past trauma.

My wife has intense wishes too sometimes and usually I keep a ratio of 1 hard session for every 4 normal session, I don't want our sex life to become "that".
So don't do it every time, try other stuff, say that you want it to be more lovey dovey, maybe she'll end up appreciating it too.
Agree on a safe word (and safe tap if she can't speak) so you can go hard and she can stop you at any time, and have fun when you decide that today is going to be a hard session.

But if you don't want your sex life to be mostly hardcore, don't let it be mostly hardcore.

Are you fat?

Yes that's what I was afraid of. I make it a point to have normal/loving sex more often than not. She actually jokingly pokes fun at me because I like going down on her in the morning before she goes to work. Says I'm her "hardcore lover boy"
>Trauma
She hasn't mentioned anything of the sort, but she did say she grew up Uber Catholic and her parents were insanely over bearing.

Idk. Take it one day at a time I suppose. As it is we only get REALLY ROUGH like once a week when we have 2+ hours free.

Thank u fren

5'10" 165 lbs. I probably have some stupid medical condition...just started thinking about this the other day.

It's too tight and leads to PE and frequent/urgent urination

>strong pelvic floor leads to PE
2/10 I replied

How do I be more aggressive when I'm boning someone? Recently switched from bottoming to fulp time topping for my bf and I'm having a rough time making the switch.

What. Strong pelvic muscles leds to premature ejaculation? And weak bladder?

That's really weird and counter-intuitive.
Also, even if that were the case, if you don't train muscles, they shrink back, it should fix itself. It's only muscles after all.

80% of the motion is moving the hole, 20% is moving the cock. Common beginner mistake is to rely too much on moving your own hips, but that's just WAY too tiring in most positions to sustain for 30 minutes or whatever

Congratulations on realizing the inherent unfulfilling aspects about human sexuality. Stay with the same partner its gets boring and repetitive and you want something new. Sleep with different girls every week and you realize the emptiness of it. Either way you'll be unfulfilled and miserable for ever.

>cum in 10 seconds
How do you do this?

There must be some truth in that, but I see people that don't end up like that, so I dunno.

Maybe I should have sex less often, so it would be more intense and backed up by the hormones telling me to have sex. Or don't cumming/doing edging.
I love my wife and sharing that aspect of life with her, but sometimes it's... heh. Like "another meal", "another sleep", "another day", "another sex session".

I'll keep looking.

It is a bit true
The woman I currently bang is the clitoridian type and I made her cum 3 times and the last one was vaginal.
She has stated, she had came twice or thrice in her sexlife so far. She is 30-year-old.
My pin-point benis was the cause.

How actually stupid are you. Do you retards just read broscience on kegels and think they are a magic exercise? Overworking kegels (with no reverse kegels) can lead to pelvic floor imbalance.

I used to do kegel holds for 10 minutes at a time. My first nut would bust in 5 seconds because it was so tight and sensitive.
Hypertonic muscles can cause the following symptoms:
Urinary frequency, urgency, hesitancy, stopping and starting of the urine stream, painful urination, or incomplete emptying
Constipation, straining, pain during or after bowel movements
Unexplained pain in your low back, pelvic region, hips, genital area, or rectum
Pain during or after intercourse, orgasm, or sexual stimulation
Uncoordinated muscle contractions causing the pelvic floor muscles to spasm

pelvichealthsolutions.ca/for-the-patient/persistent-pelvic-pain/pelvic-floor-muscle-tightness/

>has his scrotum muscles stronger than Arnold's forearms when he was at his prime
>call other people stupid

This, take sunflower lecithin instead.

I met a girl, and i suddenly cannot nut.
I haven't fapped in 3 weeks either.

I just make her cum with head and hands. Multiple times, and i really enjoy it. I get hard, she sucks me, she takes me in. But at one point i ask her to let me give her some more head because i'm not feeling like i want to nut.

yesterday my cock was hard, in her mouth, and she was ready to take it and swallow... but i just could NOT FELL FOR THE LOVE OF GOD THE URGE TO NUT.

I don't know, Probably i'm overwhelmed with love and feelings for the girl.

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>If you come fast immediately pull out, begin kissing her neck and every inch of her body down to the puss, then eat her out
>If you come fast immediately pull out
>then eat her out

virgin here, where does the cumshot go?

They don't care. Escorts are a last resort though user. Ive been to several, when I was depressed. Most were incredibly depressing.

sharpie in the pooper while she's giving you head

100% this. Also worked for me and my last long-term partner. Reducing the amount of sex we had overall (from 5-6 times a week to 1-2) always made it better. I could make her cum much more easily, everything was more passionate etc.

you realize you have to balance kegeling with reverse-kegels right, else it will fuck you over? PC muscle exercises only work if you do the correct combination to achieve an overall balance for your individual situation.

I basically agree with this, but I live in Canada, so that's not going to happen.

I have genital warts. Should I just try to get them frozen off or do any anons have some over the counter shit that works?

yesterday I let my mind wander while meditating and I had an interesting thought about sex. Maybe it's obvious to others, but I think I was never really thinking about sex in the right terms. I realized that what I should look for in a sexual partner is someone who wants to slowly build her sexual skills together with me. In the past, my sexual relationships have always felt sort of performative. Either I was trying to prove something to the woman, or the other way around, but in an ideal sexual relationship, the two of us would accept each other for who we are and work together to slowly get better at fucking each other, treating the sex as a microcosm for our relationship. If I ever find a woman who comes naturally to that idea, I will stay with t

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Apologies for blog
I've been alone almost my whole life, so being a virgin goes without saying. I literally went on my first date ever in January 2018 at the age of 24 after losing some weight so no longer completely disgraceful.
After getting myself in respectable shape (doesn't hurt that I was already 6'6"), I've finally gotten a respectable, traditional, virgin, catholic girl who I've been dating for nearly 3 months. However, she wants to wait until marriage to have sex. The most we've ever done is hands/oral for both.
I always wanted a trad girl for wife material, but I expected to get laid at some point after lifting for a while now.
There's a pretty good possibility I'll have to move out of my city for like 4-6 months to work until I start my master's degree.
Would I be an absolute retard to stay with her and not have sex for potentially another year or two and give up on a return to college puss now that I've shaped myself into a chad?

>The most we've ever done is hands/oral for both.
Christ is watching, child. REPENT

I left my gf that I wanted to marry cause I had to go to a masters degree in another city. I moved here and fucked some hos and now I feel alone and ruined. I've realized that life probably won't give me another chance, and it's all sluts and emptynesss from here on out. It's not a good feeling. I would stick with the girl.

I didn't want to be stuck in the yearning, long-distance relationship mode, but now I've realized that that's actually the perfect mode for doing a masters degree. During your masters, you want to be focusing on work, not dating your gf, or, worse, trying to get pussy. If you have a gf far away in another city and you can imagine striving towards being with her and only see her from time to time, it will motivate you to boss out your degree. College pussy is not worth the ridiculous amount of time investment it takes to get for anyone who hasn't naturally been chad for his whole life, and trying to force yourself to be a chad will wreck your masters degree.

How do i cum with condoms on? I use trojan bareskins, and always when I fuck my gf the first round I don’t last long, but the second i cant come at all with a condom, only raw but she’s not on BC.

After a while it starts getting painful, she gets tired and starts drying up and I just cant cum FUCK CONDOSMSHSHSGJ

This is 100% correct, seriously. I struggled so much with sexual anxiety and this train of thought was, and is, what helped me get past it. Tried nofap, tried noporn, tried all kinds of shit, but this was it, and still is. When the situation becomes performative, like you said, it feels tense, awkward and unnatural, and for me, that means an awful feeling of anxiety and a terrible time getting hard. When I feel like I am on the level with my partner, not trying to impress them or bottle anything up, it feels so good and everything happens naturally. That said, its very hard to really, truly reach that point with somebody, even someone close, and so i still struggle from time to time. I'm married, andits still weird; sometimes things come out so naturally and normally, and other times, its hard to express yourself or even that same person you were so open with last time feels colder than last. But its really a 100% correct train of thought, and what ultimately helped, and still helps, me, who's struggled horribly with sexual anxiety issues my whole life.

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grass is always greener. if you had stayed with her you would be thinking about fucking hos or being with a better girl. living in a different city than gf can also make a man jealous. often times not without reason.

there isnt a correct choice, you will always be wondering what if you had done things differently.

yup. If I ever found an attractive woman who had this attitude towards sex, I'd probably marry her. We'd just work together on our partner-specific sex skills four our whole lives until we're having crazy tantric sex and breaking the bed at like 70s. (so to speak. Real fit people never sleep in beds, of course)

the gf I had was very loyal. Somehow I suspect I won't find that again, especially in this retardedly degenerate city I've moved to. Thx for giving me some hope that I didn't ruin my life though. One chick I fucked gave way better head than my gf so I guess that's a positive :- /

Don't say your a virgin tho.

So you haven't cum in three weeks and still couldn't cum yesterday?
Impressive.

With time, you'll eventually cum, you can't hold it indefinitely, but there's something wrong, that's for sure.
Maybe because you have feelings too strong for her, there might be some psychological issue there, anxiety and the like.

First girl?

It does work very well, but only for a minority of men.
He could try though.

>I live in Canada, so that's not going to happen.
So you're telling me there isn't ONE good woman in Canada? You know it's false.

Also, if there isn't good women where you are, it's enough of an argument to move, if you can't find a good woman, you can't make a good family and won't have a fulfilling life.

>I realized that what I should look for in a sexual partner is someone who wants to slowly build her sexual skills together with me.
>in an ideal sexual relationship, the two of us would accept each other for who we are and work together to slowly get better at fucking each other, treating the sex as a microcosm for our relationship

This is exactly true. I had one partner in my life, my wife, and she had only one partner in hers, me.
And that's what we have. We both started from the bottom, build up our skills, discovered our body, the other's body, and went on from there.
There isn't "the couple" and "the sex" as a different entity, sex is part of our couple and it's something we explore and enjoy together.

I don't how how different it is from a more casual relationship since I've only known her, but it's fantastic.

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I have done it brahs, 80 years and not a single nut bust. Thanks to my incredible goal i have obtained an iq of 156 which i have used to build a pc that deletes system 32 when it loads any type of NSFW. I’m currently in a hospital bed dying of terminal disease, however, this is a victory as in 72 hours i’m expected to die. Wish me luck in this final run.

Also I'll be buried in a super mario bros casket.

>Would I be an absolute retard to stay with her and not have sex for potentially another year or two and give up on a return to college puss now that I've shaped myself into a chad?
No, you should wait for her.

A few months is not that much, don't worry mate.
Also, I think it's important that you do explore each other's sexuality even if you don't have intercourse, just to make sure you are compatible before marriage, so it's great what you're doing.
(Also, if you do everything except PIV, well, it's most of the sex already)

Honestly, you're doing what I consider to be the best situation ever.

Nobody mature looks back and say "hurrdurr I should've fucked more whores, my life is ruined".
But a lot of men look back and say "I had the perfect opportunity, the perfect woman, and I blew it."

Don't blew it man, honestly.

You already said you could cum the first time, so it's already good.

And yeah, condoms sucks, what can you do about it.
Try other brands, Durex have some very, very slim ones.

And if you're both clean, why doesn't she get some birth control?
IUD, implant, pill, etc, there's quite the choice.

just do withdrawal method
if youre not retarded it wont fail you

>80 years and not a single nut bust. Thanks to my incredible goal i have obtained an iq of 156
Nofap does not increase IQ though, you ruined the immersion.

Can confirm.

Have been with my girlfriend for 4 years (lived together for 3) and we still have regular really good sex, but both of us burn out occasionally and will go a few weeks without, until the hornyness builds up and we fuck everyday for a fortnight or so, and repeat.

It's like watching porn, you have an urge to move onto something else (i.e more extreme porn), in this real instance, this is why some people cheat on their partners in an otherwise healthy relationship.

Yes I've been tempted, and I imagine so has my partner, but abstain for a bit and the lust always comes back. Or fuck in a new place or take a vacation - a boring life can also contribute to this as you become associated with stallness.

I have no facts to present this is just my own personal experiences as well as those I have observed from close friends.

So I just got into a new relationship but I have phimosis and will soon get surgery, which I should have done already in retrospect. But anyway, I can't do shit for at least 30 days after the surgery, how would I go about dealing with this?

We are on that phase that we can't stay away from each other but the girl is fine with waiting for sex. My problem would be not getting hard at first to not fuck with my dick and then the other problem would be that I would go crazy not being able to fuck her.

First love + sex. Never have sex with feelings mixed in. Never had somebody that i know i will see indefinitely, and i will be able to hold as much as i want.

Lots of lubrication and Viagra.

>So I just got into a new relationship but I have phimosis and will soon get surgery
What kind of surgery? Are they're going to mutilate your dick? Can they just open the skin and let it heal or something?

>But anyway, I can't do shit for at least 30 days after the surgery, how would I go about dealing with this?
Well, not much you can do. Just control yourself. People did it for thousands of years, waiting before marriage, you can wait 30 days.

>My problem would be not getting hard at first
I guess the doctor will give you stuff for that, maybe a small chastity cage.

Yeah, that makes sense... but what if you go to a party, or the club, where you "maybe" will get laid but might also not get laid. Jerk off before anyway?

Let's say you cum quickly, is there just a quick-switch and then you go again immediately?

I really do hope I get a welcoming partner desu, if they like you, they'll be fine with it as long as you give back, right?

Yeah, I've heard about this. Apparently very much a no-no to tell a girl you're a virgin even if you are. Preferably you'd meet a girl who would like you and wouldn't care too much, but most girls do care I guess.

Will it be obvious though? That I'm a virgin? I assume that stuff like cumming early, having awkward moments and fumbling around a bit isn't exclusive to virgins especially when alcohol is involved?

Yeah well, now we pretty much know it's psychological.
Probably just stress or something, it'll go away after a while, when you get more comfortable and confident. I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Maybe try drinking a bit (not too much) next time?

>Will it be obvious though? That I'm a virgin?
Yes.

>especially when alcohol is involved?
Well, you can go the "sorry I'm drunk" route when you fumble around to find the hole, sure.

Also, who cares, you're talking about fucking some random whore at a club or something, right? They're barely to be seen as human beings.

>nofap
>doesn't his increase iq and penis size
Somebody is delusional I presume. Research divers IQ drops in relation to underwater exposure. It's the same deal with nofap. Your body makes more brains out of your cum, and this is why males are 6 times smarter than women.

Ask yourself how many times did Tesla make cummies for birds and you'll find your answer to everything. Your mind will be freed from the lubrication of sexual propaganda and set on the path of enlightenment.

Made me chuckle.

well with casual sex, there's a lot more trying to impress the partner, from both sides. Girls will try to wildly suck your dick or give you a ferocious deathgrip handjob, and you'll try to fuck their lights out while constantly focusing on non-sexual imagery so you don't cum first. Once the goal of putting on a decent performance has been attained, then you can safely relax, knowing this girl won't make fun of your peepee, the you get to imagine yourself as a degenerate pornstar for the next couple days. Usually there's no "getting to know each other" sexually involved. imo it's not worth it.

Actually, there are plenty in Canada. The trouble is that I live in Vancouver. I ought to move back to Quebec ASAP, but unfortunately, I don't really like speaking french all the time. I'm not a very charming frog so to speak.

>What kind of surgery? Are they're going to mutilate your dick? Can they just open the skin and let it heal or something?
Its a Postectomy. I don't really have a choice since my skin sorta like hardened and lost elasticity all around the head and its getting worse.

>Well, not much you can do. Just control yourself. People did it for thousands of years, waiting before marriage, you can wait 30 days.
Figured as much. Shit is gonna be hard.

this is true.

If you were addicted enough to need nofap you should be able to go multiple times in a row.

I've been lifting for like 2 years now, how much longer til I get some pussy?

The number was pulled out of Kinsey's ass.
How did they come to that conclusion?
Asking lesbians and touching vaginas at certain parts with Qtips.
That number has been further pushed by the lesbos and feminist types in an effort to claim that phalluses are unneeded for sex(while they get the strap on or their fists ready or their dogs ready)and get them to focus more on their clit...which has certain psychological effects such as slight masculanization.
And if women, who are told to get on BC which basically kills their ability to have pleasurable sex and orgasm easily and frequently, that they are incapable of having vaginal orgasms because it's natural...then women will believe it.
Because everyone else believes it.

It's true. Look it up.

Awesome.
Can go balls deep and hate fuck them as long as I need to then bust a nut on her back. Really do want to go raw, but I want to stay std free.

I've been choosy as hell with women(unless it's that "rape by lust" that happened with a few women who took advantage...).
I'm tired of saving myself for DA ONE. I want to crush pussy damnit.

I just want some snug hot pussy, tits to suck user.
Bonus points if she can handle 9 inches and can take it balls deep.

>I've been lifting for like 2 years now, how much longer til I get some pussy?
Until you're a man good enough for hypergamous women.
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