/sig/ Basics: >YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do. >Work your way to becoming the best YOU you can be - one step at a time. >Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. Use short-term Goals to keep yourself going. >Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones. >Have a steady sleeping rhythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it. Get 6-11 hours of sleep. More Info: pastebin.com/h4CDDtKu >Learn Mindfulnes Meditation ( Guide: youtu.be/F0jedwTzIJg - important: relax your jaw, lips almost parted ). More Info: pastebin.com/0NMDEUNh >Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego. >Have the balls to follow any beliefs to their logical conclusion. Think critically, question everything. >If you need to put others down to feel good about yourself, you are putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on the people you look down on. >Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once, you’ll burnout. Little by little.
Sup brothers. Finally been hitting the gym, I have been slamming an average of 2-3 Tinder thots per month. Feeling good.
Also getting through several books per week, I can feel my world views changing rapidly. I am learning that radical change can happen instantly, and that you should not always expect a long time for groundbreaking changes.
In general, I find it best to attempt to do everything at 100% as soon as it arrives. Life will reward your hard work.
I want to do all this shit, and some days are great when I have the energy. But other days I just feel tired and don't want to do anything but fuck around online. That's with getting 7+ hrs sleep too. What's the deal?
Joseph Martinez
sup dude. so im a newfag and a fatass. im gonna be doin keto and intemrmittent fasting. should i do ss or stronglifts 5x5
Doesn't matter, they'll both work if you follow them consistently.
Alexander Baker
"Self-improvement" is cringe and counter-productive, it is a collection of highly managed paradigms designed to stifle expansion and diminish the soul, all chasing some kind of abstract notion of "productivity". This self-bondage is the apex of American bugman culture.
Christian Rivera
ok
Cameron Stewart
So.... what do we do then?
David Rodriguez
Remember for real self-improvement you must seek the truth, practice humility, honesty, generosity and chastity.
Vanity is effeminate, obsessing over your looks and diet is something for low IQ females and homosexuals.
The conditions any organism needs to develop is abundance, leisure and an absence of restrictions, growth naturally follows. The idea of self-improvement is founded in the converse, promoting scarcity, routine and restriction.
Ethan Jones
I grew up with a shithead lowlife parent, which meant I was poor, powerless, disrespected or pitied by most around me, and an easy target for school predators
Now I'm financially stable, strong, respected by everyone around me, and am able to achieve/care for those important for me. People look up to me, and look to me for guidance. My shithead parent is dead and forgotten, having lived a meaningless parasitic existence and helped nobody but herself.
>tl;dr get that existential reddit philosopher bullshit out of here, it's all meaningless anyway, but might as well do SOMETHING with it
We were all created by the divine, from divine. Therefor, we are all equally divine, regardless of sex. Even the worst scum of the earth was created by god, from god therefor you must love even the worst as you would love the best. After all, your ideas of "worst" and "best" are you bestowing judgment when that is not your place to do so.
Is it possible to be happy without believing in god?
All the smart, successful, and educated people usually believe in God. I feel like I'm missing out, like a certain fragment of my soul I'll never achieve because I lack "faith". Idk am I fucked bros?
Robert Gomez
I am not suggesting to remain static. More so that slavishly following plans, programmes and paradigms that you do not find enjoyable, meaningful, that do not benefit your life at all other than some illusory sense of completion and adherence to duty, is often counter-productive and a surefire way to indeed remain static. .
Julian Reed
Also kill yourself
Justin Taylor
Whatever you like. Just drop the pretentious spiritualistic bullshit of /sig/ nonsense and go do it.
Evan Price
>Praise God and God alone, only he is good. >We were all created by the divine, from divine. >Is it possible to be happy without believing in god?
You don't need god or religion, but exploring spirituality may be fruitful.
Joshua Bennett
What in OP specifically bothers you?
Jordan Carter
>pretentious spiritualistic bullshit
Which is what?
Aiden Clark
Great book
Eli Murphy
Why can't I control myself?
Jonathan Cooper
You give up before you even begin You don’t convince yourself of something before you turn it into consisten action, no conviction
If only you believed your life could be better this way
Brandon Green
Anyone else watch Elisha Long?
Kayden Young
Better what way?
Jackson Campbell
Every Damn Day fitness is the most kick-ass anti-bs alpha fitness YouTube channel ever. Successful as fuck. Obviously happy. He's an atheist.
Anthony Long
How do I learn to be a better orator?
Thomas Hill
How does one 'bounce back' or moreover get their shit together? I used to have it, when I started uni, hit the gym, steady progress, was happy and healthy then it all went to shit as I came closer to graduating Now I'm years by without gym progress, not happy or healthy, made some stupid decisions that really fucked me and my life over How can I get back on the wagon again before it's too late?
Thanks anons, also what is that bloomers haircut called, planning on getting it this week cause Lord knows I need to shave and get rid of this greasy mop
Check pic related. They're the footnotes version of what you should do but it should help get a basic idea.
I've come across him recently and I can tell he's gone through some tough shit. Pretty sound stuff he says and while I think it may not be for everyone he still puts out some good stuff.
Slap yourself and force yourself to start. Sometimes you'll just be out of it and lug around all day, but more often than not, once you start you'll get the energy to continue
Brody Williams
>How can I get back on the wagon again before it's too late? I'd say first you have to accept that you made those shitty decisions and try to find some sense in them and learn from them. Then take some time to find out what you really want out of life and find the motivation to do it. At least that's kind of what I did after I fucked up. Now I'm back on track. It's hard to give you anything but platitudes without knowing the details of your shortcomings, though.
Noah Jenkins
Read plato. Read book of proverbs. Find out the difference between good and evil. Study a little more learn logic, cause and effect. Learn a little geometry, a little music theory, order and disorder and aesthetics. Soon u will know. U will recognize wisdom and folly, then good and evil, then true from false, then maybe god.
You don't need God, but I believe you generally need something great in your life.
For some men it is their ambition that they live for, for some it's their family, their hobby, their pleasure. Find what it is for you.
Jeremiah Parker
> that protein list Into the trash it goes
Nicholas Martinez
Whose mom designed this garbage? Stupidest fucking protein list. Almonds/basedbeans/spinach being a better source of protein then chicken and eggs, which are somehow in the second to worst category, baffles me.
Brody Reyes
Fucking ugly fatties isnt improving yourself faggot. Find a nice pretty woman and settle down you fucking subhuman hedonist.
Please tell me someone out there unjusted their life at 25+. I have limited social skills, no friends, and a khv. Girls will reject me when they find out im a loner right?
Jack Powell
>talk to a girl every day for week >try not to actually go the distance >just trying to include more people into our friend group >don't actually know what she looks like anyway since it's the internet, so why risk it >female friends are things you should want to have right? >no big issue, just be chill. >A single male friend of mine exchanges three lines of conversation with her >overcome with the hottest sense of jealousy and anger
What the FUCK is wrong with me. Why am I even mad?
kek losers I had this phase in 2010 when I was 18. good times but entirely useless to increase happiness.
Nathaniel Reed
there's hope for us all, user. Just got out of a 6 years relationship, im 26. Got just a couple of friends (3-4 at max), my social skills have dropped to an all time low due to my previous relationship, the only thing that keeps me sane is going to the gym 3-4 times a week. Nevertheless, you can improve your life quite easily from this point onward - keep on going to the gym, go out in the weekends (even if alone, just do it, have a couple of drinks, socialize etc), meet new girls (and through them, new frens). I'm 3 months in doing this and I'm actually seeing some god damn progress, you just have to be consistent with everything you do.
Blake Ross
Idk but you sound like you need a punch to the jaw if an internet convo gets you angry.
Nathan White
clinging on too hard to something that isn't even yours, bro. let go if you want to have happy relationships with people.
Jackson Wright
/fa/ here, if you need some fashion tips feel free to ask
I drink coffee daily, a few weeks ago i was just so busy i forgot to drink coffee for 5 days. Pack your schedule.
Elijah Cruz
How do I look ottermode/sexycore to atteack wamen? What do wamen like?
David Price
Better than 90% of ted talks, good job!
Landon Richardson
Low bf.
Kevin Thomas
based endearing normalfag
Gabriel Kelly
My roommate is just a tall skinny guy whos a constant source of positive energy and great at talking to people. Apparently that's what women like.
Wyatt Flores
that image is fucking retarded deli meat and fatty beef on the same level as ice cream and white sugar please.
Camden Campbell
>miss having a gf >don't miss my ex at all How do I get rid of this feeling? How do I let myself be content and validate myself instead of trying to seek feelings from others? I'd ask Jow Forums, but I feel like this may be /sig/ related for now
about to do a modified "dopamine fast"/set myself some rules to get in a good state of mind/living for this pre-exam period Basically: 1) Between waking (5:45) and 8pm, I can do nothing but eat, study/work, and train. Only socialise a little and only face-to-face (obviously easter is coming up so I'm not gonna be super autistic about it then) 2) No music, TV, vidya, artwork, wanking, etc aside from reading literature. That will be my only fun consumption.
I've removed all imagery from my PC, and I'm going to block all non-study related sites from the internet. My phone will have airplane mode on, with all internet apps and imagery removed. PC and phone will both have black/grey backgrounds. Eventually I'll start re-introducing pleasures such as music, but it will be listened to with due attention and moderation.
stupid and its not gonna solve anything. make 1 small change and stick to it if you want to do anything worthwhile longterm
Anthony Jenkins
shutup faggot
Joseph Bennett
Which book though?
Camden Smith
Plutarch's Lives of Eminent Romans and Greeks
Anthony Hughes
cope. you've tried radical changes 100 times and you're still here. accept your fate faggot
Ryder Green
Sometimes it's motivation more than energy. I have a whiteboard hanging on my closet with my to-do list; if I feel like I can't be fucked then I do the smallest thing, then the next smallest thing, and so on. If I wake up hype then I start on the biggest thing, or the biggest thing I want to tackle. I usually knock out at least a few small things every day.
That's stupid, so many people don't understand themselves or their actions and need it explained to them, and need to be given ways to combat it. Not just dumb people either; I know engineers and psych students who have zero self awareness and sabotage their own well-being and won't even accept it if you tell them. While some of the self help stuff I've read seems like it's a bit bunk I do think that overall it's really beneficial for everyone, even if it's just explaining your own thoughts back to you and offering you processes to complement that understanding. I got the whiteboard idea off a friend, but how many times do you think self help gurus have said that you need to write down and read your goals every day or whatever?
Also we live in a contemporary world where structure outside of work is often non-existent or greatly diminished; this is why nobody ever has time for the gym but they can waste 4 hours binge watching Stranger Things and browsing Facebook. Encouraging people to structure their non-career lives is a great thing to do.
>abundance, leisure and an absence of restrictions Just imagining all those viruses on their couches doing nothing cracks me up. Barely any species besides humans practice leisure, and those that are given abundance and leisure (ie domesticated animals) often develop mental health problems or behaviour issues because of it. Humans should be pushing their higher order development when they are meeting all their core needs so that they don't end up the same way.
Joshua Robinson
Checked
I also struggle with self-confidence, I need some form of validation every now and then. Realize that you are in control and can have whatever you want if you work hard enough towards it, it will make you happier.
Brody Long
I very rarely post here actually. And I'm not doing this as some epic way of turning my life around.
My life is already happy and satisfying. However I do endeavour towards efficiency, and would like to make the necessary changes to my lifestyle in order to reach a good equilibrium between study and enjoyment. It should be very good fun. A day of work followed by an evening of reading; no muck accumulated in the brain to distract me or hamper my mind's cogency. You can bitch to me further if you like. If it brings you pleasure then go for it.
Shaved head makes me look like an egg,but I feel a beard would make my face look even longer
What should I do?
Jackson White
There is a picture from Arnold's Total Recall book, it's a picture of one of his speeches with tally marks on how many times he practiced. It's about 20...since then I practice about 10 times per speech.
It solves the most common problems. More confidence, eye contact, better flow since you can revise, more at ease, less stress
Samuel Williams
Why is the excuses section so much more aggressive in that one? As well as the emotional aspect being taken out
I created the version you quoted using the pic you posted as inspiration. I didn't notice the aggression, probably it's from how I treat myself internally.
In regards to emotions I tend to try to aknowledge them but not let them drive my behavior because they are present focused and steer me wrong.
So the short answer is "because of my personality"
Any recommendations on how to make mine better?
Benjamin Carter
I hadn't seen this one. I like it better. Will use it in future threads, thank you!
Nolan Ramirez
Anyone else find it hard to let go of distractions? I can't stop checking Jow Forums threads
Adam Young
did an internship abroad a year ago, since then i started my own company in my own country while finishing college, going pretty well
same company from internship now offers me position of a manager, like right now without finishing college
Yea, there is a catch to that tho, i can actually finish my degree right there as i have to do a research internship in the final quarter of my studies and I am still waiting for confirmation if i could write that at my own company
anyway i started my own company for a reason, because it has always been a dream to me, but i would be lying if this offer isnt tempted
i got a call with them next week so i can wait for that but fuck man
I weighed myself yesterday at 185.6 lbs. My weight hasn't been that low in like 3 years.
Jordan Roberts
That sounds awesome user! How much did you drop?
Bentley Davis
20lbs since I started to artistically track every single calorie that I consumed. I'm not sure how much more I need to drop until I have visible abs, but I feel like I finally have the discipline to follow through. I think if I get down to like 175 or 170 it will be enough. I honestly don't know because I've never had visible abs.
Charles Perez
Which part so you like more?
Kevin Morgan
I think it's more encouraging for people with depressive mindset ( like people here tend to be ). It makes setting and achieving goals as something that can actually be done even if you think of yourself as a kickbag. The other one is okay but I can easily see how people could just read it and feel like "well, I can't do even this much so fuck me I guess". There's also an unhelpful comparison to others ( "they can be mediocre" ). You don't unlearn feeling inferior to others ( comparing ) by trying to feel superior to others ( still comparing ). "Be positive" is also something that always causes rejection. "Be realistic/honest/non-judgmental" is more approachable. Also it's a less coherent.
