How do you deal with being a failure in every aspect of life?
I'm 23 I have zero friends, I've gotten fired from the last two jobs I've had, I have no money and live with my parents. I've never had a relationship. I take depression medication and adderal but don't really feel different. The only thing I do all day is dick around on my computer because I have nothing else to do, how am I supposed to fix my life?
It feels like its such a worthless endeavor because I've proven to myself over and over that I am absolutely incompetent at everything I do.
You could try meditation to open thrid eye and gain superpowers
Ryder Campbell
Have a college degree?
Caleb Powell
By doing the hardest thing anyone has ever had to do. Try harder at the things you don't like. Maybe don't get fired. Maybe go to school for something that requires a 2 year degree.
Noah Allen
Then again nothing really matters anyway
Dominic Sullivan
It's just a two year community college degree for IT Networking
Justin Stewart
Welp, you can get a job with that. Try again. Why'd you get fired?
Josiah Nelson
Bad performance for both of them. Though the most recent one was also because I was constantly nodding off without realizing it because of my schedule changing by 6 hours every other day
Camden Hall
>Look for new job >Potentially look at trade/college if that's your thing >Pick up some new hobbies, meet people and expand social circle >Save for own place >Gain independence
While all those seem pretty simple I know they can be daunting and require you to go outside of your comfort zone. The easiest thing to do at the moment would be to continue on with what you know and keep coasting inside your bubble. However, while you think it may be too late to change your life you will look back at this moment in a few years and realise how young you were and that you had the opportunity to change the unhappy life you were leading. You know you want change in your life, unfortunately change isn't easy but it is rewarding.
Luis Collins
Im 36
Failure in everything
Lets kill ourselves
Nolan Collins
Uhhh....so hat makes you think you are different from most millennial? Generation Snowflake
Joshua Hill
>23 >life is over HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA You have until your 30s to start worrying.
First off, you seem to confuse having the goal of "impressing people" and "being happy". You should really ask yourself WHY not having XY and Z disappoints you.
Second, keep yourself busy. It doesn't matter how. Start off setting by exercising regularly, doing housework, etc.
Third, get another job. Who gives a fuck about the other 2.
Also why were you fired?
Kevin Lee
Maybe you can try focusing on small goals. having a small goal can cheer you up because it makes you feel like you have something to work towards. then make another goal and another goal.
Levi Wright
There’s seems to be a trend in our generation that leads a great amount of young able men into reclusion and challenge averse lifestyles. Some blame this on a snowflake syndrome but I think it runs a bit deeper than that.
I’m in pretty much the same situation as you 23, live with parents, no job, gf dumped me because I’m not going anywhere. The main difference is that I believe I’m going somewhere. I believe in the future and my capabilities to bring it to fruition.
I’ve always had that level of self belief so I’m not exactly sure how to shift from a negative view of oneself to a positive but I have done a lot of study about it and I’ve come to the conclusion that the best way to do it is through Cognital Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
It’s a therapy that shifts your behaviors into more positive ones. Like say you know you should do something like begin writing a resume and then you start and feel like such a failure because you have nothing good to put so you search up Loli rape porn and just jerk it. Instead CBT helps you overcome that feeling of “I need to escape” and push through to make something happen.
Along with that I would tell you to write down your goals with a time to accomplish them by and 5he steps you would need to do to get there. The steps can be tiny baby steps but as long as you set out to do them that’s ok. With each successful step congratulate yourself and reaffirm the belief “I can do this and I will overcome whatever comes at me next.” It’s gonna take work and time but we are still young enough where that’s ok.
I know things will get better for you. and the rest of our generation.
Jace Rivera
>The only thing I do all day is dick around on my computer because I have nothing else to do, how am I supposed to fix my life? Get another job and fix your sleep schedule.
Joshua Cook
>First off, you seem to confuse having the goal of "impressing people" and "being happy". You should really ask yourself WHY not having XY and Z disappoints you. I don't really get how being nonexistent socially and having no career prospects is related to impressing people. Its disappointing because these are basic things for anyone who isn't as retarded as me >Second, keep yourself busy. It doesn't matter how. Start off setting by exercising regularly, doing housework, etc. I already do housework for my parents, tried doing running but got tired of it extremely fast like every other hobby >Third, get another job. Who gives a fuck about the other 2. I'm applying for stuff here and there but being fired twice in a row doesnt really give me any confidence that I won't just get fired again. >Also why were you fired? I'm shit at everything I do
I'll take a look at CBT though I dont have any money right now.
ooh I'm feeling the same vibes that you do, and my university offered some self help videos on CBT. maybe there's free online stuff about CBT that you can read.
the University therapist said to treat the stuff he gives me (whether it's a direction like "do these breathing exercises" or the online self help stuff) as seriously as a prescription to medication. so whenever you read up self help stuff, instead of thinking "what's the point of all this shit, it's just words", actually try and push thru and believe it!
I don't have any self motivation and it's tough making it thru each day, but if I treat it as something real prescribed to me instead of fake advice, then maybe I'm more likely to give a shit about it, since I don't give many shits about myself
you got this tho
Easton Sanchez
you need to get your lazy ass a job. even if its low wages its still a job
idk im an asshole i hate most people and i dont like myself, i push everyone away
at some point i just learned to accept it and really, i dont want to maintain friendships and rleationships anyway, i just occasionally like the idea of it, a very idealized idea of such relationships.
perhaps its the same for you? Relationships require a lot of effort to maintain, people have all sorts of needs
Aaron Scott
23 and a failure too. Balding, no job or degree. No love.
Just keep at it. Hack away at life until you get what you want.
Alexander Sullivan
I've enjoyed shooting the shit with coworkers when I had a job and the few classes in highschool where I actually talked to people. It's boring having nothing.
