>studied hard and succeeded (top 5 of my entire graduation year)
>looked for the right kind of wife and succeeded (she's beautiful, faithful, and a hard worker)
>work hard and succeeded (live in one of the nicest houses in the area)
So why do pretty much all of my relatives and friends shit on me every chance they get?
Ressentiment.
this
Either to keep you grounded or they jealous.
Fuck you, well done.
Classic LARP. Successful people aren't on 4kek
>bring up point in political discussion, entire table turns on me
>very next week the political parties in question say exactly what I said in interviews
>bring up trivia relevant to the conversation, get laughed at for being wrong
>someone looks it up and I'm right
I even say shit like "I think [insert trivia]" even though I know I'm sure, just to keep from coming across as a know-it-all.
>obviously work hard, sacrificing the best years of my life
>entire table brings up anecdotes from when I was 12 to prove that I'm lazy
it's human nature to feel jealous of others' success. fuck 'em
If you care about your dumb relatives petty jealousy that much, you haven't yet achieved real success, user.
Buy holo
>to keep you grounded
This is the only reason I kind of sit there and take it.
But I'm not so sure.
Thing is, even new additions to my "circle" (like new girlfriends of old friends) are joining in on the bashing now, and everyone's applauding her.
user, have you ever once heard someone say "I did X and it changed my economic status, but I kept all my old friends?"
No. Never once. Ever. This is why.
The reason has to be deeper (instinctual?) than rational thought can account for. It isn't up to you to figure out (unless you're an evolutionary biologist by trade,) it's up to you to adapt to.
Buy the worst house in the best area user, you don't want to be surrounded by a poorfag mindset.
Just start flexing on them.
Family is like anyone else. They expect you to spend your money or you arent rich, they expect ypu to sacrifice time to prove loyalty etc.
The problem ive had and what it sounds like you have is as children we are conditioned that "success" makes people "like you". One of my friends succeeded, got a high paying profession and the toys and the gf, and i realized: i dont give a single fuck about any of that. Hes still the same nigga to me.
Tl;dr no one is "rooting for you" bro they just want you to make them feel good and they'll do the same. So make some jokes or be nicer or something. Maybe youre ugly.
They are fudding you like people fud Link
Idk how you come across, maybe they think it's harmless, or that you're a strong guy who can handle it. Some of my family insult the fuck out of each other and we have a strong relationship where we can say anything. If they can dish it out but can't take it, I find that annoying.
Bad environment, ditch them. You can have better friends easily.
I get that, but what I did was a long grind.
>they just want you to make them feel good and they'll do the same.
This is exactly what I've been doing.
I'm always trying to make others feel good, downplaying or even ignoring their faults.
For instance: one friend has owed me money for over a year now and I only sporadically bring it up with him and never anyone else.
Now I owe him some money and just a month later he's been yapping about it behind my back to all of our mutual friends.
It's lonely at the top and you can't take anyone with you or they'll drag you down.
>Idk how you come across
I try to make light of everything, but I'm always up for an actual discussion.
I have a reputation for being stubborn and always wanting to be right, but I swear to god that's them projecting their own bullshit.
For example: this one time there were two girlfriends of friends who went to a school that has a poorfag reputation, and while they were going on about being prouf of that school they were obviously still frustrated, constantly shitting on the "nice" school I went to and bigging up their own school.
I let them go at it, smiling the whole time.
Then I just casually add "sure, but the school I went to wasn't all that bad you know", and they both absolutely blew up on me, with everyone else at the table joining in.
>maybe they think that you're a strong guy who can handle it.
They do hint at this.
>It's lonely at the top and you can't take anyone with you or they'll drag you down.
Sure, but this is family we're talking about.
Only reason I got into crypto (sitting at 50x my initial right now) is to be able to do shit like pay off my brother's mortgage for him.
If they know your origin you give them the feeling of having lived live the wrong way for having less shit than you so they clown on you.
You can be as nice to them as possible they will set a standard on you thats is 1m above your head. Be uprfront but show humilty. There is no way to be successfull without luck always aknowledge that.
The rational, airy, principle tends to ostracize people who identify with it. Sometimes it feminizes them, when they seek the compromise, in other instances it elevates them because they use their chad cognition to cuck others.
>Now I owe him some money and just a month later he's been yapping about it behind my back to all of our mutual friends.
Tell him he's a faggot, redirect him to Cohen Inc. next time
>For instance: one friend has owed me money for over a year now and I only sporadically bring it up with him and never anyone else.
>Now I owe him some money and just a month later he's been yapping about it behind my back to all of our mutual friends.
You act like a guy with no self respect, yet you wonder why you're not respected. You are really fucking stupid for a smart guy
>You are really fucking stupid for a smart guy
Smartiepants tell him how he's supposed to respect himself then. You're really not being helpful here.
Paying off someone's mortgage is very generous, but idk if you should, unless he's retarded or dying. Honestly, giving people shit can make them greedy resentful little cunts, helping them out to make their own money gives them a better feeling of acvomplishment. If you love these cunts and they love you then the annoying things they do or say don't matter. But don't be a bank for people, if you've got some skill share it, don't lend money to family that you aren't prepared to say goodbye to.
De so jelly they be beetus itself
>But I studied hard!
there are only a few anchor points in life where you can reality warp success into existence and enter the snowball effect. If you had a piece of shit mentor or get to know the wrong people around you the tide can turn more quickly than you can imagine. The problems mostly manifest themself in rigous manners when mistakes already have been made or forced upon you by other people. Everyone studies hard if they see themself succed 5m down the goal line the problem is the situation fades in an instant when a third party crashs your shit. I am not downplaying your endures but people who have everything are disgusting in their own form of existance and a demoralization factor for the general public. Forgive them
Are you Jewish?
What the fuck? If you can leverage the power of lazy you've got it made.
That's the shit that enables you to do someones job that usually takes them a week to do in 30 seconds because you know how to cut and paste
The pinnacle of lazy is actual efficiency
>You act like a guy with no self respect
No, I just don't want to make a big deal in public about some money.
The reason he did talk about my "debt" behind my back, is because he is constantly looking for affirmation from those mutual friends.
please elaborate a bit more on the grind, I'm currently at a crossroads in life and would appreciate any advice on how to make it
also how does your wife feel about your family downplaying your hard work?
Do you have a blog, like your writing
Op I don't quite understand. Do you have any "real" friends or do you just have a "friend" circle where you do some activities together(like eating out, club etc)? If you just have "friends" who are trying to sting you at every chance they get, then news alert OP they aren't really your friends. If you loan(never loan money to "friends") a friend a significant amount of money, then you are supposed to remind them privately not in front of others.
>bring up some trivia, they say I'm wrong, but turns out I'm right
Just say "you willing to bet on that"? Or something similar. If they back off they "lose".
>relatives being mean
Who exactly? Is your brother constantly trying to "sting" you as well? If your brothers a loser and tries something, then downplay him. Seriously if you are rich, then you don't need to take shit from anyone. Just bring up their weaknesses or something. Also ditch your lame ass friends. Start making up some excuses why you can't join them like "oh I'm going to the [insert some expensive/luxury place] with my wife]".
I'm only 19 so what the fuck I know, but in my circle of friends we don't fucking sting each other. We sometimes grill each other, but half-jokingly. If your friends just recently(when you "made it") started being pricks, then they are generic normies and it's time to ditch them.
Oh and post more shit friend scenarios, I wanna see what I would have done/said.
>didnt want to make a big deal in public
yeah its a self respect thing. youre letting people walk over you. its cool to be giving but also command respect when its necessary
I dunno, I'd rather take the flak than him.
sounds like u got a shit family or they got undiagnosed mental illnesses.
just ghost them and make some new frens.
I found something that I'm good at and that allows me to plan my own day.
I work like a madman, often during the weekends, but it's what I wanted to do.
hey whatever floats your boat. if you want to be a whipping boy i get that some people like it
Thing is, I know I can take it. Worst case I flip my shit and intimidate some people.
That friend of mine grew more resilient with age, but I still can't stand thinking about how kids used to treat him when we were young.
>If you just have "friends" who are trying to sting you at every chance they get, then news alert OP they aren't really your friends.
I can take banter, it's just when they gang up on me over dumb shit like trivia that I start to question their mental faculty.
>Who exactly? Is your brother constantly trying to "sting" you as well?
It's more like they bring up anecdotes for instance from when I was 12, to imply that I'm lazy to this day.
They do this knowing I grind like a lunatic, allowing me to afford shit like a nice house and car.
>Oh and post more shit friend scenarios, I wanna see what I would have done/said.
Ok, but I'm warning you this one has multiple layers of stupidity.
This was earlier this summer.
I'm 33, and the conversation turned to some distant female relative who is "32".
The topic was age, so I say "oh, so she's about my age?"
The entire table goes quiet, obviously everyone disagrees.
I cut through the thick noise of crickets with "Right? No?"
They spend a few minutes taking turns trying to explain to me that 33 and 32 are "not close to the same age at all".
Then a brave individual steps forward to divulge that she was born in September 87, while I'm from December 85.
So I go "oh so she's actually 31 still".
Everyone bursts out laughing at this new argument of mine; obviously I'm retarded for saying she's 31 when her 32nd birthday was "only" three months away.
you must be fat. or adopted.
Dont bring up that russian scam
Your "friends" are retarded. You should have told them that. That's literally some 6th-grade tier bickering. I can't imagine some 21+ yo person acting like that. It's ridiculous. Just tell them they are retarded whenever they say shit like this again and ditch them for your own mental health sake. Seriously those are not friends. You are like the one outcast kid in school who stays with a "friend" group while constantly getting grilled from his "friends". You can notice this from the "ganging up" they do. It's what a group of people do when they dislike someone. I might be exaggerating a bit since I don't fully know your situation, but it really does seem like they are all jealous, seething etc. Your options are to either fully start defending yourself and attacking them by bringing up their past life stuff and reminding them of their current shitty life or just ditching them and saving your mental health. I mean you are well off(rich?) and have a nice wife already so it's not like you are going to be lonely.
I call it localized dystonia
these seem classical shitty people, really mean and arrogant, obviously pathologically insecure on the inside, I know the type
I believe your best bet is «I'm working with a side project and can't go out» for few weeks, then months, then move somewhere else nice after selling the house
Are you from Italy, by any chance
Because you're a frogposter
Dystopia lol
GET NEW FRIENDS
CUT OUT ALL NEGATIVE PEOPLE
ITS ESSENTIALLY PSYCHOLOGICAL WARFARE TO GET YOU TO FAIL AND RETURN TO THE AVERAGE
TRUST ME, user YOU DONT NEED PEOPLE LIKE THAT IN YOUR LIFE
I really don't know what they're trying to achieve.
This was a different "circle" from the other anecdotes itt, these were my in-laws.
It's not like I can avoid them.
In this particular case, I feel like they thought I was trying to look younger than I really am or something, and they felt the need to take me down a peg.
My aunt did the same to me when I told her I was part of the millennial generation (same as her kids who are about 10 years younger). She laughed at me and said I wasn't.
Probably because u humble brag about it like you're doing right now. If your life is rich you should be using the wealth to improve life on earth, not doing social comparisons
try suicide
This. It’s not easy but spending time with people who are always trying to drag you down to their level has a negative impact on your life. If they are family, get really busy with work and only talk to them on Christmas. Send your wife by herself and let her listen to them talk shit on you when you aren’t even there and she will probably be on board too.
because you are a beta cuck overcompensating faggot, i mean your success is nothing to me, i can shit on you all i want and you decide to feel conflicted by it because you are weak shit
>12 post of this id
>all about the opinion of their shitty aunties and uncles not even close family
holy fuck imagine being this weak willed, kys
Are you the type of person who would argue white is black just to make yourself feel better for digging your heels in deeper?
They are close family though.
And I'm pretty damn strong willed, it's nearly always me vs the rest.
And it's not like this shit is running my life, it's just a thought I had after another such piling on event yesterday.
Stop projecting LMAO
This. Be an alpha for once. When they are being retarded such as the same age shit ask them to explain themselves. When they shit on you tell them to stop it and tell them they aren't welcome (assuming they're at your house). Tell them they are fucking losers with no goals or ambitions.
Sounds to me like you are a weak little faggot OP
I'm just curious fro which country are you from
Seems a lot like typical unsuffurable Italian behavior to me, if not, tell me if it's typical in your nation thank you
>I try to make light of everything, but I'm always up for an actual discussion.
so you arent behaving how you feel then? if you take jabs and insults with a smile, people can tell its fake and they will be annoyed with you, and actually respect you less. youre not treating people like friends and family, youre treating them like colleagues
Same kinda things happened to me. I was always the “weird” one growing up and was the butt of a lot of jokes but I didn’t care (at the time). The way these childhood “friends” started treating me when I got a good job (engineer in big tech) and bought myself a nice designer purse (femanon obviously lel) ... like the most vicious backhanded insults reminding me of things I did fucking decades ago. Anyways ... I empathize with your situation. I ended up moving for the job anyways so I nicely severed my relationships with those cunts.
Well here's the kicker: I'm actually known to them as a bulldog-type personality.
They often bring up stories from my barfighting days.
I'm Dutch.
Well there's constant banter going on.
But then these moments of pure retardation happen, and before I know it I'm trying to explain how 33 is close in age to 32 to half a dozen NPCs lmao.
Crabs in a bucket my man, crabs in a bucket trying to grab you and bring you down to their level
gosh The Netherlands was one of the few EU places I was going to suggest to move, best place to open business (apart from professional day trading, 1% of your capital in taxes lol)
try overseas France, then
I wouldn't mind the taxes if I knew they were being used right lmao.
Do you really enjoy being with these people? They remind me of the kind of stupidity I had to deal with when I was 12. I can't imagine dealing with that at 33.
>Do you really enjoy being with these people?
Instances like these do highlight the gaping void between me and them, and it's a sad thing to realize.
>>OP
Step 1 take shrooms or LSD or DMT
Step 2 realize that everyone is you
Step 3 realize that money and culture worship is bluepilled
Step 4 start a life of adventure instead of making unnecessary ties
These "humble brag; feel sorry for me" types of threads are stupid. You sound like a faggot, OP. The ''''Latina'''' who just posted ''''her'''' kik has added more value to this place than you.
you obviously care about him. in which case, he shouldn't treat you like this. confront him in private and tell him that shit isn't cool between friends.
psychedelics give you the answer
Because you keep bragging every chance you get and youre a douche ...
>Step 2 realize that everyone is you
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Insecurities.
I really don't know where you're getting this bragging thing.
If it's about the house, I obviously bought it because it was nice. And people from here have literally been telling me it's one of the nicest houses in the area (I'm from a few towns over).
At first when I bought it, I was pretty self-conscious about making people feel bad so I downplayed it a lot.