Late night lonely feels

That seems pretty neat. What are you getting a phd on user?

>tfw 31
>tfw teen gf messaged me yesterday to catch up, she does this like once every 6 months
>tfw she has a kid and is married now, she seems happy
>tfw no gf but try to make things seem ok to her so she doesnt worry about me too much since i know that chapter is long over

M8, here is an insight: Not a single woman goes shopping for shoes barefoot.

Just accept it, socialize, keep going. Try fuck some chicks in relationships. They are less pain in your ass, and a breakup is usually close to painless.

Yeah dude, unironically I was like that too until I found Jesus and started to live how He would and love life and other like He did. Take the breadpill bro.

ay champ, better to spill your spaghetti then to let her get away. Go get er champ

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>Spent most of my day jerking to degenerate porn.
>Forced myself to go out tonight so i can stay away from the computer as punishment. Ended up enjoying it.
>Just got a match with a qt on bumble. Hoping she replies.

Stay strong bro.
One of the best thing is to realize your faults. Try your best not to be a scum.

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I don't feel so bad because I've always been alone, I don't know how it feels to be in someone else's company.

fuck man maybe you're right, but i don't fuck with cheating, i appreciate the insight tho

My neck fucking hurts so bad its really annoying its putting me in a foul mood. My neck hurts my legs hurt my shoulder aches. I hate it. I just want to be normal ahhhhhhh.

bro you already have her "no" if you don't do anything, who gives a shit if you do drop the spaghetti, it's always better to take a chance on something than live the regret of not doing anything until you die

the solution is to truly deep down at the core of your being not give a fuck whether she says yes or no

Applied/Computational Mathematics.
Pretty much just stayed in school to avoid having to get a job (got fellowship). Now I'm running out of time on the degree, but if I can pull it off I'll make a decent amount of shekels. Just have to overcome the depression and put the hours in. Doing original research and writing dissertation is brutal compared to just taking classes.

He is. Not too late for you, user. Plenty of sad fucks at 50 wishing they hadn't been dicking around at 30.

>health high-IQ athletic handsome kid
similar story with me, user. Was one of the best athletes, musicians, and intellects in the middle-school years. Girls liked me, popular with the jocks and the band nerds.
But I was pretty Asperger's and right before I hit high-school I was hit hard by depression for whatever reason and things just went downhill. Didn't lose virginity until 28 y.o.

We believe in you bro, you can do it!

It is never too early to fix yourself and get your life back on the narrow road. And to answer your question, yes.

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i know that feel man. i work a shit job and never take any time off cause i got nothing to do, im the lowest guy on the totem pole, not really respected, wish i could just not show up anymore so people see im improtant

It seems like everything in my life is going well except my relationship. I can’t stand my gf anymore but I don’t have the willpower to dump her and even if I did I know the breakup will be messy as fuck. I don’t see myself marrying her or even falling back in love with her so I guess there’s no point in living a lie anymore either.

On a positive note I went to the gym tonight and i was the only one there for the entire time. At first I thought my bench progress was slowing but it turns out I upped my weight by 10lbs instead of 5 by mistake.

Thanks lads

dog the last thing you want in a relationship that is going nowhere is to dwell on it until it backfires and everybody is hurt. the breakup may be messy but it's better than to lead her on forever, let her be happy alone/with someone else if she doesn't make you happy anymore.

had a kinda similar story. wasnt the most popular guy before high school but had friends, participated in sports, smart, was relatively well adjusted.

then high school came and everything fell apart. was still smart but socially i absolutely cratered which ruined my life in college then continuation 5 years now post college. and even though i was bad socially i held out hope that my smarts would carry me to at least a good job, end up performing mediocrely in college and having a shit job with no clue what to do and a miserable life

have you tried going to a doctor?

Only thing I wish for ATm would be for my parents to stop hounding me on getting health insurance for my job. I don't wanna be spending an extra $100-$200 when I'm already living every othe rpaycheck to every other paycheck. If I straight up tell them I'm not getting it then they respond that they'll pay. I just want them to stop holding my hand and let me live independently. I'm 24 FFS and I'm getting lectured on life by 2 people that live in the same house in the same small town in bumfuck that never even made more than $15/hour at any of their jobs. Just because you couldn't make doesn't mean I won't.

Wanna know how I know you're no older than 22?

you should. just ghost the fuck out of them at a pivotal moment dude i guarantee you'll fuck them up and it will feel great. im seriously thinking about it, even have another job lined up

I've honestly had an absolutely surreal last couple of weeks. I've been getting 4 hours of sleep and drinking every night, trying to cope with the fact that I'm just too weird of a guy for somebody to be close friends with.
Also, I told 'her' how i feel a couple weeks back, got rejected, and somehow we're still friends. Turns out the reason was that she had feelings for one of my much more attractive friends. I'm always the most autistic out of any social circle I find myself in, which has fucked me over with women pretty much my entire life.

>set up date with a girl
>everythings going great
>talk to her about time today
>she ignores the question and goes to small talk
>setting up to be like every other ghost i ever experienced
Do i say something came up, cancel the date, and wish her the best.
or do i just let it play out and get ghosted?

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don't back down now, just see how it ends dude, fuck it what do you have to lose?

it's only been a day but if it doesn't go away by next week then yes I'm going in.
I dont get it, I was only squatting 60lbs 5 sets of 10. yeah imma newbie.

Casually bring it up again in conversation. If she doesn't respond then you got what you expected. If she wants to set a time then you got what you wanted. If she dodges the question again, just drop her ass. Don't even say anything. Just delete and block her number

everyone is getting ghosted these days it's really not personal it's just the modern dating scene.

It's hard to say without knowing you but maybe you just need a hobby that is very niche to get into, like even powerlifting would be good, people in those circles are usually a little fucked up by life anyway so you can fit in if you learn enough about it

about the girl, yeah man that shit happens but at least you had the balls to go tell her you know? i'm sure you will find someone who gives a shit about you like you do about them, and even if you don't thats okay too dog, don't stress over it too much

When I get the feeling I'm going to get ghosted, sometimes I like to troll.
>'hey, the first date was great'
>'how about we meet next X to do X'
>no reply for many hours
>'nevermind Stacey, I actually forgot I will be attending a White Supremacist meetup during that time.'

did you have any medical condition going in to the gym? has your neck ever hurt like that before? how long have you been training?

I think you're right about the hobby thing. I'm set to go to uni this semester after a several-year break, so I think I'll really try to find something I'm passionate about and go all in on it. The powerlifting is something I'm working on too. 2 weeks into 5x5 right now, so here's hoping that pays off.
Man, this thing with the girl still fucks with my head though. We actually work together, and it kind of digs at me whenever we're at work or hanging out otherwise. I'm trying to get her off my mind and focus on bettering myself, but it's certainly not easy going.

been doing squats for 2 months now.
I started with goblet squats then moved to back squats. I thought my form was fine but obviously not.
I had no neck problems prior just wrist issues from playing guitar/skateboarding.
I've felt this pain before after sleeping weird but never had this headache associated with it.

Unfortunately i got a booty call today and turned it down for the date and got bitched out.
It's a rare occurrence, but i am losing something.

good advice, if she texts me ill work it in somewhere down the line.
Yeah, but always trying to give them the benefit of the doubt and end up spending a few days preparing for nothing, it feels bad and sometimes other options get snatched up.

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that's awesome man, I'm rooting for you to find your passions there, and yeah if you really get into powerlifting try going on meets even just for fun, the people are usually like a big family and everybody is there to have a good time lifting.

I completely understand, I go to uni with one of my exes and go to church with the other, you just have to find something to keep your focus on, be it a hobby like we mentioned before, God, your body and bettering yourself, anything, but try not to deny yourself of those feelings because it's important to "live your sadness" lest it burrows deep into you and you can't feel love again.

hmm it's hard to say, you don't really see that many neck related injuries in the squat, but what may be happening is that you're coming up from the hole with your neck instead of your legs/back in a good-morning motion, look up "low bar squatting" next time and try putting the bar on your shoulder blades instead of your neck

I’m a recent university graduate. I had a plan and aspirations, but those things quickly fell through or failed. My and girlfriend and I split, went our separate ways. It’s hurt but I’m fighting. My aunt kind of saw what I was going through. Offered me an internship at her financial advising firm out on the east coast. And I’ve doing this gig all summer. I commute everyday by bike and train. And then hit the gym after work everyday. The isolation from friends, drama and everything else has allowed me to meditate on my thoughts and situation. I’ve gained a new perspective and mindset. I have a new plan and ambitions. The fear of failure is real, but I’m willing to take the risk. We’re gonna make it bros

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I don't think I'm gonna make it.

I'm a skinny dyel fgt and I feel like my goals will be unachievable to not feel so small.

You're totally right about that 'living your sadness' thing.
I get some kind of weird satisfaction out of being in a bad mood and wallowing in the feels, and it makes these bad stretches a lot worse, simply because I don't always want to get out of it.
Recently, I had a personal epiphany regarding how little control i exert over my own thoughts, and I've been trying to re-exert myself in the last couple of days, with some success.

I think you hit it spot on. Bar placement was off and I strained too hard. Unfortunately I'm now afraid of back squats and gonna move to pistol squats instead after i heal.

That's awesome dude. That feeling of leaning into the risk is something we all gotta embrace.

I only lift to cope with loneliness, it gets my mind off everything going on in my life. Lifting is prettyy peaceful, much like a /nightwalk/. I wont ever find a girl and as such I have accepted it. Maybe its because of personalty, maybe its because of looks, I dont know, Ive never had a girlfriend so I wouldnt know.

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I understand being afraid of doing something that hurt you but barbell squats are essential in the gym so if I could offer some more advice it would be to heal and then learn how to do the movement properly instead of dropping it for an inferior one, but of course don't push yourself if it starts hurting again, pain from physical exertion is different than pain from an injury as I'm sure you know. Don't give up bro, you're gonna make it.

I'm glad to hear you are already working on yourself man, introspection goes a long way in the healing process, every time you think something hurtful try to question yourself "okay but where does this come from? why am I thinking this lie about myself?" and try to piece it together from there.

My gf of 6 years called me fat and left me. That was a year ago. I lost ~45 pounds to make up for this fact. I’m sad I don’t lift for myself, I lift to prove her wrong. I’m also scared I’ll die alone as I’ve only had casual sex since then, never anything meaningful. I’m an attractive guy but my autistic personality is incurable.

Thank you, i feel optimistic now.
No homo

I feel like the mindset you have is right for the wrong reasons. I mean, it's great that you have accepted the fact that you're not in a relationship or that you never have been, but don't believe in this lie that you don't deserve love or that you will never find anyone, because when you're not looking for one is usually when you find them. You're better than this, user.

>Not a single woman goes shopping for shoes barefoot
This has genuinely got to be the best metaphor I've heard in years

I'm happy to help you bro
No homo

>Not a single woman goes shopping for shoes barefoot.
>77
Naturally.

Gonna steal that

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I mean hell its a possibility I might get in a relationship but I have no idea. There's a lot of fish in the sea, I might catch one in this lifetime.

new semester starts monday, i have not enjoyed college at all but against my better judgement i am getting my hopes because maybe i'll actually have fun this semester and make friends and maybe even get my dick wet

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that's the spirit brother, you're gonna make it

Thanks brother. We're all gonna make it.

do you enjoy your major? and what are you majoring in?

Who else is drunk in this thread?

I hate my life.

>date some dude
>super shady, never go public
>never wants to go anywhere with me but I always see him doing stuff in public with other girls even when I offer to pay and drive
>insulted my love handles/hips after having sex with me for being too wide, and my breasts being small
>is unpredictable but demands I shave despite not giving me a few hour heads up
>never shows any affection, the most romantic thing he'll do is call me over for sex and make me leave
>still desperate
>spend 50$ on his valentine day gifts including furniture, food, and a cheesy plush of his favorite fandom, he tells me it's " too much" and acts ungrateful, gives the plush to his roommate
>continues to insult my body, confidence is in the shitter, all the while I helped him through depression and always helps him with his body dysmorphia
>plays a game of telling me he's going to stop seeing me, calls me over "just for movie" ends up fucking me each time
>now that I'm in a serious relationship and have a promise ring he keeps playing games and calling me over despite me blocking him

why are men like this? they can sense my desperation

I went on a date with a girl tonight at a bar and talked for like two hours and it went pretty well she dropped me off at my place and obviously wanted to come up but I didn't offer and just went inside cause I was pretty tired and didn't want to put a bunch of work into hooking up with her n shit what's my success rate of inviting her over tomorrow night? Also I know her twitter and she already tweeted "um excuse me?" Lmao

what pains you brother?

just have bad habits I can't break, can't lose what little weight I need to get a gf, lonely, no friends, no career/aspirations, about to turn 30 with nothing to show for it

all my fault too, just a bad feelings all around. wish I could restart my life.

Pretty high if you don't fucc it up again

it's not that men are like this, it's just that this guy is like this. The dude probably had a rough upbringing where he either was shown no love or his love was met with suppression so the only way he knows how to react to your previous showings of affection was to reject it. It doesn't make it okay, of course, but those things don't come from nothing.

You yourself I would bet come from something similar, but opposite, whereas you're very romantic and would love your partner to be the same way you're also afraid of losing them so you hold yourself hostage to a relationship that only hurts you. I'm glad that you did manage to lose the guy and found someone else who, hopefully, treats you with respect but please do not fall for the trap of this ex, you're better than this.

Same bro. Same

I can't tell if a girl is interested in me only as a friend or as more, and it bothers me. I don't dislike the attention, though, and we have the same interests. But I also know she's too insecure to ever confess if she feels more than just friendly feelings towards me.

>You yourself I would bet come from something similar, but opposite, whereas you're very romantic and would love your partner to be the same way you're also afraid of losing them
I've actually been told in previous relationships i was distant and emotionally unavailable, I'm usually quick to drop people hence why I didn't chase him when he pulled his antics again, I don't ask for a lot, this dude was just different and I saw a future with him,then again maybe it's just my mommy side coming out and my need to coddle and care

anyway, thank you user. Sending luck your way.

A friend of mine offered to take me out a couple weeks ago and I'm thinking about taking her up on the offer. I'm just afraid of my spaghetti breaking the flood gates. I'm already afraid of texting people because I feel like I'm bothering them, I don't like to make plans because I feel like I'm "inviting myself to the party" so to speak. What do bros

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you said so yourself man, it's all the fault of your habits, but what do you do going forward? what has happened has happened, obviously you can't go back to the past (yet) so you need to think of your present day, and then your future.

Start small, but often. If say your goal is to cut back on the weight just ditch the soda or eat a third less of your plate on each meal, no need to go nuts and cut back 1000kcal right now, ease into your new lifestyle. If your goal is to find friends and/or aspirations, as I said to another user, find a hobby that you can actually see yourself doing. Considering you're in the Jow Forums board I would assume you like some sort of athletics so I would recommend doing whatever sport fits you best, powerlifting is a good one because the barrier of entry is essentially non-existent and the sport is so small people like to help each other get better.

It's all about what you can do now, as they say, the best time to plant a tree was 30 years ago, the second best time is today. You can do it man.

I've got skinny ass legs due to thin bones and shit calf genetics. I've always gotten bullied and teased for it, even as an adult. Not even joking they're the thinnest legs I've ever seen on an adult. Its fucking stupid but this one trait has destroyed my confidence completely. Nothing I do makes them grow. 22 year old khhv and my legs are a big reason why.
>just wear pants
I do, every day. I live in florida and I look like a fucking weirdo for wearing jeans in the summer.

Thats good to here I pregamed the date with 3 shots and alcohol makes me pretty tired so that combined with going to a bar was a misplay for sure. I actually wasn't anxious the whole time like I thought I was going to be I was pretty chill makes me think I've been over thinking this whole dating thing for too long women ain't shit

ah I see, it's hard to not show love to someone who needs it.
well, I'm glad you didn't go after him again, I hope your current relationship is as good as can be. My best wishes user.

if it bothers you and you're sure she won't confess on her own right, ask her

Nah. We're coworkers. I'd at least have to wait until I got a new job.

Fuck legs, upper is the only thing that matters in this world.

you're not your legs man, c'mon, you have a whole body of attributes to show and you're only focusing on what you perceive is a negative?

besides, have you thought about *why* you care that someone actually thinks that?
think of it this way: do you remember the last time you saw someone trip on the sidewalk and fall on their face? I bet you don't, because it doesn't matter, we are too focused on our own problems to keep the memory of someone eating shit on the pavement, and that's not a bad thing, it's just human nature, and in the same way if you don't remember that why do you honestly believe anyone cares if your calves are small?

You have never felt the pain of having an entire class of girls laugh at your legs and comparing them with other dudes

it's going to come up eventually dog, do you have any feelings for her?

It's something that's immediately visible and illicits a disgust response. It's not just the smallness of the calves, the bones are also very thin.

My nan died.

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Dude that is fucked. Fuck those fucking thots. They dont deserve you whatsoever. You're so much better than them.

>illicits a disgust response
does it really? or is that what you've been led to believe because children are assholes and laughed at you which made you believe that you have a problem?

I'm so sorry to hear, my condolences. Were you close?

>not asking if after you can compare their pussy lips to see which of them is the biggest whore

ngmi

I have lived in a new area for 2 years. Never made any friends. No gf. 26 khv. All I do is work lift eat and sleep.
I hate my job. In fact I'm embarrassed to have such a job. Women think it's a turn off.

I don't know, I have huge trust issues with women. She's the first one I've managed to engage somehow with in years, which of course spark feelings inside me, but whether they'd be fit for a relationship I can't tell.

I want to stop being overweight but training doesnt work anymore
I should do diet but with my current lifestyle and my mum cooking for me it is impossible since she adds fat and salt and carrots to EVERYTHING

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I am in the same boat with the relationship shit. Mines slightly abusive and putting me back into the mind I had when I was bullied in highschool. Shit feels bad man.

Just eat less of it retard, fatties are so fucking stupid. I already have to look at you disgusting pigs in real life, can you not shit up our feels threads with your fat addled brains too