Is 30 too old to get invited to parties and stuff in college?

I’m literally a freshman. No one at the parties are over 22

Yes. Dont do it.

The girls are stupid, theyll get pregnant and youll just be stuck taking care of another grown person. You said college not uni. They didnt make ot to uni or didnt go because they like being pampered. You wont change that by beingnolder. Youll enforce it.

If you want to hang out youre better off making a friend or two and settling on hang out nights that progress into parties. Make friends at work if you work and if you dont then really consider getting some work and saving the partying for when youre ready to wake up senselessly drunk and not ruin any of your plans. Also i cant imagine your parent could need you anymore than when youre having fun and enjoying yourself. The mentally absolved ones need that feel good chemical stuff.

True story my grandma eas dying, dads mom, and she has days they said so I had to go visit her after not seeing her for years possibly decades and i leaned in to hug and kiss her and she breathed me in like some vapid whore taking a munch out of the old sandbag and guess what? Months later she died. Suffice it to say I didnt get asked to visit again.

Do you think I'm kinda fucked in terms of being able to fit in beyond other nontrad students? I mean, sure, I'm probably not gonna make close friends with a bunch of 18 year olds, but I have to admit I actually feel jealous of say your typical 21 year old junior. Often if I'm walking by the college row on a Friday night I'll see how busy it is and think to myself, I never got the chance to experience anything remotely like that in my teens and twenties, and it bums me out.

Now I'm free to be my own person for the first time in my whole life, and I just wish I could have a taste of it, but of course with my age I feel out of place. Obviously I'm not going to be going to a bunch of frat parties or something, but to be honest being in some little sectioned off community of older students is exactly what I'm afraid of.

I would imagine this depends a lot on the school! Like someone mentioned dorm parties and how that would be a young crowd, well those never even happen where I am.

I'm in the same boat, bumping this

to most people, you're as young as you look and act. the only time your real numerical age matters is when you start doing something very age critical like seeing a doctor or dating a younger person.

Fucked is like saying college happens for the sake of making friends. High school was just difficult like that because you were with parents and the time was available. Now time isnt the issue and the nature of traditional networking isnt really lost on you...you just understand the need for it more clearly. You feel loneliness but more than that you feel and understand the need that will require these people be a corporal part of your life. You and I both know you want a gf. Im a 30 year old senior here, maybe junior ( 4th time I change degrees ) and I cant say its all I think about when Im not neglecting to get ahead of the game but its also the one thing I understand most clearly. I wouldnt want to be dragged down by someone that can have a much better chance at "enjoying" one of those lives. The dysfunction levels would be off the charts if anyone wholly understood just how much it takes a person ten years your senior to transgress any sort of palpable issue as a light hearted approach to modern society. Times are tumult and the changes in society reflect those in the heart of common folk.

Not sure where you're going with this, I sort of abstractly want a gf but I'm both not ready for a LTR again just a year after spending ten years in one, and also kind of glad to be single while I'm facing decisions about grad school and the like bc it makes things a lot simpler.

Kids especially and that is what these 18 year olds are, kids. So that you seek them out but not answers to your problem might not be so big an issue as you think just dont expect that they learned to be nicer to that dude thats older and in the same grade as them. Kids suck. Its university students that are adults finally and when theyll be nice to you if what youre offering is worthwhile but to most degrees the variance of your routine will determine what you get to do as socializing. If youre always at home, you wont meet people and decide that one or two of them are good for keeping. After that the most pliable thing you could most figuratively concern yourself with is that you can generate a sort of income without the help of any of them but through the help of one of them so you can confer monetary outcomes to one another rather snot about and pretend youre in college now and its cool to be older. Because thatll just make two boring people rather than a group of people to party with. As celebration that work is kindling life and not creating the opportunity to ruin this half of it.

I gotta wonder what you two were doing with that if you dont seem to be wholly capable of relating with people of the other species without regarding that sex is kind of always going to be there whether its brought on by you or by someone else. Besides that what could possibly be keeping you from getting on with your classmates? Are you dumb? Paranoid? Made to fail? Try listening to deadmaus or something and teying to relate to them on terms that excite them to want to hang out, but beware that youll either come off like youre baiting them for a switch or coming on too strongly as trying to do something with them. Kids wont pity you and other than that its byob anyway.

I guess I see what you're saying now. Big thing for my first couple years of college was that I was so preoccupied with little emotional dramas in my relationship that I never reached out to anyone in any way.

But the reason I keep wanting to hang out with a younger crowd is that I've had so many struggles that that basically describes my entire life. I never got the chance to just be young like that. Certainly not in high school, and then my 20s were just an overwhelming amount of constant work often in isolation.

There's so many things I never had the chance to do. Now I'm finally free but my age sets me apart. Sometimes I get really depressed about it: It feels like I'm completely surrounded by people living the life I wanted to have.

Why would you WANT to go spend your time with immature kids??

I'm 28 in college and I go to parties. I don't like them very much because I feel so different from the kids there, but you gotta put up with some stupidity if you want to fuck an 18 year old amirite?

dont creep on the college girls and you're fine. when i used to go to colege parties last semester there were usually a few 26 to 30-year-olds!! dont feel too bad, just have fun!

Fucking girls in their prime, buddy.

that doesn’t seem like a good enough reason to be around a bunch of 18-22 year olds who are immature fucks

Honestly I probably have more in common with the younger crowd than most people my own age from an objective standpoint what with my history. A lot are so subdued and serious and focused on career and family goals, whereas I'm really in a pretty similar place to a lot of 20 year olds, though with the benefit of more life experience.

I get on better with people my own age if they are countercultural types. But that is a limited community, there's nothing out there really equivalent to being young and on a college campus surrounded by thousands of other young people. I realize I'm not going to completely fit in everywhere but it would mean so much to me just to feel like after all this time I finally got to share in that experience a bit.

I wouldn't expect a virgin to understand.

Too old for retarded frat parties. In grad school we had big wonderful parties til dawn with people of all ages, 16-70. Great conversations in several languages, drinking, drugs, dancing, sex... It was some of the best times of my life. The diversity really added to the parties. They were way better than stupid college parties I went to with only 18-22 year old retards.

Focusing on the struggles to get out of the downsides of them is like shouting to poo instead of pushing through it so you can come out on top.

What you have is experience and thats what you need to give. Just take yourself out of the equation and mature to exclude a sense of dread. Plants toil against the wind and bud flowers and fruit for cultivaying and ingesting proper nutrients that the rest of us can more naturally continue exploring the foundations of life. Grieving over loss as a way to cope is just seeking out someone is similar straits. 1 year is a lot to these kids. 10 years will be too many. But answers to their problens is something you should definitely have a lot of. Dont try to relate.
Even if only one of them is just looking for a way to drown the current ones with a respectful friend that wants to indulge in conversation more than the risk genitals provide.
As sexy as it is and sounds, sledping with someone younger is just inviting more opportunity and thst wobt lead anywhere when experience proves you the victor. Lose the cooly attitude and be just another adult so that you can be more fortunately a friend in their time rather than that funny memory. Youll become a bit more fueled to succeed and find out that maybe what you went through is more normal than you thought, not likely, but also turn out more a capable thinker than you thought any one living among these young folk and speaking to stupid immigrant families could think to be.

Women are good at sex and made for it at like 30 or so. 18-20something is usually a physical compartmentalization process for wome. Men just wait and those that get it anyway will just get it or have been getting it for a while.
Most people are too stupid to understand that they should listen to the ones telling them to risk a bit of it to live more fully so they dont create a series of problems as a way of coping with failure in life but that instead they could more logcally institute their own set of beliefs for life as a way to cope with other people rather than cope in the same way youngins might learn to disguise themselves as adults sooner and well enough that rich white men wont prey on them like dogs in hunt and more like the perverts they are and seem to be. "But they cant all be that way..." Sure as fucking shit they can and are.
A life of availability meets the women by the course of hairline and the least available sums of breath then are the last words they utter just prior to release. "Oh fuck, he came into me" and then its just ordinary life and nothing matters but making sure to go around correcting people and things. Its ridiculous that he has to feel capable of loving if he cant figure this out through regular conversation. Parents be damned but scoot over congress if the issue here is a lacking education because first and foremost we need to agree in a language not a fucking mode. The whole thing is backwards.

>t. very mature and reponsible adult who posts cartoon frogs on a website meant for anime pornography

I gather that you're saying I shouldn't want to fit in, and if I just play the role of wise older adult I'll feel better.

But that's exactly what I don't want.

>aimless rambling for like 5 posts now

holy fuck just stop.

Why would you want to pretend you dont know better than to make mistakes. Thats all being aloof gets you. The whiny bitchy attitude is the adult in them waiting to come out. Otherwise its the same shit except maybe you have the freedom to believe that things you wait for are now available to you and they just want to feel more secure about that so they go to school.
Caring about emotional drama is bullshit, man. Needing to find yourself in a conversation with someone that knows what youre going to say means you know the same people or watched the same movies. Otherwise you share a class or you dont and its easy to be drunk around them because they arent going to bang your girlfriend or make moves on your friends and have you pretend to defend them so they can get away with trying to impress all the girls at once by being cooler than you at it. And trust that theyll always turn on the older one to conform an attitude on the lot sos they can assure themselves that it gets easier.
Having chicks around in general will make it hard, no pun intended, but that you seem to think more clearly about how boring it all really is means you had sone stake in caring for yourself too in being that long with somone else and taking care of a parent that you didnt need to be told you registered bad thoughts, unfun thoughts, as the ones more suited to the situation. What you do seem to need is the recollection that some of what you do will be cool but not all of it, trist is going to be a valuable point of conversation. No matter how old or how aged you are, none of what you say will make you 100% perfect and no amount of potential in any one of them will make them the suited individual you need in your life, this especially so when you consider you sat in for a parent as the parent. Learn to neglect their cares for something more bold and theyll follow through on that as cool and not as "wise". Boring is boring and not only if it comes in gray.

See this is what youll get at those parties. Trists. Platitudes. Gestures.

Thebalkaline trio of information. But will experience prove them wrong? You wont care by then. European bible black circa 1670.

I gotta ask ya, you on something? Uppers?

Writing is just easy when you know what to say. Ive been in this situation plenty and Im a prolific author on variety. I had a coke this afternoon though. Non diet.

Not OP but I'm in a similar place... I didn't even have my first kiss til I was 22 and then I was in a relationship my whole 20s... Now I'm going to college at 30... do I have a snowballs chance in hell with any of these fit young girl's? I know people are telling OP not to chase after young girls, that it's creepy.. but I've never even held the hand of a girl as hot as these girls at school... Just once in my life I really want to have the experience of sleeping with some hot little 19 year old...

girls that age are easy, maybe just don't go around hitting on all the girls in your class.

Thickness at that age. Its less than the issue that you need to do anything when they have that much energy compared to what you may know now. Otherwise its gonna be money mr no kiss. It shows. But youre regualrly jointed, whatever that means, and that makes you more than an appeal to the thick chicks and fat chicks which means at least one of the thinner ones may want you.
They are all in competition. None of them will work together to make you fail. Theyll aggress to take attention long enough til you clean yourself up or until you realize that means go talk to them instead.

Sure. A lot of them like older guys. You'll hear young girls who don't pitch in to answer your question with a no. But even if 1/3 of young women actively don't like older men - that still leaves 2/3 who are either indifferent or prefer someone older.

Bumping because this is a good thread it seems like there's quite a few Jow Forumsfags in this place

Women prefer to date upwards, both in money and age. A man who's 35 with a stable, upper-class job is equivalent to a 21 yo college chick in terms of desirability. You've got nothing to worry about.

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There’s nothing wrong with going to parties and living on campus at any age. Keep in mind that these 18-22 years olds will be annoyingly immature if you’re used to hanging with people who are done with college.

I went back to school at age 24, two years ago. I remember having a college bio lab (had to work in groups). My lab mates were three kids, a random, and a couple. The couple were baby faced and still in puppy love from senior year of high school. That lab experience of interacting with 17-18 year olds straight out of HS really made me miserable. So many retarded jokes, snapchat drama I didn't understand etc. I had 1-2 more experiences in commmuniy college dealing with youngling retards like that. At university, upper division classes, at least the kids are older. But yea, I still like a freak now at 26, trying to be cool with 20 year olds. I'm in the same boat, trying to figure out my place and get invited to parties. My only interest is getting pussy (didn't get any in CC) now. I don't care about crashing some frat sausage party and hearing stupid humor and edginess from kids who grew up in a different culture from my own. I I finished HS at a time when the iPhone and Facebook were barely being adopted. Meme humor didn't exist either. I can sit down and not stare at my phone for 20 mins, since I didn't have a smartphone until a year after leaving HS. I just can relate to these kids.

I mean, I have more in common with you 30 year olds than the 18-21 year olds in my classes.