How do you guys find drive to succeed? What is your passion? I feel like I want to succeed but I have no real goals or dreams beyond "hurrr making it" and don't have any idea how to do it.
What pushes you forward? How do I mimic or find this? I don't want to wage for the test of my life so perhaps start some sort of business for myself to work on my own terms but I need drive or passion to motivate myself first.
First step is to cut out cheap distractions and pleasures. Incredibly difficult in this age.
just do it
picture is a bit too real for my preference user
no idea. I want to be dead honestly.
Hurr making it is all the motivation I've ever had. Money will solve all my problems, so I focus on getting money. I'll buy drive and passion for a discounted price by buying it with happiness.
Dreams and passion are memes user, to succeed it's all about discipline.
If you want to reflect, spend a day alone without any distraction outside of a pen and paper, don't even eat.
What are cheap distractions and pleasures, in your opinion? What do you replace them with?
I'm trying. I just started going back to school to finish my bachelors and I'm actively saving and investing the meager money I make. I have a real estate license that I'd like to utilize but don't know how to start.
Same.
I don't mean the "hurrr making it" as a disingenuous motivation. I meant it as "what is making it?" For you, what is making it? Having enough passive income to not be a wage slave seems to be the common answer for "what is making it to you?"
I need more discipline, I lack it. Last week I tried starting off small by doing pushups when I wake and before I go to bed. How do I expand this?
you're a beta male, born to fail. a real alpha male would rather die than be poor. A real alpha male is so pained by being poor and low value, he can barely sleep or eat, so he works on businesses 24/7 until he makes it, or until he dies.
entrepreneurs are born, not made. Someone like you has no chance.
Why do i relate so much with op pic
Fucking shit
Nothing disingenuous about wanting to make it. Escaping wageslavery is what I consider making it.
Your goal of push-ups on sleep and wake is a bit too vague. Always be comparing yourself with others. Go for a number of reps, number of sets, total number per day, etc. Then do more. This way the goals change as you do, allowing continued growth.
U wanna know what drives me?!
It's that I KNOW I am better than 90% of every single person I come across..
If that belief fails, then I will fail..
Say what you will, but I do as I will..
I'm not poor, I'm doing better than 75% of people in my age group. Those are rookie numbers that I'm looking to pump up.
Goal is to eventually do 500 pushups/day.
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It's not difficult to pass the average normie, which 90% of the population is. Give half a shit about the work you do, save some money for the future, and be mindful of what you eat and you're already ahead of the majority of the population.
Couldn't agree more.. I have pride in myself and the work I perform.. I KNOW my work ethic tops 95% of the people that qualify.. so then if I am better than 90% of all and better than 95% that qualify??? I think I am in good shape..
Just an overall mental haze and lack of direction.
What kind of work do you do?
Depends on what's around me. Where I was at before (Texas 15 years ago) I had my own landscaping business. I was able to take contracts from other well established companies, not because my price was cheaper, but because my work ethic and my crew's was top notch.. I would make it a point to do shit the other companies wouldn't do or would charge out the ass.. respent the clients persons and their property like it's your own.. you'd be surprised how many clients would rather be respected than pay a little less
Since then I have moved to west coast (not my favorite place) and started in tech industry.. I started as just a simple phone tech, then made it to office manager within 1 year.. I attend quarterly meetings with the owner and engineers and other high lev3l employees.. the same here.. most people would rather be given the proper respect than pay a little be less..
Than pay a little less**
Where I am at, it's easy to be better than everyone. My town has less than 20k people.. that being said.. it is a bit tougher to stand above others in a town with 1 mil people..
A carrot on a stick
One good way to start motivating yourself... think of the best version of yourself...
Now start working to be better than that.. if you can become even half of what you perceive to be the best version of yourself, that gives you a leg on the other guy..
>I started as just a simple phone tech
what does this even mean?
you repaired phones or what?
I just turned 28, I feel like it's too late for me.
Please delete this picture user. Thank you for your cooperation.
Oh the sweet relief of eternal sleep.
Haha fair enough.. I started as a (phone tech) meaning I would answer phones and help people with their tech problems ( connection to Internet mostly)
>I need more discipline, I lack it. Last week I tried starting off small by doing pushups when I wake and before I go to bed. How do I expand this?
Don't do pushups before sleeping, your body needs to cool down to sleep and exercise is doing the opposite.
If you lack discipline the first thing you should do is build new routins and change your environment to make it easier.
Personally there are 2 major chokepoints which generally decide if I will have a succesful day or not:
- before going to sleep
- just after waking up
Before going to sleep I clean my room, the kitchen and prepare half of the breakfast (just put the oats in a bowl, get the kiwis out, boil the eggs and put the coffee in the isothermal bottle (next to my bed) then no screen.
These are little things but they allow me to wake up at 6 am, do a 30 minute workout, shit, cold shower, eat and have a breakfast, brush my teeth and I'm out.
I don't watch my phone or computer or read before it's done.
I do that everyday, even during the week-end or the holidays and when I fail I have almost always a shit day, they kickstart me in short.
Once you stick to these routines long enough (3 months or so) they become effortless and you can build other routines on top (like going at the library the saturday morning to work/study something instead of procrastinating), then maybe you can add meditating 10 minutes once you come back from work/school, etc...
If you struggle to work/study at home then go out in a Café/Starbucks/Library/coworking space.
Age is but an arbitrary number my friend.. I am only a couple years ahead of you.. so I can tell you for a FACT it is not too late..
Good advice here
go see that one clown, everyone in town says he is funny, oughta cheer you up
This is helpful. I currently don't have any morning routine and my sleep schedule is sporadic. What's your sleep schedule like? What time to bed and what time to rise? Also, what do you do in free time? I get mentally gassed from waging and studies (just started going back to school) so I have no motivation and just fall back on smoking and video games. I clearly recognize this is unproductive but studying more is almost useless as my mind is drained. Perhaps a way to recharge so I can continue studies without losing focus?
A friend of mine suggests I get into IT once I finish school (not for 2+ years). Do you like it?
Sounds like you asking for meditation
Its a job.. I do like tech to begin with, that comes naturally to me.. but just like any other job, shit rolls down hill
FUCK YOU OP
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THIS SHIT IS TOO PERSONAL
>Change your environment
Probably the most important thing right here. Thinking of limiting the time I stay in my room (aside from sleeping) up to 3-4 hours a day maximum. If I want to work, i'll just do it elsewhere. Thanks for the inspiration user.
Also for the anons who think they're "failing at life". Usually these thoughts are not based in reality and in many cases are a subconcious response generated by your limbic system. How you feel essentially becomes like a defense mechanism. The way to respond to it is to convince yourself what you are dealing with is not a threat and proving it by remaining in it's proximity. Eventually the brain will realise that fight or flight isn't an option, and adaptation is what must take place.
I remember being crazy anxious. Could barely breathe in-class and it would be a constant mental and eventually physically struggle (head would start to pound).
Through exposure this slowly began to wear off and I went from very anxious, to anxious, to alert, to mildly on edge.
It's a process, and how big the steps you want to take are up to you, but try to take some no matter how insiginificant.
I remember not being able to breathe in class too
The feelings come from comparing myself to others.