Purity

There are a few things going on here.
First, it was a different world. Girls back then were married off when they were like 14 or so, and boys weren't much older. Often arranged, and so there was less time to "fight the urges".

Second, as another user says, our culture hyper sexualizes teenagers these days, going all the way to having elementary and middle school kids "dating" one another.

So, that's why it seems kind of impossible. But, if you consider say monks or nuns (no jokes about Church abuse or anything), they stay pure in the same way we stay sinless.

We don't. You'll sin. You'll fail. We all do. There's no expectation that you'll never get horny and jack it again. Rather, it's that you won't go browsing porn when you're bored or leering around.

Two pieces of advice: first, I don't think the story of Onan is that all masturbation is bad. He sinned because he directly defied God. The sin is lusting after a particular individual. Work with that. And, imo, better to get a quickie off then to be horny and let yourself fantasize.

Second, if you see someone really hot, say something (mentally) like "God has shown his glory in making such a beautiful person". It puts your thoughts on God and not your dick.

Pray and let God lead you, bro

Try fucking your wife

Thanks for the advice user. I agree that society has changed drastically since biblical days and the fact that our culture hypersexualizes everything is spot on.
I do admit that I haven't been seeking Him for help as much as I should be...so it's no surprise that I haven't been finding victory in this area.

I wish. Sadly I don't have one.

Prayer is the most powerful weapon at our disposal. It gives us an intimate connection with the Almighty, and is free. Use it.

Remember also that the Spirit dwells within you. "I can do all things by Him who strengthens me" isn't just about healing and speaking in tongues--it's also about bravery and resisting sins and temptations.

Relish each victory you have over lust, or any other sin, and glorify God for it. Those memories will strengthen you.

If you'd like reading, I recommend Morton Kelsey's "The other side of silence", which talks about meditation and communion with God from a Christian perspective. If Heaven is a perfect place because it is perfect union with God (which it is), then close prayer is the closest thing to Heaven we have on Earth, and we should relish it (this is paraphrasing St. Teresa of Avila in "The Way of Perfection".)

Basically, yeah, keep praying, and don't be afraid to talk to your pastor/deacons/church brethren. Everyone has struggled.

Thanks brother. Your two comments encompassed everything that I needed to hear.
I have not been focusing on prayer in my life lately. Essentially I feel defeated and ashamed of my past decisions, addictions and wayward life. The shame and guilt feel utterly defeating.

Remember, in Christ there is freedom. He has separated your sin from you as far as the east is from the west. Satan is called the accuser; he wants you to be chained by guilt and shame so that you are inhibited from doing God's work. While you need to acknowledge your past wrongs, know that God has forgiven you, and with that you can move on.

I'll be in prayer for you, friend.

Seconded.

You can do it user, with the Lord's close assistance.

Confession to a Priest has helped me as well. He was extremely non judgemental, but at the same time, incredibly honest: "Pornography is horrible for you, it impairs your ability to love. It is absolutely horrible." I faltered and went back to confession, and he just gave me more encouragement and asked me to pray to Jesus to send me someone to love.

He said loving God is the same as loving others, and when you sin, you break your connection with God and with others. Love is about prioritizing another person over ourself. Porn is all about yourself.

I'm paraphrasing but this was his message to me. And it was delivered in the most loving way possible. Never really had someone be that way with me.

Find a Priest or Pastor you can talk to about this in a confidential way. I sought out this Priest who is outside of my church community because I wanted that extra layer of confidentiality. I'm very grateful I did.

Thanks for the message, user. I have in fact opened up with my Pastor about my past and current struggles. It helped initially, but not finding victory is defeating and the despair is overwhelming.

Thank you for the encouraging words.

Porn isn't the only struggle, I've done worse things too which makes me feel even more ashamed and defeated.

Also realize you are swimming against a VERY strong current, and that eventually the strength you gain from this will catch a woman's attention. Not jacking off is by far the #1 thing you can do to store up your mojo and magic man power and women can sense that unconsciously. Let that power build and you will have options. You can do it user. Godspeed.

quit replying in christcuck shill threads you idiots

Thanks man. All I want is to find victory against the stronghold of lust in my life and be in tune with Him. If God wants to bless me with a wife somewhere down the road, then great.

Fuck off you degenerate lost rat bastard who tried to tear down someone climbing out of the pit of sin. You reveal your dark diseased soul and I pray you find the saving grace of God's love which will give you hope to find a purposeful life as well.

based & Christpilled

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What a pile of shit. For most people you hit puberty, you want to fuck, it's that simple.

God did not intend us to sit in fucking classrooms until 25 or marry at 30. Teenage years used to be the time when you truly transitioned into being a mature, self sufficient, adult. Teenage "boys" used to be officers in the fucking British Navy for fuck's sake. They were men and perfectly capable of providing for wives.

Now we have 30yo children being triggered and seeking safe spaces.

I agree, but the whole early hypersexualization issue does play a role too.