Hello Jow Forums. I am a mulatto user who grew up without my father (mom is white). Throughout my whole life I never really thought that not having a father mattered and I never felt strong feelings that I was missing out on anything especially important. I credit that to my amazing mother who gave me all the love and care that typical two-parent families provide just by herself. But, my life has been full of difficulties and struggles, and now as a 23-about-to-be-24 year old NEET user who hasn't had a job I am starting to realize that not having a father or a male role model in my life probably has had consequences on my development and character. It wasn't until I was 20 that I started to realize that my mother wasn't flawless and didn't have all of the answers I would need, and now I am feeling lost. I (somehow) managed to make it through a psychology degree (B.A.) and almost all the way through a Masters of Education before quitting and becoming a full crypto-NEET living month-month.I simply don't know what to do with my life. I know I am intelligent and capable of succeeding at many things, but I am stuck at this transitional point of my life. I feel so badly like I need someone to smack me and tell me to suck my shit up and "be a man" and give me some hard guidance but the only close people in my life are females. Girlfriends, sisters, mother, etc.. I haven't even had an academic mentor that was a male, much less so any sort of mentor or role model that is black/looks at all like me.
I am rambling now, I do not know why I wanted to make this post but I did. Are there any other father-less anons out there that somehow figured out how to be a man? Is that a stupid fucking question, because it kind of feels like it is as I type it. Are these feelings ridiculous or pointless or is there some realness to what I am feeling? Is there anything I can do?
unironically me. user. you don't need a father to build character. sounds like you just need to find something to fulfill yourself, maybe some meditation will assist you in finding that. best of luck.
.. and me. You need to have some way to "get your ass kicked", so you do something. Smoking weed when you don't know what to do is kinda bad, because it can take hold of your motivation.
The easiest/clearest goal would be to get more money. But yea, I think that having goals is very important. All I do right now is work, play vidya and socialize once in a while. It's not bad, but it's starting to get boring.
Adam Butler
They care about you, you’re lucky to have them. But yes, their coddling will get you nowhere. You’ll have to just figure out what you’d like to do with yourself and dedicate yourself to it. Self discipline is difficult, especially when the people in your life tell you you’re fine the way you are. I too didn’t have a father or direction. I joined the military
Sebastian Myers
You'd better stick to fucking Shaniquas and not pollute the white genepool with your mother's mistake.
John Fisher
...and me. Dad died when i was 7. My brother was about 18 months and has no memory of him at all. He dodged a bullet as he didn't feel the loss or suffer grief as he was too young. He's probably grown-up more emotionally developed than me. Just be the best you can be, simple as.
William Ross
This is the answer
Parker Lopez
Is this thread real? Happy to be a father figure to you, user. I’m ten years your senior, have a kid of my own. Drop an email.
Joshua Nguyen
Nigger, this isn't your fucking blog!Get lost!
Alexander Thompson
this
Ryan Kelly
Do you mind if he calls you daddy?
William Watson
>a fatherless mulatto
whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?!
Luis Allen
>I am starting to realize that not having a father or a male role model in my life probably has had consequences on my development and character. People have known this for millennia, I'm surprised that you just now found about it. Your mom should have known it before she got blacked. Oh well. Too late now.
There's nothing you can really about it. Maybe you can find role models in historical figures like Thomas Jefferson or Barack Obama
Lucas Diaz
user I read this post to my girlfriend and she says it’s likely you have overlooked potential male role models in your life because you are accustomed to the guidance of female role models around you like your mum. And to put it in simple terms, it’s the devil you know rather than the devil you don’t. Her little half brother dad walked out on her mum when he was 18 months so he never really had any proper long term role models till I started dating his older sister. Before he met me he consistently seeked out the guidance of females as that what he was used to having on a mum and two sisters in his life from an early age.
She says it’s inportant you overcome theses issues but don’t forget you can be the role model you wanted, the aspects you seek in a role model, can also be found within yourself. Please remember that. She says You don’t need someone to teach you how to be a good human being, you can and are a good human being
>I need someone to smack me and tell me to suck my shit up and "be a man" and give me some hard guidance i'll do it for 100 LINK - "hard guidance" included ;)
