Got laid last night for first time

>Got laid last night for first time
>Couldn't stay hard, kept slipping out of her, so we just decided to snuggle and sleep.
>Don't know if it's because of the desensitizing condom I used, the alcohol, or impotency

I usually have no problem getting an erection. Even seeing a fully-clothed attractive woman will raise the flag. My biggest fear was cumming early, I didn't even consider that I might not be able to stay hard.

Even though I'm a nervous and neurotic guy (social anxiety and awkwardness explain why it took me so long to lose my virginity, if you even consider this that), I didn't feel any anxiety symptoms with her. No heart palpitations, no trembling, no excessive worrying.

I only had three drinks.

Am I fucking impotent?

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Yes you are.

God fucking dammit, aways the same stupid shit. You yourself listed what the causes were.

FUCKING IDIOT

Do you look at porn or jack off frequently?
The only times I've had problems getting hard were during /gif/ benders. Nerves play a part as well, being word you're not going to last basically equates to being worried you aren't going to please your girl, which can be a definite mood killer.
You really need to think of yourself as a sexual Tyrannosaurus if you want to please your woman.

No you fucking moron. You're a gentleman and wanted the woman to cum first, which is amazing and will keep her coming back again. You can try again with this woman and maybe have a beautiful sexually crazy relationship. Stop worrying about your stupid penis, jesus christ.

Yeah, but I only had two cocktails and a glass of wine. Is that enough for "whisky dick?" I feel like it's gotta be me.

And the condom… it was meant to "slow him down and speed her up," but they wouldn't make a condom that makes you feel ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, would they? Wouldn't it only be a slight desensitization? Not like wearing a goddamn ceramic coffee mug over your dick?

You are overthinking so hard.

Yeah, maybe I should stop worrying. She told me she had been waiting for this for so long. For context, I went in a couple dates with her over a year ago, but didn't ever ask her on a third, because I wasn't sure we were compatible. We stayed friends, but only kept in touch intermittently. I hadn't heard from her in forever, and then she sends me a text out of the blue asking me out on a date.
>Do you look at porn or jack off frequently?

Yeah, I do. But it hasn't prevented me from getting boners with only minor stimulation before. Like, a see a hot girl go by, and "boing."

But I guess that morning, I did jack it to porn. But that was, like, twelve hours before we had sex. And often when I jack off, it's only a few minutes before I'm hard again and can jack off again. I don't even necessarily need porn for the second or third rounds. Sometimes, just fantasizing about the asses of people I know in their jeans gets me harder than seeing some naked stranger I'll never meet on the internet.

Doesn't matter, jacking off to porn and sex IRL are two different things and you shouldn't expect to react the same to both. Truth is it's easy to get hard to porn because it's designed to turn you on. And you yourself get to choose what turns you on and when, and you get to choose how long you jack off when you cum etc. Dealing with another human means your choice and control in the matter is basically halved, and all of a sudden your boner is part of a situation you cannot control.
Idk, you SURE as hell shouldn't be jacking off 2 hours before you meet. Maybe I'm just getting old but save your cum desu

Zero self awarenes and analytical skills. Gotcha. Have a nice evening buddy.

You've basically got everything working against you

If being nervous and neurotic wasn't bad enough, you were also drinking and wearing a condom (which further desensitizes a penis already desensitized by masturbation). This girl seems really into you considering she pursued you and snuggled with you after your failure, so you will probably have another opportunity.

In the mean time, lay off the porn. If you're going to be with her, let her be your only outlet.

Keep drinking to a minimum on nights that you plan on getting intimate

Keep wearing condoms, but realize it desensitizes you

When you're actually with her, don't think about anything. Don't think about pleasing her or pleasing you, or lasting long enough or anything else. Completely lose yourself in the experience. I know this is hard because I also tend to be nervous and neurotic, but realize that it works against you during sex.