>be a literal sperg, can't speak to people normally because I literally shut down mentally when I have to speak
>I'm told to learn programming because they work alone
>awesome!
>I learn the basics and start learning javascript
>people are now telling me I have to be a team member and talk to my team to succeed in web development
>I feel like stopping on learning programming altogether
I feel hopeless
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you forgot tbe part where you learn c and work on important performance programs instead of trivial website ads decorations.
Do loonix and work alone
Dude. Social skills can be learned like any other skill. Don't bullshit yourself. Don't fucking hold yourself back with your defeatist attitude. Read Dale Carnegie. Pirate some webinars that are designed to teach you how to be more charismatic. It's not that different from programming. You just have to think about it the right way.
I can relate although I'm not really a sperg. I just find communicating tiring. I can deal with it when there's a clear defined goal. Collaborating isn't that bad. Depends on who your working with. Just focus on the goal and not getting along with other cs nerds who probably feel the same as you.
Ever heard of that dude who outsourced all his worl to China while collecting american developer salary? Just have a normie friend front for you while you do the worl
>I'm told to learn programming because they work alone
you've been lied to. im a webdev (inb4 basic bitch) and dealing with people is like 80% of what I do.
talk about your work, it's not hard to explain verbally what part of your task you're doing. Only do this when it would be expected though, people generally dislike talking about work unless it's bitching, and that only in small, undetailed doses
Nice blog faggot. Nobody cares.
Quit webdev and become a sysadmin
>Social skills can be learned like any other skill.
Dude I'm 34 now, I doubt I can just shake off my bad social interaction skills and get better with even more practice.
>im a webdev (inb4 basic bitch) and dealing with people is like 80% of what I do.
>80% of what I do
I'm literally shaking in fear right now. I'm so far in learning this shit but I can't talk to people all day holy shit
Don't work at a startup or anything involving clients. Amazon would have some good jobs for a guy like you.
>become a sysadmin
I don't think I can become a sysadmin, I think that actually requires a 4 yr degree plus 2 yrs of experience last I checked.
I'm 38 and only started a year ago to learn social skills. Just don't set the bar too high. Just because we can't be normal doesn't mean we can't get better.
I just reveal my power level all the time now and people actually (surprisingly) are more similar to me than I expect. I wear a swastika and when people ask me if I'm Buddhist I just say its jew repellent cause they nailed my god to a cross.
Thanks for the support man. I'm going to try to be less anxious when dealing with people step by step
how the fuck do you not get over this shit in high school
what were you doing
>because I literally shut down mentally when I have to speak
Degrees are a meme, I started out and worked 5 years as a DBA with just high school education. Moved onto BI development since.
>Social skills can be learned like any other skill.
Sure, but that's not always the problem. I can put on a convincing normie act in a pinch, but keeping it up 40 hours per week around the same people is pure torture.
>constantly thinking about the days interactions during/after work
>thinking through the implications of what I said, "does so and so now think this and that about me?", "maybe I phrased that wrong", "my word choice was pure cringe"
>literally have no interests outside of posting best girl, better spend my free time researching current normie topics otherwise I'll be back to yes/no/don't know answers
>workplaces in my country are filled with the enemy tribe, don't want to get too close to them
>be focused on talking with bossman, he starts walking. Have to walk and talk now. Start being clumsy and/or lose ability to communicate effectively
>be me talking technical stuff, *suddenly mind goes blank*... you alright, user?
>posting on Jow Forums
>being able to communicate
I know Jow Forums is relatively a normalfag board but still, what did you expect from people here?
This only applied to the times when programming was a nerds only thing. You can still make it by being a freelancer who only communicates through emails, but the world is harshly against shy people. I don't know if there even are any more jobs that don't force you to be a normalfag, it's fucking awful.
I could never get into programming so I remain a poor NEET Hikki, but if you can actually do it and ENJOY doing it on your own there are many ways you could make money.
Develop specialised software for businesses, create an app to sell on a market like the apple store, etc.
>workplaces in my country are filled with the enemy tribe, don't want to get too close to them
Care to go into more detail?
>what did you expect from people here
bunch of retards who can't code but pretend they're better than people who can
i usually get what i expect when i come here
Northern Ireland is split into two communities. PUL (Protestant Unionist Loyalist) & NRC (Nationalist Republican Catholic). Would constantly overhear coworkers talking about my community as if we were a piece of dirt.
Try some CBD tinctures. They're great for anxiety.
Dude i feel you.
When i was 15, some shit happened and i ended up unable to look human beings in the eye and constantly got panic attacks in public. My grades went down and i had to spend a lot of time at home.
Still managed to graduate university at the age of 20, get a job, wife and a steady career path.
The trick is to harm yourself in the process. I started smoking until i was vomiting and too sick to care about other people in public. Then self-harm, just enough to get me through the day.
Social skill, like many have suggested in this thread, is just a skill. It can be learned and should be learned.You won't be a social butterfly, but you can be adequate and to be honest, working in any kind of complex and interesting project will require human interaction. You don't need to be perfect in this area, just good enough and you can force it out of yourself in unconventional manner.
I would suggest some easy reward/punishment routine, do whatever you have to do in order to keep up.
>The trick is to harm yourself in the process
No pain no gain.
How did you learn Javascript and got a job, because I'm in the same camp too
Stop overthinking and stop caring about what other people think about you.
Agree to something: ok buddy
Disagree with something: maybe buddy, we'll see
Say hi and bye
If you have anything to say close your eyes and make an effort face while saying it, like you're thinking a lot about it (see: the big short)
If you're a shitter this will go wrong. If you're any smart you'll look smarter.
And learn a real language. How difficult can any of this be?