How do i get an obsessive soul mate gf?

i don't see why. i'd see it more as a caring about each other more than anything

That is because you are not able to fathom what will go on in her mind at every little aspect of your life with her. What you say, what you don't say, how you said it. She will do things to test to see if you come running to save her.

Her utter lack of self-esteem and obsessive need for you to provide her personality and structure will consume you.

You have no fucking idea what you're asking for.

groom yourself, dress nice, and learn how to put on a false confidence mask and be neutral and not autistic.

also don't forget the part where if you take some time for yourself and your needs she will think you are ignoring her and fuck the nearest dude.

i don't want a normal fag i want an autistic gf.

"autistic" girlfriends will appreciate the first 4 things, but you can keep the autism just keep it somewhat controlled.

having a intelligence level higher than a rock is a requirement though, also extremely monogamous

> wants an obsessive she-creature
> doesn't understand the illogic being asked for

Good luck.

well i'm obsessive but not retarded so yeah

>Take ne as your soulmate and I'll be just that
pls stop baiting

Was in this situation at one point. I hinted at the possibility of the two us taking a mild break, because being with her was literally consuming me (not what I told her obviously) she ended up outright threatening to off herself if I left, and I was fucking seventeen at the time, she was nineteen. Shit was whack and fucked me up big time.

>not wanting to spend every second with her
baka

Mine told me she'd call the police on me and tell them I hit her if I didn't stop sitting on the couch with my laptop in a different room from her. She was that terrified I would immediately find another woman and replace her if I was allowed online without her supervision.

That's just the tip of the iceberg. I eventually did leave her and of course, she tried her hardest to destroy every friendship and relation I had.

Be friends with a girl and tell her all about your oneitis every single day. That's how I did it.

Holy fuck mine wasn't that bad. She was diagnosed manic depressive and i've never seen a case as bad as her. There was also a point where she claimed to be having audible hallucinations but i'm pretty sure she was making it up so i'd give her attention

inb4 beta whiteknight

>Be in middle of high school
>Get the one with daddy issues
>Gradually resent them cause they're not maturing as a person
>Gradually resent yourself cause neither are you
>Breakup
>Become a neet
>Shitpost on this board
Totally recommend it

Pop a girls cherry

I'm sure there are some non retarded but obsessive girls?

I stumbled upon mine here on r9k, otherwise it's a just a lottery.

What you call 'retarded' is all part of the 'obsessive' nature of Cluster B personality disorder.

if I knew I would have one
jesus christ

>What you call 'retarded' is all part of the 'obsessive' nature of Cluster B personality disorder.
i dunno i seem to be obsessive but reasonable

I would also like to to know, that would be good info For uuhhh a friend

>I would also like to to know, that would be good info For uuhhh a friend
i asked first

I got an obsessive e-gf. It's nice sometimes but I'm more autistic than her and don't really fully appreciate her kindness and romanticism even though I know I should.

where did you find her though?
i'd appreciate it

Actually brilliant.

how
how is it brilliant

Cuz women are naturally competitive and want what they can't have.

How do i get a bf to feed into my obsessiveness?

How would you want me to feed into your obsessiveness?

>all of the "female" replies are bait
kek

man maybe its just because its christmas and im fucking blasted but its so depressing to see how i've come full circle from being an user warned like this to wanting to warn others like this, for real guys you have no idea what you are in store for DO NOT give any kind of bpd crazy girl like you think you want the time of day just go for a normal girl

>wanting a plain npc girl

Don't blow him off after your initial BPD period is over.

>implying a qt femboy would want to date a chubby manlet

they'll usual date literally anyone

what the fuck how do i find one

find the rare human who actually has the ability to be devoted
not everyone has that as such a strong trait (male or female), they may have different primary traits

then, know that the existence of that trait will not make them perfect or void of other negative traits.
is she highly loyal/obsessive/"soul-mate" tier, but prone to aggressive outbursts? overweight? doesn't like things you like? emotionally unavailable at times? etc.

you have to also be obsessive/devoted. you have to accept the other flaws or gently help her overcome/change/grow with you.

but. again: not every person is wired to prioritize devotion. not every person is "obsessive". analyze traits of commitment and follow-through in other areas of their lives.

I'd want her to be similar in other ways to
but devotion is very important like i'd jump into a burning building if needed etc

When I have been ignored, I have not resorted to fucking other dudes. The distress that comes from being ignored/separated is because I am upset in a visceral way when deprived from the object of affection.

The more likely outcome is I become emotionally unstable which disrupts other areas of my life and may put me out of sorts for a few days. I may cry or lash out or beg for attention/affection, but cheating is the exact opposite of what I want. It drives me farther away from the thing I want, which is to be near you. I want to curl up beside you and do nothing. I want to lay at your feet. I want to be involved in your life. I want to crawl inside your head and see what you see, feel what you feel, and know your thoughts. I want to merge and be very close. I want to be inseparable. I just want to walk with you at my side. I am like a devoted dog. I would wait at a train station for you. I would die waiting.

Cheating is unfathomable to me. I would sooner spend the rest of my life alone and live in a fantasy of your memory, than seek out someone else. Cheating contradicts the obsessive nature.

However, this is very intense for the recipient, especially someone who is insecure and wants to hide themself. They may become drained by me, intimidated, or made to feel bad or ashamed about themselves.

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>The more likely outcome is I become emotionally unstable which disrupts other areas of my life and may put me out of sorts for a few days. I may cry or lash out or beg for attention/affection, but cheating is the exact opposite of what I want. It drives me farther away from the thing I want, which is to be near you. I want to curl up beside you and do nothing. I want to lay at your feet. I want to be involved in your life. I want to crawl inside your head and see what you see, feel what you feel, and know your thoughts. I want to merge and be very close. I want to be inseparable. I just want to walk with you at my side. I am like a devoted dog. I would wait at a train station for you. I would die waiting.
>Cheating is unfathomable to me. I would sooner spend the rest of my life alone and live in a fantasy of your memory, than seek out someone else. Cheating contradicts the obsessive nature.
based
give gf

Thank you for describing this, I believe it is the logical extreme behavioral outcome of loving someone. Wanting to hurt or betray someone is NOT love. Obsession is however. The only true love is obsessive and endless. It is logical for someone in love to want to maximize their ability to interact with the object of interest, so why not be around them as much as possible?

Please gimme this
even get soulmate tattoes and that means something if it's the only tattoo you'd ever have

I pledged myself to someone three years ago.
I am waiting for him to come back.
He may never, but I would rather be alone than close the door. In his absence I will leave the door open and fill my time with other things; I will make myself better, not seek out someone else. If he comes back, comes home, I will be even better - I will have even more to give him.

I think of my grandma whos husband died fairly early in life. She never remarried. She never dated, never sought a replacement. She took care of the home they built and busied herself with her adult children and grandchildren. She spoke fondly of her husband and clearly cherished the memory of him for the rest of her life. She has been without a spouse for thirty years and still loves the memory of him. I have always really valued her approach and devotion.

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This to the max, we don't want "LE BPD GF" we want this sort of obsessive GF.

Wait a second, you just made a post.
And it said that he left you... well, uh, RIP.

>I think of my grandma whos husband died fairly early in life. She never remarried. She never dated, never sought a replacement. She took care of the home they built and busied herself with her adult children and grandchildren. She spoke fondly of her husband and clearly cherished the memory of him for the rest of her life. She has been without a spouse for thirty years and still loves the memory of him. I have always really valued her approach and devotion.
This is it. This is exactly how I've always felt about marriage. I don't get the whole remarrying meme, it seems like you're breaking your sworn vows by doing so.

How do i jump on board with this holy shit

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I can cycle through friends and have multiple friends at once.
If I need social fulfillment from someone new or for interests/activities my spouse isnt into, I will make friends. I will seek time away from a spouse as needed and go to friends if needed. Friends are great but "dispensable" or "replaceable" in a way a spouse is not. The very fact that you can have multiple friends at once but only one spouse at once, lays this out (for me).

>she picked someone that would leave
why do people do this

I'm not bad looking, nor am I socially inept. I just don't desire to interact with anybody on a surface level. I am simply hiding, avoiding the spotlight, but also waiting for my soulmate to reach out to me so that I can pull her in and never let go. I just want someone to take care of and to spend every moment possible with them. I want to have multiple hour long conversations about deeper and esoteric ideas. I want to provide her with all of the love I have deprived the rest of the world of. I have been saving my empathy and care for the one person I hope to meet one day.
Inb4 "hurr obsessiveness is unhealthy, just be distant and platonic like me, because thats how us maladjusted adults are"

find lisa

I didnt know he would.
The circumstances of leaving are weird, too.

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MAERRY SMIHIHSHUFF

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>wolfs rain
god what a lucky bastard

hey your literally me
and also male as well of course

he didnt like it hahaha

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Yeah the show doesn't seem to have a lot of fans for whatever reason

why are people like you extinct now
i feel like am never going to find anyone and it get's worse each year

Unfortunately, I don't think there are many if any females at all like us. If I die alone, things will go as expected. If some girl with an equally as passionate soul chooses me as I do her, then things will be perfect. For me, there are no compromises, no half-solutions. Only death or love. I know how edgy this all sounds, but I have thought about this stuff for many many years and I know exactly what I what and how I feel, yet it seems like no one I've ever known IRL seems to understand it.

>How do i get an obsessive soul mate gf?
I'll let you in on a secret.
You don't

You keep dreaming and dream a lot.
In your dreams you can be happy, get some sleeping pills to sleep more to dream more.
Reality obsessiveness only exists for people that treat their girls like trash and cheat on them. Don't ask me why that is, they're just drawn to what they cannot (but hope) to change into a better person.
And if they do change their bf they get bored because suddenly you're predictable and boring. You cannot win outside of your dreams.

dreams are all horrible nightmares every time if i have one

well the thread seems to have 1
but mostly they seem to only be fiction
i don't understand it

Learn to lucid dream user, it helps. Takes time but it helps. I know it's a meme for someone that doesn't use it but you really can control your dreams.

I wish I knew
I dated a girl with BPD for almost 5 years. She ended up cheating on me a couple times and coming back before finally disappearing. I would gladly do it all over again and to this day wish I could experience something similar

disgusting should be an imminent cut off

I'd rather try to fix something than abandon it. It was my fault she needed to find someone else anyways.

Plus it sure beats being alone

that's just a wrong opinion my guy
disloyalty and sluttiness brings anyone to a 0/10

> Thinks is dating material.

This 'girl', if this isn't a LARP, will drag you to hell with her and it will have nothing to do with anything you actually have done, it will be based on things she imagines is going on. It is entirely beyond your control and your love and devotion will mean nothing.

Life is not anime and the archetype you think is out there does not not exist. These are predators posing as house cats and they know what you are looking for and how to exploit it.

Even if you could convince her that you genuinely care, it will only make her think less of you.

Drag you to hell?

I'd rather have someone that pretends to like me 50% of the time than nobody. If you haven't hit that point of loneliness then count your blessings user

You sound like someone who "needs their space" in a relationship where you voluntarily vowed to become one with the other. Stop drinking the apathy kool-aid.

> you just didn't want it badly enough, I'm different!

kek

But you didn't did you?

if anime guys exist why wouldn't anime girls exist?

i'v been as lonly as possible for years
i haven't even touched a person at all in years

This is the only reason I'm not a virgin. My friends sisters see my house and my nice cars and want to have sex with me, but then ask me to buy them things a day later by text, to which I autisticly reply "sorry, I'm saving my money for investment purposes", and I never hear from or see them again.

Based autist.

The first time it happened I had to fake an orgasm.
We were at my house, naked, and in the pool rubbing each other, but she tried to just slide my dick in her cunny without a condom and I panicked (cuz I didn't want diseases or pregnancy). I jumped out of the pool and took 5 minutes to run into the house and find a condom. Came back outside and put it on my half-flaccid cock before jumping into the pool to continue where we left off, but the friction was absolutely unbearable. I made her get out of the pool and try a bunch of different positions with me before finally deciding 'fuck it', and I just flopped around on top of her grunting, pretending I was finished.

I actually always kind of wondered; did I lose my virginity if I didn't finish?

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would conventions be a good place to look?

nice larp, now stop shitposting and tell us your weight

>>she picked someone that would leave
>why do people do this
Look up "alpha widow" she's just a typical woman.

This, unironically.

So I've heard at least, and it makes sense.
I don't actually know because I'm a virgin neckbeard, lol.

Yeah you're not a virgin user. Now get the fuck off this site.

My only gf was virgin, she became pretty damn obsessive afterwards. Though she had that tendancy before. After a few relationship that type of obsession faces aways.

But that is just one experience and one girl

Im all of those but im fit not skinny, wheres my gf?

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he is the only relationship i have been in; i turned down guys i believed were only interested in sex and agreed to him while saying "if i say yes, i intend to stay with you forever".
i remain committed to him even in his absence
i analyze myself obsessively to see where i may have contributed
i get upset when people try to make it out to be purely his fault
i do not know how that makes me this thing you are calling me

Look at it this way, since you're never going to have a normal life and you're just wasting valuable space that someone who actually wants relationships with others could take, why not just kill yourself?

For example, me interacting with you here is just a waste of my time and energy, since it will lead to nothing, why not just remove yourself from such situations and make men's lives better?