ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

>Dude, how hard is it to ask her out to dinner or some drinks?
I did, and she would always be excited to go but she'd always bring a friend with her. Her friend always leaves after an hour or so and then we're alone which just adds to my confusion. She doesn't want to be alone with me initially but then we stay alone anyway and she enjoys it? did that a few times but every time she'd do something to throw me off so then I back off, then she messages me out of nowhere trying to get me to ask her to come with me somewhere. It just continues on like that, I don't know what to think since I can never tell if she wants me to make a move or not

Sounds like she’s just shy as all motherfuck. If you want to keep going, keep going. If you think it’s too much of a hastle, then that means you don’t like her that much, so just stop.

Pretty simple.

Anons,
What to do when a guy is cutting the contact just because he doesn't want any kind of confrontation?

>texting every day with this guy
>he shows interest and says he likes me
>suddenly something goes wrong
>I upfront him and ask what happened
>says nothing's wrong but keeps being cold

It pisses me off so much and I can't even vent because he will just stop replying, the fuck.

>continued
Even if she ISNT interested, your path of progression is pretty clear. Keep doing what you doing until she makes herself clear. As long as you keep pressing forward and make your intentions clear, the onus is on her to make her own clear as well.

Stop overthinking and over analyzing all this shit.

what might've happened? did you say something that could be misinterpreted by him and taken as you not being interested in him? texts can be very misleading and ambiguous, thats why you should mostly use texts for arranging meet ups and such, leave talking for face to face.

Move on. The effort isn’t it worth it. Getting angry or upset is a waste of energy and emotion.

Go do something actually productive, or at least enjoyable, with your life.

I've been literally doing all you said, no need to be aggressive now. I just wasn't sure what her intentions are and whats going on inside her head because even if I do show interest she gives me mixed signals and seems to want me to back off, then comes back so it just makes me think of what she might be up to

Then like I said in the other post (and like I just said in the post above you to another user) If you think the effort isn’t worth it, bounce.

But if you actually do like her, just stop overthinking and just keep on keep on.

I will say though that if you’re not having fun, And you’re not really enjoying yourself, then what reason are you continuing to interact with?

The reasons and privations behind dating someone should always be positive rather than negative. If desperation, loneliness, or any other negative emotions are the reasons you’re seeing someon, or if the scales are tipping in such a way that the person brings more stress than enoyment before you’ve ever even gotten anywhere near serious with one another, then why are you still around? The start of a relationship is the part where shits supposed to be relatively easy. Over a long term, as your bond grows stronger, suff can improve and become more enriched... but it doesn’t ever tend to randomly 180 and suddenly *drastically* get better.

Girls, do you ever get dirty and gross? Pro-tip: you can't.

How do I "slide into" a girl's DM's and strike up a conversation? I'm legitimately wanting to date this girl, but I only kind of know her(just in like a "hi how's everything going? Good, you?" superficial kind of way). A plus is that I'm really good friends with her cousin, but the kicker is: she's in the Navy.

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I plan to ask out the nutritionist, then (if it doesn't work) I will ask out the street market girl, then Stacy (which would be a miracle if she accepted), then I'll lose all hope and ask the nutcases on dating sites.
Does she sound like a good plan?

Had a first date(?) With a female coworker. Went out to a pub after work to get a general feel of each other (we started talking on POF and only then realised we work in the same building) and it went ok, pretty awkward in the beginning but soon loosened up. Once the time came to part ways she said she would walk home with me, we both live pretty close to one another and she has a full bus pass but decided to walk. We parted ways at her door and about an hour later she sent me a message saying "thanks for a nice night. See you at work tomorrow"

I kind of get the feeling based off of this text she wants to leave things where they are. I'm going to message her tomorrow morning suggesting another date but I'm not quite sure what to expect.

TL;DR does "thanks for a nice night, see you at work tomorrow " seem like a person is not interested?

What do women think about the firmament theory?
youtube.com/watch?v=0427D1Y1KCc

If a girl sent me a sexy picture when I told her I was horny on snapchat is that a pretty good indication she wants to fug?
We have been on several dates and hung out several times.

I'm a relatively pretty girl, and yet in my fwb relationship I always have to text first to make plans. Why? I asked him if he's lost interest and if we should move on, but he insisted things were good, and he's just exhausted between double shifts and a poor diet.
But its like this every week...is there something more to this? Or am I just thirsty?

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You’re just thirsty.

Plus, a fwb may be closer than a random one night stand... but it’s still not a relationship or a serious commitment.

Having literally just finished a 90 hour work week. Sex is too fucking exhausting to consider. A 5 minute wank? Eh... maybe... but full blown sex? Too much fucking effort.

How do I ask girls out?

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Maybe he just needs a bossy girl.

>suddenly something goes wrong
Are you the idiot that asked him if he was being serious about liking You?

Please respond. I don't care if you have a penis a vagina or both.

Thundercunt detected!

I developed a crush on this girl i went a few dates on with, I think she liked me initially too, but now shes gone back with her ex. Shes still down to hang out as 'friends' even though I told her I kind of had developed a crush on her, what should I do?

I don't want to be friendzoned cuck boi or anything, I was also wondering if there is any long con game i could play

What's a good first date location? Aquarium? Dinner? Movies?

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Girls, how do I stop being so afraid of you?

serious answer: stop watching porn and try talking to them.

girls

what do you think about a guy who wants to dye his hair? can only certain people pull it off?
pic related

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Alright so I have to choose between being bald and good in bed, and being attractive but shit in bed.
Essentially I have a large penis but my hair is thinning like crazy and its either time to buzz it all the way off for shine effect, or go on fin+minox. Later would probably ruin my penis but the hair gains are almost worth it. My hair all fell out at the same time so my doc said theres a good chance of getting back.

Just go Bruce Willis mode.

Toss the hair idea. It may be a big deal to some people, but, if someone really loves you, they won't care how much hair you have on top of your head.

I want to tell him I love him.
We've been talking for a few months now but haven't met.
We live a little further away and we talk every day. Developed a really good friendship.
He hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend, vice versa, not serious.
I feel like he is the one and I want him to be my boyfriend.
I don't know how to bring this up and sounding serious and not pushy.

No do not sacrifice your penis for your hair. So not worth it!

>can only certain people pull it off?
Yes

And their usually tools i.e. immature

Girls, what would you do if your boyfriend suddenly stopped having sex with you?

yes fug
im a girl
u should fug her

How does that make her a thundercunt?

talk to him

I would think he is about to break up with me. Confront him. Wait a while to see if I am right. If I believe it won't change then end the relationship :(

Can't tell if memeing or just pretending to meme...

Hmmmmm.....

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I'm a guy, just asking because I want to stay in a relationship with my girlfriend but don't really want to have sex with her.

Can someone reply to mine
I gave replies pls thnx u

am i conventionally attractive? I don't know how to talk to women and it legit makes me want to end my life

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Well you just need to talk to her and let her understand why. I mean there has to be a valid reason right? If so I'm sure she'll understand if she is that close to you

You look pretty god damn chad desu. Honestly just go to hangouts or public places and go talk to the first girl you catch staring at you.

I don't find you to be attractive at all.
I'm sorry.

If you haven't met it probably isn't a good idea to say you love them. You really don't know them, even if you think deep down you do. If anything, ask him to be your boyfriend, do not tell him you love him.
You don't have to "bring it up" really, just ask.
Sorry if shit advice :^)

I don't really have a good reason, I just don't want to. She doesn't take care of herself. If she just lost 20 lbs I'd want to have sex with her but she refuses to lose weight. I still want to be with her though because I'm emotionally in love with her, just not sexually in love with her.

you look like a tool, but yeah, you're handsome

Actually good advice thank you.
I'm nervous about making the leap to asking him to be my boyfriend. Part of me thinks he is waiting for me to ask, but the rejection will hurt so bad if he says no.

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Well.. that's a problem.
Without a sexual intimacy you two will drift apart imo

Traditionally girls ask the boy to be boyfriend girlfriend if I'm not mistaken. If you've been talking for awhile and have expressed some feelings for each other it wouldn't be weird at all imo.

Either way, its better for you to ask because if he says yes, great. If he says no, it sucks but you can at least move on to the next fella.

So I should force myself to have sex with her even though I don't want to?

No not at all. You should move out of your comfort zone and date someone you are sexually attracted to.

That's true. I will ask him tomorrow morning. Thank you

Guys, if a girl whom you knew only as a friend offers to send you a gift, would you take it as a romantic sign?

I'm not a woman or a conventionally attractive guy though. Finding someone else who I'm compatible with who I also find sexually attractive isn't easy. I'm 5'6, lean, half Japanese and extremely shy, so my dating pool is extremely shallow. My girlfriend finds me attractive because she's really into Japanese culture and I have an ok looking face. Most white girls are mildly racist towards Asian guys so it's not easy to date them, and there's no Asian girls in my area.

Also I'm just so emotionally invested in this girl. She's like my best friend, so I really don't want to break up with her. I was attracted to her during the honeymoon phase because she has a beautiful face but after the honeymoon phase the initial attraction wore off and now her body bothers me. I lift weights 3 days a week and count calories whilst she eats whatever she wants and sits around all day. She's 5'11 and 185 lbs.

Do you really think she would break up with me just because I don't want to have sex anymore? It's only a 10-20 minute activity that we do twice a day when we hang out, I don't see why it's so important. I still make her laugh for the rest of the time we're together.

how do i stop being shallow?

lose the fucking beard it looks like you have pubes growing there

Stop using tinder.

Older sisters
Were you aware your entire existence centers around being messed with?

Grills
Would you be ok dating a victim of female on male rape?

I want to have someone trustworthy I can talk to in real life. Should I pay for a shrink? I've never really had friends IRL.

you've got a nice face, but you dress like it is still 2003

No.

Nope.

In fact I’ll put it this way.

My best friend, a gay chick.

Over the years she also dropped multiple hints about me being so different from other guys.

About how it’s so weird when other people assume we’re a couple.

She even offered to marry me if we were both single by the time we hit 40–you know, just to make our parents happy.

We were even FWB’s for a little bit.

But I still just assumed we were nothing but pals and it was all tongue in cheek, because I just took her on her word that she wasn’t interested in me.

And you know the surprising part is, several years later I was somehow *legitimately* shocked to find out that was interested in me romantically, in spite of how fucking obvious it was all along.

Now.. I’ll admit, lookin back I *am* a special kinda of dense sometimes, but I’m also not at an unheard of level amongst guys.

You’re going to have to be a whole lot less subtle than that.

Yes. Femanon victim of sexual assault here. Awareness and accommodation of sexual assault victims goes both ways in terms of gender.

What do you suggest to be less subtle? I really love this guy. We've been friends for almost a year and I often flirt with him (and him with me) but I want to cement something romantic.

Don't say "sex".

ask him out and tell him its a date

Daily reminder that 100% of advice from superficial losers seeking an ego boost can be discarded. There are billions of women and every single one of them has a different style they like. Not everyone is a spoiled trust fund brat who gets to pretend they are a celebrity by wasting hundreds of dollars on something I child in Asia made with fifteen cents worth of materials. If you are that type of person and you think you are welcome in a community of people who don't fit into normal society, and are therefore the final people in the world who are actually real people creating their own experience, get fucking lost, nobody likes you, and you are a fucking dumb fuck for observing the atmosphere here and thinking that this is a Reddit alternative where your self worth is determined by how many of your clones patted you on the back. Amazing how you have more resources than the average person yet you are one of the last people on Earth who haven't picked up on the fact that most people moved the fuck on. Your run is over you dumb fuck. How does it feel knowing that you are so bad at life that you can't even succeed at calling somebody else a failure? The source of all shy people's suffering is you, you dumb fucking monster. You social engineered people into thinking they had to play by your rules in order to not hear your whiney bitching. Some people still fall for your con, but they will be informed, and you will spend years trying to transition into the new world without looking like the fraud you are, because that's how your poison ego works, and I have mastered manipulating you psychos into fucking yourself out of everyone's way.

I tried to read your tryhard burn about like, capitalism maybe? Consumerism? It was cool that you threw some shade at reddit, major 4chinz cred for that man, you really played to the crowd. Anyway, it was too long. And stupid. Hopefully I emulated you well enough, I'm just trying to engage you in your native language

>Hey, do you want to go on a date next Friday? Dinner and some drinks?

No lie, while it doesn’t always work, I’ve definitley gone out with girls that straight up asked me out like that out of the sheer novelty of it. Hell, I think my girlfriend may have even asked me out first.

That being said, I pretty much always found it slightly amusing and slightly annoying anytime a girl would bend over backwards to find “creative” ways to snatch my phone of my hands to put their numbers in, roundout about invite me to events with their friends, or any other random number of things both innocent and not.

But then again... I’m the dense user so with that in mind... in reflection I can actually understand and sympathize with why some of that shit happened... that actually kind of just blew my mind lol...

Anyway, no games, respectfully straightforward is actually pretty fucking nice to deal with sometimes.

this girl and i would talk almost every day but in the recent weeks the conversation changed and it seems like she doesnt want to talk to me anymore. it felt like i was the only one who was trying to make conversation with her and it hurt so i just stopped messaging her. why is that? i have a good guess as to why but i just thought id ask here.

Any ladies with periods every 3 months due to Birth Control?

Trying g to figure out exactly when the Wife is Ovulating. She can't even figure it out and I figured I ask around for advice.

Why you a ho?

Not a chick, but from what I hear from friends on BC and from what I’ve seen from my gf, and what literature I read (because if my gf was getting it, figured I may as well be informed) Not that uncommon.

One of my freinds even mentioned that she loves it because she only has to deal with periods like once every 6 months.

Yeah. But we can't figure out when to conceive. I am unsure of when is the best time to do that.

Does her having less periods mean she is Ovulating from week 2 to week 7. Or does it mean she ovulates the week before the period.

I know it sounds strange too, but she bleeds constantly without the BC so we have to try on the BC.

>I know it sounds strange too, but she bleeds constantly without the BC so we have to try on the BC.

Might want to consult a Gynocologist for shit like this then.

From what I remember, depending on what BC your girl is on, even if you *do* conceive, there’s a certain elevated risk of your baby being born with major birth defects.

Don’t dick around like that without all the facts first. It’s. It fair to anyone involved.

I know I’m some type of sociopath, all my life, I can see ways I could do things, ways situations could be skewed to benifit my being, and ways I could hurt people deep down in the souls. I hate thinking like this, I wish I didn’t, and I don’t act on my thoughts, though I fear them even existing.

I don’t want to hurt people, I don’t want to manipulate them, but I’m scared of starting a relationship because I know I could hurt some one really bad, even though I never would. Would any woman date me knowing this, I want to be honest, or should I just cut people off to save them.

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Ladies, I love tall/taller women, my heart literally skips a beat whenever I see a tall beautiful woman. Problem is that it’s always in passing and happens rarely, where do you tall girls hang out? Would you ever consider dating a man shorter than you (I’m 6’)? Height isn’t everything for me but there’s something about tall women that I just find attractive

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What is the fine line in helping a girl out as a dude? When I hang around girls, sometimes they ask me to do shit that they’d usually ask there boyfriends to do, I’m happy to help, rather I’d do all the shit they’d ask me to help out with but I don’t want to appear weak and submissive. What do?

>work with girl, seems pretty chill
>have similar interests, into art and shit like that
>she follows me on Instagram, half nude pics of herself on there
>she’s 19, I’m 27.
Is it wrong for me to try to take this next level?

Are the sexual type questions allowed here?

If a girl likes and cums quickly from anal play, but never particularly asks for it, what are the odds i can put my dick up there? She never asks for anything but always goes along for whatever i wanna do. Is that pushing it too far?

>rather I’d do all the shit they’d ask me to help out with but I don’t want to appear weak and submissive. What do?

As a guy who also helps people out from time to time:

Don’t be weak and submissive. Helping people out and being weak and submissive don’t really have much of anything to do with one another.

The only place where weak and submissive comes in to play is where you’re doing shit you don’t want to and acting like a pansy that can’t say no even when they want to.

>>have similar interests, into art and shit like that

Let’s not kid ourselves.. age 19 is basically 15 in terms of mental maturity nowadays...

Every time I’ve seen a friend date a girl significantly younger than them, it’s always gone exactly one of two ways:

1.) she’s becomes the most controlling/insecure/clingy person on the planet
2.) she just starts to hit tat age where partying is all she wants to do, while he’s just hit that point where that’s exactly what he wants to stop doing, and they both start to resent each other because of it.

Can it work? Sure. But don’t be lieing to yourself thinking your attracted for any other reason right now than your thirst really.

>surprise anal

No bro. Talk about it first. Get some toys or whatever. Lots of lube. Otherwise you’re going to break some shit and potentially cause some trauma. She’s genuinely got to be comfortable trying this, or it’s going to be a pretty fucking miserable experience.

Asking permission?
Good idea in theory but we don't speak the same language. Goddamn it.

Welp, you might have hit the nail knthe head for me. Might as well try to get laid and that’s it I’m guessing

Autism

Do women actually secretly think about getting tied up or pushed down and fucked into a drunken stupor and cumming from some random guy who attacked them?What exactly do you get from it and are you aware BDSM and getting raped are two very different things?

Girlfriend asked me to stop jacking off. I don't understand her request at all. Currently, we see each other 2-3 times a week due to our increased workloads, whereas a few months ago it was almost, if not every single day, and every single day we had sex, initiated more or less by the both of us in equal share. Nowadays, I masturbate once a day when we don't see each other and that's that. It doesn't affect my desire for sex with her, it doesn't make me go limp when we're together. Her request only came up two days ago when she was over at my place and one of the tabs in my browser had some porn paused.

I'm not saying I can't do without jacking off when we don't see each other, I'm just curious as to why she would ask this and I'd rather understand her perspective, or any woman's perspective, on the matter rather than tell her "Yes, dear" and then jack off anyway in her absence.

So yeah, what reason could a woman have when they ask their partner not to masturbate?

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Oh and before someone says "Ask her" I did and she couldn't give me a real, definitive answer as to why, just that she'd prefer me not to.

I jacked off so much to porn I can't pop boners. How will this be changed by a female? Will I stay Sergeant Soft?