>white guy >36 yo virgin, 2nd base only >went from not caring much to a STRONG desire for wife and kids. I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT IT. I don't want to be old and lonely. > I'm working on getting in better shape but I'm still not attractive in my eyes and I know women judge men harshly according to studies. >dick is only 5.25" (13.33cm), some acne scars, hairy, no ass, balding. I'm normal weight and 6'. I give myself a 3-4 out of 10. >I feel I must lie about being a virgin and make up past relationships. >Women will be able to tell my inexperience if I ever sleep with them...might ruin the entire thing. >This seems like the perfect setup for debilitating humiliation and an even lower self esteem. >I have nothing built up, been renting my entire life. >Make okay money, about $75k a year.
What the fuck do I do man? Just what. I can't even sleep because this keeps me up at night, among other things. I know I can get SOME woman, but it's the dating I'm trying to get ready for. It's pathetic that I'm even here asking this at my age, but I just wanted some opinions on how to move forward. I wish I could turn the clock back 10 years...so much wasted time. What should I do to improve myself and how should I go about dating/finding a wife?
I know how you feel, but if you had a wife, and then you had kids, and then you hated them, can you envision that as a possible scenario?
You are unhappy because you want companionship like all of us. I am just saying maybe you need to get out there and not just find anyone, but find a compatible someone. Someone in the same position maybe?
Luke Wood
Practice sex with prostitutes.
Xavier Phillips
DO NOT DO WHAT HE SAID. STIS ARE FOR LIFE DUDE DONT DO IT
Liam Ortiz
Yes, that scenario could have happened to me but I would at least have kids already and perhaps be divorced. That's also a possible future scenario. I do think I might have to go for older women to stand a chance but I really don't want a woman with a kid. Luckily (for me), many women find themselves in their 30s and alone nowadays. Realistically, they would have to be early 30s if I want kids. I just don't know if they would choose me...I guess it's just a matter of trying and failing. I don't want a woman too young as I think they would be more likely to divorce later, but I could be wrong. I think late 20s might be okay.
Nathaniel Garcia
Yeah, that just isn't me. I would rather date a several girls and perhaps kill 2 birds with one stone. I just feel lost...
Hunter Wilson
Prostitutes are cleaner than random girls from a bar. Why are you lying?
Brody Young
Dude, date off Tinder. One a week, make no promises and eventually you'll find the retard that used the wrong app to not sleep around and manages your expenses. Youre fucking white!
Asher Robinson
I mean, it is an option and it makes some sense...What do you mean by "manages your expenses"? I only want a white woman, btw.
Joshua Cooper
Hey, I do have a question....do you not eat these chicks out? It doesn't seem like the smart thing to do with a tinder slut but I think it's part of making it enjoyable for the woman, IDK.
Jaxson Nguyen
Trust me, divorce is WORSE than being single. You are hurting 3 other people, your child and yourself and your ex.
I would probably beat my biological dad if I met him.
Parker Adams
I will take your word for it but that's a risk anyone who seeks a family takes. It's a risk I should have take 10 years ago.Anyway, that's why I'm focused on personality and mindset of the woman more than looks, she has to want to really settle down for good. I tend to think 30yo women are my best bet, despite my preference being younger.
Kayden Morgan
>not attractive in my eyes Heterosexual males cant rate their own attractivity nor any other male. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder >dick Size of penis is irrelevant for dating, making family or being good lover. moderntantra.blogspot.cz/p/penis-size.html?m=1 >must lie True, you will never mention to her she was your first. For your own sake and hers as well. >women will be able to tell No they wont. Majority of men are selfish lovers. You will watch lesbian porn, do 20 minutes of foreplay and with a bit of luck you will be her best lover in the last 15 years. Also plently of men have troubles with keeping boner with new partners. Totally normal cause stress and nervosity. >nothing built up Good. Thos way potentional divorce or gold diggers wont have anything to steal. >what the fuck do i do man? Pic related, google what term flirting means, date women at age range 25~35 and go to social events you hate (dancing lessons) or online dating play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.tinder
After all the advice I gave you, you seem shallow.
Just please don't commit to a kid if you are not into committing to at least 25+ years of guidance and support.
Hope you find happiness but not at the cost of others.
Mason Martinez
>I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT IT. Desperation is a huge turn off. Most women want families. But if you act crazy about it, you're only going to attract crazies if you attract anything at all. >3-4 out of 10 Here's a tip, women, on a person to person basis, have HUGE disparities in what they will or won't accept in a partner physically. And if you talk to a girl, you can see almost immediately if she's going to be superficial enough to judge you by your appearance. Even if she is, some women have weird pseudo-fetishes for odd physical features. I have no ass either but my girlfriend adores it because it's cute and tiny. Like, go figure. >I fell I must lie You don't have to lie. Lying is basically relationship poison. If you're not with someone who accepts you for who you are, you will never truly be happy. Lies are bad. Stop lying. >MUH FIRST TIME If you're honest, she's literally not going to care. If you lie, then she has to wonder why you didn't realize her vagina is way lower than you've been poking away for the last minute and a half. Then it gets awkward. STOP LYING. >more self-destructive pity party shit There's literally nothing wrong with being who you are user. The most attractive thing in the world is a person who embraces who they are. Does that mean every girl in the world will be attracted to you? No. But if you're a genuine person who treats people well you'll eventually meet someone who will accept you. But nobody can deal with someone who's such a total downer. As long as you're trying to improve yourself, your flaws don't matter as much. Focus on what you do well, surround yourself with people who support you, stop getting down on yourself and treating yourself like shit inside your own head, make yourself worth dating and this is when you'll start meeting decent women.
Charles Diaz
Literally that she takes on a role of like bookkeeper. Very common role for the calm, collected kind of woman that'll make those mistakes ( tindrr but not to hook up, also just dont endorse the belief that youre looking for that kind of woman ) and doesnt require you to give up much in the way of your life. As for eating them ouy, case by case basis. You gotta do it? you gotta do it, man. *le shrug here* Otherwise dont extend principle to your love life because nasty comes as a fact and nothing is goinq to change that.
James Taylor
On penis size, I will take the time to fully read this. I always worry that these studies are just cherry picked to make guys feel better because I've seen conflicting data. Anyway, I'm less than the ideal but that might be okay.
>True, you will never mention to her she was your first. For your own sake and hers as well.
Thanks for confirmation.
>No they wont.
Perhaps you are right.
Thank you so much user.
In what way am I shallow? Is it because the age comment? I mean, fertility starts dropping in a woman's early 30s but it's still possible to conceive, just not ideal perhaps. I said I'm fine with a woman in her 30s. I am in this for life, with all the responsibilities that come with it. I've completely lost any desire for material things and even hobbies, I just want family now. More than I've ever wanted anything. If you only knew how I felt about bad parents...I don't take this lightly at all.
Bentley Collins
This. Got married at 37, currently at the gym at 4am because I had to get away from my lying wife.
Ryder Lee
Sex prison mostly on the bit about the lie but really admitting that kind of thing is literally a relief until youve extended that lie into your relationship, bc sex does not equal love, and that usually means that you have more to offer the relationship as a sort of hard part with all the right mixings. Cues them in on not being able to manipulate you, too, despite your slight misconception on the matter. Just treat it like sweaty palms. Its there, yes, but do I want to share them with you? Not really.
John Davis
None of this makes sense at all.
Dylan Robinson
I act normal, sorry for the all caps, lol. I appreciate you taking the time to answer and I will reconsider hiding the virgin thing....I actually do hate dishonesty and I hate even considering it. This is why I'm asking. Honestly, you make a lot of sense and you made me feel better about the situation. It's not THAT bad really. Honestly, I needed this. Thanks again, I just really need to get out there and be myself.
gotcha, thanks!
Ryder Ross
Godspeed user. If you just love yourself you'll be surprised who else will love you too.
Bro. The worst thing about you is your attitude. Every thing you described about yourself is in the normal range. Average to above average. And 75k a year is like 20k above the median household income in America. So unless you live in a very high cost of living area you are doing alright. Just hope you at least a retirement account and some savings going. Just improve your attitude and start one good habit every month to improve yourself. I was in a very similiar situation as you and now I'm much happier and also in a serious relationship. The biggest change I made was my attitude and outlook. You can reach your goals OP.
