This thread endorses both physical and mental fitness in order to promote healthy living for everyone.
/sig/ Basics:
>YOU are 100% responsible for the way you experience life. Not your parents, not your surroundings, not your ex, not your bully, not your future spouse. YOU. Complete, sincere acceptance of this is the most fundamental step to bettering yourself, and it is by far the hardest thing you'll ever do.
>Work your way to becoming the best YOU you can be - one step at a time.
>Set realistic Goals and have a Plan. Use short-term Goals to keep yourself going.
>Learn helpful and effective daily/weekly/etc. routines, including mundane ones.
>Have a steady sleeping rhythm - one that works for you, so long as you keep to it. Get 6-11 hours of sleep. More Info: pastebin.com
>Learn Mindfulnes Meditation. More Info: pastebin.com
>Learn to be Brutally Honest with yourself. Stop being a slave to your Ego.
>Think critically.
>If you need to put others down to feel good about yourself, you are putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on the people you look down on.
>Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once, you’ll burnout.
Resources:
>newarcitea.neocities.org
>thework.com
Discord:
discord.gg
Books:
>s000.tinyupload.com
>s000.tinyupload.com
>misc.equanimity.info
>s000.tinyupload.com
>Tsultrim Allione - Feeding your Demons
/sig/ - self improvement general
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apps.ankiweb.net
aarp.org
artofmanliness.com
twitter.com
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Can't get hung up on the past or the future. I know "one day at a time" sounds like an AA meme, but it's real dude. Take it one issue at a time, and do all you can today. If you fuck up, it's ok just try again tomorrow. It's not falure until you decide to give up completely, as long as you still want to improve you have options.
>Make a list of everything you want to change about yourself
>Order it in importance
>Pick the top issue and forget the rest for now
>Make a list of things you can do today to work on the issue
>Do them
>Tomorrow morning when you wake up make another list of things you can do that day to work on the issue.
>Repeat
>Repeat
>Repeat until you die
>If you fuck up start brand new the next day
Don't get hung up on time or the end result, concentrate on the steps and keep a train of thought. One day you're going to look back and see the progress you've made, and feel proud.
Actually found this helpful, thanks user
I now have 60 uni credits, I'm very happy
I'm proud of you son.
Thanks. Should be getting 15 more in the next couple of weeks.
Im considering acquiring an escort, is that /sig/?
I will escort you outside. instant gratification is just that, instant.
Honestly it depends on your reasons and who you are. If you're at very least 28 and still a virgin, I'd say do it just to get it off your mind and finally realize it's not as important as you thought it was. If you're under 28 just wait, you're still young despite your ego telling you you're not.
Sex really isn't as big of a deal as you're making it out to be. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin and nothing wrong with having dozens of partners. Sex accomplishes nothing for you at this point unless you're wanting a kid right now. Get your mind on saving money, learning, working, and having fun completing other goals and hobbies.
Maybe make a list of everything you want to accomplish in the next 10 years other than sex, rate them in importance. Pick the top one and concentrate on that. I'll refer back to...
Very happy to see my summary as part of the extended op.
I was thinking on posting it until someone else saw enough value in it to post it themselves, it's great that it only took one post.
I was a virgin until I was 21. You know what changed after I first had sex? Nothing.
If you at least sleep with someone that you took home or someone that you're dating, it could be a confidence booster. But sex doesn't mean as much as people hype it up to be.
And if you fuck a hooker, something that literally anyone can do, it's nothing to brag about.
Just picked up my first home equipment, Golds gym XRS20. About to start working out more than ever before.
I'm fucking stoked bros. Squats, preacher curls, bench press, everything I haven't been able to do before.
Got a source for that friend?
nice one mate, make it happen cap'n!
I've posted here before about my story
a little recap
>lost parents due to cancer
>had to pay off my fathers debt
>no job, stopped learning for uni, masturbation, weed, smoking and being lazy
>fat
>suicide was about to happen and no family or friends to help anyway
today
>finished my second semester of uni without failing a single course
>paid off my fathers debt, saving up money now
>started learning guitar 5 months go, i have become decent by now
>stopped masturbation 5 months ago (no joke)
>stopped smoking, weed and being lazy 5 months ago
>managed to find a much better job at my field, earning more money now
>dropped 30kg by now, working out 4 days every week
>following my strict daily routine
>reading up to 3 books every month
>eating a perfectly balanced diet
still to do list
>finding new friends
>finding a girl
>finishing uni
>saving up 5k
>learn new language
>building my own brand, working on my portfolio
>start boxing and or swimming
you guys can do it, but you have to put in the work and suffer for the first month
Get after it my dude. Welcome to the ranks of the home gym master race.
Thanks bros. I've also got my firefighters written test next week, so I'm trying to get in as best shape as possible.
Did you set goals user or just get your act together? Also how did you lose 30kg, please help a fat user out?
Well done dude, never stop
>pic related
>Did you set goals user
yes I did.
My first goals were basically this
>need to move out
>stop eating candy (the reason i got fat)
>need to renovate the apartment before i move out
>start leaning for uni
>get my bad sleep habit away
>start eating healthy, bit by bit adding better food to my diet (started with dropping candy and adding spinach)
>have to stop masturbating since it makes my mind focus on wrong things
these were all points that were rather easy for me to do, most of them I've done naturally, not forcing anything
>Also how did you lose 30kg
just like any other user in here would tell you, calories in and calories out. No diet sheme, more like doing the reasonable things
dropping processed food and eating whole foods.
I've started with running every second evining before bed, to burn myself out of energy.
This improved my sleep by a LOT.
>get your act together
yes, very important. you need a focus.
I also stopped posting on Jow Forums and just drop by telling my story.
Something else, my father had a favorite song. I was listening to it every time before bed.
This helped me keep my focus.
>youtube.com
Holy fuck user, you just inspired me with the force of 1,000 suns.
...that song, I don't even know Russian, it hit me right in the feels. Tonight I lift for your dad.
its about ww2, a soldier singing before the final battle.
its from the movie "two soldiers (1943)"
Glad I could motivate someone.
Is being a published author a reasonable goal or is it pipedream tier? I don't need to be a big time author, but maybe one day make a living doing something I enjoy.
Just an inspirational video.
youtu.be
I tried converting to webm, but it's too big to post. I have no ideas how to do webms, so if someone with more knowlage wants the mp3 or webm to make fit on Jow Forums let me know.
here is the original one, much better
youtube.com
how old are you man?
I'm having troubles myself too and right now I'm fixated on age for some stupid reason
I know I'm still young but at the same time deep down I'm afraid that it's too late
I just can't seem to grow up or perceive myself as an adult no matter what I do
Lets see.
Today I did some paid worked, got a sharp new haircut, started reading Nietzsche B G E, impressed the librarian by being able to spell Nietzsche, sent an ExGF a note about Huawei which could help her business not to lose money, went to the Gym, got another £500 clearing the system that I can dump on the Credit Cards meaning I've paid off another grand this month.
Went to a Van Gogh expo yesterday, did a bit of voluntary work yesterday, will do some more tomorrow and going to a work related event in the evening.
The only thing that's really bugging me at the moment is that I started Smoking again recently.
Nice, much better quality. But Ive always liked Vegeta.
>how old are you man?
23 when mother died
25 when my father died.
I'm still 25
Tbh I can't speak for older generation and I might just circlejerk but I would say its never too late for your own sake.
Dont hold yourself to someone else or societies standard. do it for yourself.
you will see that age doesnt matter. you need to drop the mentality that you could become something special.
this is toxic and will lead you nowhere.
I know why you fix on age, become media and people tell you about "the best years of your life"
Something like this does indeed exist BUT you are the one to decide when and how good they are.
I need some help guys
I didn't even know /sig/ existed back when I was around 15, but I was very disciplined. I practiced language, musical instruments, worked, ate well and lifted regularly. I did that until I graduated last year
I had friends, a couple girlfriends in that span of time and a loving family. I was miserable. I made all sorts of life gains but they felt so shallow and pointless
I gave up all of those things for about a year now and I'm still miserable. I can start those things back (already have on most of them), but I don't need life gains. I need self confidence and happiness gains
How does one achieve those goals? Is it books, an adventure like climbing a mountain, moving to a brand new city state or even country
I just turned 24 and I'm completely lost
Bless you, I'm actually only 23, seeing your progress gave me a huge boost.
Prioritize the friends my guy. Being able to enjoy your accomplishments with your buds/girl is much more rewarding than doing it on your own. Keep up the good work, you've clearly got the winner's mentality
Why do I feel worse the more I sleep?
I had a job interview today
>So how would you best friend describe you?
>mfw I have no friends
I got first friend but he's a big normie
I don't really like people but I feel like I need somebody in my life that I can trust and talk with how do I don't fuck this up?
Is getting a gf a good no.1 priority? Most of my group of friends are in relationships (which annoys me) and it’s hard for me to find a girl that I I know that I’ll be happy with
Dunno if I should be more focused on getting into college and getting a job ( that I don’t think will make me happy ) or getting into a relationship that might not even last a few months, and that could have me miserable if it doesn’t work out.
Is getting a gf really worth the risk of losing 1. my mates and 2. potentially a degree I don’t really want?
>ate 1000kcal today
>going to go home and clear through laundry
>up to 14 full pullups
>passed all my classes for the previous semester somehow
>Not going to drink tonight
The only downside to my day is that my shares in the market dropped by 7.5% but I won't let that get me down.
a gf that makes you loose your mates or your degree should not be a gf.
Probably if you have to ask it's not a good gf.
also a good gf will support you and pull you up, not weight you down.
So keep an eye open but don't obsess about finding a gf. You'll probably meet her when you least expect it anyways.
t. married bloomer who was a doomer three years ago
So basically the only way to make money as a guy who is barely finishing high school is, email lists, forex, stocks, or a vlogger with a type of following? I mean i think these are better than doing what im doing right now. any other recommendations? I have around 70 bucks
Spend more time having fun and doing things you want to do, and recognize what things you are doing to please others.
Get a real job or just go sell yourself to the government.
Sleep less. Too much and too little sleep are equally as bad.
Then explain your ideal best friend.
>So basically the only way to make money as a guy who is barely finishing high school is, email lists, forex, stocks, or a vlogger with a type of following?
How old are you? Look around your area for trade apprenticeship programs. If you have no criminal record and can piss clean you can probably get into any of the big trades: Electrician, Carpentry, Plumbing, HVAC, etc. You'll wake up early and do bitch work for a few years. But apprenticeships start at $16/hr in North Jersey, pretty good $ for no qualifications.
Don't be self-centered, think about their wants and needs.
No, focus on other things like saving money, learning, enjoying life, and work. Love yourself first, so when someone does love you, you don't fuck it up with narcissism.
Factory job, it sounds shitty but you will make money and get experience. Being able to put on a future application that you worked a steady job for a couple years looks better than some internet job. Think about what you want your Resume to look like at 30.
>Think about what you want your Resume to look like at 30.
THIS. Everyone reading this needs to realize: nobody wants to hire the Big Brain.
Use Anki to memorize what you've learned from books. You need to strengthen your working memory, that's all.
No matter what field you go into or how low tier you consider the job, they will always look for:
>Dedication- how long is this person going to work here before quiting?
>Reliability- can I give this person a task without them arguing or giving up?
>Character- is this person going to stay productive without me micromanaging
>Personality- will they get along with coworkers or cause uncomfortable situations for HR?
>Quality- will this person do the job right with minimal training or handholding?
Anything else anyone wants to add to this list? I think making a solid list for some younger anons could be a lot of help.
>job interview tomorrow
>they basically promised me the position over the phone already
>still nervous
>hopefully be able to leave my current toxic shitjob
Pray for me lads
These are great, man. I'd add Toughness/Endurance to the list. One of my Jr. Sales reps (24) needs to take breaks every 2hrs. My brother's GF can't seem to work for more than 8h before she falls to pieces.
I'm going through a tough time right now and honestly, lurking through these threads is helping a lot. I like the good and the bad things you guys post on here because it helps me realize that my situation is not so bad, and that there's hope. Thanks guys, I'm still a little anxious but I refuse to give up
>Anki
wat
How do I make friends as an adult? I haven't really had any since high school and I'm not in college currently.
Flashcard program, available on many OS's and mobile.
Would you be interested in larping? Belegarth and Dagorhir are very good exercise, and there's no magic, hitpoint, or fantasy shit like that. It's just straight foam combat, get hit in the arm/leg loose the arm/leg, torso you're dead, 2 limbs you're dead. They are huge international semi-larp sports, and the communities are generally cool and a bit of a nerd/jock mix.
This is when I started getting fit and generally more active. I've met hundreds of cool people, and a few longtime friends.
No levels are HP or anything like that either. Their rules try to keep them as realistic as possible while being safe enough that most people can join in.
What are some neat exercises I can do to develop my creative side?
This...I also like going into the woods and moving around large objects. Building stuff and general fucking around.
how can I turn into the best version of myself? I feel like I just need a little push to keep me going but laying around and doing nothing is awfully comfortable, I want to stop feeling miserable and actually do something positive with my life.
OP here, the reason I was attracted to an online job was because it looks like to me like a better income opportunity than what i currently have, because i should have mention that i live in Mexico and every day the economy is getting shittier. I REALLY appreciate the suggestions, I'll try to search something alike to what you guys said.
Thats great bro! i'm trying to get as much gains as I can from semi horizontal pulls. By the way, any resources to learn about stock, I'm interested in making a little money
Lads, why does nobody here turn their life around by finding religion? I'm not arguing one way or another but it just hit me that growing up all the movies and stories about people with fucked up lives turning things around was through religion. Maybe it was just my upbringing making me exposed to those things, if so ignore this post, but otherwise, why are there no anons posting about buddha, jesus, or Allah?
Have anyone here suffered or still suffers from maladaptive dreaming? If so, how can I possibly stop? I only started to noticed this disorder recently and I think it might be getting out of hand for me because I'm literally replacing reality with madeup stories/ fantasies in my mind. it's really scary
Soon to be high school senior /sig/ newbie here. I have a whole host of problems, and I figured the straightest answers I could get would be here. My biggest ones are grade and gpa based, which lead into self-esteem issues. I spent the first 3 years of high school bogged down by mental health and personal issues (severe depression/anxiety, family issues, parents constantly fighting and teetering on divorce), and my grades suffered as a result. Across the board its bs and b-s, with a few As here and there. This has really hurt me recently, especially due to most of my friends being quite big acheivers, taking lots of APs and excelling in their classes. I feel like a failure, and I wish I could go back and do more. I feel inadequete compared to them, and despite my drive to finish strong, the constant sinking feeling wont go away. Its not like my friends rub it in my face, in fact they constantly reassure me, but it all feels fake. I feel stupid and worthless because of my below average gpa (3.7 on a 5.0 scale). My self-worth is tanking at the moment, and I constantly feel on the verge of crying or being sick. Sorry for the blogpost, im sure you can tell it was written by a dumb high schooler, but I really needed to air this out somewhere and get some help from some kindly /sig/ anons. I'm really hoping you guys can set me straight, thanks for any tips you can provide.
>day 1 of nocaffeine
My head is throbbing bros. I will not cave.
...
Every countries going to be different. Maybe research your countries main export, and get a job in that field. That's a sure fire way to know there are jobs available.
My mental gains have been real good, got classic bloomer attitude for the past few months, grades are good, and have even considered starting up going to church every sunday
Only problem is, my body is in skinnyfat shit state and I dunno how to approach it
Thinking just eating no wheat and shoving down testosterone boosting foods while just doing pushups, biking, and pullups every day while eating at maintenance calories.
Wanna be a lean, very happy man instead of just mostly happy
People who turn their lives around with religion don't go on Jow Forums.
>>Thanks bro, honestly it's refreshing to see a thread/general on this board that isn't constantly shitting on each other
The pain will last 3-7 days, but it's worth, I get better sleep and dream with my waifu
That's an issue to ask a real psychologist about.
Found out the woman I loved felt the same way but I was about 2 weeks too late and she has someone else now
On the other hand I promised to become a god to get with her so les go lads
I'm tearing myself to shreds over this
If I eat enough, run enough, swim enough, ruck enough and train myself enough maby one day I'll be good enough
So far already beat my running with weight record and swimming record
Please Jow Forums if you ever find someone who you feel you can genuinly say "I love you" to then say it as soon as you realise you feel that way about them
If you already feel like that about someone then go tell them now type out a big long paragraph and just get it done
Please do it for me Jow Forums
This has happened to me more times than I like and I'll tell you what it will drive you to insanity if you have that regret
lynch siggers
Meant to reply
aarp.org
You are not responsible for the debts of your dead relatives
Me too, since I found this thread a week ago, I have almost completely stopped going into other threads, with the exception of a couple in /out/. But now I've learned to just leave them when they devolve into shit talking.
>Thinking just eating no wheat
Whatever reason you think this will help, you're a complete retard. Whole-grains (including whole-wheat) foods are great for bulking and cutting. Whole grain pasta should be a staple of your diet.
>shoving down testosterone boosting foods
No food is going to boost your testosterone significantly (enough to make it worthwhile) unless you have a deficiency. Take a zinc supplement if you HAVE to feel like you're boosting your testosterone, it's likely the only thing you aren't getting enough of.
>pushups, biking, and pullups every day while eating at maintenance calories.
Get a gym membership and start lifting on a routine that hits everything 3x a week (full body 3x/wk, upper/lower 6x/wk, push/pull 6x/wk, etc). If you can't go to the gym/can't afford to, do a basic calisthenics routine with cardio. Chins/pushups/dips/squats with any kind of weight you can use (backpack, laundry baskets filled with shit, etc) will be helpful
Cardio is a good idea too, but you need to watch your diet first and foremost. Eat 500 or so calories under your TDEE for a couple months. Try to lose ~5-10lbs before you start a light bulk (~250 or so over TDEE).
>27 years old
>getting back into the gym after a motorcycle accident
>doing deadlifts, sqauts, bench and pendlay rows to get form in order while progressively overloading
>guy I work with who is absolutely massive, does 400kg deadlifts helped me with my form
>intended on doing 45kg but he monitored my form and pushed me to do 100kg correctly
>first time in almost a decade where someone had some real faith in me
>felt like crying tears of joy, the emotional feeling was that intense
>realised that I can do more in my life than what I imagined
>actively pushing myself with my diet
>decided to go to university to become a paramedic
>feeling less suicidal by the day
This event is a memory I'm going to hold dear for a very long time. I want to be a better person and I've got no excuses to stop.
You’ll be disrespecting your wife that the Lord has set aside for you as a Christian.
hs senior here too. next year both you and i have an opportunity to start new in college. don't fuck this up. im a massive nerd and spend a lot of my time studying for school and doing my schoolwork and im pretty socially autistic which is why i avoid clubs/competitions - im going to UVA based solely on my achievements with respect to GPA and SAT and shit, but i know i can do better if i just manned up and got a fuckin hobby that impresses graduate schools/employers . although it's too late for me to get into an amazing college (uva is still great, but i know i can do better), im not going to let my previous failures stop me from pursuing my potential. i WILL get involved at my college, and i WILL rectify my mistakes from hs. do the same bro with your studies. almost everything in hs once you reach college is irrelevant and it's a chance for us to restart, so don't be a pussy, look forward, and take the opportunity. you can do this dude. show your friends that you're worthy of being in the same boat because trust me, being smart just takes hard work - you can overcome any genetic disadvantage you have with IQ by sheer hard work. it's doable. i know because i've seen it before - i've done it before. there should be absolutely NO reason you can't too, and you and i still have the whole world ahead of us. however don't use the fact that we still have so much time to not take action in changing your life - start the grind now somehow. it will be tough. that's the point. you're doing something you're not used to, and that's fine. put in that work to get rid of that horrible horrible feeling that you get when you see your accomplished friends finish ahead of you. it WILL come back unless you do something about it
best of luck dude. you got this - seriously. as much as I KNOW you have the potential, keep in mind that potential means nothing - it's how you act on your potential that determines your worth. so just do it and achieve your potential
>35
Pretty sure no one is set aside for me at this point
>start browsing Jow Forums and getting Jow Forums a couple years ago
>My lifelong belief that I have great hair starts to wane, I finally taken notice of my dermatitis
>scratching scratching scratching
>shampoos that don't help
>start using one of the medicated, some peppermint oil with water, and black tar shampoo, one day after the other
>obsessively checking out my hair, convinced its thinning out, but I got back and look at pictures from years ago and nothings different
How do I refocus and stop obsessing over this whether its happening or not, /sig/?
Glad to hear it user, keep it up. Glad that guy took the time, he never knows he could've saved a life
God I wish that were me. Congratulations user.
Any psych bros on here? I need some advice. I'm currently on Fluoxetine (prozac) for OCD, but am considering switching for reasons outlined below. My options are fluvoxamine (Luvox-Fujisawa, Depromel-Meiji Seika), paroxetine (Paxil-GSK), sertraline (Zoloft-Pfizer), and the SNRI milnacipran (Toledomin-Asahi Kasei-Janssen)
>Be me (faggot) age 27
>From poor white trash home but smart and resourceful so managed to get scholarships and loans
>Studied Japanese, a weeby area of interest of mine since childhood, fairly intensely
>Apply for JET
>During the application process, learn my current OCD meds are illegal in Japan, would have to experiment which, besides probably causing me misery, may get expensive
>Get rejected, oh well, give up on that dream
>Buckle down, work hard, manage to pay off my student loans
>OCD more or less under control with current medication (fluoxetine)
>Just moved to a new town, applying for jobs (commuting in the mean time,) lifts going up, cut going well, starting to branch out/make friends here, things going pretty good
>Had something akin to a panic attack at work today
>Sudden sense of dread washed over me, where I was suddenly hit with a fact that's been brewing ever since the medication thing dissuaded me: that if I don't make an attempt to live and work in Japan, I will regret it for the rest of my life
>Whether this is motivated by a 1/3rd life crisis, or a motivation to blow up my life now that things are going good, or an actual need to give it a shot, I am not sure, but I've decided to go for it
First step is dealing with my medication. I know its not an objectively good idea (when you find something that works, you should stick with it,) but I feel my course is set.
Anyhow, any advice, psychoanalysis, or if you just want to call me a retard, would be appreciated.
>Across the board its bs and b-s, with a few As here and there
It sounds like the company you keep is very on the ball, but these grades are nothing to be ashasmed of. If you are smart enough to introspect on your issues you can overcome them. I believe in any user that find /sig/ and reads through posts and material here. Start small and do well your senior year. You haven't dug a large hole for yourself at all, you are starting above where most are and can be above average by the time you graduate. In a few years this will all seem silly, but right now just give all the effort you can to grades, fitness in some form, and be kind and outgoing socially. You will do great user, the first step is understanding what to improve, and you've done that entirely on your own.
artofmanliness.com
What are your OCD symptoms? I have OCD and manage it without medication. Good on you for realizing your dream, no reason you can't make it happen.
What meds do you take? I'm afraid to go off it because I get pretty bad without it, but I feel I gotta at least try. I figure I can likely figure out if each alternative works or not after experimenting with them for 2 months each. I can stand 6 months of misery if it means giving it a shot.
>Get weirdly under the impression that I've written something horribly offensive or threatening on key documents (such as essays or work emails,) thus forcing myself to check over anything written like 50 times (only 2-0 times on medication)
>Have to check the stove, door, faucet, etc. several times before I can tear myself away from the house (once again, like 1-2 times on meds, a lot more otherwise)
>Am pretty much constantly concerned I've contracted some STD, whether or not I've been tested since the last time I've had sex (I have been)
>A combination of these things makes me extremely anxious and depressed; I am able to hide it from the outside world well enough though
What symptoms of OCD are worst for you?
I've dealt with "Pure O" (not a "real" classification, but whatev), and I found supplementing magnesium helped cure (for the most part) intrusive thoughts and panic attacks (totally a fluke, I started taking it for migraines). I started out on magnesium citrate, which is supposed to be the most easily absorbed, but I've found oxide works just as well.
CBT and exposure work great and are backed up by actual science.
>not legal
but psilocybin mushrooms are also supposed to be good for OCD. Not that I'd know.
I was able to wean myself off of my Celexa, and I've been doing alright for the past 5+ years. Usually in the winters I'll start getting worse, but I just power through.
I know not everyone can go off their meds, but that's my story.
>>had to pay off my fathers debt
what shithole country are you from?
Never taken meds but everything you listed is literally what I do. Maybe just try living without meds, user. Good luck.