Femanon here. For some reason, I’ve always had an aversion to porn. It’s deviant, gross, and just odd. I totally understand that people like to masturbate, but using random people fucking each other as material for it is revolting and subhuman to me.
Here’s the problem:
My boyfriend used to consume porn on a regular basis. He was by no means addicted, but he definitely didn’t watch one video and decide it wasn’t for him. He’s never watched porn while we’ve been together, but he did watch it while in a relationship with his ex. He said it made him feel guilty and he realized porn is deviant, so he quit months before we started dating.
Have his views of sex been warped forever? Am I inadequate because of what he’s seen? What should I do? Will I ever be able to find a guy who hasn’t used porn as masturbation material?
Porn makes me livid. Boyfriend used to watch it
Eh. 6/10 for effort.
You're inadequate but not because of what he's seen.
You mean him, or me?
It's actually hard. It's easy to say you're not watching porn when you actually are. It's easy to lie saying he's not warped with porn anymore. But it really depends. If he truly loves you, it'd be reasonable for him to actually stop masturbating from porn. Plus it's kinda impossible to find a man who doesn't masturbate from porn or should I count in hentai. But if you'll find someone, might be a monk or something
He seems genuine. I believe him; I know he isn’t using it now. He says he doesn’t feel the need because of our connection emotionally and physically. Also, it’s important to note that he’d never had sex before we started dating. He’d only ever kissed a girl. I wonder if his lack of experience made him curious and search for gratification online.
>Will I ever be able to find a guy who hasn’t used porn as masturbation material?
Any guy you know who has a computer or smartphone has watched porn. You shouldn't feel bad about it. You see male movie stars depicted as perfect lovers. Should your boyfriend feel bad about it?
For your blatantly bait post.
Nobody is stupid enough to come here to spout such nonsense earnestly. This isn't fucking reddit, or facebook.
No, but I’ve never used porn, and I don’t find conventionally attractive men attractive.
Yeah that could be the reason. But it's good tho. You should be thankful to have that kind of bf that would actually stop porn for you.
I’m 100% serious. I have massive anxiety because of his past porn use. I worry that he doesn’t value sex the same way I do as a result of being desensitized by porn.
He stopped porn before me; that’s what’s helped me stick with him. I didn’t have to tell him to stop, so I feel like because it was his decision, he’ll abide by it.
Value sex as fucking what? Are you afraid he's devaluing the currency you use to control the relationship? What exactly is being devalued?
To me, it just sounds like you're insecure.
Yes I think that's good enough. He have self awareness, he stopped right before you asked him, he even felt guilty. It's rare to find another man like that.
How are these two things related?
The issue seems to be that you are massively insecure in front of pornstars then
Naive idiot.
curious OP, what do you respectively provide each other with in this relationship beside sex ?
Why do women get angry at every fucking thing that should encourage them to better themselves? The fuck is wrong with you?
Magic mike didnt make me angry, it made me want to clean ip my act and get a better body.
>Will I ever be able to find a guy who hasn’t used porn as masturbation material?
Not in developped countries
You're an idiot. Porn isn't real. It's images and sounds made to get an orgasm in a quick minute. If you think porn is real, you're legitimately stupid.
It just means op is fat and doesnt want to change her fatty ways of television and binge eating magnum icecream and going out for tacos and drinks every other day. She wants to lower the bar like the weak sack of shit she is.
Yo, magnums are fucking delicious.
Or she could be insecure for whatever other reason, but yeah the issue is that she won't even try to get over her own insecurities and then turns resentful of a whole gender instead
Not true. I'm a guy and I have a strong aversion to porn as long as I can remember, just like OP. I enjoy erotics, but not porn. Maybe I'm an outlier.
Yes, you are part of a minority so small it is negligible and not viable for OP or anyone to pursue
>Will I ever be able to find a guy who hasn’t used porn as masturbation material?
I don't know, will I ever find a girl that doesn't use me as an ATM once she's done fucking all the cute guys?
Stay far away from any woman who loves them. Biggest red flag.
Dont offer to pay for shit then?
Hahahahahahahaha
>He’s never watched porn while we’ve been together
kek
>Will I ever be able to find a guy who hasn’t used porn as masturbation material?
Very unlikely
Man, I hope op dies alone, unloved, and eaten by her army of cats.
idk people are curious, and you looked at it yourself OP, so don't be a hypocrite.
Be happy that your views align with your bf pretty well. Stop pestering him about the past, it really doesn't matter.
All the dates I've ever been on women paid food/drinks for me or at least for themselves
What about it is so deviant? Do you watch romantic movies where people fall in love? That's the exact same thing.
It's kind of pathetic the way porn makes some women get so insecure. It's like the female equivalent of that guy that always thinks his woman is going to cheat on him the second he is not around.
Lol it’s laughable isnt it. My gf thinks the same thing.
It's a competition thing. They see other women doing things they don't want to so they feel self-conscious about their own performance.
I think it's weirder to be weirded out by porn. Walls are relatively recent inventions in human history.
People used to watch people fuck all the time, either in shared homes or just on the street. Most people also have exhibit arousal when they see others fuck.
Maybe you have the problem?
This is fucking stupid. Dudes have a biological need to clear out our balls. Porn is stimulating. It's not at all deviant, quite a common normal practice - although there are deviant and unacceptable forms of porn. Every single male with a working penis and a hand has jacked off. Most have used porn to facilitate. If you don't want a dude to use porn, you're going to put yourself under some pressure to be his some source of sexual satisfaction, which can be a heavy burden if he has any brains or sex drive at all. The problem isn't him, it's you.