Have any of you struggled with life-hindering procrastination and made a change to come out good the other side?
how the fuck do I fix that? I know exactly what needs to be done, how to do it, when it is more ideally completely, and I don't FUCKING DO ANYTHING UNTIL IT'S EITHER PAST DUE OR DUE PERIOD.
FUCK ME!! no FUCK YOU, HELP ME MOTHER FUCKER.
Waiting for serious replies with you OP, Im in the same boat, this shit is absolutely infuriating.
haha faggot, not everybody is going to make it and that's okay, suck it up bitch
Try only giving yourself what you crave (sex, drugs, etc.) only after completing vital tasks.
If you still don't get shit done, make the tasks even smaller, until shame kicks in and you realize you actually can do 5 minutes of work in exchange for 55 minutes of fucking off.
find a mate who kicks you in the ass for not doing shit
OR
don't think about what has to be done, just forget it and actually do something
OR
start scheduling
OR
all of the above
fuck you too
I don't know man, that's literally a billion dollar question. I guess the only thing you can really do is optimize all the usual stuff like sleep, nutrition, exercise etc so you'll have as much energy as possible. For me I've noticed sleep is propably the biggest, if I'm tired I usually just end up fucking around something stupid of focusing on work. Also getting rid of addictions like porn might be helpful since they might be conditioning you to an unusually high levels of stimulation(dopamine) which means work/school will seem unbearable boring in comparison.
Have you tried scheduling ? Knowing what needs to be done means jack shit when push comes to shove, you need to have systems to keep you going.
Do you have the energy? If so then you are still a lucky faggot. I'm 18 and feel like I'm 60 for some reason. Probably because my nose has this little cold/sinus infection that doesn't let me fully breathe well through nose and that causes sleepiness and etc. fucking sucks. Gonna go on aderall since I have a startup idea and almost a working demo ready. Fuck wagecuckery I'll rather be on drugs.
yes. get a calendar. do at least one productive thing a day, even if small. make an x. have NO zero days.
Dude, if you had the tiredness for a long time you should propably get your thyroid checked. I had the exact same feels, even the sinus thing, turns out I didn't even really have sinusitis just hypothyroidism.
Don't masterbate
Eat healthy
Work out and get fit
When feelig unproductive/sad/unmotivated GO FOR A WALK (1-3hrs)
Read Julius Evola "revolt against the modern world"
"Ride the tiger"
And read both books by Itzhak Bentov
If you follow this advice you will be a God amongst men.
The struggle is your blessing, suffering is your teacher
Don't masturbate or smoke weed in the regular.
Anyways think about your goals in life. If it helps write them down by your bathroom sink and read them aloud in the mornings.
Realize that you should dedicate every single action towards said goals and that they may be achieved if you keep progressing.
Quit porn and weed. Hit the gym.
I was in the same boat. For me, having sex with a lot of Asian girls helped a lot.
Fucking THIS.
I smoke, then work, and get lazy, and smoke again, and work, and get lazier. It's truly a downwards spiral.
If I work a lot, then smoke a little, then I'm not too lazy and able to continue working. Then I'm able to get stoned at the end of the day.
all of this too
Nofap helped me a ton.
And this.
Porn fucks you up. I'm a victim.
Weed is good in small amounts, THC specifically, and should only be vaped or eaten, not smoked.
Too much of anything is a bad thing.
But that's the issue:
People want instant gratification.
People don't want to look for sex or put in effort into finding a mate. They won't want to find other ways to boost dopamine levels (like working out).
I'm typing all of this, but I'd be a hypocrite if I said I wasn't a victim.
Porn is a NO.
Weed is a END OF DAY thing.
Working out is NECESSARY for a healthy mind.
Why won't I follow my own advice?
Mental issues?
Autism in my dick?
how to get lots of asian girls?
>picture on string thing
is she underage?
Thailand
or Tijuana
>she
kekked
>1. Work out what you REALLY want
>2. Articulate clearly the reasons why you want it and how it will change your life
>3. sketch out a plan to make it happen with clear milestones or a unambiguous metric
>4. Make yourself accountable to others and regularly update them on your progress
I find no. 4 is most important for me. The fear of public failure is far more of a motivation than anything else. That's also why I never vocalize my ideas or things I want to do until I'm sure of them.
user I.... you know thats a dude right?
reading this thread is a major buzzkill to my porn and weed addictions. For real though, 33 here, accomplished literally nothing in life.1 wake and bake is now 15 years
Sauce and I'll tell ya, OP
JEJ
are you fucking kidding me and I was just mirin so hard
Literally Jow Forums is the main reason i have been procrastinating so much...
fuck you I just found sauce and she's a girl
Before not masturbating, be sure to delete the TBs of pornography you've amassed, deleted, and then recollected again.
What if #4 includes talking to my wife who doesn't give a shit what I do?
It's not too late for you. I'm 37 and quit when I was 35. Now I'm married with a family and wonderful career instead of getting stoned and jerking off everyday like a junkie.
you've been BAMBIZZLED
Then find a way to make no. 4 work - either by getting her to hold you to task because she knows it's important to you, or finding a accountabiliabuddy - as in maybe finding someone on a similar self-improvement drive and regularly checking in and counseling one-another.
It's not rocket surgery.
ya got me
she's a camgirl who goes by AshleyTea
1. stop doing drugs if you do them. coffee is fine but never past 2pm. a few drinks on the weekend is fine, NEVER ALONE only with other people.
2. Keep your diet in check if you don't already. Less food is always better than more when you are trying to get shit done. Being hungry is a part of being a human. Our ancestors were productive as fuck because they would literally die if they weren't.
3. Exercise.
4. find two hobbies/activities. One is going to be your productive/creative outlet that does not involve your profession/career. This will make you feel good about yourself. The other activity will be purely recreational and can be used as an incentive for being productive
5. Stop jerking off. If you absolutely have to jerk off don't make it a big deal, just choke it out quick to your imagination, porn is terrible for you
These are just the basics. It's frustrating and it never gets easier. Welcome to life faggot
Make todo lists and break everything down into tiny little babysteps so you can constantly get the satisfaction of progressing.
Clean up your envioronment as tidy as possible. Get rid of all distractions and always be setting up your environment to be condusive to your tasks. Don't trust willpower too much, manipulate your surroundings.
>Don't trust willpower too much, manipulate your surroundings.
This is probably the best advice in the thread. Make it easy for you to focus if you're having difficulty focusing. Line up the dominoes so all you need to do is hit the first one.
Read "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg then "The Willpower Instinct" by Kelly McGonigal
ITS
YOUR
DIET
This is the best advice you're gonna get here, OP:
Stop trying to focus. Stop focusing on focusing. When you try hard to focus, you just get stressed out and waste energy away.
Instead, focus on resting. Take naps. Restore your energy, recover from stress. Practice meditation and empty your mind as much as possible. At some point you'll be so bored with resting that you'll start getting shit done like a fucking machine. Thank me later.
I wish
you haven’t WANTED to shape up yet. Have you considered that you are exactly where you want to be? Your subconscious WANTS you to feel this dissatisfaction. Until your conscious and subconscious minds are working in the same direction rather than in conflict, you will never be at peace.
>Have you considered that you are exactly where you want to be? Your subconscious WANTS you to feel this dissatisfaction
Oh fuck the fuck off with you're pseudo-Jungian bullshit. Most cognitive scientists hold models that represent the mind as a compendium of specialized agents, which explains issues like ambivalence and self-defeating behaviors as the failure of 'mutual inhibition' to give precedence to one particular mental agent over another.
1) Use to-do lists.
2) If you have to write something then read what you've got out loud and write out loud. That way you don't get distracted.
3) If you can't get started writing, open a second document and pour your ideas onto that to get you started.
4) If you need to concentrate then stay hydrated.
5) Don't get obsessed with failure. If you have an off day where you fail, you can still have 99/100 days where you succeed.
>you actually can do 5 minutes of work in exchange for 55 minutes of fucking off.
It sounds so easy when you say it like that but its still so hard.
My brain is fucked.
Not even ADHD meds help anymore. My focus only lasts like 5 minutes.
Been trying no fap and no weed for 2 days now and I haven't really noticed any difference.
If anything, weed helped me with focus and anxiety. Concerta makes me jittery and anxious.
This is it OP
>crypto crashing hard
>no cash, all tied up in crypto
>maxed up credit cards
>online business not progressing because I can't work on anything for more than 5 minutes
Just wanna kms
>Been trying no fap and no weed for 2 days now
>2 days
>2 days
Of course you haven't felt any changes yet.
I mean.. literally how stupid you have to be ...
I came out on the other side by realizing I literally only have a finite amount of time to meet my goals and I wasted enough of it already. Life is too short for me to limit my experiences, especially when I'm only in my 20s.
You have to force yourself to go out and get what you want. After you start to see the benefits you will want to kick yourself for wasting so much time before.
I believe in agency. It’s not bullshit; it’s the most empowering concept there is. We have the ability to accomplish great things, but only if we are in congruence about it.
>Have any of you struggled with life-hindering procrastination and made a change to come out good the other side?
Yes.
>how the fuck do I fix that?
squat, deadlift, bench, rows. I am not fucking lying. 3 times a week, 2 if you're older. hormones kick in after 3-4 weeks. you'll never look back.
^This
stop watching porn you absolute niggerfaggot
go for an hour long walk every day you physically repulsive fat cunt
research stronglifts 5x5 and do that three times a week you breadstick-armed cuckshed inhabitant
read seneca's "dialogues and essays" and marcus aurelius "meditations" you negronically ignorant high-school drop-out
UP! WE ONLY GO UP HERE!
Check out Sergei Soloviev (head of Moscow Russias Biological Institute), he has some very amazing works on the subject.
Basically, humans evolved to conserve energy, from ancient times, when we weren't certain we'd have a meal the following day. We had to save and accumulate everything ranging from firewood to food to energy itself. So, procrastination is your native instinct to just chill out and delegate your time to things that DON'T consume vast ammounts of energy (learning new skills & accomplishing tasks). If your instincts tell you that you can survive without accomplishing these tasks then your brain will tug on you to procrastinate.
He then goes on to say that those evolutionary superior people (we come to know them as the chads & high IQ people of society) are naturally less inclined to procrastinate.
What is most profound and introspective is that there really is no cure for procrastination, per say. Those who are capable of overcoming it will, and those who don't, wont. Think about it, even if you beat procrastination in writing your college essay, you will procrastinate later in life in other things such as sports or whatever other endeavors you take on. I'm not saying you are destined to be a wanker, but the odds are certainly stacked against you.
Just get on fucking Adderall man
Check out focusmate.com. You book a webcam session with another user, at the start of the session you state your goals for the hour and they do the same, then at the end you talk about how it went. I used it two days last week and they were literally the most productive days I've had in over a year. It really makes me work. I still get distracted a bit, but it's a huge improvement. At the very least it makes me get out of bed (and I've been pretty depressed and sometimes spend all day in bed) because I don't want to let the other person down by not showing up for our appointment.