>18
small but close-knit group of friends with common interests, always someone to hang out with on the weekends. Not exactly popular but get invited to stuff most weeks.
>28
Drifted away from everyone I ever befriended at school and college, no one ever messages me, only social events are awful office parties
Is this normal? I may as well kill myself when I hit 30 if the meme about school/university being the best time of your life is true
you're supposed to have steady relationships at this point you freak
i'm only 19 and i literally can't find anyone to hang out with ever
me too
my social life basically ended after high school
i'm not going to college and i work for myself so i've literally had 0 social contact for about 2 years now and it's driving me insane
pretty much in the same boat here, i just go to the city most weekends and ask homeless people (homies) to buy me alcohol. i proceed to get drunk and walk around creeping on pretty women. i dont think they notice haha.
I drifted away from most of my friends from school either because they because arseholes or because I became an arsehole myself. I don't know which, but all I know is I don't miss them. I don't get lonely anyway, never have done even back when I had friends. I don't understand people who feel the constant need for human interaction. Me? I wish people would just fuck off and leave me be
I only talk to my grandfather now
*became arseholes
how rude. I feel awkward messaging people and all my friends moved to different cities and naturally drifted apart
after highschool my social life has become barely non-existent, i only go out for food, drinks and cigs, i also do use drugs to make myself feel better so i have to buy it from a dealer if that counts as social interaction, but the last time i smoked weed was in december, in 2019 in general ive become a bigger shitstorm, im gonna most probably end it all in a couple of months or years
This. I'm 23 and just realized recently all 3 of my friends at the same age have long term gfs and none live with their parents now. I'm now quite determined to have things changed up by year's end.
I got drunk and messaged everyone I'd drifted away from but it didn't really change shit, went to the pub and caught up and then after that we didn't speak again for ages. The fact is everyone has moved on with their lives and I'm no longer a priority to anyone, even my parents, which is fair enough but fucking depressing. I used to constantly have stuff going on in my life and I took it for granted. If I ever get married I will honestly have about 3-5 people to invite
Where do you even meet interesting people?
Everyone I've ever met in real life who I thought might be interesting turned out to be basic.
I met some genuinely interesting people at university. Tended to be foreign, rich people that had the most to say. 90% of people I have met I have found pretty tedious to talk to
I'm also 28 and this is pretty much what happened to me too. Turns out people never really liked you _that_ much.
Although to be fair you didn't like them that much either, did you?
Yeah no luck there until now. But it's never to late I guess.
I don't even want people to share some special niche interest or anything, I just want to talk about something more interesting than the fucking weather.
no but I at least thought they wouldn't completely cut me out of their lives. I guess the moment I stopped being a house to crash at and way to get into parties I lost all my market value to them.
>had a few friends in high school
>only heard from one of them after graduating
>talked to him via email less and less over time
>haven't heard from him for a few months
I'm in college now with a few people I talk to during class, but rarely outside of that (unless we're doing homework together).
One of them outright told me that we'll probably never talk to each other again once we graduate. For some reason, it didn't really bother me. I guess I just have low expectations for friendship.
My parents have the same problem. They've made a bunch of friends throughout their lives, but lost touch with all of them except one.
I think this might be hereditary. At least I won't have to worry about passing it to another generation.
25 now. had a very tight group of friends in high school. used to get along great and have great times getting stoned etc.
it seems after high school the differences get magnified. where as in high school I might have been the slightly weird one, after highschool these small things tend to create massive rifts in lifestyle. they all pretty much became complete normalfags and hit all the normal points of development where as my autistic traits caused me to become more isolated and like a stereotypical loser. it's a real shame because I really enjoyed hanging out with them but every time I try to socialise with them now it's just painfully awkward because our lifestyles are so different and we have nothing in common. They have steady jobs, relationships, futures and a few of them will probably be getting married soon.
When I hang out with them I just sit there for the majority of the time bored out of my mind while they talk about everyday normal things that are completely alien to me
That's pretty much it, friend. The thing is that it would probably be possible to resign oneself to having no real friends if one could stay a hermit and never have to interact with anyone else ever again. But as it stands, as long as you're not a NEET with neetbux or otherwise able to go full hikki/hermit, you'll always keep getting reminded of your aloofness.
>this
College is fucking awful especially if u study something that a lot of autists attend like computer science
I feel like i died back in high school