I'm a 26 years old and dateless. I've been using tinder for a year and a half now and haven't got any dates from it. I've been changing my pics and my profile to get better at at and I feel like i've learned to tell when a girl is uninterested.
For the first time I spoke to a girl on tinder who actually as interested, we were chatting on it for 2 weeks and were going to go on a date this saturday. I was really excited and she cancelled on me on the afternoon of the date.
It really sucks because I was talking to her for a while and I felt like she was the first girl who was genuinely interested in me. She was cute, smart and seemed pretty chil. She flirted with me a bit and had a bit of bants
She cancelled because she had been working weekend shifts and said she was having problems with her Ex BF. Its now thursday and she hasn't messaged me once since the cancellation.
What should I do, I feel really upset because this is the first time a cute girl has taken any interest in me. On the day she cancelled I did ask if she wanted to maybe reschedule and she said she would let me know.
Should I message her back despite the fact she hasn't messaged me in 4 days?
Just text her. In my experience you will never hear about her ever again. Maybe she wasnt even a woman in the first place... Also try other networks like okcupid, badoo or even fucking facebook. Just add people from your location as friends and chat them up.
Angel Butler
Girls do this all the time on tinder. You can message her if you feel like it, but I wouldn't be surprised if she just lost interest, ghosted you and moved on, so I'd recommend you do the same. Plenty more girls on tinder, nigga.
Chase Howard
Fuck this overthinking shit, mate. Did that shit for a good six years and fucked me over way more than it helped. Message her, and if she doesn't reply, start messaging other girls on Tinder. Met the girl I'm dating right now because she accidentally added me instead of another guy and I asked her out the same night via Messenger. Just do what you want, when you want.
Brandon Hall
well I just messaged her now.
I havent stopped swiping on tinder, ill keep looking for others. Its just annoying because its been such a long time and she was the first person to show what seemed like a genuine interest
Jose Hughes
She's a bitch. You don't want to be with her anyways. In my experience tinder is a shit now a days for average guys like us. You're either going to have to date way below your rating or going to have go through hoops and hurdles just to even get a date. Work on making friends instead
Jason Collins
stop using Tinder unless you are looking for a slut to fuck casually.
If you want real dates go out to the bar or clubs and chat up the single girls. You save so much time. Tinder was only good for like six months a few years ago. The only girls that still use it have too much self respect to actually go on dates with guys on there.
You know what going on a Tinder date does to a girls ego? It makes them feel like shit.
Go out in the real world and meet girls the proper way. I repeat unless you want ONLY casual sex with sluts, delete your Tinder.
Robert Clark
Will sluts even fall onto your laps for 5/10's like me? You make it sound like you can get free sex just by going on Tinder. I myself don't make a profile because I don't want the humiliation that Op seems to be suffering from.
Samuel Clark
Nope Tinder is for 7/10+ males only. and there's already a huge surplus of 8/10's on Tinder.
Tinder has waaaaay more men than women. Even 6/10 girls get swarmed with messages by guys.
Also I know you won't believe me but fucking Tinder sluts is only fun for about 20 minutes before you regret it and feel like you are wasting your life.
Chase Roberts
t. dateless virgin from Jow Forums
Brayden Torres
Tinder is perfectly useable for people who don’t just want random sex. I really don’t know why it gets such a bad rap.
What’s more, it’s an excellent training tool for inexperienced men in how dating mechanics work. You figure out fast that focusing on one girl at the initial dating phase is terrible, that talking for weeks before asking to meet for coffee is terrible, as well as any number of other stupid practices.
People who treat Tinder as a free sex machine will probably find it, but there are tons of normal women on there too.
Ethan Adams
This. I’ve gotten plenty of NORMAL dates out of Tinder. Loads of women who want to be a Tinder “success story”.
Michael Murphy
As a 5/10 that has never had sex and only managed to get to second base like ten years ago, you have no idea how much I would appreciate some physical contact with a member of the opposite sex. The thing that normies like you don't understand, is that for ugly people like me -- we feel like we're starving. Sex, like food, may not mean much to you if you have plentiful supply of it, but imagine if you didn't have any? That's what it's been like for me for a decade now and counting. I know I sound like IRL Elliot here, but this is reality for a lot of us.
Cameron Russell
t. Tinder shills
I had 1500 matches on my profile before deleting the app. I had a few short term GF's on there, lots of FWBs, countless hookups.
And it's not fulfilling. I spent like two fucking years on that app and had more success than any of my friends but was so confused why nothing was ever playing out the way I had hoped.
Sure you can get a short term gf on there. Then three months in she tells you about how when she first started using Tinder she fucked 12 guys in a month or something.
And this isn't rare. Most likely if you meet a girl on Tinder her mind is so conditioned by the frequency of getting male attention whenever she wants that she will not be able to function in a normal relationship long term.
But what's interesting is that when I go out and meet girls in real life, the relationship always lasts much longer. I think it's because there is no "taint" of tinder corrupting the bond you formed. You met organically in a pure sense and things align much more naturally.
I'm not saying it's impossible to find a true LTR on Tinder. But your chances of forming real connections are 100x higher if you meet a girl the old fashioned way.
Jaxon Bailey
The fuck is up with the reddit spacing? I normally don't care, but you guys should learn after being on 4chins for more than five minutes that we have different formatting here.
Chase Martin
So what you're basically doing is scrounging the depths of dumpsters for a piece of trash to snack on....
How about instead of lurking in the shadows desperately, you shift your focus onto WHY you can't get laid. Don't you think it would be better for you long term to improve yourself so you can "eat" more often?
Say you get lucky on Tinder. It takes months but you finally found a slut to fuck. You fuck her, you last ten seconds, then you leave and she blocks your number.
Now you're back where you started and nothing has changed. You just wasted so much time trying to get something you don't need that you let yourself be stagnant for too long. You are wasting your life. Sex with sluts is not true sex. It is no more fulfilling than jacking off to porn.
Get on nofap. Stop looking at porn. Delete your tinder. Start working on something productive.
Adam Stewart
>we
Fuck off newfag
Nathaniel Bennett
>meeting new girls in the library don't fall for this meme OP
Noah Perry
You're right. That takes too much effort, and I don't know if I can change much. I will never be physically attractive. I wasn't gifted with the right genes. My personality has been described as stoic, boring, depressing. I don't know if I can fix that either. I'm never going to be a Prince Charming. That's a fantasy. I'm ready to just dumpster dive to eat. I just want ten seconds inside a slut, and maybe be able to spoon or go down on her before leaving. I just want to pretend for like 5 mins that I have a girlfriend. Surely that will be more fulfilling than jacking off.
Dylan Morales
>sex with sluts is no more fulfilling than jacking off to porn Literally what It is by definition more fulfilling because your lizard brain processes the feeling of a warm, wet pussy and the sight of a fat ass clapping against your thighs and gives you a dosage of dopamine along with the sense of satisfaction and achievement you contrive in your own mind. Jacking off is just empty dopamine. You might trick your brain if you're watching some POV porn or whatever but it absolutely is not the same. And I can say this, having had the typical normie first year of uni and the slump that follows.
>decide to stop jacking off >Start fucking sluts on Tinder >Huge dopamine rush during makeout and foreplay >great sex >Bust a nut >feel empty, disappointed, tired. >decide to stop having casual sex and only fuck girls I want to date >1 week goes by >get horny again >fuck a slut >bust nut >feel sad Happens every fucking time.
Nicholas Diaz
If you're going to lie then don't do it so blatantly, you didn't have 1500 matches.
Daniel Sullivan
I'm a tall but fat fuck with probably a 4/10 face because I'm fat. Had tinder for about a month, would far have had 12 matches, 9 dates and fucked 4 of them. 2 we're fat, and the other 2 we're cute.
It takes time, most girls won't pay for Tinder so get a limited number of swipes. The algorithm makes sure that they only see the 8/10 guys first so it takes a while to reach you. Don't give up, just keep the app and work on yourself in the mean time.
I wouldn't believe the rubbish the other guy is coming up with, I've been running tests with fake profiles and even using the pictures if a male model and being in London I only got about 70 matches. Using a 6/10 girl though got me about 400 matches.
William Myers
Don’t waste your time on TINDER sluts. She probably canceled to see another dude
