Why haven't you settle for a qt BPD gf?

This is the biggest load of horseshit I have ever heard. It's fun until you do something that gets you knocked from godhood to some equivalent of satan.

People with BPD cannot stand being alone. Someone with BPD will never leave you unless they have someone already lined up. The trick is to isolate them from everyone else so that they're dependent on you, or find one who is already isolated.
Most every "fembot" you meet will have bpd or some other mental health issue.

Yes, I know that. Now how do I get fembots to meet? I've posted in threads before, and have gotten two adds. One didn't speak to me, and the other was the ddlg girl who also happened to be a camgirl. Sometimes I try to talk to them and none will reply back, or will say "sorry user I don't trade contact info."

Because there are no bpd gfs to settle for. If there were then they would quickly be snatched up because the demand outweighs the supply.

I did. At the time I didn't know what bpd was, and just rationalised her strange behaviour as just strange quirks. She didn't know she had it either (she might just not have told me, but she didn't seem like she secretly knew). She ended up emotionally abusing me, trying to manipulate me into feeling like shit. I broke up with her the first time it affected me. After that, I noticed she tried doing it several times before. I just never got affected by it.

To any anons out there thinking of getting with a bpd gf, don't do it. She will only make all your problems worse.

You don't

Fembots get snatched up immediately after becoming single, the only girls looking for a bf on this board are trannies.

If I could find another one who does not fuck around and cheats on her "I hate you and the whole world is your fault" times, I seriously would.

So intense and satisfying.

I guess that would make sense. Sucks though. I figure I would get at least ONE interested reply to any of my posts in threads just do to sheer luck plus the numbers advantage. Never usually do.

>Don't you want to be loved and adored user?
I want someone I can actually trust.

Not the same guy.
If you really want to try it, the way to actually get a bpd gf is to frequently interact with her in a casual way, so that she is aware of your existence, and eventually considers you as a potential partner. Then just wait until she abuses all the other men who are in front of you in her list to the point where they leave her. Doesn't work if you are just orbiting her among a whole bunch more orbiters, so try outside of Jow Forums.

This is actually accurate. Orbiting doesn't work on most women, but if you orbit a bpd girl long enough she will eventually start to idealize you.

Yeah, my friend. No way I'll ever have luck outside of Jow Forums. I figure most bpd girls are into the alt scene. I'm a quiet guy that works out and works in a professional setting. I doubt think I've ever interacted with girls who aren't mega stacies. Who to add, I have chance with. As far as dating sites, no luck there after maybe a year of trying.

Dont* and have no chance with.

In my case she didn't start to idolise me, but she did take an interest.

> I figure most bpd girls are into the alt scene
Yeah, actually. Any alt-like scene will do though. I met a whole bunch literally through facebook meme groups.

>I doubt think I've ever interacted with girls who aren't mega stacies
Women with bpd can be mega-stacies. Unless you know what to look for, some bpd women pass really well.

>As far as dating sites, no luck there after maybe a year of trying
How bad was it? Got matches but none went anywhere, or no matches at all?

I don't use facebook. I'm sure there are, but a mega stacy would not be interested in me I think. I got like 20 maches on tinder. Pretty much all were bots except a few. None met up with me. I tried okc, I got like 6 matches. Only one ever responded that was a girl, and then another was a transgender which I wasn't interested in.

>I don't use facebook
That's too bad, because it's the only place where I've been able to get women with bpd.

>I'm sure there are, but a mega stacy would not be interested in me I think
Probably not unless you are a mega-chad.

>I got like 20 maches on tinder. Pretty much all were bots except a few. None met up with me
Same. I only actually managed to keep a conversation for more than 4 lines with 2 women there, and neither went anywhere.

> tried okc, I got like 6 matches
I didn't know they started using matches. Last I used it, the only thing it had was a feature that measured your similarity in terms of questions you answered.

God someone, anyone please date me. Im so lonely and no one wants to deal with my borderline. I always end up pushing them away and they let me because they dont understand what i want, and then i dont communicate with them. i have so many identity issues and i have no impulse control. i have all 9 symptoms and every day is a struggle and i have no friends holy shit i hate everything

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Where do you live, user? I will date you if youre some what near by

I was living with one for 2 years and she randomly left with a note on halloween 16

The note said "sorry, I need space, don't contact me"

Im in the US but I dont want to say anymore because revealing too much information will make people want to leave me

I would but she lives in another country
A ldr wouldn't work either
We would probably be happier if we were closer together
Feels bad man

never stick your dick in crazy as they say

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They'd probably set off my AvPD really badly. Clingy and abusive is my worst nightmare.

Im from the US too user. If youre from the western US, wanna date?

Why would giving a state make people want to leave you? We can talk in private if you don't want to post your location on here. [email protected]

Stay away from my future gf, I asked first

for the few weeks they actually care about me, sure
been there before
it ends in sadness

>one living across the street
>she always grins and gives me comehither looks when we meet
>professional working girl

well fuck. It is sort of nice to imagine at least

Im not so you would never want me
I would kill myself for you

I already dont want you because youre telling other guys youd kill yourself for them in front of me. You couldve waited until after. I wouldve literally flown across the country to love and cherish you, but you already failed

The order of events doesn't matter. It's up to who she chooses.

Send me an email and we can talk some more then.

I'm a man, who I think may have borderline.
Do you have to abandon people and be cruel?
I don't think I do that. I'm just incredibly lonely, have a history of cutting and suicide attempts, alcohol and drug abuse, have horrible reactions to people leaving me, etc.
But I don't think I'm mean to anyone. The people who hate me hate me because I need too much. Is the sudden disinterest a female thing, or am I misdiagnosed?

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>Is the sudden disinterest a female thing, or am I misdiagnosed?
No. Only certain individuals with bpd have it. I know 2 girls with bpd, and none of them do that. I wish the one I was with had done it, so then I wouldn't have gotten the whole barrage of abuse when I broke up with her (because she had been emotionally abusive to me).

you didnt want me in the first place

you have to meet at least 5 of the criteria to be diagnosed. splitting (the second one on the list) isnt needed but its a big part of having bpd.
you go from loving someone to disliking them for almost no reason. but of course you should be diagnosed by a professional.

I feel like I'm in the same boat. I've never been diagnosed with bpd though, nor do I cut or try and suicide. My positive emotions are extreme, but my negative are very subdued. I rarely get angry or mean to people. I fall in love hard, am very clingy, and would do almost anything for someone, except just blatantly send money. For example, I once met a femanon who lived in Europe. I dropped everything for her. Dropped contact from everyone and focused on her, even while I was working. She said she wanted to meet one day. You know what I did? I paid 200 dollars to get express mail on a passport so I would be ready. You know what happened like a month later? Ghosted. I feel like I do this to pretty much every girl that comes in contact with me that I like.

Look into OCD. It would explain the clinginess and falling in love hard.

I wish I had so many opportunities to find love that I could callously dismiss someone who says they would fly across the country to love and cherish me.

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I've been to a psychiatrist. He didn't think I had it. He diagnosed me with uncategorized bipolar disorder. I should add my life is sort of split into months, and it tends to be a rollercoaster. I'm a decently smart guy, so when I'm in my "highs" I tend to very well, which is what put me in a position to drop everything and do anything when I fall in love.

What I mean was that if you lived in the west US we could go on dates right away. If you didn't we'd have to get to know each other a bit by doing things together online. If you were someone who managed to like me enough, then yes, I would do that no questions asked.

Yeah that does sound like a strange type of bipolar. OCD doesn't have highs and lows.

youre almost definitely bipolar. having bpd sucks. you also need to show self harming / suicial behaviors. if youve already been diagnosed, dont worry too much. misdiagnosing yourself is the best way to fuck yourself up even more.
lets be honest. no one knows who you are. they just all have a savior complex.
you wouldnt want me anyways. dont underestimate bpd because im a shit person and i want to die

I'm both the user that wanted you and the bipolar one. You probably wouldn't want me. I'm a very sad individual. Like three years ago, I met a girl here who wasn't even my gf. She lived 9 hours away by car, and I drove that and back every weekend for like 6 months, just to not feel lonely. Soon as I hit a low, she ghosted me because I couldn't come as often. Good luck with the other user.

>lets be honest. no one knows who you are. they just all have a savior complex.
A guy with a savior complex sounds pretty great when you're in a terrible situation.

im crying thanks user now im probably going to self harm in memory of you
please dont forget me
this is true except they realize you cant be helped because you have no motivation to get better and then they leave you just like everyone else

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>"Why haven't you crawled into a dumpster and injected yourself with a needle full of pozzed up cum fresh from the clubs?"
gee i dunno OP, tough one. a real noodler.

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You definitely do NOT have to avoid people or be cruel. I have BPD and have never abandoned someone before (due to the fear of abandonment I have myself), however sometimes it will lead to self-sabotaging relationships. I'm rarely cruel, often cold, but never cruel or manipulative like much more severe cases or TV/movie dramatizations. I think that the sudden disinterest you're referring to is splitting, which is one of the biggest symptoms of BPD but not necessary to be diagnosed.

It's alright, user. Crying can be good. There was a period back in 2016 where I cried every day of December. Felt better afterwards. I'll be honest, I'll probably forget you in a few days. When I talk to people, I tend to obsess over them and take notes on them though. I never tell them because I know that'll drive them away. I do it so they can like me more. For example, for that girls birthday I learned to carve wood because she liked that, and then I carved a her favorite animal which she had only mentioned once and it was like 7 months before. I try to keep most of the notes, but there are a few people I've gotten rid of.

Goddamn it where is that user from a while back trying to build a TV show, it sounded good.

I wonder what a relationship between someone with ASPD and the other with BPD would look like

People with BPD often end up with people who have ASPD or NPD because of how susceptible they are to manipulation. The person with BPD usually ends up being abused until the other party leaves.

Pretty abusive probably

>tfw i waited for the girl i had a crush on to break up with her boyfriend and she got another within a day
I need to meet more people

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Ive been alone my whole life even if i found one, i wouldn't even know how to act.

I don't even know the particulars of that illness, but I have suspicions I couldn't even wrangle one of those regardless of whether that would be wise or not.

I always hear people say that incellery is only a product of having too high expectations. I decided to "lower my standards" when I came across this furry on OkCupid who had her cringy ass deviantart OC in her profile. Really not my cup of tea but I figured I needed to keep going down until someone liked me. Then even she rejected me. Spurned by a fucking furry. At that point I figured I was done with women in general.

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my mom has BPD, so really I've gotten my fill for the rest of my life.

People can be pretty picky because, well, lot's of reasons. If you're going to use a dating website, I think it is more of a question of quantity of contacts rather than who you are asking out.

In the past year, I've spent many hours on these sites getting nowhere. How much does it cost to buy a Ukrainian?

I hear what you are saying though, accuracy (inaccuracy?) through volume. Throw enough shots downrange and one will hit. I'm just concerned I'm so far off that it doesn't matter how many I send flying and I'm not sure what I am doing wrong. Shooting blind.

Hello, Id like a mentally ill gf to love. Thank you

>settled
>BPD

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cheated and abandoned
fixed that for you OP
also OP is a faggot

imagine taking the hypergamy of stupid females and multiplying it by 10, that's what you get with BPD girls

You can't settle with those "people".

i had a BPD gf and she gave me chlamydia because she cheated on me and didnt tell me about it until after we had sex

why did she cheat on me? because i came home from work later than usual one night because i decided to stop at fucking wal-mart, in her deranged mind she concluded that i was off fucking other women and she decided it was justified for her to go and fuck someone else

BPD girls not even once

I think my ex did this but she denied it. & said she would never do it. she would also say everything i said was lies & while i tried to defend myself from her lies. so deranged mind concluding she can lie all the time & i have to be ok with it & then make her feel better & accusing me of cheating + the gate being getting stuck open in the rain one night. bullying me into rawdogging for a few days then getting super angry at me pulling out starts claiming I pulled out so i could deny the baby was mine if she was pregnant & i was an asshole who would want to get a peternity test. fuck i need to get fucking tested. oh my god fuck that fucking whore. oh my fuckign god i might just be sperging out too hard but i really really should kms

Dated a girl with bpd for several years long distance. It was the best experience in my life and I'd take another in a heartbeat if given a chance. They get a bad rap but they're the most loving and kind girls if you treat them well an be patient with them. Give your all for one and they'll give their all for you. Sadly mine ended up finding someone better but I'm glad she's happy at least.

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>Where do I find that? Yeah, I've had a bpd girl add me, but she was into ddlg shit. I'm not into that.
Then you don't want a BPD, they're all into that now.

>I don't think I do that. I'm just incredibly lonely, have a history of cutting and suicide attempts, alcohol and drug abuse, have horrible reactions to people leaving me, etc.
That's just being an emo faggot, if it's not combined with sociopathy it's not BPD.

Ive seen plenty of bpd girls talk about what theyre into and not all are into that. I guess I wouldnt be opposed to it if it was simply sexual, but didn't act it out normally. I wouldn't mind being like a "father figure" of sorts, just not to a girl that acts like toddler. And I mean a literal one rather that just being immature or something.

underrated comment

what was your worst meltdown?

They latch onto it because it's a sexual expression of their character. They're undeveloped lazy hedonistic losers and it's easier to fetishize it than work on yourself.

>try the bpd bf meme because am a lonely khv fembot
>he threatens suicide and sends pictures of self-harm over the smallest things (I haven't responded for an hour because I was taking an exam)
>bullies me over things I can't change (mainly my height)
>always have to respond within 30 minutes, doesn't matter if I am sleeping or not
>have to defend him in /v/ threads if he asks
>talks to four other girls because "you are painfully average"
>"every bad thing I went through is your fault!"
>he only talks about himself, I cant talk about my day or interests
>"don't blame me, it's bpd"
I don't think female counterparts are much different. Please don't try it.

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Hi ill be your bf if youre looking and we manage to get along. Im not bpd, never self harmed, never tried killed myself, and im pretty stable, just kind of an autist

So you want to lose your sanity over nothing?
You should listen to this user:
I can 100% confirm and the last was really amazing. Fucking her for hours and making her cum many many times (she was 17 at that point)

Something similar happend to me, but after 8 Months. She left out of the blue and turned completly cold. Thank god she did, because my dumb ass would have settled for her crazy ass. Seriously she would have destroyed my life and I'm more than happy to have the experience with her, but nothing more.
I cannot stress this enough, but all Robots should listen to the anons, who have experience with BPD gf. 100% dependency as a robot + crazy bpd gf is a suicide concoction
She left me on fucking christmas, on New year eve at 2am and one day before my goddamn birthday and told me 2 months later that she got diagnosed with bpd. She had an enormous ddlg kink, loved the fact that I'm a dom guy and had absolutely no existing friend circle

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I have.
Not even as a sexual desperation thing but more as trying to help someone before I'm forgotten.
Even they don't want me.

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Sorry user, I can't leave him because he will kill himself if I do.

I'd try my best to help them improve. If I saw it was going nowhere, I'd probably just take care of them and love them. Probably indulge in their fetishes, except for non-sexual ddlg. I'd put my foot down on that.

Damn, user. Thats sounds terribly unhealthy and pretty abusive. Hope you manage to work that out.

And they'll shit all over your efforts and ghost you. Try it if you don't believe me. The more you care the more they resent you.

Reminder none of this is actually your fault and that he won't in fact kill himself. It's a manipulation tactic and you should get out. Even if he's one of the few people that do, you're still not to blame because you kept him alive for a lot longer than he would have been otherwise. Someone that has the energy to tell you they're going to kill themselves is 95% of the time doing it for attention.

t. legitimately tried to kill myself after my gf left me but didn't tell her or plan to

I mean I know that, I assume most people will leave me sooner or later just because of the way I am. The way I see it, at least I helped someone else for a while and got rid of my loneliness

just like my bpd gf. i also can't get out.

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Come meet our resident bpd femcels and find your very own e-gf or even qt trap gf!

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Thank you for your kindness user, I truly appreciate it. I am sorry you had to go through such a terrible break up, but I am glad you are here with us today. Thank you once again.
The problem is, I just can't help but blame myself. I've tried to leave him once and he engraved my name into his arm with a knife, telling me that everyone will know why he died. I couldn't leave him. His parents refuse to put him in psych ward despite few suicide attempts.

Why cant I find a bpd girl who will never leave me

Is his name christopher?
In all seriousness though, the breakup was entirely my fault and I hurt her a lot. While I'd love to say I tried to end my life out of guilt I'm not that good of a person and did it entirely out of sadness and loneliness. It's pretty pathetic but I failed and time has passed so it is what it is. He is not your responsibility and you're actually enabling him by treating him this way. You're not a bad person and your intentions are good but you're actually hurting him in the long run. If he's too weak to survive you leaving that's unfortunate but he was ok before he met you. More than likely he will experience some pain, grow and be better/stronger for it. If you want out, get out because you will have the best feeling in a couple months when you can look back on it and be glad he's out of your life.

yeah dude, i am sure you would want a bpd gf who cheats on you, constantly calls you names, doesn't allow you to have any hobbies or free time, attempts and threatens suicide to get what she wants and makes your life living hell.

>got rid of my loneliness
You will never feel like they're actually there though.

I wouldn't mind any of that except leaving/ignoring me. I'd gladly be with her 24/7.

I mean, the cheating part I would immediately leave, yes. I had a bpd gf, so I know about the rest of the stuff, but guess what? She left ME for being too clingy. I put up with shit all the time. She'd runaway in the middle of the night while I was sleeping and I'd always have to get her once she got spooked. Got called names, got yelled at, picked her up from the hospital when she tried to sudoku. Pretty much became a full time cardtaker as well. I gave up all my hobbies and free time willingly to be honest. Yeah, it was hard but I enjoyed every minute of it for some reason. I'm probably just as mentally ill though.