/SIG/ - Self Improvement General

Gonna Make It Edition

It's almost the weekend lads, push through with all your strength and reap the rewards of a relaxing weekend. We all got this bros.

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- Another great guide covering lots of fields, including the Spirit, the Body, the Mind, the Social Being, Money/work/Jobs, and General Skills
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Previous : > What are you planning in order to kill it next week ?
> What is your ultimate dream ?
> What are your study materials at the moment ?
> Which one would you recommend that could help another user out there ?

You GOT THIS lads ! You can BE ANYTHING ! We're ALL gonna MAKE IT !

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I am at square zero with self improvement, no hobbies, bad sleep, low motivation, inconsistent workouts, etc. Someone please tell me where to start, how do I become more disciplined and motivated? Also need to go to church

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>get laid off
>24
>not much in savings
> parents willing to let me move back in
>kinda know what I want
>community college classes start in 3 weeks ( first year is gonna run me about 4 grand)

I've been wanting to give school a go for a while now but never got the chance because of work, but it feels like the stars have ligned up. I'm willing to put the work and develop healthy study habits but school is something totally out of my element and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't scared. The only thing holding me back debt that I'll have to take on for the first year (fafsa deadline is long gone) and failing out. Any advice is welcome bros

You've identified your problems. Sounds like it would help you best to set up a schedule for the week. A strict sleeping schedule, and allow time for doing productive things.
Write it down and pin it to your wall or something so its visually there and you cant ignore it. Follow it.

First off make sure you're going to college with a goal in mind. Do you know exactly what major or path you want to pursue with college?

My ultimate dream is to be an expert at my field (3D printing and generative design) and love doing what I do. I am going into my fourth year of uni now so I'm trying to spend the summer learning more 3D modeling softwares and the like.

Also learning Spanish and want to learn Mandarin since that's where the world is headed.

faggot Christian?

For the most part,yes. Although honestly, I can see my path changing while in school. I'm planning on getting my associates then doing the transfer the a state school. Seems like a far more economic path of obtaining your degree.

Truly Jow Forumstarded

>tfw I actually got the job
4 months since I applied and I'm finally in
Praying to sweet baby Jesus that it doesn't suck total ass

Yeah that's actually a great plan. Buckle down and take care of a lot of core curriculum classes at CC as well. That way when you finally do go to a University you can focus purely on your major path and take a relatively low credit load.
I would also recommend going to professors and asking them to work in their lab as an undergraduate research assistant. Even if you get turned down it will give you a chance to network and build relationships with them for later on down the road when they may have an opportunity for you to work with them.
College/University is not hard, all it requires of you is to apply yourself to your studies, and not be a total shitbag like 80% of your peers will be. Seriously, show up to class, do all of your homework, and go to office hours. Just doing those three things will all but guarantee you a passing grade in 90% of undergrad classes.

How do I kill my libido? I just want to stop masturbating but I'm constantly assaulted by the urges

It's not your libido. It's an addiction.

>Finally get an internship
>Fun at first
>8:30-5:30 every day
>Leave the house at 6AM, don't get back until 7PM

I'm at an all time high in terms of my interest in actually doing things, my hobbies etc. but I just have no fucking time, I'm always so exhausted and I'm even struggling to get myself to gym now, breaking 4 years of consistently going every other day.
Idk why I'm posting this really, I just needed to get it off my chest

>How's quitting porn going?
>How are you preparing for fall?
>Have you reached any of your goals so far?
>Have you finished those errands?
>What projects are you working on?

How fucking far away is your internship or are you doing other things before coming home. If you're doing other things tough shit that's just life, if you're drive is that fucking bad find another internship.

Jesus, your commute is 2 and a half hours each way? Spending 5 hours traveling every day would kill my drive to get to the gym too. Could you use your lunch break to hit the gym, and then eat while you work?

It’s only a 30 minute drive, but it gets infinitely worse and I have to drive through the city in rush hour

It’s only for a year and I need the experience, so I’m trying to push on, but I’m getting worried that I’m gonna break before that

Seek help

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You fucking retard. Pick a different path.

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>tfw I finally realized that my dad has autism (high-functioning 'tism, which he *used* to care a lot about hiding but slowly stopped putting in the needed effort)
>tfw I realized that a shitton of my personal hang-ups are a direct cause of it

I used to think that breakthroughs and other big "turning points" in people's lives were just memes/things that people said. But holy fuck, I feel like I actually have a good sense of who I am for the first time in a LONG time. (Well, maybe not a "good" sense, but if I was at like 10% clarity before, then I'm at 45% clarity now, which I'll take)

Two takeaways for other /sig/gers:
1) Unless you are pretty sure you're autistic (i.e. interest in trains/etc.; bad theory-of-mind; etc.), perhaps *you* aren't the autist of your family.
2) Big breakthroughs are actually possible.

What exactly is the third panel supposed to represent? So he reads books and becomes a sculptor?

Ubermensch.

An ubermensch bookworm sculptor of snake killing white men?

That works.

while your libido is whats causing you to masturbate, its also the only reason people have the energy to get things done. get through the first ~30 days of nofap and the urges will be much less frequent

Get your Jow Forums shit out of here.

Nope, is just your addiction to dopamine

the only reason you exist is to reproduce, your body has literally no other purpose

i'm a pretty big proponent of nofap/noporn but i think writing off the libido as a whole is pretty retarded

>What are you planning in order to kill it next week?

Mostly just trying to find a better paying job. With the week I had, this pretty much has gone from a want to a need. Other than that, I finally passed the test for phase 1 of AX1, so I start phase 2 on Monday.

>What is your ultimate dream?

Mostly I'm working on getting out of debt so I can start working on moving out to the nudist community near me. All I need to figure out is where I am going to get the mobile home I will need and how I'm going to pay for it.

>What are your study materials at the moment?

Currently reading "Fail Until You Don't" by Bobby Bones. Was reading "Capital in the 21st Century" by Thomas Piketty, but may drop it because it's kinda boring.

No real recs at this time.

So I feel like I have a pretty good handle on alot of areas in my life such as work, money, fitness,friends.
But in the women department I really seem to fall into the pattern of finding that one great chick (or so I think at the time), and making her my shot of dopamine every time I see and talk to her. Also I am more comfortable around chicks who already have boyfriends because I just figure I'm not dating them. A few chick I dated before had a bf when we first met and they ended up breaking up.
Recently one chick who went to my gym (who had a long distance bf I never met) moved just far enough away that she is kind of in my area but too far to really go to my gym anymore.
She was really a qt and quite fun to talk to but obviously I expected she would turn down any offer to hang out outside the gym and I never asked.
How should I go about getting over the fantasy of a possible relationship with her and other chicks in general? Should I send her a message that I would be down to chill if she ever is single?

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Gotta talk to more chicks. Open more opportunities. The more you do that the more you realize that personalities and "great chicks" are everywhere. Maybe not all of them are going to be your exact match, but you see what you like and don't like.

If you message her you need to be prepared for 99% chance of failure. She probably has an arsenal of friends who will encourage her to tell you to fuck off.

Also I hope english is not your first language dogbro

I'm looking for a way to make some moneh online. I live with my parents and i need some more pocket money. I am willing to put effort to get money, but i want returns, i don't want any of those websites where you have to hoard change for months before you can take it out. Also, i live in eastern europe so i don't have a lot of option. I was thinking about fiverr, but i can't find any useful skills that i have and that could be used on that website.

>decided I want to take a job overseas
>have about a year to get ready and get rid of all my shit
>want to leave with one backpack and 2 duffel bags' worth of shit
>have this weekend free to go through and sell everything I've been meaning to get rid of
>want to take like a month or maybe 2 before starting that job to travel, haven't had a real chance yet in my life, just got passport
>need to hustle to build extra money for that
>probably going to send my 2 duffel bags ahead of me if that's possible (mail them to my employer? some sort of luggage agency maybe?)
>eyeing general flight prices

>job fucked me over
>decided to be less productive since I'm unsupervised in a private office most of the day
>now editing my novel during work
>got 20% done today after "not having time" for the last 3 months (since I started working there)
>going to be done and ready to shill to agents by next weekend
>get to read it after not having touched it for a quarter of a year, so fresh eyes
>it's honestly a damned good book

Sounded like too much of a blogpost, my point with the first one was that I need to go even more minimalist than I already am. Also trying to lose weight (going to fast 2 days a week, or maybe every other day) so all my current clothes are already forfeit. I'll probably go with a minimum of outfits that still fit well and don't look shabby, and just buy new clothes in the new country. Except for like 3 outfits all my current clothes are shitty anyway.
I don't own much furniture as it is, probably craigslist it and if it doesn't sell in time I'll call up one of those donation trucks. It's just nice and motivating to keep minimal. There are some airplane unfriendly items I might have to use a shipping box for, though. Just a small box, shoebox size maybe.
It's exciting just thinking about it.

I'm 22 and finally about to reach my goal weight (from 260 pounds to around 175) and as a person who had a thriving social life in high school, girls were attracted to me and people liked me, I've never seen myself as the person who would have regrets eat at him so badly.
Over the past few months I've been working what is basically my first job in a very long time, I spent my first three years out of high school eating, packing on weight and crying myself to sleep because of a depression caused by family life problems and a bunch of things going on.
So, this job has been both a confidence boost and a reminder of how much of my life I wasted... girls like me at my job, a literal 8/10 girl is really into me, but I have so many issue I feel I can't put myself in a relationship, through all the weight loss and muscle gain I only prolonged my real life problems by sitting on the internet and watching porn and using all my free time to be a general waste of space cunt

I'm at the point where I'm 22 year old virgin who could easily lose his virginity but I still feel like that 260 pound hairy fat fuck and I just feel like ending it at this point, I see these couples my age who have been together since they were 15, they have kids, its like a dream story and they've been at this mature point all their lives that I'm just now reaching at age 22... whats the point, even if I reach these milestones in life they'll always come back to haunt me that I couldnt just have sucked it up and not threw away those years, those prime years of my life are gone as if I was in prison or fucking sleeping through them, but it's even worse because I wasn't... i was just being a fat fucking loser. On top of that, I've spent the last 4-5 years being an unapologetic porn addict, letting my porn tastes twist to the point that it dictated my sexual orientation, I'm afraid I'm going to have to use viagra just to lose my fucking virginity.

How do I get over lost time?

Join the Nofap Squad, retain your virginity but also retain your bindu and become great wizard! Not everything is lost fampai.

Remember:
> oh yes
>there are worse things than
>being alone
>but it often takes decades
>to realize this
>and most often
>when you do
>it's too late
>and there's nothing worse
>than
>too late.

I've been nofap for about 2 weeks
I've thought about this too, I don't want my life to be ruled by sex and dopamine rushes... I want to be a self motivated person, not a pussy hound retard who does everything for girls, but I also just want to experience making love just once as a pleasurable experience while I'm young, with a beautiful woman

I think the whole "90 day nofap reset" is a bit of Reddit meme but I would like to try for a 30 day just because it'd be the longest time without touching my dick since probably 14 years old. (27 now). I'd also like to completely cut out porn and try to limit my viewing of sensual photographs of women on the internet in order to desensitize myself to the infinite variety the net has spoiled me with over these years.

The hardest part has been getting past day 5. It's always on that day that I am flooded with a relentless urge to fap or look at porn.

Anybody have some useful advice to stop cravings that has worked for them in the past? The urge is so overwhelming it becomes so distracting and all other task are hard to focus on.

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He becomes a scholar of history and philosophy and learns to conquer his lower animal nature (sculpture is Hercules fighting Hydra)

Hey man, I started lifting at 21. Even though I was in graduate school and had friends, I still had regrets too. I was like, "fuck, I could have been so fucking huge by now. Why the fuck didn't I lift in high school?" Doesn't matter, I'm 23 now and in the past two years of lifting, I've become bigger than most of my friends, and am finally starting to feel confident with myself.

Might take you over a year to get comfortable with yourself, but it'll happen. You'll feel the part. I literally was on top of life, but I was so insecure purley because of how small I was. It's a lot better now.

longest I've ever made it was about 20 days... I should really make an attempt as well. I don't know why I can't even make it a month.

I'm 18 and feel attractive for the first time in my life. I've been lifting for only a year, put on like 10kg of pure muscle. I was always the lanky kid in school, and then I just blew up from like 75kg to 90kg (6'3"). Everyone notices my size immediately, especially my 16" arms (I'm not that big, but most guys my age here are tiny).

I also wore a twin block retainer for a while, which pushed my jaw forward, fixing my retarded overbite. I got my dead tooth whitened, so I finally feel confident in smiling. I got a much better haircut. I just feel amazing.

Only problem is, I'm still socially retarded and have issues with confidence. Mostly around girls.

I'm on holidays right now, and one of my cousin's friends noticed me at the beach and asked her why she never introduced me to her. She's a solid fucking 9/10 and a few years older than me. The three of us are going out in a few days, and I'm shitting it. I haven't even kissed a girl yet. I'm going through bouts of excitement and nervousness. It's 3 am here and I'm wide awake.

I got a gf and suddenly stopped browsing Jow Forums while still going to the gym every single day.
I think that I've made it, brahs.

Any benefits from the 20? At the minor 7 days I've done I did seem to look at women differently and my mood seemed to increase. I wasn't so slimy with my fetishes and had a little bit of confidence. Could have been all placebo but as the adage goes 'you are the placebo'.

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That's not a hydra.
The hydra is an 8 headed massive monster.
That's a naked man fighting a phalus snake.
That's basically dude beating his dick to show it who's boss, you know overcoming base sexual urges, but since there are a million far more interesting beasts to defeat and show the "man overcomes his animal nature" battle....I'm going with it being not even thinly veiled homoeroticism..which is the norm for modern "art".

I envy you, just try to kill all autistic habits and get ready for college/work.. keep getting in shape and just look at socializing as a muscle, keep working on it until you're strong and confident
good sense of humor goes a long way

Thanks man. Definitely going to push myself to be more social in college, it's a fresh start. I've also got a great course lined up, so that should be fun.

My sense of humour is great once I get comfortable around a group of people and get to know their boundaries and their in jokes. In school I'd always have my friends dying of laughter, and likewise. I have a quick wit and my humour is situational.

I took the full nihilism pill a long time ago and i'm trying to recover.

I'm doing good in college and life now, getting a few hobbies, socializing a lot more.

I'm going to beat, it will be difficult but I will overcome myself.

Also reading forex trading from the wiki

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I want to better myself but reading just doesn't seem interesting to me..

It's like I want to do stuff, but I can't find anything worthwhile doing (aside from lifting)

>Gone three nights without drinking
>Longest time in years
>going to celebrate with a beer tomorrow if and only if i have the calories to spare
hell yeah

Are you depressed?

This is an ancient greco-roman sculpture you pleb.

and it is absolutely Hercules taming the hydra, one of his Labors

I don't think so. I have fun with my friends and do enjoy life sometimes, but it's like I have no interests

Why stop now, you pussy? Quit the liquor jew to save your money and your gainz

B8

Fuck that celebrate with anything but alcohol. Go out for a nice steak or whatever your favourite food is. Smoke a joint if you have to...anything but a beer

you sound like ur gonna make it. u should join a frat and become a beautiful arrogant chad

Failed to lap the 140kg stone in last strongman competition so just ordered stone sleeves to be able to train stones for a longer time without the arms looking like they met the cheese grater.

Man I’ve seen you posting about writing this damn book for months, glad you finished it

Because its all my fucking friends do. I don't enjoy food that much or weed so might as well have a 22oz on the couch

I've been thinking about making a career change into hypnotist/hypnotherapist but unsure due to how drastic that could be and what potential failure could look like, less intimating then a therapist but better then a bartender . But one of the main reasons I want to as it seems many people are dealing with depression and anxiety but are normally unable to express this except when posting memes that seem to mostly have a nihilistic slant to them which seems to signal some subconscious thoughts/urges.

Does this seem like a reasonable idea or am I just chasing wild geese?

work upwards from the base layer of Mazlow's hierarchy. A consistent sleep schedule should be your first concern.

What about bikes ? Have you thought about that ?

I've always been wanting to become fit and attractive, but I have no idea where to start.

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On the ground, doing as much push ups as you can, and then the same but with squats

Ok, I woke up early. What the fuck do I do now.

Decided to not use the internet for anything other than education and vital functions. No more Jow Forums, no more twitch, no more news. I feel like I really need a virtual detox. My mind's swamped with information.

little tip for you guys, buying an a4 laminator, some pouches and paper is cheaper than a whiteboard, you can literally make an entire wall a whiteboard if you want to, seem much more viable for people at college and stuff like that

its overrated and doesnt fix the core issues.

When is it too late brehs? I’m 23 (24 at the end of November), and I just feel like I’ve already wasted a good year of what is supposed to be the prime years of your life.

Is it wise to lose my virginity at 21 with some tinder thot? She is like a 5/10 and I basically want to use her as a practice girl so that when I somehow land an actual qt in the future I want to be experienced.
I know meaningless sex is kinda degen but every day the fact that I am a virgin bugs the shit out of me and just wanna get it over with to hopefully realize sex isn’t a big deal

It's never too late, but if you are feeling unfulfilled then don't wait, get on that horse and make your life amazing!

/SiG/ is political, want it or not.

im a virgin, and everytime some girl shares a dumb facebook nigger tier meme about sex my chest hurts, and im like naaa i dont wanna see that, even when people speak about sex and the differences between man and woman i always make my way out of those topics and talk about something else, what does this mean? am i mental? i dont care about making it, i just want to be sane and enjoy the normal people stuff

Going back to school in a few days after five years of chaos, depression and NEETdom. Also moved into a temporary living situation with two student types and I feel lost. Like a huge sadness and loneliness is hanging over me even though there's people around (and even though I got a girlfriend, though she's stuck in depression). The things that would normally bring me some respite (skating, reading, music) are not working anymore and I refuse to go back to video games.
Do you guys got any advice for this state? Should I just tough it out and work even harder?

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Get it over with, but don't expect too much. Most first times are trash. Don't start hating yourself afterwards if it's not that great - be happy it's dealt with and move on. It takes a while to get into the swing of things with women, and you'll have to gain some experience to be able to keep the QT once you find one.

Man, you can change a lot in a year. As long as you're still alive, it's not too late. But don't compare yourself to others - you'll have to improve upon yourself and be a better person than you were before, NOT better than everyone else (which in the times of the internet is practically impossible).

Get to work.

Read the god damn sticky.

How about developing your god damn manhood out of the teenage level of "i gotta drink to fit in"? If they give you shit, just take it and don't act like a little upset boy and it'll all be fine.

Cheers brehs means a lot. We are all going to make it

without sounding too harsh being around depressed people will not help you, so if you're depressed it won't help her and it won't help you either, I'm not saying break up but try and be out in nature when seeing each other and not just in a room with stale air and artificial light everywhere, also what's your hygiene, exercise routine, sleep and brain routine (meditation, reading, nootropics(if any)) looking like?

what are you spending your days doing? waking up at the same time every day?

I also forgot to mention make sure to consider it sounds like you've just gone through a pretty big change, that's enough to cause almost everyone stress

My hygiene is pretty clean, shower every day with bar soap, shave every day etc., don't use any shower gels or the like. Exercise routine is boxing twice a week + calisthenics (gymnast rings and pullup bar at home) twice a week + skating and walking a lot. I'm currently rereading Hunter S. Thompson's Fear and Loathing at the Rolling Stone and finishing Psych 101 by Paul Kleinman. Meditation doesn't really work for me though.
Sleep is kind of a problem as well; room is to the east and very warm and close to the street.
Because of this I usually wake up pretty tired. I should also mention that I used to have a band and work on music 24/7 - the failure of that is the reason I'm going back to school.

With the girlfriend; she usually chooses to wallow in it when the depression hits. Honestly I'm upset since we were set to spend time together this weekend (there's a boxing event I'm partaking in that she cancelled out of); feels like she's not there to support me, but at the same time I don't want to be needy like that and want to be an independent man not reliant on a partner to feel alright.

Kind of a mess still really.

>Meditation doesn't really work for me though.
how long did you try it for, it's very medically valid but the harvard trial for example used about 30 minutes per day for 8 weeks, as for the warm room I know that pain, consider buying a gel insert and some cheap reusable ice packs (with gel filling) I place them on my mattress and pillow about 30 mins before i go to bed and it's much nicer as for the girlfriend consider looking at what you gain and what she gains, you shouldn't remain in a relationship just because you feel you have to but obviously that's easier said than done

Life is pretty good. I got a job that pays me very well and I'm now making more money than everyone in my family at 23. I also start graduate school in a few weeks so hopefully I can balance the two.
Although I kinda feel like I'm wasting my time with my gf. I love her but I'm not very attracted to her as she's a bit overweight and also mixed race. I'm much more attractive than her and I get a decent amount of female attention. I thought it would be okay though since I figured she'd improve over time just like me, but it feels like I'm constantly improving and she's barely moving forward. What do I do /SIG/? Do I love my gf and try to help her improve by setting an example? Do I leave her and fuck thots? I'm not sure myself.

I used to feel the same way, about not being needy. The reality is, your relationship is probably one sided because you feel that way. I did the same shit. I would support my gf and then when it came to the flip side, she wouldn't support me for whatever reason.

The reality of relationships is reciprocation. You support her, she supports you. That's not being needy. That's how it's supposed to be. Otherwise, what's the point? If you are together and she isn't supporting you in some way (emotionally/psychologically in this case), then WHATS THE POINT?

Honestly I would strongly suspect that this is where your own depression is stemming from. You probably realize this but you are afraid to act on it. I was also afraid. When I finally got over it my life dramatically improved.

Just remember though, you may be single for a while and it's gonna last exactly as long as you take to stop wallowing in your breakup, should you choose this route.

I'd recommend having a heart to heart about how you feel like you aren't being supported. See what she says and think on it. If she's confrontational about that, then you know what you need to do.

But I've always been a "look for marriage material" type. I think about how life would be if I felt that exact same way 10-15 years from now with the same woman. Can you handle a lifelong lack of support and dealing with depression? Because you will have to, people like that don't change.

try to make her improve, if she doesn't assume she never will then decide if the relationship is still worth it, just don't give an ultimatum since those are had to recover from, also if you don't mind my prying what job and how much per year?

Only just starting to get my shit together (33 year-old boomer here).

Started saving up (stocks - only 10k USD so far but I'm putting aside 5k a year - more if I can afford it).

Finally starting to get jobs that are above min. wage (working as a freelance translator).

Got a gf a couple of years back (was single/didn't get laid from age 17-30).

Dream is pretty simple. Own my own apartment, have 200-300k in stocks and live off next to nothing.

It's not that I dislike working. I dislike HAVING to work when I don't feel like it. So my ultimate goal is be to able to (if I feel like it) only work 5-10 hours a week from home and still be able to pay my bills/go travel/buy stuff every once in a while.

If you even have to ask the question then you already know the answer bro. I'm not saying to go fuck a bunch of thots...but if you aren't happy with her then just end it so you can both move on.

If she wanted to improve she'd already be doing it.

I have been trying. She's started working out but not consistently. She starting trying to eat better but has a bunch of "cravings" that she will blame on all her hormone problems. It's been a year and she's lost like 5 pounds. I've seen pictures of her skinny and she could be so beautiful I just need to her to lose like 30 pounds or I'll probably end up cheating on her with one of the many women that flirt with me.
Also I'm a junior data engineer making ~80k in a low-mid cost of living area so it's a good amount of money. After a couple years that'll jump to 100k+

Hey man, I really appreciate your in-depth answer. It's not that she doesn't support me completely; she did the entire move with me (since I don't have a car or a driver's license) and has been very supportive at most times. Her situation is also stressful right now as her parents expect a lot of her, basically triggering her to go into this depressed mode and cancelling the weekend on me. It's not entirely one-sided, it's just on days like yesterday and especially with the event, I feel like I've been overcommitting by comparison.

But yeah, it's a true point in terms of not wanting to deal with it long-term (as I'm really looking for a wife as well). I'll wait and see what happens once she moves out of her parents' house (it's pretty normal out here), since I'm also vary of any "muh freedom" bullshit that might go down then.
Thank you for your response though, it's good to know that I'm not going insane in expecting a fair amount of support in my weaker moments.

Do you love your gf? If you never did the thot fucking, you should probably do it. I spent last summer hooking up a ton with different thots after a longer failed relationship (4yrs) and it was really important to realise my worth on the 'market'. Now I know I can fuck on the reg while single so I'm not worried I'm 'missing out' while in a relationship.

Think of yourself first, my man, chubs ain't worth it usually.

don't cheat on her, that's just scum tier, but since you're already thinking about it I'd say break up, plus considering she's blaming it on hormones and ignoring the millions of women who lose weight she's probably never going to change

She wants to improve but won't listen to me on how to do it. It's extremely frustrating because she would rather listen to instathots selling their product than me.

I fucked thots before I met her. This is my first real gf.

I think about fucking other women everyday because I miss it. But I figured that was just me being a degenerate so I tried to suppress it and "grow up"

Maybe I'll never grow up. I'll just bang women who don't love me for the rest of my life.

How to make friends in college when you're already in it and all the friend groups have already formed?

Just mainly been focused on lifting and studying for my IT cert. I thought getting up at 4:30 in the morning to lift would be impossible, but with the right mentality you get used to it and realize its not that bad. In terms of hobbies, I've been wanting to get into diy and distilling spirit's. It seems pretty neat.

please help

I don't know dude, can you post an example? I also find a lot of these "sex jokes" dumb and immature, but it depends. In any case you're fine, a lot of people are just pretty easy to impress.

Try reading the two Guides in OP, it will help you on where to start.

Go back to Jow Forumstardland please.

For the language learning part, make sure you check the /lang/ thread. It can be found in Jow Forums. They have LOTS of ressources. Definitely check the google Drive folder in /lang/'s OP.

Noice user ! Enjoy your new job.

Don't try the nofap meme as other user suggested, because, well, it's a meme. But if you want to try, just know that your dopamine and test level will settle to normal level after 7 to 10days. Beyond that, you're just doing a meme challenge. You should quit porn. Masturbate once to twice a week when you really feel horny, and without pornof course.

Don't know why it takes you so long to go to your internship place, but make the best of your time by selecting and listening to podcast on various subject (science, motivation, litterature, art, philosophy...) while you're driving or in traffic jam.

Go back to Jow Forumstardland please.

Thank you for sharing user, you'll make it.

Go back to Jow Forumstardland please.

Shoo shoo bad advice goblin

Try talking to girls more. Small talk. Ask them shit like "where can I find [name] street please". Talk about the moment: you're in the underground sitting next to a girl with a doggo, tell her how you love doggo, ask for the name. You're buying your strabucks shit, ask the cashier how her day is going and if it's not too hard to work there. When you're on a campus, go see one girl and tell her that she is beautiful and that you hope she will find a decent guy for her to go along with, tell her to have a nice day and leave. Or whatever. Remember: you don't wanna act or be seen as a creep. You should NEVER never ever forget RESPECT. That's the key. Speaking more often to women will desacrate the vision you have of them, and will help you see them as normal human being, and once you've decided to take actions to get a qt, then it will be easier for you to open up a conversation before moving forward eventually.

Go to Jow Forums they sometimes have an entrepreneurship thread among all the shitposting and cryptoshitposting.

Accept your failure and learn from them. Work harder to compensate for what you've not done that you wish you had. And remember that you're only
>22
you have the fucking time to do what you want. You have the fucking time. Try shits painting, writting, selling, whatever, and find what you're good at, then focus on it. Most people on this planet haven't even started the road to considering self improvement.
You have fucking time. You'll make it.

Try quitting porn insted. Masturbating is normal and healthy if you don't overdo it. Try masturbating once to twice a week when you actually feel horny, and do it without porn. If it helps you, do it as a reward after getting shit done for your job, your degree or whatever.

See above for the 'speaking to girls' part. You're only 18 mate, you have time, even if you fail this one.
Don't overthink, act naturally, don't force thing, they will happend in time.

Glad to hear this, keep it up !

Keep working harder on yourself to become the man you wanna be. Good luck, you'll make it.

Reading is fundamental, you better give it another try, and a serious one. Don't try with hard shits or philosophy if you have none interest for those. Write down a list of 10 fields you like or are interested into, could be genereic or specific. Example
> music playing
> old school rap from the east coast from 1989 to 1994
Do it for real and do it now. Don't be a pussy and act, just do it. Once you have those 10 fields, find books about each one of them. Not necessary specialist ones, it depends on your amout of interest and expertise of the field.
Reading about subject you like will help you get back into reading. Good luck.

Quit drinking forever. Don't drink. Booze is shit, it will bring you more harm than success, it will drag you down and burry you in the ground. You'll be shit and feel like shit, and later on hate yourself for the person you've become. Don't do that, forget this beer, and move on something that brings you a real value.
If your "friends" are those who drive you in the alcoohol circle, just change friends, or see them in situation that don't allow you to drink. If you wanna make it a be successful, you have to share you lifetime and sparetime with people that share the same vision of the future and who share the same dreams, not with people that find excuses for being loosers.

Good luck on your journey user, maybe you'll be the next Strongman if you train hard enough.

It's fucking risky. But eh, gues what, History is written by moving on, and morever by those who dare.
Before doing it, make sure you have lots of money at the bank in case you fail, enough to live about 1years without working. It'll help you go back on track in case of.

Read the two Guide listed in the OP. Start training.