Is your dad nice to you?

he's very disappointed by how my life turned out

my parents are divorced i never met him

Yes, although he never had time for me, but i'm fine with it and love him very much

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On the one hand, he likes me, and enjoys talking to me and genuinely doesn't wish me (or anyone) any harm.

On the other hand, he is one of the most arrogant human beings alive, will completely refuse to change is initial opinion on anything at all, and seems to lack empathy almost entirely (he would never think of if/how his actions negatively impact others). He has a short temper, but it never goes further than yelling, and it doesn't last too long.

So... I don't know?

Never had a dad

Yes. Or at least he pretends to be.

My mother is dead so my dad is all I have really. If it weren't for him I'd probably be dead in a gutter somewhere
He lets me live at home while I try to unfuck my shit, he's very patient and understanding about my depression
Best dad I could ask for to be honest

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very, i think its because his dad was not.

Are you gay user? What's your favorite musicals? I to enjoy the musical theater

My sister and I have always been kind of distant from my father, which is sort of odd since we ended up going into medicine like him. He's not a bad person, but he can be very difficult and demanding.

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I was wondering the same, are you gay too?

Yes

nah, never talking with him and always disappointing

Yeah
I love my dad

>Is your dad nice to you?
Yes, we have a very good relationship.
I love him a lot.

no

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I'm happy for you guys who have good relationships with your fathers, I will never know this feel.

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love my dad, proud of him. i know he is proud of me too.

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>dad tells me over dinner that I am smart, good looking, kind, and would be a catch for any girl.
He's biased, since he's my father, but I'm assuming from that interaction he is proud I am his son.

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I'm sorry to hear that

What can you do?

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Okay, I guess.
He doesn't show it but I know he's dissapointed that I'm still living with him aged 21

How old were you when he died?

I was born 97, he died 99.

That's too bad, my mother was that age when her father died as well

I love my dad but I feel like we're very distant

we don't talk much. all i'll say is that there's a reason all of his kids are emotionally crippled fuckups

He was tyrant when I was young. But I the older i get, the more redpilled he appears.

Well fortunately (or unfortunately) at that age, you don't really bring over many memories past your 3rd-4th birthday.
So although it's sad that he's dead, I was spared the sorrow.

most of the sorrow*

Do you remember him at all?

Nope, but I do remember the day he died.
My mom told me he was supposed to pick me up from the daycare but didn't show up so my mom had to pick me up very late.
I remember that day like it was yesterday, but I don't remember my dad.

>I remember that day like it was yesterday, but I don't remember my dad.
That is sad, I'm sorry
What do you remember about that day?

Being alone with the daycare teacher playing with a little toy car he gave me because he really liked me and apparently I was very liked by all of the staff.
It was very dark outside as well. Next thing I remember is my seeing my mom doing a fast walk down a hallway picking me up and talking to the teacher. I don't remember what they talked about, though.
After that I don't remember anything.

my father is an autistic tankie misogynist incel geologist and he still manages to be disappointed in how my life turn out. It's his fault that my sister (who inherited his autism) is total mess so I don't care.

Thanks for sharing
That sounds like a dark memory. How did your father die?
My mother died about 3 years ago of cancer and it still feels like a nightmare, like a bad dream

My dad raped me 14 times. I haven't seen him since the sentencing.

I'm not sure. My mom says he was murdered but I haven't found anything about it online and I'm too hesitant to call the government agency that holds the papers that contain all the information.
Also, sorry for your loss. My grandad, who was my replacement father for a couple of years, died of prostate cancer back in 2012, so I can relate to an extent, but I wouldn't want to imagine the horrors of losing someone like my mother to it.

My father is very doting and kind to me, but I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a strict, mean, scary father.

kinda based but not really

you kept track?

Thank you.
Also, I know it's not my place, but I think you should try to find out everything you can about what happened to your father. Call the agency - maybe not today or tomorrow but set a date for it. I can tell you first hand that putting things off and letting them eat away at you is just not worth it in the long run, it really isn't.

My old man's pretty dope. I'm a failure, he knows that, but he's just happy I turned out to be a nice bloke.

You're probably right. I don't want this question in my head for the rest of my life. I just need to find the courage.

He died when I was 14. From what I can remember, he was a good person, but hardly a good father. He drank a lot, argued all the time with my mother, couldn't hold on to a job, never did any father-son type of stuff (going fishing or whatnot), etc. He still loved me though. I don't miss him per se, but I do miss having a father.

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>I just need to find the courage.
Perhaps a bottle of wine? Not kidding

He’s my best friend

I don't like wine but I do drink mead and beer every now and then. I've never though of doing while drinking, though. I'll try and remember until the next time to see if I have the courage. The closest I got was typing in the digits on the phone, but I erased it and threw the phone away from me.

My both parents had the worst kinds of upbringing, but instead of being bitter about it tey set their goals to ensuring their kids had the best childhoods. We've never been any rich, my both parents have always been very caring and done their best to ensure me and my sivlings had a good childhood, although their broken upbringing does shine through every now and then. All in all I'm very happy I was born into this family.

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My parents are fuck ups but good hearted. My dad is a bro desu, but hes always struggling with money and he does take advantage of me, which sucks but i turn a blind eye for the most part. I just want them to be comfy for once

It's very hard for me to be able to express what I feel towards my father. Everyone I know always has been prejudiced and never allowed me to have my own opinion about it, thinking that just because my father was wealthy, that I lived an easy life.

I'm not gonna lie, my father was (is, even now in old age) extremely hard-working. I think he's the most hard working person I've met in my entire life and I say this objectively from a rational PoV. The man's a beast even at his old age. However....

I feel like the always saw me as a failure. From an early age, he never showed interest in me. My other siblings always came first and I'm not even saying this in a "butthurt" way, everyone noticed and he even spent much more time with all of my other siblings... You see, my father was (is) extremely wealthy, but as a child/teenager I never enjoyed any of it. While some of my siblings were getting companies for them and trucks, cars etc, I was using my older brother's clothes so they didn't have to spend money on me. My mother always did what she could for me though.

As for my father, he seemed to only talk to me to tell me how everything I did wasn't good enough, and don't get me started on the beatings... things like simply dropping a glass of water would send him into a fuming berserker rage where he'd literally punch me in the face and drag me on the ground while hitting me with a leather belt.

Nowadays (I'm 29) he treats me well.... but I can never forget all of those things... and, as such, it's hard to talk about him.

3 month ban

My dad is a good guy but I have trouble liking him. He is very boring and rich, and I hate going to his house because I hate my stepmom.

Sometimes I wonder if my dad even knows anything about me. IDK my dad is weird, I like him but I also don't at the same time.. Hard to explain.

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Larping as Ivanka?

kek

Though Tiffany would be more fitting.

I felt very sad reading this. Have you tried talking with your father about this?

That's really horrible, sorry. Wonder what the fuck was wrong with him.

He's not that rich lol.

Neither is Trump kek

Yes, just have a talk therapy session with the guy who beat you throughout childhood

You are a bit older than I am So I think its ok to ask: Do you think your Father think you might not be his child? Cant explain it any other way, why would He Single you out?

Yeah, my dad is the best.

Well he said that his dad treats him okay now, it seems like it is fair enough to ask why he mistreated him and only him growing up. However, I grew up with a somewhat similar situation and it is extremely unlikely he'll ever get any answer or even acknowledgment about the abuse.

He said he treated him well nowadays. I mean if it takes a therapist for him to do it, he should before it's too late.

Based

That suspicion doesn't need to exist for a parent to single out a child and mistreat them.

>Have you tried talking with your father about this?

No.
Even now tears of rage come from my eyes and I can never confront him. I just don't have the will or the courage. I never expressed any form of action towards him (and by extent to my mother) because he made me feel like that was a weakness. I grew up to have very fucked up views of relationship and I can't trust anyone... however, he did raise me to have obedience alright... I don't want to confront him to not "disrespect" him. The funny thing is, now that he got older, all of my siblings who received his love left him, and I'm the one that's closest to him...

It was bad... I don't think his actions are justifiable but, from what I gather, my grandfather also treated my father like absolute dogshit (I've only heard stories, but my grandfather was fucked up in the head real good and abused my father and his brothers a lot).

Things like, sent them to work in a plantation at the age of 5 and would beat them severely with the flat side of a machete if they fucked up at "work" (at the age of 5).

So... I feel guilty about having resentment towards my father, because his father treated him much worse.

It's fucking awful feel. I try not to think about any of it. It's probably the reason I abused drugs and alcohol for such long time

why’d he died

oops I forgot to answer OP.

Yes my dad is nice to me.

cringepilled post desu

Sorry m8 and I hope you can heal from this, as much as you can. I doubt you'd get any real answer from him, even if you did ask or bring it up.

>Do you think your Father think you might not be his child? Cant explain it any other way, why would He Single you out?

No, I look a lot like him. And my behavior is ironically a lot like his.

My mother said that my temperament resembles him a lot. I think he invested a lot in my eldest brother (who's 40 now) and he didn't turn out exactly how my father wanted, and as such, he vented his frustrations on me. Also, I'm his son from his second marriage, not first. My other siblings are from his first marriage. But I can tell you that I'm definitely his son haha, the face, hair and eyes are all pretty much alike, and I resemble my brother's face a lot.

Judging from the thread, a stern, strict father is not as romantic as the movies make it seem

Do you think he doesn't like his second wife as much as he likes his first wife? Donald also treats Tiffany worse than Ivanka, because he liked Ivanka's mother and disliked Tiffany's mother

He was too nice. I turned out to be an asshole

kill him

Well, I have not experienced anything like it so it's very hard for me to put myself in your position. I believe you'll do what's right with this relationship and I hope your dad dad realize what he has done and even why he did it.

i like my parents but they’re pretty boring
thoughts?

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Most psychological traits have pretty high heritability, and we know from twin and adoption studies that the effect of the shared environment (including parenting style) is typically small.

So while it's possible you're fucked up because your parents are, it's more likely due to shared genes rather than the behavior of your parents.

guy is nice to me but left to live in another country when i was 8,telling me its for vacation.after that i refused to speak to him for a few years and he didn't get why i was mad,literally forgot to speak his language (that was my second).seriously, hes never bean mean but prob the most irresponsible guy i know.

That sucks. My dad was a workaholic first and seriously rich and then, after he drive his company against a wall He was depressed for 10 years. Never saw him that much. Only after I went to boarding school He realised we get older. Since he didnt live with us through our puberty He had trouble adapting to us from "ifsy bitsy babies" to actual people and it was taxing to try to catch up. Now I Support him financially from time to time since he was to proud to file for bankruptcy, but only started working 10 years ago again.
He is over 70 and will probably work until He is dead, which He probably will be when He has nothing to work for anymore.
He is smart and rather glib, the latter so much in fact He pulled the wool over our eyes for a long time and tries to retroactively Make people and himself believe stuff happened in ways that Look better for him. He is good with people, but I believe He knows his mistakes. Just to proud for his own good.

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I didn't know Germany had boarding schools

Considering some of the stories in the thread you should be grateful.

Every country has, our public schooles are breddy gudd though. So boarding schooles have The whiff of rich people paying for their Kids graduation. But some are really for elite, as in study hard as fuck.
I went to one that was for "gifted" people but also had a some slightly disturbed people. Adhd, asperger, that kind of stuff.
I was, I was told, in both categories and thus got a state stipend.
Sadly 3 years in a good school are to short to unfuck being bullied for 10 years.
Now 29 and allways getting better though. Still will take a bit of work.

That's pretty awful, i've read your replies and can't see a way for you to fix things up with your past. I think maybe with some more age he might think about it? I feel like it has to come from him, i really don't know but don't put all the weight on yourself and don't be so restraint with him, those things don't help at all.

generally I am but sometimes I wish they were a bit more interesting

yes we ride motorcycles a lot very fun yes

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