Is social isolation a problem at university?

>not having a clique
You have to be active socially at the start of uni. Its an imperative.

This. You can fit anywhere you want at the start, to be honest.

actually I have no problems in making males friends, but i just don't know how to find a context to talk with chicks, it's easier with dudes.

my biggest problem is the context and the situation, there is no moment to contact, everyones shut the fuck up during classes, and there is little times to talk when you come, also if people doesn't know themselves they don't search to make contact.

somebody could help me? I guess i should start to speak with chicks as a friend, like i do for dudes no? and what are the situations to socialize more?

>Most people wont mind chatting/hanging out with you.

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is it weird for a 27 year old to date in university students? am i "that guy"?

concerning my case, people are not very social between them, cliques are very small and if you know somebody inside it's easier to make contact.

Made zero friends, learned I was a genuine autist weirdo and not a regular nerd, overate junk food from stress, went from a 3.4 GPA in my first year down a 2.5 GPA in my second due to lack of motivation. Very glad I quit.

This. Dude has no idea. It's so easy for charismatic people to attract and make friends. We live in different worlds.

Legit uni is PTSD inducing if you're an autist to the core.

Nah cuz I go to community college and I'm not a sperg. Really the only thing keeping me from socializing more is I'm so busy always at work or class (posting rn in class cuz I worked hard today and earned it damnit!). The devil makes work for idol hands.

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You're an adult you faggot. Go and talk to people and join a goddamn "clique" or whatever. Your like one those grown ass dudes who say he has a 'crush' on a girl like holy fuck this isn't middleschool faggot.

actually there are a lot of ugly people who made cliques on my uni, and on the average it's 3 people.
I befriended some of them
>A fat mulatto who like animes and a skinny tall guy, sometimes they hang out with a small blonde with glasses and a small brunette.
>three dudes, a very tall guy, a ugly guy and a random face dude, bro tier as fucks.
>two blonde metal dudes with long hair and a black guy with glasses
>a bald guy and a random face guy, with a 21 years old dude with a cap who smoke.
>a spanish foreign student, an italian, a party dude who drink a lot and some other guy who secretely vote for conservative right.
just exemples of it at my uni, there is others and they are often limited to two people.

I didn't have a problem making friends in middle school. Adult life is FAR more cliquey than middle school was. People just blow you off or ignore you most the time as an adult.

Unless you have genuine autism (not Jow Forums autism). It should be easy.

did you have siblings growing up close to you in age?

You don't seem to realise that it's not something you can help because you don't have control of how your brain is functioning. Your brain tells you to stay isolated and makes you believe you enjoy it and find it comfortable. And then when you attempt to stop it, it fights with you and will trick your train of thought into believing what you are doing is uncomfortable and you aren't enjoying yourself.

Stop making excuses. Everyone has control, you just need the balls to commit to something.

I'm familiar with all of those feelings and I still suffer from severe depression, but ultimately you DO have control of how your brain functions. It's just very difficult to exercise.

>commit to something that your brain is wiring you to oppose and reject

You know this is like telling a suicidal person to just "be happy"?

Had a dorm with a hypernormal who would have parties every weekend. First time I tried to be part of it, but had a panic attack and left. Second time I hid in my bedroom, but people kept knocking on the door and laughing at me, which was even worse. Just started sleeping at my cousins house after that.

Youre using an extreme example.

But yes its always a choice

You can't just join a clique on your own. Someone has to give you a reference or introduce you to them. But nobody will want to do that since they may be afraid that may affect their standing with that clique.

I have no siblings. Wish I did.

I go to community college, so yeah.

Siblings are overrated tbhdesu. Mine are all normies who I can barely relate to but I was forced to share living accommodations with.

This exactly is how social circles work.

Same.

If you are socially isolated in community college you're most likely going to be socially isolated in university.

2+ months in university, was really hard in the begin since I knew zero people from there. I managed to meet a few guys (not even a girl) but I don't talk much with them except one guy which seems to be just fine. I would advise people to try to make friends there the first days because it gets even harder the next weeks, especially if you're not social. The best would be to study in the same university with a friend of yours.

Aren't people more involved though? Everyone here just does there work and leaves, most have earbuds in and I can't approach.
Nothing happens at any of the clubs too.

What the hell am the I suppose to do?

Made exactly one lasting friend in all my time at university. Socialized more with profs than anyone else. Dunno if it's me (what with my autism and the living with parents thing) or the university (big downtown campus with large class sizes). Probably both.

>does there work and leaves
their*

It's a problem in my life

>going so deep into this bullshit
no dude, it's just that for some reasons people find awkward that people start to talk to them from nowhere, even if they doesn't know themselves from a very long time.
it's just this, stacy mentality, nothing else.

though it's still pretty easy, just speak to one from the crowd alone in your class, and you will eventually cross and greet him with others around him, and it will be alright.
but actually dudes doesn't feel that awkward, it's more chicks who fear when somebody they don't know start to contact them.

yes

Same thing in a lot of the bigger universities. People mostly stick to themselves and their cliques like I've been saying. It's like this everywhere. You can't escape it.

jut sit next to somebody on classes, greet him and start small talks, about questions, basic questions concerning the lessons, etc.. it's easy when you see most people are still not friends on the class.

99% of people aren't receptive to an autist trying to talk to them.

I disagree, if in classes or whatever you seem approachable, that'll just happen. Just be sociable in the sense that you aren't autismo and that you're likable and soon enough you'll make good friends.

Sorry for that but it makes sense why its hard for you to socialise

youre probably a normie too. Be grateful you had some.

I wouldn't know I am not part of any social circle.
Oh wait, no, I am part of Jow Forums and you are all my friends.

>social isolation
>problem

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I wish we could be friends

I understand normies thanks to my siblings but I'm not one of them.

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>I understand normies thanks to my siblings but I'm not one of them.
I'm similar. Are you able to blend in with them? I mostly can.

it is, other than the weekends getting smashed at parties and the occasional mini-chat in the kitchen or lectures there is no socialising. Spending days alone is not good for the human mind imo, you turn to Jow Forums and twtich for human interaction

Never was able to blend unfortunately. Was always called a weirdo/robot.

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meh i just don´t care anymore desu i´m just going to college to study not to make friends, people in general bore me to death they are so devoid of actual personality that i´d rather spend all day indoors.

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>be mexican
>walking down garbage filled streets
>mutt crashes through some trash cans while running by you scampering on all fours

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The whole point of uni is to network tho

fuck off asshole.

See how far that attitude gets you in life. You'll be begging for a painless death to your sad life on Jow Forums age 30+ threads soon.

Honestly the only problems i see to this is the lack of chicks and sex.
outside of this it's not a big deal, before i idealized social relations and i discovering that in fact I dislike i lot of people and they are actually no better than me.

>Unless you have genuine autism (not Jow Forums autism). It should be easy.
I'm on the spectrum

Depends on the country I would say.

In US Universities possible if you are "too different" or a loner, sure. But with dorms and clubs you have an advtange reinventing yourself while you have a connection even in your freetime with your peers.

Uni life in Germany is basically living on your own or at your parents, driving to the lecture and go home. So unless you take action or someone else before/after the lecture or missing out on "offers" you won't meet many people. Most people I know feel some kind of lonely in Uni. Kinda ironic. If so many people feel lonely one would assume that they would do the first step to change that.

i´m schizoid tho so loneliness doesn´t affect me
for me it´s not
i don´t understand

It's to get a sheet of paper that says you can work for more than minimum wage or doing backbreaking labor that'll make you suffer when you're 50

Nah, uni is what stopped me from becoming a massive autist.

What if I'm on the spectrum?

>5 years in university
>can count on my fingers the number of people I actually spoke with outside of class
It's honestly overrated, if you don't like doing things other people like doing, then why do it? Every weekend for 5 years I went back to my parents, save a few, because I preferred being with my family over going out to parties and drinking with classmates

so what? I know many autists

made some """""friends"""""", they once talked and joked around about sex once
each of them laughed and i nervously laughed to keep the illusion of being a normie
then one of those fags said
>hey user, why you havin a laff
fuck normies

Yes, it isnt highschool and you are not forced to be in the same place as the same group of people for prolonged periods of time. Unless you live on campus, which most euros here do. It is the default unless you already have a group of friends going in, or join a club and go very much out of the way in your free time to get to know people. It wont happen naturally, not commonly at least. Youll be wandering from class to class with a different group of people each time, for about 1-3 hours during which you are not allowed to speak to eachother at conversation level. Then class is over and you go home, or wait to go to another class. Its unlikely anyones going to talk to you during that period between classes, everyones minding their own business or have formed their own social circle which you are not a part of.

I suggest joining some group, most unis have a gaming group full of people youd probably not want to talk to but maybe some you can tolerate. Usually tabletop groups as well, just read post-boards and keep an eye out for them. Youll have to worm your way into it at first but thats your best bet.

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Yeah
You gonna need some teammates for any future homework/investigation and it gets harder if you're an unsocial faggot

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>being friends with normies
I fucking can't stand them, the relationships are always super artificial. ESPECIALLY failed normies who try to act like they are chad but in reality just have a really bad drug problem and fuck below average girls, those are the fucking worst. /brit/ is full of them

Untrue, if you live on campus at the uni which is at least a possibility, it is far less likely you will be isolated. You are sharing a dorm for one, and then you have to manage all your time that is on the typically bustling campus instead of some farmhouse with your folks 20 minutes away from anyone you could possibly interact with.

boring gimmick lachlan the nurse shit was funnier

No

Are there any universities in Latin America that teach in English?

Cliques change as fast as work schedules and class schedules change.

You will always find overworked people desperate for social interaction at a university.

Boomer? That may have been true in the 80s but nowadays lonely people fill the void with their phones.

no. exams and project are problems

>no. exams and project are problems
You mean group projects?

We usually dont have group projects
If you can do project just do it and ignore other teammates. Tell them not to worry
If can't - do nothing and let others do it
there is no much interactions/relations needed

You're there to get a job not make friends.

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I don't really care. I am too occupied with work to really hang out with people, though last year I did mingle around with different cliques. If you can, use this opportunity to meet people with different backgrounds compared to yours. You don't have to be close friends with them, just talk and share your experiences. You can try going to a quiet bar/pub or just crash a party quietly

social isolation is improbable. Uni helped me break out of my shell. Still can't talk to girls though.

But I don't have a job so I have no choice but to be concerned about the social aspect of uni

so get a job then ya pusscake

It's much harder to make friends in university. You're no longer forced to interact with your peers as much, and everyone has robust, established extracurricular social circles. Unless you actively seek out and engage in socialization outside school, you're only gonna get a couple of loose acquaintances.

I thought high school sucked but uni is a complete social drought compared to that.

I don't have any work experience

If you don't make friends in the first week you're officially fucked.