Does growing up without a father fuck people up? I seem to have turned out just fine

Absolutely.

It seems that women growing up with single mothers tend to be way more fucked up than men with single mothers

What happens to those girls, aren't they all sluts?

>on Jow Forums
>fine

Yes.
t. Had a single mom.

>Just fine

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Underrated

No

Sterilization should be

Did you have any sort of positive male role model ?

you are posting on /pol clearly you are fucked up

Fpbp - was thinking the exact same thing

But to be fair - I grew up with the best parents anybody could ask for, in a middle class family, and in a relatively safe crime-free city ; but aside from heroin addicts, sex offenders and total lost-cause degenerates, I am one of the most fucked-up minded people in my area that I can think of. But, at least I self-assess and modify behavior, and few people i know are capable of such a thing.

statistics says yes.

63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)

I myself was raised without a dad. never knew him. when he did I didn't even know about it until my mom told me. It may not mess everyone up, but from experience I can say it has impacted me. I can't look at women like most men might - my mom was not very good, and every time I get into a relationship I just see her in them, and it kills it. I doubt I'll ever get married or have kids.

Grew up with neither of my parents raising me. They were drugged up and acted like teenagers when I was little and they were in their early 30s. My grandma always looked after me and I would go over my dad's house sometimes. Then when I was 5 my grandma took me with her down to Georgia. Was in a few foster homes in-between. Lived with her untill I was 7 then her Parkinsons got to be too much then I lived with my aunt and uncle who didn't like me. Made feel very unwelcome from the beginning. Dropped me off at my grandma's when they went somewhere with there kids. Stole things to get some kind of attention looking back, then cousins started hiding g things in my room claiming I stole them. Lived there untill I was 8 yrs old almost 9 then went back into fostercare the day after Christmas because my uncle didn't want me there. Turned 9 a week later in foster care. Got adopted eventually. I can say not having a stable guardian fucked me up. I never even learned how to ride a bike because nobody would teach me as a kid. I think I have something called reactive attachment disorder from it to where I can't let people get too close to me and I will push them away. I also turned out a faggot from being diddled by tweens when I was 7 and probably having no father figure. I remember being very uncomfortable around adult men as a kid because I didn't know how to interact with them. My only father figures we're my dad who I barely remember but abused my mom and my uncle who mostly ignored me or treated me like garbage. Sorry for my rambling but thought it would explain it better. Please don't ever abandon your kids or don't have any if you can't be a father. I'm a disaster on the inside from not having a father who could actually be a father

I'd have probably been better off without my father, at least mentally.

I know right it's just excuses these days waaah daddy beat me waaah daddy wasn't there.
Gen xyz+ are fucking poofters that got rekt more by the social climate that hates men and whorships dumb immigrants

I am fine
posting on pol does not make you a bad person.

>pol
eek you really _are new, aren't you, user?

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Statistically, a fatherless child will be fucking ruined, but some mothers step up and do a great job, this however does not mean you aren't somehow fucking ruined, just that your mother may have done a great job without your dad being around.

why because I did not include / /
I am just a lazy shit

no

It's a negative impact on your development. So yes, it does fuck you up.

The questions is, how much does it fuck you up? I know I tend to blame others for my shortcomings, so I am probably quick to blame my father too much for my own shortcomings.

I grew up with divorced parents and only saw my dad on weekends. I suck at approaching women and I think in part that's because of a lack of a father figure for majority of my life, and also not having witnessed my father romantically embrace my mother.
On top of that, being raised by a single mother who allowed me to do play as much as vidya as I wanted to, I became very addicted to video games in my teenage years. She even recognised that at the time, but because she still let me play so much because I wanted to.
That said, only because I wouldn't have become (as) addicted to vidya, having a father around in my youth wouldn't necessarily meant I would have turned out more of a chad.

But again, it's pointless to think about this because it's impossible to know what the alternative would have turned out to be.

It affects everyone differently but in general it's a huge net negative in your life.

I had a fucked up family life but glad that I had a dad otherwise I would've came out even more fucked up than I already am

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>I seem to have turned out just fine.
>browses this mongolian woodcarving imageforum
>browses this mongolian woodcarving imageforum AND visits /pol

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On the opposite side I grew up without a mother and lack compassion and empathy. But can See that had it gone the other way I would be weak and soft

divorced parents here also saw my dad on weekends

my dad was a very popular DJ back when Disck Jockeys existed, he visited cancun, tampico, valle de bravo and many cities, supposedly he had a sugar mommy for like 6 years when he was around 25, when i was young he always mentioned the concept of girlfriend as a joke "hey that cute artist is my girlfriend" (whilst married to my mom), they divorced and i never was a retard when it came to women until I joined a folkloric dance club, one day the teacher told me to grab my couple by the waist but ended up almost touching her breast (i was 12 at this point), by junior highschool id had 4 girlfriends and had kissed 3, i dont talk to my dad anymore because he did awful shit to my mom she ended up crying for years after the divorce which gave me hard nightmares during elementary but now were both happier, i think i learned the most i could from the positive things my dad gave me (critital thinking, not to blame others but oneself, call black people niggers)

I think i could have ended up worse, perhaps more like him but thats why i wanted to put distance between us, the only things i can learn from him now are manipulative shit that got him divorced and alone like a dog living in a sad and poor apartment in the middle of fucking nowhere.

I didn't have one either OP. We just do what we can with what we have and that will have to be enough.

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you will be okay user

if your an idiot

I grew up without a father and I have been very successful in life.

Once in a while I stalk the public park and suck off a dog to relieve the horrible emptiness inside.

fucking kek

Define fine?

Bad parenting fucks you up.

Yes, my psychologist says I actually view women as objects and harbour a hatred torward things feminine. I also don't know how to interact with women

I thought I was okay too but when I reached my 20s I realized I was lacking in many areas of experience. Tbf I had a bad childhood as my stepdad mostly ignored me and sometimes hit me and my mom always took his side because she didn’t want him to leave. So I felt pushed out of my family since I was 10. My GF is pregnant with a boy and I worry if I’ll know how to be a good father sometimes.

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>just fine
>posts on Jow Forums

No one can say why some people who go through traumatic events somehow come out stronger, better and with more character, while others become "damaged" and just kind of go nuts.

wouldnt that mean mommy issues? you reject the feminine figure because your mom was bad at raising you

fpbp

you're on Jow Forums, nigger

You're too stupid to understand averages, so no, you don't turned out just fine.

>Yes, my (((psychologist))) says

You're a homo. You are so desperate for male affection you will suck cock regularly to obtain it.

I know this because you are the OP.

Depends on weather your mom is a crack Ho or not.

no - it just means you're dysfunctional and poorly adjusted to society.

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>right in the feels

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The fact your hear means your absolutely not fine...

If you're a suburban upper middle class white kid you grow up to be a faggy skinny kid

If you're from the ghettos you'll get influenced by the gangs from the lack of a father figure.

you need a father-figure user, did u had one?

I grew up under a femanist mother who stuck me in boarding schools while a young teen while she built businesses which she did "for me". My father got rekt and I barely ever saw him except a couple of school holidays.
I literally spent my childhood alone. Just.... riding my bike everywhere and fishing and shit.

Oh and I was circumcised at age 8 (because ...?), I woke up halfway through operation screaming while a doctor was slicing into my penis with blood dripping everywhere.

Now I am a crossdressing bisexual. Could have been worse. At least I know I am fucked, but vote Right.

Is an excuse for our nigger problem but not entirely true. If your mom isn't a feminist cunt she will attempt to fulfill both roles. Hopefully other family chip in. If you are a man that wears dresses then they clearly failed.

I agree morally that abortions are wrong but we are fucking up this place whit overpopulation as it is, but abortions wont really fix this we need some form of population controll tho.

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What's the 'aborted single mother' meme look like anyway?

You could get some real recursion going with this.

>aborted abortionist
>aborted abortionist who would've aborted an abortionist

>aborted woman who would've got an abortion
>aborted woman of aborted woman who would've an abortion

Trippy.

Abortion should be mandatory for niggers arabs and spics though

Yeah, I was really effeminate and beta and didn't know how to conduct myself but now I'm re masculinizing myself

You will be a lot more feminine and less disciplined unless your mother was a dyke.

Yet you are on Jow Forums.

You are fucked.

I don't know. I was able to put everything in the back of my mind when I was younger but now I'm starting to have flashbacks randomly to those times now that I'm an adult. I just want the random memories popping into my head to stop.

Girls start menstruating earlier and tend to be more promiscuous if they grow up without a father.

I know people that have similar traumas to mine who are complete messes who smoke meth and cut themselves with borderline personality disorder while I'm able to hold it together at least on the outside.

Imagine having this retarded liberal view. Fucking kys

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Boys and girls naturally want/need that male role model to look up to. It's programmed inside of us. We aim to appease them and earn their validation. A lot of those "successful" people you meet aren't working 80 hours a week because they enjoy their career or feel they're making a difference in the world. A lot of them are looking to gain the respect of their parents (usually father), from beyond the grave or otherwise.

A bastard child who sees other kids playing catch with thier fathers naturally gets jealous and wonders why he does not have a such a father. The fatherless child will think he did something wrong to scare away his dad and this will lead to self esteem issues. Also, children are prone to look for and latch onto male/female role models and is really the reason you don't want your kids to be left alone with freaks or Nickelodeon television.

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Don't know, my dad raised me all by himself. My girlfriend grew up without her dad and she is pretty normal.

You're probably really young. Wait until you actually become an adult and you'll see how it fucks you up.

my dad left when i was 13 and i was genuinely happy about it because living with just my mum allowed me huge amounts of freedom because she was just totally unaware of what i was doing. Plus he started buying me all types of shit out of guilt

as a kid i could always sort of instinctively tell my parent's relationship was fucked up, so that omnipresent tension finally dissipating was a relief

Im 19, last time I saw him I was about 5 or 6 im guessing. Recently found a picture which just got me thinking.

Just look at the African American community. 70% of black babies are born out-of-wedlock.

Women who don't have fathers never turn out fine.

Being a weak faggot who needs excuses fucks people up

You'll be good user, don't worry too much.

Pretty much. Its part of the problem that led to the roastie epidemic

i think the numbers speak for themselves

I grew up without a mother and no one taught me how to do roastie stuff. Now I have to go to work everyday like a man. Sad!
t. roastie

Why not find him? Reach out and ask if he wants to meet for dinner? Do your best to not lay down your suffering. Just try and catch up, ask about your fathers side of the family, etc.

When its over, if your dad doesnt feel threatened, he might meet up again. Some day you might get the chance to address your frustrations and hang ups with him.

Take it slow and make the effort, you’ll thank yourself once he’s gone one day that you tried to connect.

Dads need their children just as much as children need their dads

Basically, also coal burners and coke-heads.

They usually commit suicide or go to the loony bin by 50.

I'm misanthropic and went out of my way to avoid other people. I see most people as mean spirited, vapid, or brainless from how the outside world was. For it didn't just happen. It was deliberate. I want to isolate myself from society forever. What kind of parenting causes this?

We’re autistic. There are a lot of us like this here because autists respect honesty. You get heaps of truth on Jow Forums. You’re home brother

I have an aborted older sister.

>parents divorced when I was 1
>realize all my problems are because of this
>I've had to slowly learn how to be a normal person, with kids from whole families knew it all along

feels bad

>Are black people stupid and violent? Here's this guy named Thomas Sowell who turned out just fine.

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Never had a dad but guess what i taught myself to be a man, don't blame ur problems on mommy, she tried her best.

I would have benefited by having one while growing up.

I am the only one she didn't abort

I had didn't have an abusive father but abusive boyfriends. one tied put pins in my dogs toy and duck taped it in his mouth. i killed his dog and smashed his car up with a baseball bat. i've battered every person I've met that has had his last name same name. i plan on finishing the job up one day.

Yes it does, a friend of mine grew up with his mom and sister only and he's as feminine as you can get without being gay and I don't mean when it comes to clothes but in his behavior. He mainly hangs out with women, talks like them, is "quirky" like them and is always influenced by the next trend. It's fucking disgusting.

I have a father and I come here because this place makes me laugh.

It is a massive handicap that you succeeded in spite of. My mom was a degenerate 39 year old who got knocked up and left my dad when I was 4. I grew up a block away from my Abuello who was a great man and taught me how to do guy shit. Most people who grow up with little to no male role models end up fucked though

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I had a lot of jealousy towards kids with present fathers, but I got over it.
I mean, I did get to see my dad every day, but he never interacted with me. He just wanted to get rid of me while he played WoW. I hated WoW and used to fantasize about shooting up their servers when I was nine or so. I also didn't give my dad a father's day gift I was forced to make at camp because I knew he would be in his underwear on the computer when I got back, and I didn't wan't to see his annoyed face as I interupted his current PC game to give him a cheesy gift I didn't mean. I tried refusing to make it. I don't even remember what it was exactly, but it had my photo in it, and was decorated with markers...
A lady at the camp called my mom and asked if I was fighting with my dad, and my mom was confused and horrified, and told me to make it.
Then I had to give it to my dad. He looked at it, said "huh thanks", and went back to playing his games.
That's most of what I remember about my dad as a kid.
I'm realizing a lot of people my age have this same problem. Grandparents are alchoholics, and parents are depressed vidya addicts.
Still better than my generation of flaming homos.

what the fuck are you talking about?

Did she keep the remains in preserved jar in the attic to show you when you fucked up?