How to deal with extreme loneliness? I know this problem is quite prevalent in our society today. I'll take myself as an example:
> be me > married with a kid > wife and kid are on a 1-month trip to visit wife's family > I have to hang back to work, and we are doing another trip together after they get back > completely and utterly lonely > realize that I have literally 0 friends, only a few associates that never seem to have the time to hang > desperately try every avenue possible to quickly make some friends to kill the time with > each and every avenue is a dead-end (bars, meetups, etc) > literally can not find a single human being worth spending time with
I live in a major city, surrounded by people, but am unable to connect with anyone. Why is it so fucking hard? I understand why people just explode and want to kill everyone. Luckily for me my family is coming back in 2 weeks but man it's rough out there.
wander down to your nearest sports bar, grab a seat at the bar, and talk to some of the guys there about the game. Make friends. Suggest you guys go and check out a pro game.
Carson Scott
God I wish, I'm 36 and even vidya is losing it's taste. Nothing gets me excited anymore.
Connor Jenkins
I literally did just that on the first weekend they were gone. It still sucked and felt awkward af being solo and talking to random people. Also I'm red-pilled and live in Los Angeles so that adds a whole other layer of awkwardness.
Easton Gomez
You don't really make friends after early adulthood. Also man up, you don't need friends; only activities to keep you busy and a sense of purpose (i.e. your family). You are their rock.
Michael Ward
>Has a wife and kid >Only alone for a month Cry me a river bitch
Dominic Taylor
Realize that happiness comes from within.
Ian Cooper
I know... but I can't help what I feels man. I've had a loneliness complex my entire life so I guess I'm majorly triggered by this event.
Easton Thomas
>lonely give me a break, I have never had any friends in my entire life after I was 12.
you need to master the art of seeing your own existence as a "brain in a vat". why do you need anyone else? you have all the music ever made at your fingertips, movies, tv shows, youtube stuff, infinite pornography, computer games, endless information to read and get into and a comfy room to sit in (and hopefully a cool battlestation). you really need another human to pass the time and enjoy your existence?
Brody Foster
Play Overwatch. Dominator21. Gas the kikes. Jews did 9/11. Add me.
Zachary Bell
I have schizoid personality disorder, so I am virtually immune to loneliness. Jow Forums is unironically my only form of social interaction.
Yes, I do! I have all the games. Dude I even have a fucking HTC VIVE. At some point games, movies, porn, Jow Forums, it all doesn't work because it's all missing the most important ingredient and that is someone to share the experience with.
Dylan Sanders
>Flat as a washboard
Juan Hill
>live in Los Angeles thers the problem. go somewhere where humans live.
Mason Ward
>has a family >"lonely"
I have zero friends, have never had a girlfriend in my 27 years and have not gotten laid in almost 2 years. You think you're lonely? I get so lonely that I call my mom on weekends.
Josiah Perry
dude I started calling my mother too lol
Joseph Phillips
are you sharing the experience with other people, or are they sharing the experience with you?
I'm trying too. Might have the opportunity to move to Utah. Pray for me that it works out. Otherwise I'm trying to head to Idaho.
Andrew Richardson
nice fortune cookie advice, too bad it's nonsense
Dominic Morgan
nope. I live in a rural area, no friends, lonely.
Luke Ramirez
Other humans introduce unpredictability. While people can also be predictable as fuck at times, it's those rare moments when the unexpected happens that make it worthwhile.
Work from home. Wife, kids, no friends, but I do get outside for hiking and such. I get my news and bants here.
Evan Perry
Yep. Needs a hobby.
If he doesn't like sports, try looking for bars that have live music. Really it's just an excuse to go drink beer and if absolutely nothing else goes on then at least there's music.
Different bars have different cultures too. There's one I like and still go to but I get into a conversation like 1 time in 50 there, literally. It's the kind of place people go to with groups and never talk outside of their group. Other bars I go to I get into a good conversation like half the time. Just a totally different crowd.
Give a place a try a few times and if nothing happens, try another place.
Sebastian Moore
>desperately try every avenue possible to quickly make some friends to kill the time with
Just get a dog and you'll meet other dog-owners at the park.
hey, let's look inside and see what's in there. Hm, nothing. There's nothing inside of me that will make me happy. People that believe that shit are simply doing things for themselves that give them little temporary boosts of confidence. Just mind tricks to convince yourself you're happy.
Ethan Gray
Emotions and human interaction are basic human needs, unless you are autistic or schizoid
Carter Taylor
how about something other than a degenerate bar with people looking to drink their sorrows away and pay for over priced drinks?
I hate this advice so much. "Get a hobby." What the fuck is a hobby going to do for my loneliness. It's bullshit advice. I like to travel, I like to hike, I like to camp. But doing that shit alone gets fucking old quick.
John Barnes
>has wife and kid >comes here bitching about loneliness Get out.
Jayden Hall
Same here, add working from home to the loneliness. I mostly keep occupied but there is definitely something missing.
Ethan Murphy
I don't take my dog to a park, you fucking urbanfag. I take her to the lake.
Carson Taylor
TIL I have schizoid personality disorder.
WTF does everyone I know keep saying I need friends? Joke's on them...
Oliver Russell
You have strange ideas about bars. I guess some are like that but most aren't. You've never actually been to a bar, have you.
>doesn't want to alone >deliberately chooses single player campaigns over co-op and multiplayer u wot m8
Eli Smith
I didn't say I was nothing, brainlet. There isn't some happiness generator inside me, just making an endless supply of happiness. There's nothing inside of me that is going to save me.
they don't have meetup in my area. I live in a town of 8000 people and have been here my whole life. Even if they did have meetup here, it would be with people I already know.
Nathaniel Baker
How about cleaning up your gun and buying proper ammo?
Tyler Bailey
That's it. Send the lonely depressed guy out into the woods alone with a rifle.
>be alone in apartment with two vacant rooms above me. >3 AM >ears ring with deafening silence >occasionally the odd car drives by or a howling of a police/ambulance siren in the distance >sometimes the trains roll by soothing me with their horns as they pass >deafening silence > my pc and fridge are the only noises I experience if not a video or game or news or whatnot >feel a terrible numbness inside of me that spreads from my core to my fingers and toes >too numb to be sad, too numb to cry no one should get used to this
Angel Reed
some would argue otherwise.
discontent = disharmony
perhaps you should find out why you are not in harmony with yourself and higher meaning/purpose
multiplayer? Like what, basketball, softball. Wtf are you even talking about? I don't want to play basketball.
Xavier Diaz
Get yourself a piece of wood and a good knoif/carving tools (if you feel like forking out $10). Or go get yourself a bag of leather scraps and some punches and learn some leather working. Don't stay idle. I literally had the same situation not long ago.. need to stay busy.
Mason Russell
Happiness doesn't come from other people. It comes from the value your mind attributes to them. If you attribute value to being alone, you'll be happy alone.
Nathaniel Campbell
Get a hobby and find a club for it. Or maybe a club for your line of work or self improvement stuff. Either something for how you're fucked up (AA and stuff like that) or something that you do (car clubs veterans clubs ect) Then you find like minded people.
Leo Perez
I have no gf. No friends. I make six figures, save half, spend rest on pc gaming paraphenilia and fast cars. I sleep in. I eat what I want. I workout 45 min a day....
...seriously though, wtf does everyone think I need a social life? Why can't they see I've got it made?
Isaac Perry
I dabble in target shooting with my limited free time, you using cheap steel case ammo? I get a lot of FTE with that stuff.
Because you don't. Material wealth doesn't lead to fulfillment. Family and community do. You're just fooling yourself right now.
Nathan Price
I have a high income as well. It's all quite surreal. I'm friendless yes, but happy.
Jordan Morgan
If you feel this bad for just a month being alone, you are suffering from codependency. It can ruin your marriage you know.
Being alone can be a wonderful thing.
Oliver Smith
> just got of the phone with my mom
fuck that hit deep lol
Parker Gonzalez
>some would argue otherwise. I don't care what some would argue. I know myself, I know what's inside of me and happiness is not there. So save the ego-centered self help advice for leddit.
Been there done that. Jesus is an imaginary friend. I want an actual real, physical friend. You know, someone who can take Controller 2 and play a game with me.
No I used good stuff. Last time it happened too so I did a full tear down, cleaning, oiling, etc. I guess I should have done it again right *before* going because apparently letting it sit there in the case for a couple months is enough to dry it out again.
Liam Ward
that makes more sense to me. but I still have to find something to do while i'm alone that is valuable to me. and I don't know what that is. I'm not a writer, i'm not an artist.
Brayden Wilson
This is true.
Jaxson Powell
Literally every sport has a club or meets you can join. Basically every hobby imaginable has classes / whatever you can attend.
John Turner
I think people just want to believe that their choices are the correct ones, so they want to convince you that even though you are happy, you're missing something.
All my married coworkers hate their lives. It's pretty obvious.
Gavin Torres
no ego here bub, take care of yourself
sincerely wishing you success in finding what activates you
