I spent most of my 20s living away from my home town for graduate school. One of the things I did not anticipate was how all your social contacts dry up when you move back to your home town after messing around with travel and all of this career hack BS. No one told me that I would become a loner in my 30s.
Does this experience sound familiar? What are ways of rekindling a psychologically healthy social life in your 30s and onwards?
One of the factors I fear is how I have pulled out of social media. I refuse to use Facebook and I refuse to publish personal information about myself on the web.
Jow Forums is your friend, you don't need more. Show your butthole now.
Zachary Scott
Did you enjoy the opening scene of 'Irreversible'?
Ryan Bailey
You don't. You find yourself a wife and make kids with her. Between work and family you will have time for 1 or 2 friends that you will see couple times a month. Good news is: you won't care for much else than that.
Lucas Allen
If you want social interaction : go to some sport club, it is even better if it is a collective sport but it will work even with sports like ping pong or swimming. Adhere to some politic party or some association
Asher Davis
Assuming you aren’t in a small town, join clubs of shit you like to do. You’ll meet like minded people.
Jordan Moore
AHAHAHAAHA it's too late for you bitch. You wasted the first 30 years of your life being an autistic loser instead of building healthy relationships with other human beings and now you're paying the price.
You made your bed, now sleep in it. I'll be sleeping in your mums bed though.
Evan Thompson
Find a wife, make little friends pop out of her.
Also get a hobby. Mutual interest is the foundation of long friendship
Connor Long
Do like I do...walk up to your nearest grade school and start talking to the little girls...lotsa friends now
I hear you man. I moved back after grad school too. I have a couple friends but it is not it used to be. People move away, get busy, or plain old get boring.
Carter Walker
Pretty much in the same boat as you OP. I turned 30 a few months ago and have like 2 friends now.
People just get married have kids take out good goy loans they gotta work to pay off and they dont have time for much else.
Since you are in your hometown, you have family right? I hang out with my family a ton. They are like my friends. There is nothing wrong or lame about it. Sure it is not the chaotic intense fun I used to have, but I am not bored.
Blake Price
Pretty much this, but you can also make friends with the parents of your children's friends.
Aiden Gray
Where do i get a wife? All i ever saw and met was whores my entire life.
Xavier Collins
dunno man, same boat here, 32 and less friends than ever before.
Part of it's my fault, intentionally distanced myself during my late 20s, just couldn't be bothered driving to the next town over to hang out with old friends anymore, always made excuses, eventually stopped getting invites to go out (which I was thankful for) but now I do get pretty bored from time to time and the contacts just aren't there like they used to be.
Although I'm a lot more comfortable alone, and don't mind solitude, I do need some social contact at least a couple times a month to keep my sanity and sometimes even that feels difficult to accomplish.
I dunno, at this point I'm just accepting it but I'll consider making a change if I feel like it's causing me any psychological problems. So far I'm okay.
Landon Rivera
one thing your going to find as you get older (im 48) is that good friends become harder to find as you age.
And the reason for this is there is just less time to fuck around.
your going to find that your highschool friends are by far the best friends you will make. And it's because you were a kid, growing up. You had very little distrust and open minded. So you got to know those people in highschool the best
after that, you will find it's very hard to open up like you did in highschool. Because we get older and we get jaded and guarded. From lessons learned.
being 48 I have 2 guy friends. That's it. Now yes, i could join clubs and bullshit and make "many" new friends. But after while, you just ask yourself. Is the fucking energy output worth the outcome. And eventually you just say "fuck it".
William Jones
Force yourself to believe in God and go to church
Ethan Mitchell
Im 35 and have maybe 2 friends I talk to every once and a while. I used to have a giant social group when I was younger. I also have a full time career a wife and a baby....dont really have time for much else honestly.
Gavin Garcia
Your writing skills indicate that you are a bit weird.
Stay away from Japan. We don't like your personality.
Evan Butler
I hear this is a great way to meet new guys. OP should try it out.
Matthew Cooper
Dog park, hear me out. Dogs are very social creatures. Dogs are fun, chick magnets, and protect your home. I used to go everyday, but my guy is to old and still wants to wrestle everyone. Used to love just going there for coffee in the morning and hanging out with everyone. Also it gets you outside, some exersize, and there are almost always some cute girls that hang out there.
divorced so i have spare time. But i feel like doing social circle bullshit is a waste of time.
Then you start seeing these party videos on youtube and go "ya i would love to do that" Hot chix, i could be one of those dudes with his shirt off, looking like he's having the time of his life. and then you ask yourself.....how long before i would get bored of trying to look like im having more fun than everyone else. and then you realise, ahhh fuck it. I would just skip that party *cracks open a beer and slouches on couch as he channel surfs. "this is the shit right here".
Caleb Harris
Okay, soulless ant man.
Leo Lewis
Take up drinking. Just graduated from college and I feared I’d stop seeing a lot of my friends but I’m still somehow making some
>tfw i've been a recluse since my early teens >now 25 and still live in the same small town >never had any desire to travel >despite all this i'm still able to function socially
this. Friends that don't have children will become totally alien to your lifestyle. Its easy though to meet other parents through daycare/school/clubs etc... your children make friends and then you make friends with their parents, or vice versa.
Connor Torres
well you'll never be a woman so there's nothing to worry about.
Nathaniel Morales
>as a woman Implying anyone cares about your opinion.
Anthony Moore
>implying there are women on Jow Forums
got em
Angel Thomas
buy a motorcycle
Jeremiah Moore
Why do they hack themselves off like that kek
Aaron Johnson
I guess we don’t mean shit to OP
Luke Murphy
Dating sites, but don't be surprised to see 97% of the women with either 2 kids, or terrible taste in men.
Aaron Hernandez
Get involved with other racists, OP. Don't waste your fucking time on Jow Forums. I know for a fact that there are Alt Right/WN-ish organizations in Kangaroo land. Join one.
Angel Gray
Grow the fuck up. You don’t hang out with friends in your 30s and if you do, you and your friends are probably losers. Go find a wife and start a family
Ryan Gray
All my "friends" I made online in video games
Jayden Williams
i say this unironically because you can meet up with a group at the mall or whatever, chat just a bit and then ride around with them. you bond while riding without actually saying words, its a strange phenomenon. you can find meetups or whatever on the internet without needing a kikebook or even communicating with them. you just show up. when the rides over everyone is typically in a good mood and chatty. given youre in straya i myself would enjoy a nice dual sport to rip across those deserts or whatever you have down there
My friend Alex fields and I hit the streets pretty hard
Thomas Garcia
Don't feel bad op the npcs have limited capacity for socialisation programs after their data storage center gets filled up with family work and kids. This has been happening to me since I was 13 and I'm 28 now don't even have any friends. Also quit social media but I found most people these days are anti social as fuck especially here in aus in general all they do is work their dull job then Gome home and play vidya and watch Netflix then tuck their dumb npc kidlets into bed so they can drop them off at daycareschoolunjjob and do it all again Everyone besides neets are time poor and don't wunna hang out anymore so fuck em I just sit on here and shitpost 24/7 with my fellow ausfags and shit cunt Sadly I've been stuck here for 13 years and no it doesn't get any better. JUST go start a family and hope it doesn't implode Me personally idk I'm sick of life here everyone is miserable never does anything anymore either