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The girl I really like(d) decided to make her 3rd scene in a month, and basically called me fake because she "can't believe someone could be so nice" and said I only do the things I do and say the things I say to please her. She asked for some time to think. Yesterday she posted and Instagram story reading the book I gave her. So, I guess I have three questions:

>Did she post that to see if I would message her?
>Do I message her or wait for her to message me?
>Do I confront her about the shit she pulled, calling me fake? I'd like for us to be ok again, but I don't want her to think she can keep making scenes and expect me to pretend like they didn't happen

She asked for time to think, so let her think and if she wants to continue talking she'll contact you. If you're legitimately being kind and she can't handle it that's her problem and you should let her be until she can.

If you're hot, it won't really matter. Both will attract attention, it will just depend on preference of the viewer.

When people want to complain about someone they will complain to others. When people want to compliment someone, they will compliment that person directly. You only hear the negative shit, and none of the good shit.

That or they just wanna smash.

Is it normal for a girl to want to hold hands with you and be all over you in a relationship?

I am not really used to it and I don't really like giving affection in public, but new girl is constantly trying to hold my hand or arm and kiss me.

Ex was the opposite like no affection, but this is a little much for me. Not sure if it Is me finding it strange, like I feel like a tool holding someone's hand down the road shopping

Sounds like she might be using you or trying to suck up. That doesn't sound normal.

For guys
What would make you commit to one of the girls you're seeing if you were seeing a few?

That she wasn't seeing anyone else. Why bother with him if he's seeing other people? You're getting played.

Compromise. Explain to her that you're not really comfortable with public displays of affection and that's about you, not about her. Some people just don't like being that emotionally open in front of strangers. Hold her hand in movie theaters or when standing in line but not while walking or some other such compromise. It makes you feel awkward but it makes her feel loved and like you're showing her off, so an honest conversation and compromise is best here.

But do you think that when she contacts me I should tell her about how she fucked up by calling me fake? I don't wanna be her personal cheerleader, I think it's my duty to confront her about shit like this.

What do you mean by suck up?

She does it in public and not in public, I don't mind it when we are alone just not in public

Yeah I will just do that, I push her of me indoors or in too public area as it is

Not tolerating being one of a few girls I'm seeing. I'd never date multiple women at once, though, so I'm not the best response. But having enough self-esteem to only devote yourself to someone who is only devoted to you is pretty much such a basic requirement it shouldn't have to be said. If a guy is playing around with multiple women he doesn't really respect or seriously have interest in any of them - and if he chooses one she'll probably always be fighting for his attention over instahos and slutty women if he's not outright cheating.

Ive never kissed a girl and there might come time ill be needing to do so.

How yhe fuck am i supoosed to learn this skill as 25yo male

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Being able to trust her.
which is pretty fucking hard, considering amount of redpill ive gotten all life

WHY ARE ALL WHITE GIRLS SUCH MENDACIOUS SLUTS TODAY?

>literally falling in love with a Turkish girl at work
I don't want to racemix but she is by far the purest girl I've ever met She even wears that cross necklace and I heard from other girls I work with that she's a virgin. I want to ask her if she is Christian but I want to hide my power level as long as possible

Why can't white women be like this? WHY? Look what you make me do white girls!

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Basic kissing is easy. Just press your lips against theirs. It feels pretty natural. Don't be too nervous. Do not try to use any tongue when you first start. Just closed mouth kisses and if you and the girl like each other then she won't mind practicing open mouthed kissing with you once you've established physical intimacy. Don't even worry about it, seriously. Kisses are just kisses and everyone does it a little differently.

If by wrong you mean lusty then short probably.

Girls in nice flowery, medium length dresses look super cute and lovely, wish more chicks wore them instead of leggins and ass showing shorts but what can i do.

Ok ill try
But im afraid ill scare the girl away or appear boring like i did for other 5 girls before
Such is life of INTP

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Different guy. You can learn kissing on wikihow, I'm not even kidding.

Girls, don't you realise that slutty behaviour and skimpy outfits, sleeping around are ultimately unattractive?

Don't you realise that if you want a stable and successful long term relationship, you should value modesty, self respect and family values?

>Girls, don't you realise that slutty behaviour and skimpy outfits, sleeping around are ultimately unattractive?
Not a girl but they don't have to because there will ALWAYS be a beta that'll take them in and forgive them everything. ALWAYS.

How the fuck do I prepare myself for the inevitable "user, I'm currently meeting someone and I love him."?

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Some girls are awkward too, user. It'll be fine. If you do anything silly and the girl actually likes you, you can laugh about it. Intimacy isn't some intense, serious thing. It's about pleasure and being able to just relax and enjoy it is the point, not being technically proficient.

A guy I slept with once kissed me like he was trying to eat my face. I just laughed and put my hands on his face and kissed him how I like to be kissed and kept fucking him. Everybody likes different things, everybody has different levels of experience. You'll do just fine, no worries.

Girls don't you realise this is untrue?

Guys like a woman who understands her beauty and has worked to emphasise it. Guys don't care about your former partners because they're no competition.

Don't you realise if you want a stable relationship you should avoid insecure guys that will threaten a divorce the moment you get smiled at by a man with a dickprint in his sweatpants?

The chica opposite me is eating like a disney princess and sat near me despite there being dozens of other places to sit.

She wants the ugandan woodsnake, doesn't she?

I dunno but I do. ive only had sex with one person

Talk to her. Start a conversation.

3.5 billion people dislike me. ;_;

keep telling yourself that, miss used goods, guys looking for a long-term relationship certainly will care about your former partners, and expect you to care about his, too

I'm not a femanon, lad. I just don't really care if a girl has been with a lot of guys.

Now if I find out she tried to have a relationship with each of those guys, I totally agree with you. If she's my age and eclipses my body count by several multitudes, I agree with you. Thing is there's a difference between enjoying your youth and using your sexuality in a desperate attempt to fill some void of intimacy. Girls who do the latter are sluts.

All that said, I'll always raise my eyebrows at it becaymuse girls usually go for quality over quantity when it comes to sexual partners.

Get some self belief though, a girl that knows her sex appeal can still know and adore yours too.

Happens all the time. People are fucking retarded

Yes they care.But only after they get attracted to me.And modest look and family values just don't do the trick.

I think I'm done with him but why do guys ghost girls for a few days and then pop up like nothing happened? Dating a guy almost 3 months and he does this all the time but the last time is the worst. We went to a small place to hear a band and between sets the singer came and started talking to me at the bar and when I looked up my date was walking out the door. I waited and waited, sent him a dozen text and he never came back and had to get a ride home. I could have been attacked for all he knows. Again, he won't return any calls or text, same ole ghosting.

Lol thanks Jow Forums got her number and I think we might meet later this weekend.

Whewie

It sounds scary but it's surprisingly easy once it happens. Just don't overthink it, seriously.

First two times I kissed I was a bit awkward but from then on it was smooth sailing

Immature and can't handle jealousy, I've been that guy desu. Tell him how immature it was. Although if he can ghost you for days I don't think you qualify as being in a relationship 2bh

hey guys

>dude I met once messaged me online on Tuesday, asked to hang out on Saturday
>he didn't really specify where or what time
>he knew I had deadlines till Thursday and that I'm insanely busy so we didn't text since then
>it's Friday now

Should I message him first and ask if we're going out and if so the details? I'm assuming that maybe he doesn't want to go out in the end but I know that's a sort of impulsive thought.

No, being good looking and having family values does. Hot sluts tend to either settle with betas or die alone, plain family values gals definitely have better lives (both an effect and a cause, since sluts are usually damaged somehow or looking to fill an emotional void), most end up with low quality or plain looking dudes though, but they have stable relationships so that's definitely the better long term strategy.
Good looking girls with family values 100% have the best overall life satisfaction.

best advice is start slow and work into it.

how to learn - 2 very separate routes
1: find someone you like and trust and when the time comes relax and fall into it

2: find a promiscuous lady or prostitute and just done it fearless cos you don't care after.

I know what id do, but either will get you the knowledge you seek

that's not entirely true tho is it.

Aren't you afraid that you'l never find a man who sees you as a viable long-term partner? I have a few female friends like this who seem to constantly get used and discarded because guys don't see them as anything but a quick fuck after learning about their history.

hahahahaahah.

you must be retarded if you think a girl wearing a cross is a sign of purity

> I just don't really care if a girl has been with a lot of guys.

>Girls who do the latter are sluts.

>All that said, I'll always raise my eyebrows at it becaymuse girls usually go for quality over quantity when it comes to sexual partners.

tfw you utterly contradict yourself

Immature? He's 26 years old. I didn't call him my bf, haven't had sex yet and don't see it as a relationship, though I don't see anyone else but if he takes me out he should see me home safe. Other guys have done the walk off or disappearing thing but none this bad. Thing is he even bought a drink for the singer but he then walks out like a pussy. Guys, I don't understand it.

So you misunderstood me and my fat thumbed efforts at phone typing.

Former partners rarely feature into my thinking. I don't ask because it doesn't tend to cross my mind. If I find out a girl I'm with has been around the town, I'd be surprised as that tends not to be the case.

Also, if you don't understand why intention is an important distinction, you're retarded.

no you write poorly and blame others when they try to comprehend your musings in order to engage

then you reply with another highly contradictory response.

and end with a non-sequitur, attributing thoughts to me I never said and then insult.

be honest, you barely leave the house let alone have to worry about girls partner count because you've never met one have you

BUMP PLEASE HELP

The fact you're asking this suggests you're beyond help.

It amazes me that you can't see this.

While having sex is it important to keep a steady pace and not apply any pressure at all?

Wrong on many levels
Roastie

Read my question again.

You don't. You mope for a day, then realise you'll fall for someone else. I've done it at least five times (except she just wasn't interested). You'll think "but where am I gonna meet someone as wonderful as her", truth is, you won't, you'll just find a different kind wonderful.

I put my failure down to just not being interesting and/or failing to pick up on social cues.

These threads always make me worry about the west.

The attitudes our young men have to masculinity, namely that it is a game they simply want no part in playing, worries me.

From incels, roastie posters to MtF trannies and crossdressers. How did we let a generation of men grow up so radically unprepared for the challenges of man hood?

Fuck me its depressing.

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Yeah, we realize most girls online are flaky so he assumes you dissapeared for good

Im not interested in hookers or escorts in slightest
Otherwise i wouldnt be virgin

But still working on finding somone who would like me

grill I work with bought me lunch and insisted on paying for it.

why and is that good?

Not him, and call me needy but i would assume you are going out with ME, im assuming you will spend time with ME.

No one has wants to be the fifth wheel.
But idk, he might be manipulating you or not wanting to look needy.

Fuck relationships are too hard for me, playing push pull games, and no matter what you do girl wont be happy, because she will never tell you what she actually wants.

Game is rigged against men, simple as that.
incels are incels not out of choice, but because women would rather share 1dick with 5other women, than settle for lower quality guy.

Shit, to be honest I did it too before and it kinda hurt my ego but I got over it relatively quickly.

Problem is... this girl is different. It's been so long now and I just can't fucking get over it. I tried every possible approach and I keep trying to fight the fucking reality unfortunately. God damn this it's going to hurt so bad.

It's not that we're unprepared. It's just that men before us didn't have to face these issues. The population was relatively even between men and women, and wars made sure that men could have women. Now you have no wars and you've had the sexual revolution which means there's a lot of men who are disposable and useless to women. And women can hop from dick to dick and therefore don't need to settle for juts one guy. All go for that one Chad because they can and they will NEVER face consequences of their actions because the society is totally okay with women fucking around.

>Game is rigged against men, simple as that.

almost. game is rigged against low value men. problem is society has been devaluing men for a very long time so fewer than ever count now

I wouldn't accept this nature of excuse for unemployment, nor would you. So why should we accept it for incels?

Its as if we have a whole generation of young men who were taught failure is acceptable and that trying was more important than succeeding, and that even that wasn't so important because everyone "tries."

Oh wait.

What do I do if my bf can't apologize? Like, never ever. He thinks that saying sorry is humiliation even though I say sorry when I screw up. I said him that his joke about my art 'being generic' offended me (also there was not healthy background context) and asked him to apologize but he wrote a whole wall of text just to NOT apologize. Like how it's my problem that I feel bad about this joke and how I'm making a fuss and hystery about it. Again, I simply asked him for 'sorry' because I felt bad about what he said. Eventually, I couldn't talk to him because I've got all upset and couldn't work with such attitude and finished the talk.

I would like a girl's opinion, but my theory is she wants to eat with you again so she is giving you the chance to buy the next meal.

Can anyone confirm or rubbish this?

Yep, I had a crush on a girl for years. I didn't act on it for 3 years because I didn't think she was interested. Eventually I did and she turned me down. She'd never had a boyfriend and stayed single for another two years. When I found out she was dating one of my friends it hit hard.

She stopped dating that guy and is now engaged to another. We used to hang out a lot but I get a sort of sad envy feeling when I see the way she looks at him. I'm happy that she's found someone, but still lonely. It's been hard letting her go, but life goes on.

then I wish you well with your search. take it slow, and don't fall too quickly ok!?

Dump. Not going to get better.

user... But me and the girl were together.

If someone described this scenario I'd say it was a dream for society because it meant more men had more incentive to become the ultimate manifestation of themself. Instead, guys just give up. I try not to be bitter but considering it has gone hand in hand with the slow rot of society, I can't help it.

If we didn't have guns and explosives, the great equalisers, this migrant crisis would quite literally be the an episode of deja vu only with blacks, not Germanics, ravaging civilised society.

>devalued men
I would disagree, its the fact that women can ride cock carousel with no repercussions whatsoever,because if they want they get on tinder, swipe right, say "come over and fuck me" after texting for 3minutes and no one from their social circle will know it (if she chooses to)

If girl was sleeping around she got shamed for it and even the lower quality men wouldnt settle with her.

Secondly,
>absolute state of marriage in current year
Would you willingly put your arm into meatgrinder, knowingly that mere flip of switch could turn it on?

"Quality" men dont want to settle for that reason, and by quality i mean men who get lots of pussy, because their looks or social status. They can gice dicking well into their late 30s, because chicks even 18yo will fall for them.

And guess whos more attractice target for now rich chad, girl in her early 20s, or a used up 30year old girl that has had enough sleeping around already

Peace

Because we got used to "everybody wins" mentality forced by mostly women.

No amount of self improvement will fix my ugly face, and if i get rich as fuck, women will love me for hiw many zeros i have on bank account, not for who i am, and will fuck someone behind my back for satisfaction and i will never dind out thanks to internet.

Stop flirting with singers of bands while you're on a date you thirsty cunt

>If we didn't have guns and explosives, the great equalisers, this migrant crisis would quite literally be the an episode of deja vu only with blacks, not Germanics, ravaging civilised society.
But that's exactly what's happening in Europe, user. It's not a rapid process, it takes years.

>Instead, guys just give up.
Does that really surprise anyone? Nobody wants to keep fighting a battle you just can't win. Nobody wants to lose. So it's better to just stop fighting the inevitable and just float along the stream. Besides, if men are wageslaving, they don't have the time, money or energy to keep fighting. They just vegetate.

He bought the guy a drink to say "she's with me, no hard feelings but fuck off". You, however, continued to engage with this stranger that wanted to fuck you, instead of engaging with your date. He simply realised you're not worth his time.

>I wouldn't accept this nature of excuse for unemployment, nor would you. So why should we accept it for incels?
If the rewards are not worth the effort then people are going to drop out altogether. Japan is the most extreme example of this right now with the herbivore men, how they chose to just become turbo neets than participate in what is one of the most cutthroat business cultures around. You can say you won't accept their excuse, but honestly that's utterly irrelevant to what they're going to do because they're not looking for your approval.

>asked him to apologize
Right there is where you fucked up. That's the moment where his apology goes from "sincere sorry for doing wrong" to "doing what I'm told because I'm pussy whipped"

again I think you're close.

the fact women can 'ride the cock carousel' is because most men have little choice but to accept them after because that's all that is available to them.

previously these women would at least have to be discreet or more likely keep themselves relatively chaste in order to be attractive to the average man.

the average man is now worth so little he'll beg for chad scraps, in the past that wasn't the case.

as you note quality men don't want that, but as now society has made it harder for men to demonstrate any value outside of immense wallet, good looks or penis - more men are average

I think we broadly agree - for me the nuance is that women only behave this way because men let them. and men let them because they are mostly valueless and know it

>If someone described this scenario I'd say it was a dream for society because it meant more men had more incentive to become the ultimate manifestation of themself.
Only if you're seeking casual sex. I would not want to seek a serious relationship and potentially have a family in the current hookup culture.

>Haven't seen ex in a month (was just to get my belongings back)
>run into each other walking to class
>she waves and kind of smiles? so I do the same

I know a lot of people avoid their ex's so it was a little strange to see an apparently positive response to me. She is dating someone now, but some of her friends and mine say he doesn't compare. While that's great to hear, does any of this really matter? I guess my question is, do girls truly get over their ex, especially if even their friends and family prefer them?

I think, he would not get it other way since he never apologized

Women behave this way because contraception, abortion and welfare means getting pregnant isn't a fear anymore. Women were always whores, they just had to contain themselves because single motherhood was both social and financial suicide.

Doesn't matter. That was his prerogative. He got to choose if he apologised or not. The second you said "apologise to me now" you became a controlling psycho bitch, which is why he got so defensive.

Girls do get over their ex, yes. If she isn't remaining in touch with you, then you will not ever get back with her. Stop hoping. Move on.

indeed. they don't need men anymore (hence the devaluation) as the govt protects them

before a women needed a man for security, comfort, reproduction and safety for her and her offspring. now she doesn't so can be far more reckless.

if men stopped providing these things to women again without some kind of reciprocity things would rapidly return to equilibrium

(fwiw women aren't whores, they're animals that want to reproduce and will behave in an optimal way to ensure this. men should be the same but for some reason we've gone a bit shit)

Girls, but also guys if you have experience:

Is it possible for a long-time female friend to suddenly be attracted to you romantically out of the blue? I've known a girl for years and we've always viewed each platonically I think (Had a crush on her for ages but kind of faded over the years because I assume she wasn't interested), but for the last couple of months shes become more touchy-feely and is acting more intimately. Am I just delusional?

Women absolutely are whores. Saying they cannot control their baser animal instincts only reinforces that, it doesn't excuse it.

hey, femanons, it's long but hear me out
>a woman I've met a year ago, she lived closed to me, she has a LDR bf
>friendzoned from the start
>she moved away, now lives in the central part, he lives 3hr south from her, I live 3hr north from her
>she doesn't like his family, her mother has met him once and doesn't want to see him again
>she spends one wk at her place, one wk at his and another wk at mine, then he goes to see her, it keeps going on like this for 6 months
>we don't even flirt, no romantic things but we talk/msg a lot
>she admits there's not much in common between her and him (they split twice this year but with personal problem, they got together again),
>we've planned on vacations once a month just the two of us up until august now, he's awared of everything, no hiding
>she invites me to her mom's place which is 6 hr away

is it just friendly thing or I could hope for more?

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>I think
This is where you fucked up. I did the same thing. Thought a friend of mine was simply a friend of mine. Turns out she'd had feelings for me almost since the day we met. Even had to inform her boyfriend at the time that she was catching feelings hard. She eventually asked me out, 3 years later, because she realised I was too clueless (read: pussy) to try to find out for myself.

Guy here, this happened to me too. Yes, I developed feels for her too so it's 100% possible. But we're still just friends.