I've had a thought in the back of my mind for months that I'd rather be a girl. It's kind of scaring me, and this is actually the first time I've ever admitted to it anywhere.
Am I completely retarded for wanting this? Is it even possible to undergo hrt and not look like a sideshow freak?
I'm really scared, I always thought trans people were full of bullshit and yet it's happening to me.
How to proceed? Ignore it or what?
It's probably not significant. Sexual dysphoria is much more bothersome than just a niggling thought at the back of your head, from what I've read. It's more like feeling that your entries body is wrong.
Probably safe to ignore. If it gets really bothersome, get a therapist.
Tranny’s are mentally ill. You might as well kill yourself now and save yourself the lifetime of suffering you will experience as a dickless dude.
Stop subscribing to outlandish fetishes and this shit will decrease eventually.
I recommend therapy with an LGBT specialist, they'll help you either come to terms with being trans or help you realize if you aren't and you can move on with your life.
Wanting to be a girl isn't being trans, thinking you are a girl is.
Take a break from the lesbian porn. I assume that when you think about this it's probably like
>I wish I had 24 hour access to boobs.
>I wonder what it's like to have x element of female anatomy.
>girls have it easier, I wish I'd been born a girl.
Chill senpai.
Everyone wants to be a girl
Who doesn't want to be a little bitch pampered and have every little thing cared for?
You don't want to be a girl. You want all your shit to be taken after like a princess
Ignore it, and if it's real eventually you'll come out and do the transformation. I'm assuming you're an adult man - meaning, it's too late to get the hormones and fuck with your puberty regardless. That's probably not healthy anyway.
I have a friend who has seen a lot of shemale porn, and he or she says that many of them are totally passable as a girl. Doesn't mean you'd pass, but really it's not even about that. It's about feeling comfortable as yourself, which probably means surrounding yourself with enablers. That said, you could also hold out for some sort of corrective therapy that eliminates transgenderism if such a thing is possible. Point is, there's no reason to act now or dwell on these feelings too much.
It is a dumb move for a lot of reasons, so you better have a reason beyond wondering what it would be like if you were a girl.
You are basically castrating yourself and exposing yourself to a bunch of diseases.
With enough surgery, you might be able to look like a girl, but you need to take out a couple of years of your life to get there.
If your plan is just take hrt, grow your hair and speak softly, you will be a sideshow event anyone can see through.
Every privilege you associate with being a girl is being a pretty girl. You won't be a pretty girl.
Jow Forums at large isn't exactly trans friendly. Seek advice elsewhere or do what this user said
Hey OP, question, do you experience physical dysphoria regarding your body? I get a little bit where you were coming from - see, I've never identified as trans but always felt that, given the choice, I would rather have been a woman. My outward gender presentation has actually grown more masculine with time but there's always little things, like I've almost always had majority female friends.
Ultimately I've come to feel that I consider myself "cis" but that I just have a very feminine mind, especially considering I'm mainly sexually attracted to women. The biggest reason for this is that ultimately my body doesn't feel "wrong," which seems to be the experience of transfolk I know.
It's not quite about that.
I wish I could have the intimacy of female friendships.
I wish I could be beautiful without being coded as LGBT.
I wish my deep emotionality was something I could actually share, rather than something I have to mediate.
I wish I could play the role of nurturer and caretaker.
And on, and on... some of these things I get to have a little taste of, here and there. But I can never fully embody the social role of a woman, because I don't think transitioning would really be right for me. I'm also slightly bisexual and so I flirted with queer culture but at the end of the day I lean more straight and tend to have very masculine physical presentation so I don't fit in the place of a femmy gay man either. Still, I've ended up surrounding myself socially with women and gay guys, because they can better relate to my personality than your average straight dude can.
>I wish I could have the intimacy of female friendships.
Haha, that's as empty as it comes. If I get too misogynistic you're probably going to write me off, but please listen when I say women don't know how to have friends. Only men can. The truest friends are between two men.
>I wish I could play the role of nurturer and caretaker.
I play this role to my nephew whenever I'm around. I'm the good guy. My sister is the bad boss. I'm the one who is always smiling and promoting their shit.
You don't need to pretend you have a vag to be the good guy.
>women don't know how to have friends
This hasn't really been my experience - I've had plenty of male friends but I've always been close friends with women, even when I was a kid I was probably closer with girls than with other boys. Less so during my teenage years, but then moreso again as I got older.
>You don't need to pretend you have a vag to be the good guy.
Like I said, I do get to experience these things in small portions.
>I've always been close friends with women
That's your loss.
I've been friends with my buddy for 20 years now. Even after I was away for 5 years, I moved back and we resumed our friendship.
He got married. And we're still best friends.
We have dinner every week. I'm going to see him the day after tomorrow. And we're going to have a fist full of beers and shoot the hit, as we have done for decades.
Women just don't do that. There is always competition. My friend has a better job than me and he's married. I don't give a shit.
I'd die for him and he'd die for me. Can you say that for any of your "girlfriends"?
I get what you're saying to a certain extent, but I don't consider it a loss. It's not as if I haven't had close, long term male friends at all. It's more like I've just been on a closer wavelength to women. I've also tended to have a lot of gay male friends. I often feel somewhat caught between queer and straight culture, but I'm not altogether lacking for people I can turn to.
I know you are smart enough to know that you will never be a woman. If you go through with it you will just become depressed and kill yourself when you realise it.
you become what you hate
stop hating trans and you will be fine
forgive and be forgiven
you are fleeing away from your male responsibility by thinking you would rather be a woman
They will tell you you're trans and prescribe mind altering drugs that will continue to push you towards an inevitable suicide. Why not just be gay?
>a thought in the back of my mind for months
Unless you are 14 I can assure you that's not GD.
Ask yourself why you want to be a girl.
Is it because you want to be pretty? Are you sexually attracted to women?
Do you feel like women have an easier life?
Do you feel like you're a failure as a man and think you'd fare better as a woman instead?
I think before anybody can advise you we'd need to know more about it. I think in general it's a bad idea to start transitioning except as a last resort.
There's no surgery that can fix an emotional problem.
Stop... Watching.... Porn....
You should do it. Post op trannies only kill themselves 40% of the time.
Good odds, former bro.
the few mtf trans people ive known were all always bummed cus the reality is they just wanted to be hot/pretty women and get fucked hard but of course thats super unrealistic so they feel sad and not good enough CONSTANTLY.