So I just lost my virginity but through the experience I didn't feel the pleasure like I thought I would have...

>finished inside her

you have bigger things to worry about lmao

Same thing for me.
First time was a disaster, second time with a different girl (who was more experienced imo) it went fine.

Sex is just sex, OP. Evolution has ZERO incentive to make it some big fireworks show that makes you grind your teeth and go zany in the eyes. It’s JUST enough better than other things (eating, sleeping, beating someone in competition, etc) to be worth the trouble. That’s how it was designed. Yes, just like you and all life on Earth, it was DESIGNED by evolution.

I personally prefer jerking off on weed, but to each his own.

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Lost my virginity about a month ago and had sex with the same girl a few more times, felt a similar way
The best sex we had (and the only time i actually came) was when I didnt masturbate for about 3 days before the act, but even then it was just decent and didnt compare to drugs
Of course my experience is limited, and it would probably have been significantly better with a 10/10 that I was in love with or whatever

anxiety, stress, being tired all can do that to you.
also cutting down on masturbation a bit will reignite your libido

Would it kill you to admit that it's the person that's fucked up not the porn? I've been watching porn for 20 years and fapping pretty much every day and have absolutely no problems getting hard for women. I should, if you're right, be completely flaccid all the time except for when I'm watching porn. Yet when my girlfriend wants to randomly suck me off she gets me hard in seconds flat.

I've had sex with 5 girls.

It was never all that enjoyable until I met my my most recent ex, the first time we fucked I couldn't even get a boner because I had such feelings for her. But after that, we would have sex regularly and it was amazing.

Felt like I was loved and that made the sex 1000x better.

The only user in this thread with the eye for the important

Literally never not busted in a bitch.

My bf do not like condoms either. He feels nothing and we prefer the withdrawal method

My first time was very similar user. Do not worry. You (and me) got very stressed and that's all. Sex is amazing, I still do watch porn. It gets better with time

My girlfriend's been on birth control for the entire time we've been dating (it was initially to regulate her period) and boy, I wouldn't trade that up for anything
'Course, if I had to do condoms, I'd do and have done. I prefer that to a baby.

yeah condoms are gay haha you could also have a chode or longer dick or whatever so try out different sizes

there's absolutely nothing fucked up about being nervous the first time having sex and being disgusted by condoms that are likely ill-fitting

but the fact that his first reaction was to think about porn when he was having sex shows that porn is his "happy place" and has warped his mind.

No, his mind was already warped before the porn. This is just like people blaming music or video games for bad shit happening. Listen, you can hate porn if you want. I don't care. At least hate it for the right reasons.

Yeah...you really need to chill on the porn and possibly death gripping.

Nothing wrong with porn in moderation depending on you as a person.
I watch porn and my boyfriend watches porn. We still have great sex and he has NO problem getting hard or cumming.

Also were you just not attracted to the person you slept with?

>free and instant access to unlimited porn has never affected anyone's health ever

okay dude

video games can also be a health hazard and bad for your psyche

I hate using dumb similies but you could also say that having free and instant access to as much water as you want has been bad for people's health in the past. Does that mean it's the waters fault for people drinking so much of it that they hurt themselves? The op has some mental hangups and wants to use porn has a scapegoat. So, seeing an opportunity to push your personal beliefs down everyone's throat, wholeheartedly support the OP in his self diagnosis. Just stop. We get it. You don't like porn.

I'm ruined for sex I don't think any amount of time without porno can help

why do people refer to pulling out as a method as if its a form of birth control, its not
wear a condom or take a pill. fuck, you people are stupid

People don't get addicted to water. They'll get addicted to of course tangible substances whether it's heroin or cheesecake or red bull - but also interactive activities like gambling, video games (and there's often barely a difference between the two) and beating off to porn.

It's especially bad for people under 30-ish who grew up online and were already watching transgender anal piss fetish femdom porn or whatever in their formative years because they were already bored with normal porn by the time they were like 11 years old

Considering I grew up online I still watch very normal porn even after all these years.

You can blame gambling, porn, video games, caffeine, or whatever else you want for people's problems (none of those are like hard drugs btw) but in the end it was the person's choice to choose those things over everything else. You can keep demonizing them as much as you want if that gets you through the day. Maybe you were like OP and were simply too weak to handle them properly and all this fear and contempt is a defense mechanism. If so, I am truly sorry for you.

yes, don't watch porn, don't masturbate
wrong

>none of those are like hard drugs btw

People still get addicted to those, and a lot of them are actually easier to get addicted to and harder to quit than hard drugs because you can just go buy video games or scratch tickets or a red bull at the mall or just get it online and no one cares - it's not like you have to make connections through 15 people and risk going to jail just to find some porn.

> but in the end it was the person's choice to choose

addiction isn't a choice

Not wrong faggot.

All great advices. Thanks everyone. I think I did hype up the idea of sex too much. It's not about having mind blowing orgasm after all, but the intimacy. I also admit I've been death gripping for masturbation too much. I'll cut back on the porn and tries to buy the right condoms. Might took a few tries but baby steps.

a little bit of desensitation and also overhype and over expectations.

not every guy loves the first time they blew their load

also think about her for a second: it would have nervous for her too. am i turning him on enough? is he going soft because of me?

>>the more the practice the better you get at it.

Since this thread has devolved into a bunch of anons arguing over the health impacts of porn (which isn't contributing shit), I'll give you a straight answer: It sounds like you watched too much porn and got your expectations up/changed and were unable to perform properly as a result. Solution: relax next time, but also decrease the porn usage or start watching more "realistic" porn - ie straight, normal, missionary/prone/doggy. You can find some pretty hot "passionate" porn that puts more of an emphasis on love and relationship instead of energy and intensity (which use unrealistic positions/actions). It also seems like you have the same issue as everyone else: it was your first time, and thats always awkward. Anyone who says their first time wasn't awkward is lying. Practice makes perfect.

Don't worry user

Sex isn't always good, especially the first time you sleep with anyone.
Keep doing it, and communicate with her. It'll go a long away. Don't be surprised that each time is better than the last.

And don't rush to cum or think you have to. Enjoy the moment

So nice to hear this didn't only happen to me. Definitely cheered me up.

I doubt its his Happy place. If anything he's probably using as a frame of reference because its all his got.