>Childhood class mates all became investment bankers, lawyers, doctors and other professionals >A few opened their own successful business's >Family and family friends all belong to white-collar professional social circles >My sister is a highly paid Lawyer >.....I work as a waiter >29 years old.
How do I even cope with this level of shame. I feel like such a loser, what do I do.....I am very tempted to move to a cheap country in South East Asia and cut off all contacts with everyone I know. I need to get the fuck out
Stop jerking off, man the fuck up, and get a degree. or else you will remain as a pathetic excuse for a human.
Hudson Bell
Stop giving a shit what people think about you.
Henry Clark
Use this shame to actually study hard to learn a skill, as long as you don't have obligations (kids) you can still turn your life around. Also you are deluded if you think the shame will go away if you move in a foreign country where in bonus you know noone. Fact is that it will likely just get worse.
Nolan Brooks
It could be worse. You could have gone and gotten multiple postgraduate degrees and be in exactly the same position, only a couple of years older.
You could be me.
Luke Allen
oh damn that sounds harsh, how did you end up making these decisions and what made you end up the same? ready to hear a story user.
Robert Peterson
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it. I make 90k a year bartending 4 days a week and then invest/software develop on the side. I make more money together than my friends working at Deloitte, PWC, etc.
Jordan Wood
OP, what would you like to do yourself?
Jose Morris
Yep. Just bee yourself. Stop giving a shit about what people think..and keep being a waiter.
This. I didn't go that far but I got an associates in electrical engineering and I'm making 11 dollars an hour repairing cellphones and that's me when I'm "successful".
Brandon Rodriguez
>get a degree
Nope. He is 29. No one wants a 33 year old male as an entry level wage slave.
Start a business or follow your SEA plan
Joshua Adams
do you have a slightly beautifull face, incase you workout like hell till your body beautifull, (optional get tatoos) applie to be a model, and then become a symbol for (incert_company) >get paid for life to put on clothes and move slightly.
Sebastian Murphy
Just move to rural US where everyone is poor. I live in Maine everyone here is broke as shit and therefore has no reason to be judgemental
Aiden Moore
>graduated during gfc >no jobs, just excuses >professional network turned out to be as useful as a bunch of cardboard cutouts >was working, as a shitkicker >a year of looking for real work passed (two years total, since I'd started the year before) >fresh grads coming out behind me >get trampled since they don't have the stigma of not having found work (was told this by recruiters more than once) >get really fucked up and alienated for a while >eventually, resentfully, go back to school again >get masters, also get refused access to a lot of professional development services and work placements because I'm no longer an undergraduate and end up chewing a few people out over it >get some proper work out of doing that, loosely related >swing my way into a second masters program on the basis of being contractually promised a specific position, it's not what I want but I'm not choosy at this point >finish degree, company dissolves two months later >go figure that after this no one wants to employ a grown man with a pile of degrees and a bizarre work history If I could blame anyone buy myself I'd eat their family.
Matthew Jackson
>get trampled since they don't have the stigma of not having found work (was told this by recruiters more than once) do you really believe this statement and let yourself manipulate that easily?
You're just not a Chad or shitskin.
Brandon Butler
There was a considerable drop off in response after that period, not just from recruiters. Believe what you want but get your shit together early or end up like me.
Xavier Jackson
I actually applied to do a Diploma in New Media and Web Development. I want to learn how to create convincing photoshops, edit and build websites, be able to plan a video production to be advertisement worthy in an organized professional manner. Above all, I just want to learn new skills that I can apply in or out of work; like freelancing on the side.
My current work as a waiter is wholy dependent on my location and is physically tied to the venue itself. So ultimately, I am looking to enhance marketable skills that can be applied to endevours that earn money and not tethered to geography.
damn real sorry to hear you have been through all that, I know its real tough and you are strong because of this.
so what are your prospects now? hows the job search going?
Adam Hall
Sure, being an old autist is worse than a young one. If you were a nigga no one would care. Neither if you were Chad. Age is definitely a drawback, won't dispute that at all.
John Ross
>Age is definitely a drawback, won't dispute that at all.
why is it such a drawback?
Mason James
Don't ask me, I'm not an HR roastie. But you can justify not hiring someone easily. For instance > sry user at the age 30, we already expect a 10yr experience in the field > for junior position we hire only those who graduated in the last 5 years / you are overqualified for that position etc etc ..not good at HRspeak but I guess the point is discernible
Jace Watson
I have steady grunt work when I want it and have a decent amount of money socked away, but neither one of those will fill a person up. I need something with some purpose. True. The same reason people rag on virgins.
Thomas Sullivan
Because you're not a real engineer lol. What did you expect? You're a technician. No matter where you go, you will never work above a guy with a bachelors because of the legality of the work.
Tyler Cooper
It looks like shit. Would you hire a 50 yo for an entry level position with no work history? Being 30 yo is the same as being being 50 to these people
Brody Perez
As a 30 year old boomer who made this mistake, this guy speaks the truth.
Being this old with no skills is basically the same as having murder on your criminal record. No employer would touch you in a million years
Robert Walker
If you can pass the classes, get a nursing degree or some other kind of healthcare cert. Healthcare definitely accepts the old.
Jose Bailey
*Does nothing meaningful for 12 years after highschool*
Wow why do employers think I wont be dedicated to my career, so unfair
Austin Rogers
Get your CDL and go work for UPS, FedEx, Amazon, Walmart, etc.
Nathan Jenkins
And there's a great example of it.
Same as murder, you'll never be forgiven for not playing your cards right while you were a retarded kid
Luis Gutierrez
>*Does nothing meaningful for 12 years after highschool* >Wow why do employers think I wont be dedicated to my career, so unfair
I actually quit 3 jobs these past 6 years. First one due to moving location, 2nd one due to unethical practices from my company and 3rd one due to location move.
I've demonstrated to have had performance awards. It can't just be an age thing. If a company just wants to hire young people then it's a sign they're just looking for some young naive kid from school they can brainwash to be a corporate drone.
William Thompson
If you were an employer, would you choose somebody who has exhibited consistent dedication, or the opposite?
Levi Lewis
>Same as murder, you'll never be forgiven for not playing your cards right while you were a retarded kid
>turn 18 >OK after the past 18 years of following OUR orders, you will now need to make a series of decisions YOURSELF about the direction you want for the REST OF YOUR LIFE
expecting to know shit about anything at that age is just brutal. thats why there are so many unhappy people working unhappy jobs out there; the rest of daddies money or connections.
It absolutely doesn't Physician residency programs even explicitly state : X years after graduation as a requirement. Nursing is probably the same.
Robert Watson
So you've got two people who have the same GPA and the same degree. One got his P.eng last year, and the other got his a year after graduating and took 2 years off after that to 'travel'. Who should you hire?
Brody Bennett
dude being a waiter means you have decent enough social skills, what you complaining about? Im 25 and unemployed, and had about 10 different warehouse/factory jobs in the last 2 years, and couldnt keep a single one more than a few months
Adrian Rogers
>Who should you hire?
If the traveler needed a year after graduating to attain his degree he must've been a retard, but if he received on his graduation date then he just traveled for 2 years. who gives a fuck?
Jaxson Campbell
No one is saying for OP to go to med school at damn near 30 years old. That would be insane. You just have to find the right market. Rural healthcare markets are hurting for qualified RNs as many are retiring or physically too old to work.
In all honesty, I would choose a wagecuck drone, who has internalised the delusion of tolerating or even being happy with the wage life.
Xavier Ramirez
It's not gonna make the difference in most cases and in general the guy who does better in the interview process would get the job. However, if two candidates are weighted equally, a younger applicant with the same credentials will be favoured simply because he is doing g the same work and requiring less time off.
Jayden Green
Older students get stupid advantages as well though. At my uni, senior citizens pay nothing for tuition. Seems like a retarded investment considering that giving that money to a younger student would mean that their education would contribute to a society for a longer period of time. Just boomer things I guess :)
Logan Bennett
community college dumb fuck
Julian Watson
>>get masters, also get refused access to a lot of professiona no if they're in their 20s they're probably interns or doing work training, they're pretty much just looking for gen x who have experience and want to work cheap
Brayden Cox
>Resume: >Age 20-30 >Jobs: NEET
Robert Allen
So what exactly were you doing between 18 and 30?
Hunter Martin
Reeee
Hudson Wright
>have relatively mediocre grades compared to my family friends >no internships or job experience >still richer than all of them combined Thanks Bitcoin