Can anxiety and/or depression completely (and I mean completely) kill libido itself?
Been months since I've watched porn, only jerk off maybe once or twice every 2 weeks and only out of boredom. Erections aren't as good as they were years ago either. Just don't have the desire to have sex or even jerk off anymore, I feel completely asexual. I still experience attraction and can tell a girl is really hot/cute, but the desire to bone her just isn't there. Desire to have a girlfriend just isn't there either. I know it's not a hormone issue, got all mine checked out and they're good. T levels are even up from the last time I got checked a year ago. Don't have high cortisol or anything that would make me think I got issues, still have generalized anxiety disorder, depression, and no libido though. What do Jow Forums? I'm only 22 and my dick just doesn't work like it's supposed to. I've tried everything from horny goat weed to ashwaghanda, l arginine to maca root, nothing helps at all. Take plenty of D3 and just started taking a good amount of zinc every day, still nothing. Seeing a psychiatrist currently, he put me on zoloft, just to try and see if it helps. Gonna try and see a therapist soon as well but I'm not sure that'll help at all.
Yes anxiety and or depression can kill libido. A therapist might be a great idea. Sounds like a mental issue, cause you sound healthy. How’s your diet? Are you active? Are you overweight?
Jace Ross
Yes. High cortisol, low test.
Stop skipping breakfast, save carbs for late afternoon, last meal should have fat.
Dylan Hernandez
You need some sun nigga, that, and a hobby. You need to find self-worth. Once you have a sense of self-worth. You will feel desirable for women, and thus will desire the pursuit of finding one. It is really that simple but is complicated in finding what makes you feel better about yourself, and your place in society.
Connor Collins
This is how you cure depression. Find something that makes you feel. Do your best to make sure it isn't a woman.
James Adams
What if your depression stems from a lack of someone to hold and care for?
I find out more than often enough the feeling of being relied upon helps increases your libido. Too many faggots lived as lonely retards for so long their mind, and body is starting to become sterile to companionship.
Elijah Stewart
I hope it is all mental but it's hard for me to wrap my head around not having any sexual desire just because I feel anxious now and then for no reason, feel almost emotionless and bored all the time. I used to enjoy looking at women now it's like meh, just nothing there. Doesn't make sense to me.
My diet couuuuld be better, but it's leagues above where it was a year and a half or so ago when this issue really started being prominent. Used to have a few cans of soda a week, candy now and then, lots of chips and fatty junk food. Now I rarely even touch a candy bar, at worst I'll eat some dark chocolate now and then, have a bowl of chips but that's it. I could use more fruit and a little less junk but other than that can't think of anything to change. I lift for maybe a half hour at least 4 days a week (I know that's not long at all,) do cardio 2-3 times a week. Used to not exercise at all but even then I had more of a sex drive. Oddly enough my depression used to be worse, never had anxiety issues until a year or so ago however.
I'm probably 20 pounds overweight if I had to guess, I'm 5'11, weigh 190 pounds. So not at a terrible weight but not good either. I was 230 in my teens, 100% sedentary too. So big improvement but more work to do yeah. >yes >high cortisol low test Lolwut. My cortisol is normal, can't remember the exact number but I know it wasn't high. Probably right in the middle of the "normal," range, maybe even slightly lower actually. Testosterone was at 635/ngs, WAS at 585 ngs last year. So not unhappy with that but I am working to raise it more. Is having breakfast that important? I always thought it doesn't really matter when you eat so long as you aren't eating a ton right before lifting or right before bed. I never have breakfast, sometimes I'll have some fruit or a banana or some nuts but that's it if anything.
Noah Butler
I do need to find some more hobbies, don't do so much now. But I don't really have much interest in anything anymore, I'm guessing due to depression. And I would get more sun but it's winter, way too cold out now for at least probably another month to sunbathe. Prepare for edge. Nothing really makes me feel much anything. Nothing. I experience happiness and sadness and anger, all that, but on a scale of 1 to 10 of how much I really feel it it's maybe a 5 at max, usually only like a 2 or 3. I'm introverted to the point where I really don't think having a woman would help me at all, I'm perfectly fine being alone. I wish it was different at times yeah but I feel "content," enough, I think at least. I view having friends and a girlfriend as more of a chore than anything, mostly.
Henry Taylor
Zoloft and other SSRIs will only make your sex drive and libido WORSE Op. t. Pharmacist
Jack Lopez
You sound like me, I've gotten bored of sex in every relationship that got out of the honeymoon phase, which is probably about 5 times.
When I do fap it's just a quick 2 minute job, I tend to cum quick so I don't know if it's subconsciously to do with performance, but I don't really worry about it much.
Don't get too hung up, it's really no big deal if you aren't that bothered about sex, it's overrated anyway
Jose Taylor
I hear that's a common problem yeah but doesn't it only affect maybe 20%ish of people who take them? Is Wellbutrin any better? I know it's not an SSRI, but don't quite get the difference. I was prescribed that by my general doctor, only tried a half dose for a few weeks before seeing a therapist, who told me to just try Zoloft. So I didn't really give that a good enough try to say it does or doesn't work. Think I should drop the zoloft and just do wellbutrin? I could mention that idea to my psychiatrist next time I go on monday. >it's no big deal It is to me lol. I miss having a sex drive, it's not normal not to have one at all. I'm not asexual so I shouldn't feel asexual. I mean I don't mind that I'm not having sex and all that, but the fact that I don't desire it at all physically really bothers me.
Ian Butler
depression isn't real t. guy with "depression"
Jason Brooks
Alright, I'm 26 and WAS in the same boat.
Do you have anyone who cares for you?
Any of the following: - Very Good friends - Actually loving parents - A lover you are connected with?
- Can kinda get hard off to porn. Wasn't able to for a while. - Get diamonds when I think of fucking someone I really give a shit about.
Even if you are introverted, this will affect you. Comes with being human. Though, from your perspective, you're probably giving less and less of a shit.
Evan Harris
I see your peterson american bushido of death and I raise you a trump grass blade destructor
There's people who care for me yeah, family but that's it. I mean I talk to a few people online and I feel they care for me, but in person nah I don't have anyone besides family. >good friends Not irl so I'd say no >loving parents I know my parents do care a ton for me but they fail to show it honestly. Dad came from a messed up kinda home so he never really learned to show affection I guess. My mom is alright, often too negative or critical of what I do though (cant blame her though) >a lover youre very connected with Nope >get hard to porn? Yeah I can still get I'd say 80% erections, even without porn actually. But I just never feel the need to, ever. I could nofap an entire month I bet and wouldn't have any issues doing so. >get hard to someone you really care about Dont have one so... lol.
But you used to feel the same? How'd you overcome it? Really think it was all in your head?
I'm at a point where I'd be willing to sacrifice what's left of my sex drive to eradicate the constant gloom and OP-like moments of happiness only maxing out at 3s
Adrian James
Every time I hear him talk, he sounds more and more like Terrence and Philip. Wont be long before he incorporates farts into his talks.
Nathan Perry
Just turned 24 and have similar sentiments. I've gotten performance anxiety with 3+ girls so I just bought generic Viagra online and it's been quite the game changer. Yes, I can firmly say it's mostly from anxiety/depression (mines from anxiety/panic disorder)
Jason Kelly
>My cortisol is normal
You had one test? You know Cortisol varies wildly throughout the day, right? kys you fucking moron
Aaron Robinson
>firmly
Jaxson Parker
At least there's something that helps, I guess... Really don't wanna have to resort to Viagra or shit like that when I get a girlfriend if I don't have to. Don't even wanna think of taking that until I'm like 60+ Very rude user. I had my test at about 8:30 am. About 2 hours before I usually wake up, actually. Probably didn't get even 7 hours the day I got the test. My anxiety tends to act up mostly after waking up, was a little bit at the time of the test. So i'd assume if it was cortisol related it would've been on the higher end of the scale at the time. Jej
Nicholas Hill
Yes because no other health ailments and I see a therapist. I had a gf and my ed was non existent so that may prove meaningful towards you. However towards the end of our relationship, I started to experience ED slightly so I do not know
Mason Nguyen
Well, if you're still reading. I hope this will help.
I was depressed as shit after someone I knew died. Was overweight too. No money. Working in a useless call center. Friendships falling apart. Relationship with family falling apart.
Dick wasn't working basically.
Didn't feel in touch with anything. Felt 110% fucking dead. Got tired of it.
Started working out. (DL went from 210 to 495) Got a job after quite literally thousands of applications and over hundreds over interviews. Learned hard skills for the job market. Worth 3 times what I was from when I started. Took a shitton of risks everywhere and did shit that made me uncomfortable (women, job, extreme sports, dancing, investing, etc) Summary, I improved every single fucking facet of my life over the last 2 years to the point of complete fucking absurdity.
Dick was still only kind of working. I was happy and motivated. Health was good. Testosterone high as fuck.
Henry Nguyen
So at this point, I came to 2 conclusions (1) I am completely asexual (2) I have some kind of mental block
Given that I knew what my erections were like from 13 to age 24, option 1 seemed pretty much unlikely. I could jerk off 6 times a day for a week and shoot blanks and have done so before.
So it comes down to option 2. Now before I go on I should mention 2 thing(s). - Don't worry too much; it doesn't help and just gives you fucking anxiety. I know it's easier said then done. Just bear with me. - Sometimes you have shit buried all the fucking way down in your subconscious. This shit is hard as hell to notice and takes a lot of self-awareness.
Some men, some people in general only get off to being "connected" to people. Now, I didn't start off like that, I grew into it. I cut out toxic people. Started being more open and honest with people about myself and my insecurities in a non-whiny way. I decided that I really liked this shit and kept doing it. What I didn't know was that I killed my ability to just have random boners and want to fuck random women. When I realized this, I stopped stressing about it. Shit works when I actually care about the other person.
Now, the greater lesson to learn from this is that I started to ENJOY being alive. The more miserable I was, the less I gave a shit and became detached from everything. I was checked out of my own existence every day. At the time, my thoughst were something along the lines of "Why the fuck should I do anything? Is there even a fucking point?" So of fucking course my dick didn't work.
Now back to you. You said you have "generalized anxiety disorder, depression". You said you had a gf and towards the end that you "started to experience ED slightly". It seems to me that you know what your fucking problem is. Now, whether or not you've tried to deal with it or not is an entirely different matter.
Aiden Rodriguez
If you're typing that much bs it's mental block
Jason Rivera
good on you man, this helped me. it's so much easier to be content with being a loser and masking it, lying to yourself ect
I'm only 20 I cant go downhill or I simply wont make it.
I work an office job, decent pay, got a degree and gf but no passion or energy about me.
Im gonna go work out now and stop bitching, I appreciate your comment mate
Colton Bell
I'm not the one who said he has a girlfriend. I'm that user. I get what you're saying, improve my life. Don't worry about it, just improve my life in any way I can and over time it *should* get better. Maybe my lack of libido really is all mental, or related to depression/anxiety. I don't really know, and that worries me. Can't help but worry a little over it. Feels like my dick is broken. But regardless I'll take your advice and try not to think about it, focus on other things, actual self improvement.
I wouldn't doubt that I might only be able get off to being connected to other people but that doesn't make much sense... I mean I'd never go for a hookup or anything like that, I know that. But I should at least experience sexual attraction and lust to *some* degree I think...
I'm glad your life's much better, but, yeah the fact that you haven't really gained much a libido back if any at all kinda bothers me. I know life isn't all about sex but it's a really important way to bond imo, I don't know maybe I do just overthink it and my dick will work when I really need it to. Just wish I had that feeling I had when I was a teen back, getting boners from a light breeze going under my shorts lmao; at the very least feeling some sexual attraction.
Charles Gutierrez
I'm going through what OP is and I'm pretty sure this is the cause for me.
Brandon Baker
Do you take stims? Addy? Smoke/vape? Caffeine? Those could also cause it.
As far as anx/dep hurting the libido, IDK man, you're being much more proactive than most people I know, let alone depressed people. That level of self care isn't really typical of someone with bad depression.
What I do think is the issue here, is that you seem like a very self centered person. I don't mean that as an insult, but to try and help. I had a similar thing happen to me. But when your whole life is centered around you and making you happy, depression and anxiety follow. If you focus a lot more on making others happy, and not viewing them as a chore, it'll get you out of your own head. It's in your own interest.
When you don't have that around you, and you're always in your own head, alone, you go in loops. Those loops turn negative, and that's what's killing the boner.
I get that most people are retards whose conversation just alternates between projected insecurities and gossip, and not worth your time as an introvert. But stop thinking about them as being there to entertain you, clearly they aren't, and entertain yourself by seeing how well you can entertain them. After all, that's really just testing yourself, not all that different from other things you do alone like vidya or fit.
To start you don't really have to genuinely give a shit, just try to show a girl the best time you can, compliment someone, try to share positive energy. Make it about her and see how well you do. It's like a game. After a while you'll see it gets more natural, and takes the focus off you and your thoughts long enough to let natural urges built up.
Most of all this begins with you, be nicer to yourself in your own head. I don't mean enable yourself, but stop doing this gay second guessing/self criticism shit I can tell you do internally from the way you talk about yourself.
Gavin Morris
God damn it this is a trap, isn't it? I can't even tell anymore. The world is a tricky place.
Isaac Morgan
cont.
Positivity and good vibes are the key user. For years I was above it, depressed intellectual, still socialize but I was "the funny dick". Thought all that positivity shit was for softbois to weak to see the world for what it was or actual retards incapable of higher thought. Decided just to try it, within 1 month got laid 10 different girls (yeah I know you don't believe me :D), ending a post ex dry spell and really fixing the depression. Live for someone other than you user.
Ryder Davis
No drugs, caffeine now and then but I try to make it a rare thing. Very rarely makes me anxious but I try to avoid it just because well, dont need it.
I try to take care of myself, yeah. I'm trying alot of different things because I'm tired of feeling idk, not alive. Haven't really done much with my life at all the past few years. My depression luckily isn't like a "I wanna die," or "life is shit no matter what," kinda depression. It's more like everything is boring. Nothing is really rewarding, I'm very apathetic. I have no drive, sexually or otherwise. Feel I have no purpose, which I sort of care about sort of don't care about.
I wont deny I'm a pretty self centered person. I mean I do care for others but not to the extent I did in my teens. I do try and give advice on this site where I can or talk my online friends through things if they need help. Aside from that all my thoughts are pretty much just about my problems, or how I can make the day go by quicker (usually through vidya.) Dont have any friends in person or go out much other than for work or to go shopping.
I like your attitude about people. It's one I should try and adopt. I used to like being around people but, small talk, god lol. It's near impossible to really connect to someone for me beyond a "Oh I really like your shirt" or something. Don't know how I did it in high school. Maybe it was luck. Youre right though. I need to try and connect with others even if only through compliments at first. I need to try and be more positive too, I am too critical of myself or just plain frustrated when I think of things, got me nowhere so far aside from seeing a psych. Thanks alot for your advice man, I'm gonna save a screenshot or two on my phone so I can remind myself not to get in these stupid same loops of thought Im stuck with.
Gotta sleep now, thanks again. Any more advice is more than welcome from anybody in the thread.
Angel Sanchez
From my perspective, this kind of shit seems to hit guys' egos. It's ok if your not some raving sex lunatic man that can fuck anything with a hole. Accept yourself and all that bullshit.
By the way, when I actually care about someone, my dick works like I'm fucking 15. My libido is still there; it just needs extra motivation.
I like this aspect about myself. Makes me unable to do stupid shit.
Ayden Wood
>Prepare for edge. >Nothing really makes me feel much anything It's not edge it's depression you fucking retard. Get some fucking therapy. I know you think you don't really need to, but you won't make it on your own. And yes you also probably think it won't help, but it will.
Elijah Price
Get out of your head user.
Brayden White
Based and lovepilled
William Young
Jesus fuck stay away from zoloft dude.
Sebastian Morales
If you don't eat 30min or less after waking up, your cortisol goes to outer space and you get anxiety. You noticed how i knew you skipped breakfast without you saying anything about it?
Bentley Ross
That's sadness. Depression isn't caused by external factors. It's chemical or caused by bad habits (too much carbs, lack of sleep, lack of minerals, etc).
