I'm a romantic but I'm also a retard and I wonder if you would have any advice that would be helpful. I'll lay out the premise of my predicament
>be me 30 and super zen >small town in Sweden >illustrator/designer >work as teacher because no other jobs for me here >life is okay I'm content >however not fulfilling >have good friend in Poland >known her for years >talks every day >month ago she drops a bomb on me >tells me she wants to be with me >as more than a friend >apparently always had a crush on me >run dreamcometrue.exe >always had a crush on her >say hell yeah because makes sense >hand in my notice to employer >and landlord >start looking for jobs in her area >realize I don't know what I'm doing >signed up to be a bum in a month >realize what I've done >probably should have had something lined up beforehand >impendingdoom.jpg
She didn't ask me to do this but is happy. I graduated from college in the US and since I have been working and living in a lot of different countries, but I always moved because of work and my love for travel, I recently moved back "home" to be close to my old parents that are aren't as healthy as they used to. So the prospect of moving or living abroad isn't the scary part - not knowing what to do or where to look is. And in case any of you are interested, I can keep you posted
no no no you stupid retard you bring her to sweden and enjoy life there not go to a shithole
Jack Jackson
Why the fuck wouldn't you bring this polish bang maid to Sweden?
Thomas Walker
I'm happy for you Swedish fren. Poland is kinda difficult to live in, high taxes, shitty currency, whole country looks like shit and it is hard to find a good job so brace yourself. But afterall you've just found somebody special. At least you've made it
Yeah, just as this user said, you will be better of together in sweden
Joshua Gutierrez
well, you can try it in Poland and if things don't work you can go back. it only seems scary because you made the decision right away. As long as, you can come back and get a job in Sweden if things don't work out, you're good. it's not the end of the world. :)
Jackson Ortiz
I could have but she's got a good job in her field that she actually enjoys. I have lived/worked abroad before and she hasn't, I want to accommodate her and be a man (work for what I want, don't mind if it's hard work it was my initiative) than to just import her to bumfuck Swedish country-side where she would have nothing to do Thank you, fren! Yea, that's the thing - love. I work to live, not live to work so what I do doesn't matter that much to me. Sweden might have better living standards in some logistical aspects, but no public transportation in the world beats a satisfied mind. Not even a larger paycheck beats a hug or a smile Thank you! This is what I thought as well. Not having tried is one of the worst things, and as Bukowski said, there is nothing worse than too late
Noah Nelson
I will wait for a swede post from poland. I think the biggest adjust would be the language and food maybe just the language if you're the kind that only eats food because it is necessary. :)
Kevin Bennett
but you can get a car or live in other places in sweden and then you can probably even impress her when you know how shits done and she isnt
if you are super zen you wouldnt do such a hasty thing but good luck
Nathan Fisher
This is encouraging as hell, and I sincerely appreciate it! Even more set on doing this and making it. I secretly started doing Rosetta Stone a while back to surprise her, and I hope to learn enough to get by eventually. Food wise I believe that it will be fine, I generally enjoy trying new things.
She asked me if I'm scared or worried and I didn't want to worry her unnecessarily so I didn't tell her that I'm not scared because that's a lie but I told her that I have faith in this, and that I wouldn't have done this otherwise. That to have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you don't grab hold of the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float. And I'm trying to do just that. Because the art of living... is neither careless drifting on the one hand nor fearful clinging on the other. It consists in being sensitive to each moment, in regarding it as utterly new and unique, in having the mind open and wholly receptive.
I believe in good things
James King
Grow the fuck up is my advice, you are 30 years old, a bit to late to start over and I assume you can't speak polish. Find a Swedish girlfriend and move on
Ethan Roberts
t. incel dicklet
Daniel Ward
I don't feel the need to impress her, at least not with anything other than to show her sincerity and and honest intentions. I believe that sacrifice speaks louder than depriving her of her abilities to order a beer in the native tongue. It's what a PUA would do to make himself seem better than what he is I appreciate the well-wishes, because you are right, I definitely need it
Jacob Gonzalez
>T. Zoomer NEET who knows nothing about life
Mason Garcia
Impregnate her ASAP, think later. God's speed brother.
Easton Morales
I appreciate that you read the entire OP my friend, it's never about "starting over" but about doing what I have always done but for different reasons and in slightly different ways. Life isn't supposed to reach a grinding halt where you settle with what you have, and if you do, I can promise you that you will be miserable and lacking. Life isn't complete or done until you're dead and if you think that you are done, you already are
Camden Hill
im probably older than you little shit
John Morris
It seems you have the right mindset to go there. You can't expect things to be perfect and you're aware of that :) just handle each concern one at a time.
Cooper Young
Being an idealist is always great. Life is always meaningful and philosophical with all the talking and writing but it's not that easy, life is never easy and when reality hits, it's not that easy to keep being stoic. Go with your heart other might say but I prefer to be the one the tell you to think, deeply. Don't reciprocate just because someone suddenly told you she loves you. Think and reflect, is that truly what you really want and when you think, consider all the circumstances. If you are so zen and a sage then you would probably not be on Jow Forums asking for advice. You would already be next to her. You have your consideration and worries.
Xavier Stewart
I just got off work and on my way home and you? It's 1:30 pm in Hungary I think and wtf are you doing browsing Jow Forums you NEET
Hunter Scott
I have to say, you guys are great and this is why I keep coming back. You help me check myself, reconsider my motivations and giving me hope and encouragement. You are my best friends and it's totally worth being called a faggot from time to time because the sincere feedback outweighs it by a landslide
The unexamined life is not worth living. I already stated my reasons and the context but will go over them again. We have known each other for many years, it's not infatuation to a stranger. I have done this many times before, but the circumstances and reasons where different. I expect hard times and I don't mind, my heart is in it. I'm not fulfilled and would eventually have moved on either way, she just gave me reason to do it now. And you don't know what zen means. You have a job
Jose Allen
>not having a comfy officejob mad chink
Jeremiah Thomas
I have an office job you idiot
James Miller
I don't think being zen is pointing out how "wrong" other people are and shovel his own idea to others.
You don't know what is zen
Jose Clark
I don't see how it's relevant, you're still butt-blasted but I can see why. I lived and worked an office job in China and it's definitely a nightmare so I can see why you lash out, but not why you are so entitled
Jayden Gonzalez
>If you are so zen and a sage then you would probably not be on Jow Forums asking for advice. You would already be next to her. You have your consideration and worries. Point proven
Dylan Foster
You are only looking for approval, what's the point of saying you are zen? Look at you, how ass hurt you are. That's not how a zen man act not to mention a 30 years old
Lincoln Cox
not as comfy as mine it seems hehe
Kayden Diaz
Cuz your is low paid, Hehe >Average salary in Hungary is 650 euro
Reread the thread. My mentioning of zen in the first place was in reference to my ability to be content, and to follow my heart, spontaneously, if I'm not. I came here for advice on jobs, not for approval. That I'm able to do what makes me happy doesn't mean that I'm the Bodhidharma
Kevin Jenkins
doesnt change how you are asshurt over a Jow Forums thread communting to your insect hole pathetic anglojew, its not even your life, you bitter sad sack of shit
