ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

I think it's reasonable to be worried/uncomfortable at this point. Have you talked to either of them about it? I know none of my friends would exchange phone numbers with my gf without talking to me first, and I wouldn't either.

I have been 98% sure that the girls I have approached will turn me down too, but the hit rate is more like 30% turn me down and it was just the anxiety talking. I'm busy doing it right now. I know this girl used to be into me, and she recently initiated after a year or more of no significant contact, and even still I'm having to convince myself that I won't just be annoying her by starting a conversation.

>What if I'm convinced the answer will be no? Like 98 % sure
Then you've already defeated yourself. Convincing yourself that you will fail as an excuse to not try is the hallmark of a weak person. Decide to stop being week.

In general, how do girls feel about dating a guy with no friends? She wouldn't actually be interested in meeting my friends if I had any, right?

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How many times are you going to ask this question

This is possibly the dumbest question I've ever seen on this board.

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Most social girls will think it's a redflag and it's been explained why

I guess until I get an answer.

Goodbye

Ladies and men: why do you think the meat between your legs entitles you to any sort of special opinion? You're just a meat sack like anything other animal. These threads are dumb and ultimately pointless.

You seem personally offended. I just want you to know that I don't hold it against you, and that I think that you could very well be a great person outside of this interaction :^D

>redflag
I thought it might be. Why exactly? How can I rectify it?

Weird, it's almost as if people have been gaining insight and support from these threads for literally years, and your opinion doesn't change that fact.

namefags are garbage. throw your trip in the trash where it belongs.

Just do it. Even if you get rejected, it's not the end of the world. I never regretted texting first, but I have regretted not having done so.

I mean recently I met a guy and I was the one to add him on fb and ask him out, and I'm glad I did

If I don't use a tripcode on Jow Forums, someone will just pretend to be me, and derail the dialogue. I typically don't used the same name and trip in different threads, although I did use this one in another thread recently.

>If I don't use a tripcode on Jow Forums, someone will just pretend to be me, and derail the dialogue.
That literally never happens. Toss yourself off a cliff.

Insight into what? A couple people's opinions colored by the fact that they have certain reproductive organs? It's ridiculous and you know it.

That is ridiculously uncommon. You should work on your control issues.

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that if you haven't managed to make some friends there is a decent chance that there is something very wrong with you, like perhaps being extremely antisocial or perhaps violent. Not necessarily, but the risks are definitely higher and I personally would definitely raise an eyebrow at the very least.

This thread has served as source for "general questions that usually relate to relationships" and "things that don't deserve their own thread" and "embarrassing things you've always wanted to know"
We tried to run "Questions that don't deserve their own thread" but they fell through. This thread brings in the numbers.

I was walking arounf with my gf and we are still dating secretly from my family and I let go of her hand when I saw my dad and acted like we were just friends and then she kept trying to grab my hand while we were walking back to her car and I kept not grabbing it and then I said to wait until we got back to the car and I feel awful about it. She said its okay but I still feel awful about it.

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It's happened literally every time I've asked for advice without a trip. This place is like /b/ with slightly better modification. It's the reason a lot of boards have IDs.

Question to females:

Supposedly you met somebody online and you have saw his physical appearance over a video call, would you still keep chat with a guy that looked ugly?

A lot of reasons. If someone doesn't have friends it's either because they are unpleasant to be around or have some mental issues which in turn hinder their ability to socialise and bond with other people. People naturally seek companionship, so people who are lone wolves don't fit the normalized social narrative and are labelled (rightfully or not) as weirdos and creeps. Moreover, friendless people may struggle with understanding social norms, be exceedingly awkward and clueless in a (romantic) relationship, exhibit needy and needlessly possesive behaviours, exhibit high or even pathological dependency... A relationship with someone who has no intimate social interactions aside from the ones with their significant other is tricky, especially when break up happens, because then the friendless person loses not only a romantic partner but also his/her only friend, and that double loss combined with the lack of supportive social circle can trigger all sorts of problems, including suicidal ideation.

tl;dr find yourself a friend

Depends. If I were just talking with him because I wanted to hook up, no, but if he's a cool dude and I enjoy chatting with him I wouldn't give a shit tbqh.

this some gay shit nigger. that made her feel terrible. why would you hide it.

I have her online just around 5 days ago and we were talking about normal stuff until she told me to go over Viber and continue our chat there every night.

She kept questioning how come I don’t have any girlfriend, why nobody likes me when I’m being very sweet to her, I am way too kind etc., I’ve opened up about meeting IRL so we can get to know each other better but she seemed dodgy about it although she said she’s willing to meet me up next week. What does this mean?

Well, those seem like pretty good signs for the most part, since unless she's just trying to butter you up to get laid (unlikely if she was "dodgy") she seems to genuinely enjoy your company, but I'm not sure what you mean by "dodgy" since that can mean a few things.

My family freaked out when I mentioned I had met them online

I'm going to be telling them soon because I never want anything like that to happen again

How much do menstrual cramps hurt? No seriously. I know they're a bitch, but no one has ever given me a clear answer on this. Are they like excruciating? Like a bad chrons flareup?

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tell her how much of a pathetic idiot loser you are while you apologize

The antisocial part is a fair assumption I suppose, and I can see why people might think that if I told them I had no friends.
>managed to make friends
I have had plenty if friends in the past, but going into adulthood, I realized I don't actually want to have friends.
>risks
That's the part that confuses me. Are women worried about me being potentially insecure and abusive, or are they worred about me being boring?

I'm going to copy&paste this into a word document, and read it over a few times.

Just a few after thoughts if they mean anything: I don't actually want friends, and I don't really consider myself a needy or clingy person. But I can see why someone may worry about that.
I wonder if I could just keep my lack of a social circle a secret, or show the girl that I'm a great guy before revealing that I don't have friends.

Depends, in my case they can get so bad that I faint or puke because of the pain

Depends on the person. Mine are painless, or very mild, but I have heard an anecdote of someone who had appendicitis and thought it was just typical cramps. Most are someone in the middle. Incidentally, the amount of blood flow is also personal, and can be very light or heavy enough to hospitalize you, though the latter is very rare for obvious reasons.

Fuck that shit, yeah this is how cheating happens, even if you trust them both, unless your friend is gay he shouldn't be talking and hanging out with your own girlfriend THAT fucking much, I would talk to her ASAP before some bad shit happens.

Well, you being potentially violent is more of a "risk", since worst-case scenario they just stop talking to you if you're boring.

For the record, as I said, it's not cut-and-cry, it's a red flag, but not a dealbreaker, at least for me. Might be for people who are very social and want to build lots of rapport with their significant other's friends.

>dodgy
Because we were supposed to meet tomorrow or Friday after her first day of school. She also said she’s busy during weekends.

I’m respecting her personal time so I don’t want to say much about it, I just thought she doesn’t really like the idea of meeting up, hence why I said she seemed dodgy.

Should I list my height on dating apps if Im a 5'6 male? I kind of want to since most girls really care about it and I know it's a negative attribute of mine.

>fat girl Liked me on dating site (don't know when)
>Like her today just to see if she had Liked me or not
>it's a Match!
>send her a message
>unmatched
*shrug*
At least it was a fat girl and not a hot one.

Well, that could be true, and if she continues to dodge it's a valid concern to be certain, but she did agree (I don't think you seem like the type to blow up if she says no to these sorts of things based on how you're speaking now), and does seem to enjoy your company. Perhaps the venue is the problem? Not sure where you're meeting up, but I know that I'd definitely want to meet in a very public place, just in case.

You can also just ask if she's uncomfortable; she's not guaranteed to tell the truth, but it's likely going to be more accurate than some rando on the internet pontificating about it.

I already asked if she’s still uncomfortable with me then we could postpone our meeting but she insisted on meeting up, she just said she’s pre-occupied with numerous things like her mom’s birthday, mother’s day celebration, hanging out with friends after work.

I think we’d be meeting up in front of a school at nighttime, just a small chat and part ways after that, nothing perverted at all.

More of my dating sites findings:
I've found at least 4 virgin girls on them over the years. 3 of them were fat (unsurprisingly, I know). 1 is a religious freak.
I'm currently talking to one, but I'm not sire if want.

Same height here. I left it blank for some time, then added it. It doesn't seem to make much difference.
If height is that important for her, she will either dump you while swiping or at your first meeting. Which one do you prefer?

Didn't want to make a whole new thread just to ask this, but I guess girls would be best answers:

What is the best way to get an online female friend, a true friend? I don't have many female friends, and it's not like it's hard for me to talk to them, it's just that I dislike a lot of the ones around me in my daily life. Most I wouldn't even consider friends, just work-friends or things like that. I want to get a real friend who I could talk to almost every day, or as much as I talk to all my best friends; if it developed into something more that'd be cool but not necessary. Could I use something like reddits r4r for that? It seems weird to use that subreddit though. And it doesn't make much sense to use a dating app like tinder or okcupid just for a friend.

What to do?

In general I'm not really for the idea of forcing genuine friendships, since that often leads to them being, well, forced. Why do you need a female friend in particular, out of interest?

No particular reason I guess. I just don't have many female friends, and I enjoy talking to women. It's just that it never seems to move past being casual friends at best or being work-friends/acquaintances; yaknow?

I wouldn't be forcing the friendship, I would genuinely want to be friends with them. I like gaming, cooking, working out, hiking, and other things; generally I'd want them to be into the same things and we build up a good friendship over time.

What's the best app to meet girls who are ~30yo as a 26yo male? For dating not for hook ups.

Last week, after three months of basically no-contact, with me screwing up in many ways and pissing her off ( I even wrote a song on youtube where I explicitly called her a cunt for the way she treated me LOL.) she sent me a long heated message saying how mad she was and that she hopes I find someone better etc... I legitimately felt bad about it so I decided to reach out and tell her that I'm not trying to get back together I just want to sincerely apologize for hurting her with my words.

She told me that if we were to have this conversation in person, there would have to be ground rules like "no getting back together, time limit, has to be in a public place". I said I don't agree to those terms. Later that night she asked if she could come over, I said sure. She came over and I apologized and we started talking. She started getting closer to me and made the first move. She asked if she can spend the night and like the beta male I am I agreed. We slept together and talked all night and it felt like the pain of the last three months disappeared. She told me that she was wrong to leave me and was the one to bring up starting a relationship again.

The next day she brought me a sandwich to work and we were making promises of how we would treat each other in this new relationship. She spent the night again and as I walked her to her car in the morning she said "I love you but I'm not sure I can commit to you". Motherfuck. This woman played me like a fool. Manipulated me into sleeping with her and thinking that I still feel for her. I told her to get lost and to never contact me again for any reason. She must have borderline personality disorder or something like that!

>question: what in the fuck?

nope nope nope NOPE NOPE NOPE RED ALERT RED ALERT TALK TO HER ASAP DO NOT LET THIS SHIT CONTINUE

I hope you wrapped your shit or in 9 months time you might get a surprise summons to court.

No straight male would go and have breakfast with someone he didn't want to bone.

I take no pleasure in saying this, but yes you should be worried. I've been that guy you're gf is talking to, twice actually. I'm not proud of it, and I'd never do it again, but it happened. This is how it starts. You will get in an argument with your gf (maybe she starts it on purpose to get the ball rolling) and she will contact him to "vent".

Can confirm this as well.

My friend did this once to one of our group friends. I was pissed but he kept saying “chill out we’re just friends”.

Ended up after she broke up with her FB my friend and her did have a thing and it ended horriably all around.

Girls,

So I think she doesn't love me anymore. She won't say it back and has been kind of avoiding me. She has been going through a lot lately (not related to us) and has been kind of avoiding me. But she hasn't said anything about breaking up.

She said I'm a great friend and she appreciates me, which is honestly kind of shitty in a way (I hope she doesn't just "demote" me to a friend, I find that to be kind of shitty, am I wrong to think that?). Should I bring it up when she's a bit more stable in her troubles? It's not all about me and I'm trying to be supportive, but I can't stay with someone who doesn't love me because that's not a relationship, that's just something unhealthy.

uh oh mate

Girls:
How do you stop your hair from fraying or separating at the very ends?
I can't get my bloody hair to stay straight.

I don't use any form of heat on it, don't dye it, use nutrient masks.
If you want to use heat, use heat protectors. Cut the split ends.

Girls,

I broke the rule and shat where I work. Things between us were pretty serious and i was really attached, but last week she dumped me because she said she still had feelings for her ex, who also works with us. I later discovered she was banging her ex while we were together.

I still have to see her and her boy toy 4-5 days a week, as we work on the same team.

How can I fuck with her/her boy? I want her to make sure she knows she's a shitty person and i want her to regret this. She's trying to be really friendly, but I've just been ignoring the shit out of her. Should i keep ignoring her? Tell her she's a bitch next time we're in a room alone? What can i do to really get under her skin? I'll be at this job for a few more months until my lease is up then i'm bouncing.

pic unrelated, but it cracks me up when i see it

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This is tricky as fuck because if you tell her that you don't want her to hang out with him, she will 100% suck his cock.

You don't. You work together, just keep it decent.
Ignore her if you want, but don't do anything stupid. It

Is this going to fuck with her? because thats my primary goal, considering i'm leaving the company.

I'm not talking about shitting on her desk. I want it to be subtle and not anything that leaves evidence for her to tattle on me (she would)

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Don't be petty.

I understand you're upset, you have every reason. But you work together and you have to keep it decent. You don't "fuck with her".
Ignore her, tell her frankly that you're not interested in being friendly with her or interacting with her in any way seeing how she behaved, that she's dead to you beyond work reasons, but don't go out of your way to make her life terrible.

First, because it will only make your life terrible.
Second, because she's a coworker and you don't want everyone where you work to hate you.

I feel like it'd make me feel good knowing she's not happy. It's petty, but fuck her. She doesnt deserve to be happy

It won't make you happy. Making other people unhappy doesn't improve your life in any way, and actually makes it worse because people around you see you as a less worthy individual and distance themselves from you.

Ignore her, be the adult, and for your own sake try to forgive her.
She is a bitch, I agree with you, but don't let it ruin your life.

I know this is unrelated, but
>Check her phone when she's in the shower (I know I know it's wrong)
Why the fuck don't people put password/PIN locks on their phone?

>I don't use any form of heat on it, don't dye it, use nutrient masks.
Marry me, please?

He probably has it.

That's fuckin' creepy.

>Marry me, please?
Deal.

If you spend enough time around someone, you know their pin code.
I know the pin code of all my close friends, my boyfriend, my ex. Not even because I sneak into their phone but because
>I'm driving, can you change the song?
>I'm driving, can you text (x) that we're on our way?
>My hands are busy, can you look up the recipe for (y) on my phone?
Or just plainly they type it in in front of me because they trust me.

should i text my friend right now if she wants to start dating?

Just ask her on a date.

we are always hanging out though

Women, would you be bothered if a guy lives among another dudes mess?

I rent a room in a house and keep my space clean and organized and smelling nice. However the rest of the house kinda has a problem with flies and is somewhat disgusting. I intend to move out in the coming months but I've already met a QT I wanna bang.

Is this gonna cockblock me?

Then flirt with her and try to escalate things physically.

Question for girls hey ladies why do you act weak for a moment get my sympathy and then every time you feel shit you ask for sympathy and in the end we can't date cause you want to act like a hot shot in front of your partner while I know you are just a stupid girl tell me why always me(in short why do I get friendzoned)

Why do you console a woman in emotional distress if your intentions are not altruistic?
If you want to date, ask her out. If you want to be here emotional sponge, don't ask her out, ans keep pretending you care about her.

I am not attracted to any girls I am finding on dating apps. Are my standards too high?

You might be gay.

That's the problem man I wish to know a girl first before asking her out but always I end up becoming her emotional suppor

Every one I've been presented with either has a manface or is overweight. In a week and a half of using CMB I have found a grand total of one girl attractive.

should I get a hat?

If it looks good on you then why not

Girl asked me out, I had something major that day, she misinterpreted my answer as a rejection. Weeks go by and I realize I'm in love with her. She hates me now because she thinks I rejected her and doesn't even want to talk with me. Wat do?

I'm watching a movie with my crush (guy). How do I flirt with him in a way that won't make me look dumb, goofy, or obsessive?

Every girl is different. Ask her out and you'll know

Just bee yourself

My GF is afraid that I'm gay. When we watch a TV show she always looks at my eyes when a man comes up. I'm not gay at all.

It's fine to look a little dumb or goofy when you flirt. Make a few light sexual jokes. Depending on his personality tease him a little bit. If you're feeling particularly forward make some physical contact. Or just ask him out.

When we first started dating I told my girlfriend explicitly not to text me problems. I want her to bring up any issues face to face, not over text. This just happened:

>girlfriend seemed okay when we hung out
>day goes by
>tell her we should hangout tonight
>she tells me we should talk
>ask her why
>said we can talk about it tonight, assures me we arean't breaking up.
>2 hours before we hangout, tells me she doesn't want to hangout anymore, not feeling up to it
>all I say is okay, talk to you later.

So now this has been on my mind since noon, and will be for another 15 fucking hours.

Welp.

Is she just looking for attention? I've mentioned multiple times not to bring up relationship issues over text and then she pulls this shit.

>used to text every day
>if I didn't text after a few days, she'd initiate
>used to send me good morning and good night texts

I'm not sure if it's because school started or because she lost interest, but she's slowed down with the texting and I always have to initiate conversation. i feel I missed my chance with her.
I rarely see her though, especially since her quarter started. And I refuse to ask her out over text.

I asked to take her out once school ends in a few weeks. Should I make I intentions known or take my loss?