>parents never taught me the value of hard work, rarely ever punished me for anything, never really pushed me to do well in school, continually excused my behavior and put down cushions for whenever I fell, continue to spoonfeed me even as I approach 20
>couldn’t figure out for so long the reason why I don’t have the motivation to do college, get a job, or really intently learn or dedicate myself to anything
>parents pressure me into dedicating my life to a career I don’t want to do, basically what they do (both doctors) and threaten not to fund my schooling if they do
>major depression and anxiety, addicted to pornography, social maladjustment, all sorts of issues from various unrelated traumas that are pointless getting into
did my parents ruin me Jow Forums? I wasn’t born mentally ill and I used to be an A student in middle and elementary, top of my honor roll always... what went so wrong? why am I such a failure despite how badly I don’t want to be one? what can I do to break this NEET conditioning?
Parents never taught me the value of hard work, rarely ever punished me for anything...
offtopic and tldr, try r9k
Sounds like you're just a pussy
Im in the exact same boat but 27. Start now.
I'm afraid you're gonna need a lot of dedication, and a lot of discussing with your parents. No one can help you but yourself. Also
>getting help from Jow Forums of all places
>kindly fuck off
Sorry to inform you mate, but you're a pussy. I recommend stop being a pussy.
As I'm sure you've heard said, people have a choice no matter what kind of childhood they had. There's many who break the cycle of abuse, whether it be physically, verbally, emotionally or sexual, sometimes all of the above rolled into 1. We have a choice. Your upbringing may have put you in your state of mind and predicament, but that doesn't mean you need to stay a perpetual NEET manchild. Considering the fact that you can see all this and know something is wrong is a good start.
I cant tell you how to get out of it other than push through your mindset, because that IS the only thing holding you back.
And you're a pussy, as an user said.
Do what you love.
(masturbate on a webcam)
Do a flip faggot.
Listen nigger my parents are both doctors, and put me through the same type of shit. They fucked me right up with prescriptions from age 16 and it took me until my late 20s to finally get my health sorted out. By then they already spent all of their money and didn't save for school.
Take advantage of the purse strings while they are there, because eventually your parents won't feel obligated to pay anymore. You only get one shot at this and if you miss the boat in life that's it. There won't be any money to go to university later.
It's hard sometimes knowing how badly I was fucked over by psycho narcissistic munchausen-tier parents, but I have learned invaluable life lessons struggling to get where I am today that no school could have taught.
they never reply to me, probably because it hits too close to home for em
all very true, I am a pussy and I appreciate you guys saying that
thanks. also some people on /b/ suggested I joined the military or do therapy to extract the NEET in me, do you guys think this is a good idea?
yes I’m OP I’m just posting from my laptop now
>parents never taught me the value of hard work, rarely ever punished me for anything, never really pushed me to do well in school, continually excused my behavior and put down cushions for whenever I fell, continue to spoonfeed me even as I approach 20
same as me but
>learn how to Life anyways
YOU are the problem
No to either.
Pick a subject that interests you and go to university. Once you are there you will find your true calling and mentors and your parents will be obligated to keep supporting you even if you decide to take a different program.
I can’t get into a university though and I absolutely hate community college, but I’m giving it a try. thanks
I know I may the problem but everyone’s experience is different. you and I haven’t had the same lives even if we had similar upbringings. you’re probably right anyway though
I started working when I was 12, maybe if your parents didn't give you money you would have a work ethic and not be whining right now.
My advice to you is to take solace in the fact the west is gonna crash and burn so people working hard saving money are just wasting their time.
actually I have a plan for getting into a great uni but I can’t enact it until I actually figure out how to do basic shit for myself first
Then upgrade your highschool grades?
If you are actually intelligent like you say, you can knock off highschool courses in a few weeks no problem.
The fact that you can't even motivate yourself to build character or push through the boundaries your parents put on you mentally, and how it's continued to eat away at you, military would be a bad idea.
Is there anything that interests you? Especially something that doesn't need uni? Are you good at anything, art like woodworking, or anything hands on and not faggish?
this is top-liberal-tier "privilege" speak m8 with ur fuckin lived experiences shit
if you're aware enough of the problem to complain about it in depth then you're in a position to do something about it faggot
>parents never taught me the value of hard work, rarely ever punished me for anything, never really pushed me to do well in school, continually excused my behavior and put down cushions for whenever I fell, continue to spoonfeed me even as I approach 20
Parents tried so hard make you a good left winger but still you accuse them, not Trump for your problems. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Quit being a stupid whiny bbitch, or kill yourself. Privileged dickhead.....
Wait, you're not out of high school yet? No frets. Pick up a job at least and get a feel for working, even if it's fast food. It may be stupid and "low brow" but a couple of years at most working hard or even just bare minimum and you can climb up.
My parents went from govt assistance and living in a trailer with 3 kids, but once my dad sort of got his shit together once he started working with Sonic, he brought us up to a 2 story suburb within 4 years being a GM. The food business has good money to be made of you can do it, and the fast paced, pressures and constant work is nice. Ask any desk monkeys they hate their life unless they are actually interested in pushing paper or working with numbers sitting all day.
Go into trade, something, you'll be fine.
kys. If you're on Jow Forums and haven't pulled yourself out of your own degeneracy, then your gene pool needs to end with you.
youre just an infp. welcome to the club. you need to forget about your feelings, your ideals, your daydreams and focus on generating practical, real value if you want to succeed in this world. unfortunately mental masturbation doesn't pay very well
join the infantry. they will fix what your parents fucked up. you'll go in a neet and come out a fucking man. the GI bill is nice too.
Yeah you have a perfect family and youre just a bitch. I would glady trade my parents for yours, you fucking cunt.
now leaf, listen to me
YOU are the fucking problem, do you understand? your parents rised you the best they could, they did the best they could for you, they gave you everything, you've never lacked anything.
N E V E R.
A N Y T H I N G.
do you really understand what they did for you? see? that's the problem, you fucking don't
you are failing to recognize that you can't do anything by yourself, not because your parents did everything for you, but because you are who's in the wrong here
now what you should be doing is sucking it up, thanking for your parents because you always had something to eat, a bed to sleep in and two parents who were there for you and then go and learn how to be normal
This. Dying for Israel really worked for me. :^)
>did my parents ruin me Jow Forums?
yes. like most boomer and post-boomer parents did.
No. Take accountability for your own failures, retard.
Find something you're comfortable with. Don't force yourself to overcome your anxieties and insecurities, just find something you think you'd be willing to do RIGHT NOW (hotel clerk overnight? uber driver? nightshift security job?)
That's how I escaped NEETdom. You'll adjust and develop eventually, but you have to find something you're willing to do that doesn't sound miserable or horrifying. You basically skipped a bunch of developmental stages and need to catch up in whatever way is easiest for you. Porn addiction is bad, but it's the least of your worries. Build yourself up by finding something you feel you can do. Be on the lookout for those golden opportunity jobs, it might be something you never imagined. Just don't lose hope, most people your age are functionally NEET. You're more normal than you realize (not that it's good, but you shouldn't feel like a level 2 slime quite yet)
Nobody is going to sort your life out for you, just focus on doing what you can whenever you can. Drop video games and Jow Forums if need be.
I knew a doctors kid, he ended up doing a certificate for being a personal trainer and worked as a janitor.