For the first time in years I cried

For the first time in years I cried.

I was watching Friends, they were doing silly stuff and living their lives, like usual, then something happened, Chandler said Joey is 28 (in that episode). Since they're all the same age in the show, I suppose they are all around 28 years old, the thing is, they all have jobs, degrees, careers, even joeye and phoebe that have less education have good jobs, have romance, have friends.

Not only that, but the episode showed a guest, a former high school crush from Monica and Rachel, the dude was a senior to them, but he had no job, no career, no education, and lived with his parents. He was still stuck in highschool, not literally, but it seem to he time has stopped.

Well, I'm that guy, I'm 28 years old, unemployed, college dropout loser. Not only that, the dude was still better off, because he was popular in school, kept in touch with his highschool budies, and still had a job at school theater, I had none of these.

Now, why should I care, is just a tv show, right? It's all fake, no one is that happy... well, the thing is, it's not about that, its about the fact that I didn't do nothing for the past 10 years, I failed at college and droped out pretty fast, then proceeded to locking myself in my room, playing vidiya, watch anime, and ten years flew by. Ten years, I lost my youth, lost all the romance, the friends, the career, everything. I'm a big fat babby.

Tell me, Jow Forums, what should I do? Just hang? Is there any hope? Is it possible to change so late? Just tell me, please, please help me, what the fuck should I do? Shit.

>tldr; 28 year old manchild living with his parents have no hope, help

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You've wasted the last 10 years, and you're just going to sit there and let yourself waste the rest of your life? Why not take this as a wakeup call and get your shit together? Complacency got you here, don't let it keep you here.

You're right, I have to get my shit together somehow, no matter what. The thing is, I dunno what to do, the only skill I have is speaking english as a second lenguage. Should I go back to college? Or learn a trade? I feel lost, I want to talk to someone in real life about this but I just can't seem to, don't have the balls.

I was about to go on this path than I got my shit together, only 21 halfway through my computer science degree after starting late. You choose the way you want your life to turn out, you need to be proactive in changing your life bro

Go to fucking college/university unless you wanna be a poorfag for the rest of your life, also try to see a therapist about your depression. Unless you don't live in a western country, I don't have any advice :/

There is still hope. I've seen drug addicts who've wasted decades locked in motel rooms on crack turn their shit around completely, met a dude once who spent 16 years in prison for killing somebody drunk driving at age 21 living a happy, productive life with a wife and a kid. I myself was NEET at 24, thrown out by parents for drinking and stealing, and it took me 2 years bouncing around sober houses sleeping on bunk beds 6 dudes to a room before I could finally move into a place with a roomate at 26. I was briefly homeless at 25 bc I couldn't afford rent at my sober house and they tossed my shit out on the street and most of it got stolen. I'm 28 now and while I'm not rich (I service soda machines at convenience stores for 16/hr), my life is fucking fantastic just because I'm not going through that bullshit anymore.

You wasted some time, but knowing what it's like to have wasted will make you feel all the better when you know you're finally living your life well. A bit of regret, but also some gratitude that you had those times in the first place to provide contrast. The key is to actually make that change and not just kys like so many of the pathetic souls here.

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Isn't it too late to go to college? I mean, I'm 28,I would probably enroll with 28 since I have to pass the tests again, an "SAT" like test ,so I have to study, if I do a 4 year course, I'll hit the working market at age 33, with no experience. A trade could take 2 or 3 years, but with "internship", so will be easier to join the market. I don't mind being a poorfag, I just wanna be able to survive, my parents won't live forever, they probably have a ten year deadline to support me then I'm on my own. I live in a south american country, so not a "western" country as you may think, it's in western emisphere, but its a hellhole. I'll see a therapist, thanks for the advices.

Thanks user, that gives me perspective, your story inspired me, I'll get my shit togheter and not hang, promise. I gotta change, no matter what.

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It's never too late to go to college. I have a friend who dropped out when they were 19, then went back later in life and has only just finished at the age of 41. I have other friends who retrained when they were sick of their careers too.

I'll think about it, I'm feeling desperate at the moment so it's hard to think straight, but I'll look it up how I could enroll again and how it can turn out in terms of career. Thanka for talking to me user, I'm freaking out here, that was a bad wake up call, I know it was stupid because of how it happened, but I've been thinking these things for a while, that Friends episode just broke the damn and the flood came down.

It could be worse. You could be having this realisation when you're 40 or even older.

If it's an option, talk to your parents. See what help and support they can give, and get their advice on what you can do too.

hang on friendo

Sorry I didn't reply, I'm still mentally confused from the breakdown and didn't see your post. I'll be proactive and change the table, shi can't stay the way it is, thanks for replying. Computer Science looks very interesting, I wish the best for u bro

True,it could be worse. I'll talk to them, I'll have to, even thou I don't like the idea because I find it very hard to open up to people, but I'll just have to bare it.
thanks chocolate friendo, will do

>I don't like the idea because I find it very hard to open up to people, but I'll just have to bare it.
They're your parents. They want to see you succeed and achieve and be happy. And they're probably sick of having to support you too.

I know, but I find it hard to open up. But I have to, I'll take this as my first test to change, I'll talk to them first thing in the morning.
>And they're probably sick of having to support you too
They most likely are, they never throw it at my face, but anyone would feel bad seeing their son like this. They're prettt cool people, its not their fault I turned out so bad, I blew my chances then ran away and hide. Not wanting to talk to them is part of my manchild act again taking over, but I'll endure it, I have to

Thanks to everyone who talked to me, I feel better and calmer and should get some sleep, its late here. Night everyone and god bless, I'll sort shi out, promise.
Also, will delete the thread in a couple minutes, thanks for sporting my baby ass, even thou I prob don't deserve it, you guys did help me a lot.

Thanks again for talking to me, I feel better and calmer now, but I know what I have to do and it won't be easy. I need to get some sleep, pretty late here and now that I'm calm I'll be able to get some shut eye. Thanks again user, god bless

In fact, except for Ross, who eventually becomes a teacher, the rest are always changing jobs, between jobs or with no visible means of support. Does Joey EVER get an acting job? (Not even in his spin-off). Monica claims to be a chef, but only when a random episode's plot demands it. What (if anything) does Phoebe do?

I'm still here because I couldn't delete thread, lol. Joey was an actor at a soap opera for quite a while, he did modeling too. True on Monica, but she is shown working at restaurants, a big one once in a while that I think becomes her maim job later. Phoebe do massages, not the erotic kind I think, and plays the guitar. Rachel was the loser actually, but then plot gave her super jobs with famous stylists

I'm in the same boat as you OP, only I'm even older.
8 years without doing anything in my life.
It sucks because people my/our age have indeed a house a family and usually a healthy social life.

I assume you are depressed and socially retarded by now, as I am/was.
I cannot stress hard enough to solve those issues first.
You'll gain confidence to tackle real problems then.
I went from not even daring to go to the grocery store to talkative and now I feel I'm ready for jobhunting.

Stop all the degenerate and timewasting hobbies like porn, anime, videogames.
Don't lose hope, I know it's hard I suffer from it too. But sometimes life will gift you something.

We can do it!

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Find a job, work for three months and in that time learn what places you can afford to move into, at best a shared flat to save on costs. Look for a job that pays enough, then pick the one with the least stress. Stress is a conniving little katamari ball that builds quickly but does not shrink so easily. The world media tells us that stress-reduction comes from consumerism, which means you working more to afford it.
A never ending cycle that burns you out. Do not fall for this.

Make friends and cultivate positive relationships with people. Lonliness makes you a target for other people and your own ego and depression to prey on. Bullies will target you less if you obey the Strength In Numbers natural law. If you don't you will end up like every sorry sack on Jow Forums.

Set achievable little goals like learning how to do a tax return or cleaning a flat-balcony or finding the cheapest car insurance. These seem like stupid goals but you have no idea how much people ignore this stuff and put it off until it is too late and pay through the nose for it.
You can ask your boss about stuff like financials because he/she has not achieved their position without having done this shit before.

Have a few simple inexpensive hobbies you can exercise that let you unwind.
Relaxtion will happen by itself, but learning an instrument, tending to indoor plants, going for a jog, painting/drawing on canvas/paper no matter how bad you feel you are; these are all things that can increase you life's depth and if you can include other people in this hobby then bonus points.

Reduce screen time and social media exposure to a minimum. Its like standing in line at a supermarket and seeing many queues moving but not your own. You see other people having objectively better experiences and every social media platform serves these to you like a sushi-go-round. If it makes you feel like you have to consume to improve your life you are letting them prey upon you and succeed.

Do not give up.

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It will be hard and it will take a long time. Do not let this make you panic. Wasting the last 10 years has been the path of least resistance, but look at what it brings.

Easy = shit sandwich later
Hard = feels great later, and gets better/easier all the time

Burn this equation into your brain. It will totally change your life

Watch Jordan Peterson.

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Not the OP, but what about the people who do the hard route (study/uni/internship etc) and then don't succeed?

Failure is an opportunity to learn, retry with a new strategy and eventually overcome said obstacle.

Forcing onesself to adhere to a predescribed route set by those with power over the masses and then failing shows a flaw in the route and in onesself. One of these flaws can be countered more efficiently than the other. Brute forcing the same tactic takes time and resources with risk of little gain yet repeated failure.

If you fail at a job/exam/school/internship, there are a myriad of other ways to succeed. The point is not to entrench yourself in a particular strategy with the assumption its the best if it does not net you the results you want; especially if you have not tried another. Eg. Another job, another way of life, another schooling method.

Plenty of people in other countries make it by without access or knowledge to our complicated way of life, some drive cattle, run a stall, day-labor, etc. They live day to day and have their own measures of success that are alien to the western world.

In the end you need water, food, sleep, and socialisation.
With those four taken care of no matter how achieved, whatever you do to occupy the remaining hours of the day is theoretically infinite, though many prefer to dedicate that time to procuring enough of the above mentioned four aspects. Everything else though could be considered excessive to ones needs.

A simple life has simple worries.

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The wheel of fortune keeps turning my friend.
> 27
> Have a master's degree.
> NEET due to health issues.
Atleast you have your health user. Get a job. Make it your number one priority. Degrees don't matter. You number one asset is your health.

try again, there's still time.