So my new bf is really bad at sex and kissing and I dont really know how to change it.
He doesnt last longer than 2 minutes (only one position, and thats already improvement from coming in less than a minute) and if he is on top he has no rythm is strenght. He is rather bad kisser (took few weeks before he stopped just pushing his lips against mine so hard it was uncomfortable, and "tongue game" is really weak).
Other than that he is a great guy but those things start to frustrate me. He is very sensitive so I want to be careful and I am not sure what can help the situation
As far as I know he had previous gf but never wants to talk about them a lot.
>far as I know he had previous gf but never wants to talk about them a lot. Nah, he didn't.
Find porn that exhibits the ways you'd like him to come at you. "Do me like this" can go a long, long way toward getting what you want.
Ayden Nelson
lead by example get better at foreplay blow him, let him get the first one out and then bang with the second one tell him harder or softer, remind him he's not going to break you
Josiah Morgan
I dont have an answer for you but this is pretty funny. Most people will say that honesty is the best answer. The sex part is just going to be how it is though. Some dudes eventually get used to the feeling of sex and can last longer after having lots of sex. Some dudes never recover. You can buy a cock ring to help though.
Ethan Rivera
He is 30 and has decent amount of friends so I find it hard to believe. We usually do it twice anyway, doesnt help with not coming early. How long into relationship it can get better?
Michael Gonzalez
>how long I literally said some dudes never recover and now you want a timeline? 2-3 years maybe? 30 years? I'm not a medical doctor.
Eli Reed
>He is 30 and has decent amount of friends so I find it hard to believe.
He has a decent amount of associates, probably through work, and possibly classified every date he ever had as a "gf" to pad his "resume".
But hey let's turn it around. How do you *not* get good at kissing if you've been allegedly doing it so much? How is it possible to still act like a virgin in bed after so much experience?
Not that there's anything wrong with that that a little bit of tutorial won't fix. If he learns quick he's a keeper. If you're still cringing about this to the point where it bothers you after trying to fix it, then you may need to move on.
John Walker
>How long into relationship it can get better? Took me two months to git gud.
William Martinez
>bad at kissing
lol, i always hear this and I don't get it. Does he just open mouth your face?
you need to talk to him about this, then teach him. Have weekly 'sex lessons' and make them sexy so it isn't a lecture, but fun.
Josiah Hill
His tongue is basically like a high-speed pendulum moving left-right. At least he stopped simply pushing my lips into my teeth by just pressing hard against them.
I dont really know how to tell him since he isnt most masculine guy and i dont want to make him insecure.
Kissing is more than just mashing your faces together just as sex is more than just putting a penis into a vagina.
You can vary the pressure, change what you're doing with your tongue, do different things with your lips, modify your breathing and the sounds you make, touch their face, touch their hair, back away to look at them and go back in, etc.
Sebastian Torres
Well, you could always give it some more time if you like this guy. I don't even remember whether I made it to a full minute or not the first time I prone-boned my gf on the floor - it just felt so good pinning her to the floor and drilling into her. Her body had nowhere else to go since the floor has no give (not like a bed) and I was going in deep, her little moans and cries made it that much hotter. I had to emergency abort pretty quickly because I could literally feel an entire host of angry jizz fast-marching down my urethra.
After doing it that way a good dozen times I started lasting way longer.
Another way to do it is to change positions. Back when I would nut super fast in prone-bone, I obviously didn't want to start with that position. In which position does he nut? Try proposing something different.
Nathan Diaz
>In which position does he nut? Try proposing something different. Every position, from missionary to cowgirl. Well, yeah and he doesnt do it either, regardless of what I am doing.
Lucas Roberts
Why are you doing this?
Charles Ross
I like him and we have really good connection, banters etc. Lots in common in terms of interests and he is really on whole different level in terms of being responsive as a bf.
Colton Brown
Good, these are important things.
How about you try this>
Next time you have sex, jerk him off super fast and make him cum (so like 1 min or less) Then, while he is getting hard again over the next 20 min, teach him how kiss, and how to eat pussy. Once is his hard again, start fucking.. he should last longer this way
keep this up
Adrian Scott
Why wont you stop?
Hunter Diaz
>>In which position does he nut? Try proposing something different. >Every position, from missionary to cowgirl.
Have you checked to see if his refractory period is short? Sometimes the first nut is not the only nut of the night. Sometimes all it takes is a short break and then back at it for a longer period. He might not even realize he's this type.
Isaac Martinez
this
Brandon Roberts
For kissing just say, hey I'd like to try something different, explain what you want, then have him stay still while you show it, then have him try and you give feedback. If this makes him freak-out then either you give feedback poorly or he isn't so all around great as you say.
