I caught my bf jerking off to porn the other day for the first time and its not like I wouldnt allow him to do stuff like that, he is a man after all and its something I have to respect but its just.. idk I feel so much more insecure about myself now and I cant stop thinking about it
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First question are you a guy or (((girl)))?
Second was it straight, gay, or tranny porn?
i mean if he blew you off to jerk off i could understand. i actually watched porn for the first time with my gf last night. it was pretty embarrassing having her see the shit im into but it was also kind of hot. make it something you can do together op
(((girl)))
I dont even know, I just heard some moaning when I entered the bedroom but it was probably some straight porn + he immediately shut down his notebook.
we spoke about watching porn together a while ago but its something we both arent comfortable with and he always jerked off to my lewds before.
he was also extremely sorry about it even though I told him that it is completely normal and something he shouldnt be ashamed of. But I just cant deny the fact that I am extremely hurt and hate the way I look right now
>(((girl)))
Fuck off, love
You shouldn't take it too seriously. I'm not your bf, but as far as I can tell if he didn't like you he'd hardly be your bf
Its hard to not to. I am trying my best to hide my feelings, I think he isnt even aware of the fact that I am still thinking about that day.
my dysmorphophobia is kicking fricking hard because of it and he knows that I am somewhat sensitive about stuff like that. this is the reason why its messing with my head right now I hope but yea, I shouldnt take it too seriously
it might be because you're white
>insecure and hurt and hate how I look
If you were not how he wanted, he would not be your bf. end of story.
Unless you want to claim your have never ever considered how super hot and sexy some actor/singer/whatever is since are you together with him, you have zero room to complain.
Can he OBJECTIVELY be better and hotter than all those people getting paid for appearing as sexy as possible to girls?
lol, no.
You can however still want him more than any of those. Same shit for him and a random pornslut. You can't be the hottest girl ever, sorry hun no chance. Does not mean you can't be the one that HE wants most.
im not op, but thank you user. this was a good reality check
lol, I bet he only settled for your tranny ass and is waiting for an actual girl or a better looking tranny to shag. he probably doesn't even think about you while he's jerking.
Why is it that so many women get upset about their bfs jacking to porn and then go around and constantly fawn over attractive actors and such, often right in front of him.
Like, that has the exact same effect on a dude as this does to you, but that's okay and masturbating isn't?
What a fucking meme this shit is. Pic unrelated.
Welcome to how men feel 24/7
Maybe you could tell him that you could handle that yourself for him whenever you are around.
If he does it when you are not around then you don't have to feel bad, it's out of convenience, not a greater desire for a different person.
I can't blame you for feeling that way. If I had a gf and found her lusting over pics of hunky dudes I'd definitely feel a tad inadequate myself. While I don't think he's in the wrong either, I think it would be a good idea for you to talk about it and let him know how it makes you feel, in as nonjudgmental and non-accusatory a way as possible. It would probably be easy to blow this out of proportion because of your dysmorphia, and it would probably be equally easy to put this all on yourself and disregard how you feel for the same reason; try not to do either.
It's just a fact of the age of porn, women can't satisfy men like an endless internet harem that caters to their wildest imagination can. It's only going to get worse with sex robots and JOI type products.
Women you have to accept that your sexuality is a thing of the past for any men you make it an effort for.
Yeah its even harder to appeal to a man's desires when you're not even a real woman
>im not op, but thank you user. this was a good reality check
this
thank you, I really needed that, user
he really is a gem.
nice try lol
>constantly fawn over attractive actors and such
something I would never ever do and never done before its utterly disrespectful and I am very sure that he would feel just as insecure as I would
thank you user, I think letting him know how I feel is the best thing to do. I have avoided the topic so far because I didnt want him to think that he did something wrong nor do I want him to feel responsible for my mental issues. he felt very guilty about it after all.
I would try bringing it up directly, part of a relationship is communication and he's not going to break up with you because you walked in on him masturbating to new lewds
don't worry, he's just unable to find you sexually attractive. Plenty of people have functional relationships to people they aren't sexually attracted to
Is it upsetting to think you're not much more for him than a warm butthole he has to forget about later?
Good psyop, but it's more like he's unable to not find a variety of women sexually attractive.
Fuck him until he can't jerk off.
If he would rather jerk it then leave.
No pic related because chances are if you are posting here then even that picture is more attractive then you. He would have jerked it to this.
your overthinking it. i just finished up a load of porn and plan on doing my wife tonight aswell. i last longer after rubbing one out prior to pounding.
womens libido's are nowhere near a mans. when a girl hits 25 she might be fine with once or twice a week, for a man thats closer to 40 when that happens. you are waaaaay overthinking this
Deep down he knows it and so do you. You're never going to be able to satisfy him, and he'll always need to supplement you with real women. You can pussyfoot around it by saying you love each other but he is just trying to avoid upsetting you.
he probably even gets turned on by that. Some people enjoy to be walking disappointments
>gf keeps asking if I jerk off to other girls
>always be honest and tell her I do
>she never believes me
It's like she doesn't want to be it's true. I guess she think its better for her to believe I am lying
I'd recognize Marzia wearing Tsuki clothing anywhere.
i'm going through the same thing rn, it honestly is a shitty feeling but u gotta remember most guys do it and that's just normal to them and seeing as ur bf is with u and stays with u, not a reflection of whether or not u are wanted as a sexual/romantic partner and separate from the relationship/love
Does he dick you down with vigor?
If he dicks you there's no issue, those come when he rather choke the cock than pet the pussy.
What the fuck kind of bizarro world am I living in that it's normal to be watching porn in a comitted relationship? Am I THAT out of touch?
Just try and communicate with him as to why you do not want him watching porn and let him talk about why he watches it. If he cannot stop for you and it is deal breaking then break up. If him watching porn is not deal breaking then deal with it. If you watch porn let him watch porn and if he agrees to stop for you then good.
Tell him about it how you told us about it. Comes off really non-judgmental and you might get somewhere.
This. Literally any girl can solve this problem by doing this.
Do you think he'd actually rather be alone at a computer with his cock in his hand? Come on.
Why user?? It's just fap-material he was using to let of steam, also all men like porn no matter how much you'd like to pretend they're "committed".
Call me a freak but its perfectly normal to look at porn and masturbate while in a relationship as long as it's not excessive.
I'd suggest you actually take up looking at porn with him and start discussing it more, that way you'd feel more comfortable about it. If you do that you can see what he's into and you can keep that in mind next time you two are intimate.
Would you fuck him literally every time he gets horny for the next 40 years?
Doesnt matter you're gonna suck his dick again anyway
would unironically rather have an ugly girl that did that than a super attractive woman with a normal sex drive
Porn and relationships are two different things for guys.
We're pretty much playing with ourselves from the moment we're born until the moment we die.
You don't have to appeal to that degenerate side of him or do anything more to sate his sex drive. It's just a bad habit that's hard to snap out of.
He's not doing it to hurt you.