Self-improvement thread

Naisu today I'm starting no-fap and trying to sleep early. The last is the hardest for me. Yesterday I set up to sleep at 4am and ended up going at 9am, for example. I may read literature also to do something about my empty ass soul.

start exercising and stop drinking so heavily.

why is this fucking feeling so common, what the fuck happened to all of us

I used to lift a lot and be Jow Forums but starved all my progress away at uni. It's mind-blowing when you realize you have nothing to live for at 20

I've wanted to jerk off to the same picture for fucking HOURS today but I've stopped myself

370lbs here. I maintained 300 for 15 years before starting this job two years ago and ballooned like a motherfucker. Currently trying to cut out fast food and soda and all that shit, but I'm a mess at sticking to things after a life of "comfort foods".

I told myself that 2019 I would lose 20 pounds, stop masturbating and only drink on social occasions... I have failed all of them and ontop of it I gained 5 pounds. How do I gain the will? I once did all of this for 12 days a few months back and I even lost 8 pounds within those 12 days from fasting. How do I maintain the will? Especially for nofap? It just seems so hard to know that I would cum unless some girl does it for me, which is incredibly unlikely to happen, so I would never get to cum

>nothing to live for at 20
you have textbook depression. you need to go out and enjoy your youth. right now your goals should be getting an education and having as much fun as you can.

see a therapist before it's too late user

I'm talking about my feelings more instead of bottling them up until I have a breakdown. Sometimes it feels like words get trapped in my mouth... as if I physically CAN'T get them to come out. Sometimes it takes me 30 minutes to force the words to come out.

>so I would never get to cum
Getting real sick of the nofap delusion, it started to fight porn addiction, just wank maybe once a week and that's it. No need to be a fucking monk.

even once a day is fine. especially anyone under 30.

I really don't want to be rude, but how do you guys get to almost 200kg?

I don't know if I can do it because I'm doing Jow Forums's 5x5 workout resistance training on top of the c to 5km cardio regimen on the inbetween days.

I think something is cripplingly wrong with me. I bench more than I squat.

I can help you stay motivated guys ;) let's chat +19143800615

Eating a shit ton of fast/processed foods and drink. As a kid I would down Icy Tea and and nuggets by the bagful, possibly twice a day. When kids would make fun of me I would just go home and eat more because eating felt good. 20+ years of things like that, user.

food as a coping mechanism for anxiety,abuse, societal rejection etc etc

it goes from a vice>coping mechanism>habit>addiction

at least for me that's what happened

I started vaping and quit normal smoking. I don't care about looking gay and I actually feel like I'm getting less tired when climbing up starts and shit like that. Hoping to quit that too in the future tho

I am very lonely. I can't focus on things I enjoy because I keep thinking about how lonely I feel. I feel guilty for doing these things, I think, I'm essentially just playing with myself, it might as well be masturbation.

How do I find people to talk to? I don't know how to meet people online or offline.

+1, I made it seven days with no cigs before caving. back on day one now but I really can feel the breathing difference, sleep too

I'm hoping i move out this year, i just feel awkward living with my parents

ouch that lil feelio tho

Me too user, it's a life of near comolete isolation. When I do meet up with people I know, there's a burst of happiness, then even worse loneliness when it ends. Horrible cycle.

Thanks for replying to me, I've been posting all night and getting no replies and that was just making everything worse. I'm not supposed to be lonely on Jow Forums too.

I've only met people online through communities for specific things, like a few years ago it was through hacking the PSP, and now it's all digital artists. There's a lot of shitty sites and communities where it's just people shilling and trying to get followers, but if you can find a quieter discord or something people can be nice.

Trying to run and swim as much as possible. It might sound normie but exercise is the only coping mechanism that actually makes me feel better.

In 2018 I:
>got a raise and a bonus
>got a promotion and another raise
>got a heat pump installed
>repiped house in pex
>lost nearly 90 pounds

In 2019 I plan to:
>get a new Mercedes
>lose 90 more pounds
>have a second kid
>redo my bathroom

Things are real good.

I just can't seem to do that. Maybe I don't have enough interests, maybe I actually find communities of people and find excuses why I can't take part, I don't know. I feel lost and clueless.

This is a thread I can get behind. So hear me out, because I'll try to be as objective as possible in regards to myself. 1/2, by the way.
>tall
>a bit overweight right now, would like to get down to 175lbs. am like 200lbs right now
>chinlet, receding hairline, only one nut
>my social skills are good; i can make small talk without much trouble, speaking in public doesn't daunt me at all
>i'm funny, people consider me insightful and smart
>many times, however, i feel people tend to ignore me because I have kind a of a dopey voice, and because of my looks. doesn't help that my interests are not great topics of conversation I can strike up with anyone
>i do not think of myself as special, or think that people in general are all the special, but i find it hard to speak with people that interest me in no way whatsoever. I myself feel lost in life, without a concrete idea of what to do and that terrifies me because people seem to figure out shit quickly and move on with their life quickly
>unemployed, worked a bit but honestly I wasn't very good at my job (sales)
>feel like if i don't leave my hometown I will never "grow up" in the sense of having responsibilities, looking after myself, paying for my own shit, cleaning my living space
What makes all this particularly hard for me is that I've blamed all my insecurities and failures in terms of romantic ventures on my appearance. I'm not the easiest person to deal with. I have issues, hell, I can't fucking stand looking at myself in pictures. I think it's easy to tell I'm a virgin, and you know the social stigma accompanied by that, as well as the biological one.

In my deepest neetdom I picked up cardio as a hobby. Three days a week, gets you out of the house, and makes you feel great when you finish it when you get used to it and start getting runner's highs. Nothing wrong with it, user.

That's what I'm saying, maybe find more interests. There's people into whatever niche interest now and the smaller the community the nicer the people a lot of the time. Try things out more maybe, pick something and see if there's places specifically for that thing

Don't forget, this is you if you ever reach a healthy weight.

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Can somebody make some sort of Jow Forums self improvement server? These kinds of things require a persistent effect to keep people accountable

I've stopped drinking so much coffee and have avoided fapping everyday. I've also started eating only one meal per day. Hopefully I'll be able to go. I want to lose all my stubborn belly fat. I'm also going to try and save up some money to get out of my house. I'm going to file for disability soon. Im also about to graduate from a welding school in a couple of days so there's that. Really hope I get NEETbux. There's no reason ot not give it to me, I'm a complete fuck up in every possible way. I know they'll give me a check. Getting out of my house is top priority. I don't want to be here anymore.

I've joined a social group and I'm trying to make friends after more than 6 years of isolation. For some reason I feel more depressed than ever now.

>Still known as the "smart kid" at college

Feels good. Hopefully I can land a job right after graduation, though I know I can't count on it.

2/2
What really drives the point home for me that I'm really physically unattractive and that it is my one big detriment, is my best friend. Guy looked like a faggy nerd in high school, kinda like McLovin. But he works out now, got in good shape, and nearly every time he has gotten with a girl, which has been a lot since summer of last year, he had to put in very little effort. Like, I guess socializing is the one thing he has put effort in, but as I said, I rarely care about speaking with people I don't find interesting, and right now I'm not in a position to meet many people. And the common denominator in all of this: Every girl thought he was hot, and thus wanted to get to know him. You know, they made the effort to make themselves known to him.
Same goes for this girl I used to beta-orbit. She made all the attempts to reach out to the people she found attractive, or that she wanted to fuck. It all links back to attractiveness, to superficiality. And I can understand it. I wouldn't want to be with anyone I don't consider attractive, let alone fuck for a night. But of course I want to be with someone that shares my interests, that I resonate with as a person.

I dunno, maybe it's not the same for everyone. Maybe he's got it easy right now and I don't. Maybe that's the way it will always be and I have to put effort in every time (mind you I don't know how to do this without looking desperate, which is exacerbated by my suspicion that people can easily tell I'm a virgin, but I've begun to suspect that you just gotta do it and roll with the consequences). Do you think I am justified in my rationality? Do you want more insight as to how I am as a person? Please, help me see if I am delusional or not.

> I think it's easy to tell I'm a virgin
Iktf

thanks for the reminder dickhead

Been going to the gym for about a month now about 4 times a week, but I haven't really changed my diet so I'm not seeing any real weight loss. 6'4" 275

Good thing they make a surgery for that

is that really whats going to happen? FUCK

check these dubs boiz

check'd triple dubs

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Isn't that what happens when you lose it too quickly?

that guy lost something like 300 pounds. thats an example of extreme weight loss.

if you drop 100 pounds yeah, you're going to have a lot of flaps and folds but nothing like the dude in the pic.

lifting weights while slowly losing the weight over time helps negate this but you pretty much have to get the surgery if you drop 100+pounds

Imagine having to spend thousands of dollars on surgery because you couldn't put down the hamburgers.

"Too quickly" is more than 1-2 pounds a week. OP lost a bit more than 3 per week so he might not have it too bad.

haven't been to a gym in a long time but started doing scoobies home works outs every morning and I'm feelin pretty good

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they're low reps and short sets so you don't push the body too hard which means you can workout everyday and not overtrain

Imagine putting down the burgers and dropping 100 lbs so you can be a physically fit alpha male and getting surgery to become the ultra chad and the perfect embodiment of your beautiful genes

Vitamin D, green tea w/ lemon, cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, cabbage, spinach), onions, carrots, no bread (rice and baked potatoes are ok)

Still haven't solved the social problems, but diet and exercise are doable.

>tidied my work space
>cut out distractions
>sitting in front of a clean desk upright with no severe issues
>STILL don't do any work
This is awful. It's like my procrastination and inactivity aren't being caused by anything specific in just fundamentally lazy.

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I was super fucked up for almost ten years, gained a ton of weight, heavy brain fog constantly could barely think, thought I was slowly dying and could not figure it out. Last month I cut all FODMAPS out of my diet and it worked. Took me fucking years to figure this out. It's a pain in the ass and my diet is super limited but its nice not feeling like my brain is swelling all the time. Slowly repairing myself now. If you feel like shit all the time you need to really figure out your diet. Food intolerances can fuck you up bad. Worth looking into.

I find that getting started is the hardest part