All my life I’ve been treated like a joke. As a kid I was bullied. I was bullied savagely all through high school. When high school ended I promised that I would NEVER let myself fall that low again and vowed to do everything possible to better my life.
Now I’m a couple years into college and I still don’t command respect. I’m a completely different person to the kid who got bullied at age 13. I look different, dress different, act different, even smell different. But why is my soul the same? Why does it feel like no matter how many layers of strength I build around myself, everyone can see right through them and tell that I’m an insecure ex-bullying victim?
Men don’t respect me. Women aren’t attracted to me. I regularly get fucking clowned by guys who are shorter or younger than me but who for whatever reason have more social presence. People I know ignore me when I say hi to them in the street. I speak up in group conversations and get ignored. I’m fucking sick and tired. I’ve had this treatment my whole life and NOTHING has worked to fix it. PLEASE HELP ME
There is something about your demeanor or social behavior that is offputting.
Carter Taylor
You need to dish shit back to them. Normies will brag and humiliate others to boost their ego. Many arent even aware of it when they open their mouths and shit falls out.
Jayden Lee
Obviously. But what?
I had a brilliant period at the start of this year. Woke up every day feeling like hot shit. Spent 3 months going to parties, getting wasted, got back into several hobbies I had been neglecting, was happier, reached out to friends I hadn’t spoken to in a while. Even in that period of bliss I still didn’t command respect. I just learned how to shrug it off when people would ignore me.
No, I don’t really see people “brag and chat shit” in my circles. And the fact you are unironically using the word “normie” makes me think you haven’t been spoken to a real human being since 2015.
My problem is more passive aggressiveness and subtle things. I’m fed up of people acting like I’m some kind of leper. I say completely normal shit and sometimes people look at me like I just murdered their dog. And why the fuck do so many girls just look straight through me? I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve been hanging out with friends, a girl walks in, and then she says hi to and hugs everyone in the room except me. I’m not a fucking circus freak. I’m a normal dude. I don’t deserve this humiliation.
Michael Lopez
I know a guy noone would fuck with. If you try to pick on him he instantly retaliates. He's very confrontational if he feels you seek to pick on him
Jaxon Lee
It sounds like you're lacking social awareness and could use some coaching. Unfortunately that can't really be provided here
Jose Hill
Just believe me when I say that I do EVERYTHING in my power to be a confident, charismatic, funny, normal guy.
I’ve studied this shit for years. I’ve suffered through unimaginably awkward situations to learn what works and what doesn’t.
I’ve done all of that and I’m still not where I want to be. It’s like I’m playing life on very hard mode while everyone else is on easy.
Jordan Carter
>Just believe me when I say that I do EVERYTHING in my power to be a confident, charismatic, funny, normal guy. I believe that you THINK that you're doing everything right, but common sense says that if that was true then you wouldn't be posting here. I don't know what you're doing wrong because I'm not observing your interactions but it's definitely something
Bentley King
The problem seems to be that you are trying too hard to impress. Just respect yourself and nobody else, stop seeking validation from others
Carson Edwards
Whatever I am doing wrong must be so slight and subtle that it is impossible to identify, then.
Being a high school bullying victim means I am permanently damaged, I’m afraid. I need validation from others to heal my wounds. After 7 years of people at school telling me “you’re a piece of shit” I need at least 7 years of people telling me the exact opposite to bring my brain back to normal.
The bullies robbed me. I might never have a normal life because of them.