I'm tired of being alone. It's so hard to find a gf when I program all the time

I'm tired of being alone. It's so hard to find a gf when I program all the time.

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get a waifu

yeah i feel you user. i've developed a strong prejudice towards others and haven't talked with someone around my own age in years.

Do you think getting a gf would make your life better?

program a gf.

this but unironically

no

Then learn to be alone, that's what I am doing right now, 25 btw, not kissless but virgin

Its kind of like being hungry, user. Fixing your hunger does not make your life better but it is just a tad bit worse if you have to go hungry sometimes. I know hunger is not the same kind of need as a gf. You won't die without a gf. But without a gf a part of my life is empty. No, I won't be happy, but I'll be less empty.

This thread hurts.
Delete it.

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Girls can smell desperation in a man and that will only attract girls harmful to you.
A kind tip is to hang up with friends. If you don't have any, go to places where you can expect you can often find the same people, such as a gym. Talk with them and gather confidence in yourself.
Chads and Stacies' charm run out in their late 20s anyways, so don't take them as role models.

I spend too much time fucking studying code dude. I am not socially inept I am just a fucking shaman.

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Stop programming meaningless projects and take care of your body and mind. Go out and socialise.

At least you aren't a fag.
My "dating" pool is 10x as small as yours just because of some gene or some other irrelevant bullshit.

> Work a 9-5 job as a web developer
> Finish work, go to the gym
> Go home
> GF and cat are waiting for me
> watch 1-2 shows on the couch whilst developing on my mbp

lifes good user, you'll get there eventually. Just remember, no one likes a fatty, get a gym membership and do some compound lifts.

The gene that makes men fags doesn't make them gay 100% of the time. The gene sticks around the pool because it makes men more attractive to women, so hetero/bi guys with the gene tend to have have kids easily. Also you can still be with women if you're gay. The sex sucks but you can still love them and shit.

I just want to gf. You obviously didn't get yours when you had your job because there's no time for dating.

while everyone else is socializing im learning the language of the computers

>Girls can smell
stopped reading right there

one day user one day
though she'll end up splitting up with you, so you'll have to create another topic branch

> obviously didn't get yours when you had your job

I did, that's what evenings and weekends are for. Go outside, do shit. Hit up tinder, go on a few dates, live a little.

You can take a night off from building your shitty project to meet a girl and have valuable human interaction.

The only thing blocking you from meeting someone is your inability to do things yourself, stop pussying around and finding other things to blame and go talk to people.

Why would I want a woman if I'm gay?
I'm in it for my own pleasure, not conforming to societal standards.

If I where a fag i'd be sucking dick left and right on grinder and tinder

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Break the vicious cycle of wanting things you don't have. I'm not saying to give up dating, just stop feeling miserable when you have a much higher standard of living (assuming you are american) than me. You have SO MANY opportunities to find joy elsewhere yet you choose to worry about one thing you dont have at the moment.

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I don't know how you can think that. I'm gay but I'm with a woman I love. I take Viagra to get it up for her because her body can't do it for me by itself. I'm not disgusted by her in anyway. My dick just doesn't automatically inflate with her like it does with men. I'm happy because I know we'll have children, which from an objective viewpoint is winning at life.

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Don't dedicate your life to a certain aspect to the point other parts of your life get abandoned.

I dedicated most of my life working for someone else for 4 years. Made everything as efficient as possible, even if it was a 0.5% performance improvement, because it all adds up just to get thrown away when I wasn't needed anymore. The measly shekels in return I got were just to keep myself alive enough to keep being a slave. All the dedication and work meant nothing and I could have just done it poorly and quickly without anyone knowing the difference. We all know these dumbfucks don't know anything nor do they value what's under the hood. They just care about it being done and looking good until they get fucked in the future due to bloatware and spaghetti code. Not like it matters to them because a code monkey will fix it for them.

Trust me, learn from my depression. Focus on yourself and do things that benefit you. That make you more valuable because people will end up abusing your kindness and taking advantage of you until you're worthless. This is the real world after all. I would have been better off spending 4 years working for myself even though it would have been harder the risk would be worth it.

This is true. You can still focus on your future goals and keep striving towards them, but don't let someone you don't have (yet) make you stop appreciating what you do have. Because then you'll end up being miserable and not even enjoying what you got.

Shitty bait, 2/10 I replied

People do not tell you get married and have kids because they want you to conform to societal standards. They do it because when looking back on their lives, they realize that starting a family was the only thing that gave it any meaning at all.

why not get a job and give up the programming for a while. There are things to consider other than what you WANT to do. There are things you MUST do, such as work rather than sponging off your parents and the state. Women dont want wankers, they want shaggers. Are you going to be a man or a mouse, get a job and start shagging, or stay at home and pretend youre achieving something and be a wanker?

great advice yeah great advice, I might get round to reading it some time, cool story bro

Start attending social things where you can meet people: a gym, a swimming class, a guitar class, a dance class, a foreign language class, etc
Tinder is fun for hook ups but the quality of women there is very low
Stay tf away from single moms
Be presentable(wash yourself, keep your hair in order, wear normal clothes no fedora sandals shit) and if you're overweight act confident with how you are (the "I'm fat, let's party" attitude)
Just do everything you can to interact on a daily basis on all those social things with as many women as possible(but don't be a creep, just strike normal conversations with them and every now and then slip in some harmless compliment or innuendo and see how they react. The proceed with the ones that have a positive reaction), it's all a numbers game, eventually one will take the bait

how does one dress in their 20s? I’m 23 and graduated college recently. got my BS in CS. college kind of flew by for me, i still have the same wardrobe essentially from my 17,18 yea old life. which consists of clothes from like Active, Defy, etc which is basically teenager wear. I have a full time job where I wear business casual and that’s perfectly fine. But wearing that stuff outside of work, especially considering the fact that I look extremely young still (haven’t even aged in looks since 18) just doesn’t look right and it’s not always comfortable.

I googled men’s fashion and all of that shit looks homosexual and wouldn’t even look like stuff i’d wear.

my lack of fashion sense is hindering me. I’ve been dating a lot and i have no idea what to wear. my typical outfit may look like this: baseball cap (forwards), t-shirt from brixton supply co, pants, and vans.

business casual is fine in casual settings, or if you're feeling really insecure just wear jeans instead of slacks

First find yourself a style that you prefer: casual, bad boy trapper/rapper, sexy nerd, etc
then observe how famous people that fit that style dress in interviews and when they don't go overboard on trying to look scandalous. If you can't find any style that fits you and you don't consider overly faggy, just ask one of you gfs to help you pick up some outfit, women are attuned with those things and usually have decent fashion sense and knowledge

It really did for me before, which is why i now kind of see all this "learn to love yourself lmao gf won't make it better" as bullshit.